Coercion

Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the Doubt We’ve heard it since childhood:“You’ve got to be twice as good for …

There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true. Some of you were children, trying to survive another day in a house …

The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down If you’ve ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red flags but stayed …

But What Happens When You Stop? The Sign:You minimize your gifts, your pain, your truth—because you’ve been told your full presence makes people uncomfortable.So you soften your words, dim your …

Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order to survive (poverty, abuse, violence, racism, sexism, misogyny, disability)—that …

(And How to Come Home to Yourself) Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” or “strong.” For Survivors, self-abandonment can become a …

Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first. Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees what happened,there is a quiet act of control: “Don’t …

Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t pause, didn’t question, didn’t care.And because they didn’t listen, you may have started …

Some people don’t believe in your mission, your healing, or your values.They just learn to sound like they do—because it gets them something. Here’s what they’re really after: 1. To …

10 Future Faking Abuse Statements “I’m going to get help—just give me a little more time.”Used to delay accountability and stop the Survivor from leaving. “Let’s have a baby… that’ll …