❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth threatens [...]
Men Have a Duty to Be Safe Around Women and Children
We need to say this more often, and we need to say it without apology: men have a duty to be safe around women and children.
Do not cross bou [...]
Why Leaders Who Excuse Abuse Can’t Build Safety—They Recreate Harm
When someone dismisses violence, mocks Survivors, or excuses abuse, they’re not neutral.
They’re signaling the kind of safety they intend to build—on [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
FALSE! FAKE! FRAUD!: Some of Us Have Seen This Before
I'm learning that many of us who lived through the 1970's, 1980's, & 1990s psychiatric and abuse scandals see many of today's social issues [...]
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The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty. It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies [...]
🎤💰 Money, Respect & the Woman’s Mic: Black Women’s Songs About Money, Power, and Respect
updated from April 2025
"We're supposed to pretend that if we are "good girls," a "good man" will find us and give us everything that we want. [...]
The Injustice of Down Low Marriages: When Women Pay the Price for a Man’s Secrets
Everyone should get the opportunity to live this life loving who truly and authentically loves them back. There is nothing wrong with struggling w [...]
Mahogany: Beyond Fashion, a Lesson in Power and Abuse 💔
Mahogany is often celebrated for its style—but the film also quietly shows obsession, control, and emotional abuse.
But beneath that glossy surface [...]
🚩 Red Flags: When “Allies” Are Really Just Bullies
In advocacy, passion often draws people in—it can light up a room, stir emotions, and rally attention. But not every loud voice is a trustworthy one. [...]
When They Say Speaking About Racism is the Problem: The Same Old Victim-Blaming Playbook
There is a pattern.
A Survivor of abuse speaks up, and the world responds: "Why now?"
"You’re just being divisive."
"Talking about it [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speaking.
To be honest. To open up. To tell your truth.
They asked you to join gro [...]
I’m Not Bitter—I Just Finally Know Better
They’ll say you’re angry now.That you’re bitter.That you’ve changed.
And you have changed.But not in the way they’re trying to spin it.
You're not [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
Jingle Bells Too: When People Pretend the Story Ended at “Slavery Ended”
This isn't about a song but like most art, it offers life lessons. Jingle Bells” was written in 1857 by James Lord Pierpont, a white composer who w [...]
A Woman-Centered Truth About FGM We Cannot Abandon (w/list of resource organizations)
FGM victims’ fury as academics compare practice to cosmetic surgery Any honest critique of global efforts to address female genital mutil [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
The Ongoing Tragedy of Abuse of Child Stars in Film, TV, and Music
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The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
What the Data Doesn’t Say—But Survivors KNOW
Source: U.S. Sentencing Commission, FY 2024 Datafile,
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Quick Facts at a Glance Almost all offenders are men [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? [...]
When Leaders Forget Autonomy: A Reminder from Survivors Who’ve Had Enough
For Survivors, who are used to having their autonomy taken or dismissed, this can feel particularly uncomfortable.Leaders — whether public figures, ad [...]
Green Flags: The Quiet Ways People Show You They’re Safe
💚 Green Flags in Other People 🟢 They listen to understand, not just to respond.🟢 They honor your boundaries without making you explain them like a [...]
The More You Heal, the More You Offend Those Who Don’t Want To
Healing is sacred work. And yet, it can come with surprising backlash—not just from strangers, but from people you once trusted with your heart.
What [...]
🛑 Summer Safety Alert: Predators Count on Your Distractions—Don’t Let Them
Yes, it’s summer again.
And while many of us are focused on camps, cookouts, rest, and routine changes—some people are focused on y [...]
And Why Don’t Black Women Call the Police? (Graphic video posted by Ben Crump)
“The Constitution they wrote was designed to protect the rights of white, male citizens. As there were no black Founding Fathers, there were no foun [...]
Escaping Domestic Abuse – Samantha Billingham
It is always helpful, to hear Survivors tell their own stories in their own words. Such is the case here with Samantha Billingham talking with Raphael [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
The Good Stuff: Why Are Violent Killers Almost Always Men?
Now, if women had made this video it would be hated and slurred beyond belief. Like when women demand safety, safe spaces, and protection for ourselve [...]
From Koketia King to Lisa Marie Riley: The Danger Didn’t End. It Just Changed Addresses.
In 2010, Florida boxer Yathomas Riley was arrested after his then-girlfriend, Koketia King, was shot in the head inside his Miami apartment.Riley clai [...]