RED FLAGS

Content note: this post discusses strangulation, sexual violence, and domestic homicide. If it feels like everyone is suddenly talking about strangulation, it is not your imagination. Police departments are reporting …

  updated from April 4 2025 Generation X was not ready for this story, but we needed it! Our Boomer parents were not ready either, but they most definitely needed …

updated from June 9, 2025 Please pay attention. If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” a partner—gets angry, offended, or manipulative because you’ve set a boundary… That is …

When people discuss Jeffrey Marsalis, they often describe him as a “prolific rapist.” I don’t like that word because it doesn’t capture the full truth about criminals and harm. It …

🖤 1. Demanding Grace While Denying Ours Black women are often expected to extend endless empathy, understanding, and forgiveness—especially to Black men navigating racism, trauma, or systemic stress. But when …

I have spent more than 30 years working with women and children who have experienced abuse. And one of the things that experience has taught me is that people are …

When insulting women is considered entertainment, but women objecting is considered oversensitivity, the joke has become a lesson in whose dignity is negotiable. Viewers of American television are noticing that …

Swatting a rape Survivor should be treated as a serious criminal offense, with enhanced penalties when the act is intended to intimidate, threaten, or retaliate against her for reporting sexual …

Emotional abuse can be difficult to explain in a society that struggles to respect women’s safety boundaries in the first place. So much of emotional abuse involves someone knowing what …

When a woman asks for safety, listen to the danger she is describing before you begin searching for something wrong with her character. We absolutely must reflect on how we …