Boundaries

In Survivor Advocacy, Complexity Matters In today’s climate, it’s easy to fall into “for or against” narratives—especially when it comes to the justice system. Prosecutors, in particular, are often seen …

Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Mocked. Ignored.And that silence is not neutral—it’s violent. It …

The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down If you’ve ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red flags but stayed …

(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs) If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this really abuse?” or told yourself, “At least they’re not hitting me,”—you’re not alone. For so many …

(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a …

Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first. Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees what happened,there is a quiet act of control: “Don’t …

Some people don’t believe in your mission, your healing, or your values.They just learn to sound like they do—because it gets them something. Here’s what they’re really after: 1. To …

Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting himwhen he has shown he wouldn’t …

Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured against how many white men got away with it.That is …