Ida B. Wells Was One of America’s Earliest Anti-Sexual-Violence Advocates. It’s Time We Said So.
One of the reasons I started this blog in the early 2000s was because of something I kept seeing after serving in many different roles within the move [...]
Gaslighting with a Grin: What Covert Bullying Really Looks Like
What Is Covert Bullying?
The Abuse You Can’t Always See
Not all bullying looks like yelling, pushing, or name-calling.Some of the most damaging harm [...]
Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring the Dark Side of Festivals: Uncovering the Reali [...]
Stop the Ahistorical Comparison: Jim Crow Was Violent, Girls’ Sports Does Not Have To Be
updated from March 28, 2025
This is so cruel.
There’s a new talking point going around:That not allowing boys to compete against girls in sp [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was let in who shouldn’t have been.And then, no one shut the door behind them.
In [...]
✊🏾 Since When Did a Man Saying He’s Changed Become a Gospel Truth?
She called me because I was serving as her victim advocate:His family is mad at me and now I'm so confused."He is trying to change but sometim [...]
Fair is Fair: What The Legend of Billie Jean Teaches Us About the Inversion of Reality”
Imagine you’re watching a movie where a sneaky character does something mean to a classmate, like stealing their lunch. But as soon as a teacher walks [...]
THE GIFT OF FEAR | GAVIN DE BECKER | ANIMATED BOOK SUMMARY (video)
In our society we underestimate intuition in favor of logic. I like logic. I also like intuition and fact-based pattern recognition. [...]
Your Defense of Them Is a Betrayal of Me
Let’s say this out loud—for the ones still doubting themselves.For the ones grieving the loss of community, connection, or even family:
You are not w [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
The Good Stuff: Why Are Violent Killers Almost Always Men?
Now, if women had made this video it would be hated and slurred beyond belief. Like when women demand safety, safe spaces, and protection for ourselve [...]
💣 Beauty as a Battlefield: When We Compete, They Win
Let’s tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each other.
Not over justice.Not over safety.But over aesthetics.
It’s no accident t [...]
The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty.It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies [...]
Angels Need Rest Too: Why Demanding a Sanctuary Is an Act of Survival, Not Selfishness
Women, we are always there for everyone else.
This season, this THANKSgiving season, among the many things that I am truly thankful for is women.
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We Must Unlearn the Misplaced Blame We Inherited
I am a Black woman.I was raised as a Black woman in the United States of America.Raised to be strong, to be smart, to see danger from arou [...]
Survivors Who Speak Up Become Light for the Rest of Us
Young people say: I don't believe women and girls should have to be stronger. We ought to be fighting for a world that gives us all less to survive. I [...]
“Interrogate Your Choices” Isn’t Advice. It’s a Leash.
It's dating. Cuts WILL be made. But too many people have a problem with women being the ones doing the cutting. People are having a difficult time ad [...]
Organizations Endorsing Sexualizing Children: World Health Organization
We no longer have time to be shocked, surprised, and astonished. Once reliable organizations that could be depended upon are blatantly and [...]
When Black Women Say No: The Punishment Is Public
"If I can’t have her love, I’ll go to war against her peace"
Some men don’t just move on when Black women say no.They retaliate.
They don’t just g [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
The Economist: Why Nations that Fail Women FAIL
Please do not watch this pretend that the West is exempt or any political party is "different". It is 2025 and no group of males is doing well at list [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the systemic failures that left her vulnera [...]
Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individuals—most often abusers or those in power—respond with defensiveness, victim-playing, o [...]
Why We Teach Girls to Approach Women First
Because safety isn’t about luck — it’s about strategy.In July 2017, a 14-year-old girl was raped twice in one night.The first attack happened [...]
🌙 Future Faking: When Promises Become a Trap
Let’s talk about something a lot of Survivors don’t even know has a name—but once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
It’s called future faking.And it’ [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of “inclusion” to force girls to surrender their safe spaces, they are no [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man."“My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Holiday, the [...]
10 Signs You’re Being Dehumanized—Even by People Who Say They Support You
This is a crucial question—because recognizing when you are being dehumanized is often the first step in reclaiming dignity, power, and bounda [...]