Self care

When you begin to heal, grow, or protect yourself, one of the first things you’ll notice is how violently unnecessary your boundaries feel to the people who once benefited from …

On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social media application calling for Black people to go to Los Angeles, California and get involved in the conflict …

  You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Walking away? Hate.Choosing peace over performance? Hate. We’ve …

Let’s begin here:You are not required to play a role in someone else’s story just because they’ve written you into it.Not as the forgiving one.Not as the supportive and understanding …

Let’s tell the truth:You may not find closure in the American justice system.Many Survivors don’t.Some find more harm.More dismissal.More delay.More erasure. As someone who served for years as a court …

Understand this: When men tell you—warn you—joke with youabout how men operate… When they say things like: “Men are dogs.”“He’s probably cheating already.”“If he hasn’t hit you yet, he will.”“All …

Fear-Based ManipulationDefinition: Using hypothetical threats or worst-case scenarios to control or limit a woman’s autonomy. It rarely sounds like outright abuse.More often, it sounds like “advice.”It sounds like “looking out.”It …

Some men hear “no” and immediately rewrite the story in their heads:“She just wants bad boys.”“She’ll date someone beneath her, but not me.”“She’s shallow, bitter, confused.” “She just doesn’t know …

We talk a lot about what you lose when you heal:The people who walk away.The identities you shed.The illusions you release. But let’s talk about what stays.Because everything doesn’t fall …

They don’t always leave when you’re breaking.Sometimes they leave when you start putting yourself back together. Healing has a way of revealing who was there for you—and who was only …