Silence Keeps the Cycle Alive. Love Tells the Truth.

When scandals break — like the recent Young Republicans (ages 18-40 including many influential professionals) chat leak — the pattern is familiar. The men are called out. The men are

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condemned. But notice who disappears into the background.

White women often move quietly through these storms, untouched. No questions asked. No accountability demanded. Even when they were part of the same systems, actively participating, sitting in the same rooms, laughing at the same cruelty, forwarding the same “jokes.”

While Black people are still painted with a single brushstroke, white women can fade into silence and be seen as innocent by default. And white women who are usually delivering “calls to actions” are conveniently out to lunch.

They say nothing.
They look away.
They call it a “male issue.”
And with that, the cycle resets — harm continues, but accountability never reaches them.

And in that quiet retreat, innocence is preserved. 

But we cannot ignore that white women’s silence often keeps entire systems intact.
Their refusal to speak allows the same power structures — the same ones that harm us — to keep breathing.

True healing requires everybody to face the truth.
If white women want to stand for justice, that must include holding their own circles accountable.
It must mean speaking up when men who look like your brothers, fathers, sisters, friends or kin commit harm.
It must mean telling the truth — not hiding behind innocence that was never earned.

Because silence is not neutral.
Silence is consent.
And every time people who benefit from privilege stay quiet, those already wounded bear the cost.

Reflection for Survivors & Allies:
When you choose to speak truth — even when others roll their eyes, mock, or look away — you are doing holy work. You are preserving dignity, protecting life, and keeping the light of truth alive.

Keep speaking. Keep teaching. Keep naming what others won’t.
That’s how real healing begins.