US Congress Testimony: Girls To the Back
I was not surprised that Black women seemed to suggest that the needs of girls were less important. Black girls growing up in the United S [...]
How to Stop Pouring Into What Doesn’t Grow
Water does nothing for fake flowers. So why are women still told to pour?
Women are always told to give.To support, love, uplift, and protect—especia [...]
They Don’t Miss You. They Miss the Version of You That Didn’t Know Better
Let’s tell the truth today.
Sometimes when people say they “miss you,”what they’re really saying is:“I miss the version of you that didn’t know what [...]
Let’s Be Honest: It’s Past Time for Men to Show Up for Each Other
For far too long, society has quietly and dangerously assigned the role of protector, counselor, and emotional caretaker to women and girls—even when [...]
🛑 We don’t negotiate safety
⚖️ Some Things Are Black and White
Yes means safety.No means protection.
Clear, certain, unapologetic boundaries are not cruelty.They are care—espec [...]
The Times Change—And So Do We
"The only constant in life is change."-Heraclitus"No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same [...]
What Do People Mean When They Say “Misogyny Comes First”?
All women are not necessarily living the same patriarchal reality.
This phrase comes up a lot in feminist discussions.It usually means:
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What Is Spiritual Violence? And Why We Must Talk About It
“If your faith doesn’t let you cry, rage, rest, or leave the places that are killing you—it’s not faith. It’s control dressed in scripture.”Spir [...]
✨ If You Weren’t Powerful, They Wouldn’t Be Obsessed with Dimming You
The world doesn’t chase what’s ordinary.It only tries to contain what shines.
When you find yourself picked apart, ridiculed, or shut out,remember — [...]
9 Dangerous Myths About Violence Against Women and Children
Violence against women and children is a pervasive issue, often perpetuated by misconceptions that downplay its severity and prevalence. Recognizing [...]
🏛️ What Rural Women Need from Policymakers
My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rural areas.
Rural women experiencing dom [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because first, women have to fight for our safe [...]
Book Shelf: Finding Purpose in the Pain: Devotions for Victims of Parental Alienation
I received a link to the book below and it put it on my heart to think about parental alienation. May this book and resources offer c [...]
What Happens When Women Fully Stop Performing Labor For the Male Gaze?
Words That Tried to Tame WomenFor generations, women have been shamed into labor — emotional, physical, spiritual — through language that sounds o [...]
Women Are Not Required to Be Available
No one could have predicted how this year would end.It bent sharply. Again and again.
Just when people thought they understood the terrain, t [...]
When Overpolicing Silences Survivors of Domestic Violence
When you work in organizations that address violence against women, middle class women-especially those who are not minoritized- do not get this p [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. It’s Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:"That makes me uncomfortable."
She said it gently at first.A whisper in the lock [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same pattern: minimization, denial, and reve [...]
Have WE Discussed Child Predators Today? (video clip)
Can Ineffective Leadership Lead to Inadequate Safety for Girls? | WE Survive AbuseWE Can't Afford to Repeat the Mistakes of (PIE) Paedophile Informati [...]
‘Go Along to Get Along’ Is How They Silence You—Here’s Why You Must Speak Anyway
Fellow women and please share this message with girls:
You are not “difficult.”You are not “too sensitive.”You are aware.You are awake.You are wired [...]
“The Forgive and Overlook Habit”: Why the Crisis of Child Predators Isn’t Going Anywhere
The crisis of child predators isn’t going anywhere. Unless the adults change our harmful ways and change them right away.
Because the pressure has al [...]
It’s Not That They Can’t Hear You. They’ve Chosen Not To
Updated from October 25, 2025
“Oppression evolves. It trades the whip for the weary.” — WeSurviveAbuse.com
When people stonewall you, they aren’t ju [...]
What If We Debated Men’s Bodies the Way We Debate Women’s Bodies?
Let's try something new.
Men’s spaces are often treated as default, protected, and not up for public management in the same way. Women’s sp [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before:"You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreacting.""You need more therapy.""You’re dam [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Will NOT Shrink Truth to Comfort Those Who Fear Boundaries
Boundaries are love not hate.
They are love in action — love for your peace, your time, your healing, and your future.Saying “no” is not crue [...]
🧱 You Don’t Have to Build the House to Set the Fire:
The Truth About Harm Within Oppressive Systems
Some people argue:“I didn’t build the system. So I can’t be responsible for the harm it causes.”
Be [...]
Why It’s So Hard to Leave: The Hidden Barriers Survivors of Domestic Violence Face
“Why didn’t they just leave?”
It’s a question asked far too often and far too casually.But the real question is: Why do we keep asking that, instea [...]
You Have the Right To: Speak Your Truth Without Being Punished
So many Survivors—especially women and girls—are taught that “peace” means keeping quiet. That “respect” means swallowing the truth. That “love” mea [...]
For Some People, Staying Grounded in Reality Is a Daily Act of Strength
For Some People, Staying Grounded in Reality Is a Daily Act of StrengthFor many people, “reality” is something the mind holds effortlessly. Bu [...]
Even When They Didn’t Hear Your “No,” You Still Deserve to Be Heard
Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t pause, didn’t question, didn’t care.And beca [...]
Consent Is Not an Afterthought. It Is the First Requirement
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s make this plain:Consent is not a footnote.It is not a favor.It is not a vibe, a guess, or something you assume [...]