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There is a name for what happens when Black women are pressured to abandon our Blackness in order to be accepted as “real” women. Racial Gatekeeping of Womanhood. It shows …

These stories are unsettling. I do hope that male podcasters, influencers, and journalists are covering these stories and not just waiting for the stories that advance misogyny, racism, and other …

I get when some groups defend some aspects of abusers. I’ve slipped (more than once) and done it too. I’m a human. I still have a duty to push back …

This isn’t about a song but like most art, it offers life lessons. Jingle Bells” was written in 1857 by James Lord Pierpont, a white composer who worked in minstrel …

There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subject turns to sexual violence—an amnesia so convenient, so well-practiced, it deserves its own holiday. A woman stated …

Pain hurts in a way that words fail. Pain doesn’t announce itself politely.It arrives like weather—uninvited, undeniable, and immune to reason. Pain is a shadow you can’t outrun,a ghost that …

Let’s stop dancing around what everybody can feel but few want to say: Men are not suffering because women won’t let them cry.They are suffering because other men will not …

People keep acting like a man’s sexual identity is a character reference. They say things like: “He likes women.”“He has a girlfriend.”“He wouldn’t do that.” As if attraction is a …

There are men who prey on men. Go ahead and get the gasp out of the way. Because this seems to be a truth everybody sees but is afraid to …

This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover. Some are in prison. Some are in bondage in some …