❓FAQ: What’s Going On With Untested Rape Kits?
Q: What is a rape kit?
A rape kit (also called a sexual assault forensic evidence kit) is used to collect DNA and physical evidence from a [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
Women Are Fed UP with Having Our Own Womanhood Mansplained At Us (w/TikTok creators)
We keep doing that thing that we have always done. We are not listening to women and girls. And when we do hear pieces of what they are saying here an [...]
What Is Agency—and What Does It Have to Do with Your Safety?
✨ You Hear It All the Time These Days: “Agency.” But What Does That Actually Mean?In conversations about trauma, healing, justice, and identity—we [...]
It’s Not That They Can’t Hear You. They’ve Chosen Not To
Updated from October 25, 2025
“Oppression evolves. It trades the whip for the weary.” — WeSurviveAbuse.com
When people stonewall you, they aren’t ju [...]
Instinct Is Not Ignorance. It’s Survival.
There’s something sacred about a warning call in the wild.
A rustle.A cry.A shift in the wind.The herd doesn’t debate.The birds don’t fact-check.The [...]
So, Who Centers Female Issues?
So if there are women who don't believe that: female health, female reproductive systems, female genital mutilation, menstruation, menstruation [...]
💔 Why It’s Harder: Unique Barriers Rural Women Face When Seeking Help for Abuse
When a woman living in a rural area makes the courageous decision to seek help, she’s not just up against her abuser—she’s up against an entire syst [...]
You Don’t Have to Prove Your Worth: Reclaiming Women’s Right to Safety, Dignity, and Respect
Dominance:
Turning every women's space into
"his" too but in different font.Too often, women are pushed into defending our own dignity. [...]
When Technology Becomes a Weapon: What You Need to Know About Cyberstalking and Deepfake Abuse
People like to be casual about it, but cyberstalking is a crime.Cyberstalking looks like:Following you from platform to platform, even after [...]
Love Doesn’t Mean Lying: I Can Respect You and Still Speak the Truth
If you think I have to choose between truth and respect,You underestimate the power of both.
See, real love doesn't demand silence.Real respect doesn [...]
When They Don’t See You as a Person, They Don’t Protect You as One
The objectification of Black people doesn’t stay on screen.It follows us into courtrooms, hospitals, shelters, and survivor services—places where safe [...]
12 Things It Is Not Women’s Job to Fix
updated from July 11, 2025— Especially When We’re Still Doing Most of the Work for Less PayThis piece honors the fact that women perform a [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
We’re Done Paying the Toll for “Acceptance”
We are not what ignorance calls us.We are not who ignorance says we are.
And we no longer owe our silence in exchange for phony belonging.
[...]
Domestic Violence Is Rising While Survivor Services Are Disappearing: What the Latest Data Reveals
I don’t know if you saw this, but while overall violent crime is reportedly on the decline, domestic violence in the U.S. has actually risen by ab [...]
🔁 Starting Over: A Sacred Act of Power, Not Failure
They don’t talk about how painful starting over can be.They don't talk about how holy it is either.
Sometimes it doesn’t look like courage.It looks [...]
Book Shelf: Finding Purpose in the Pain: Devotions for Victims of Parental Alienation
I received a link to the book below and it put it on my heart to think about parental alienation. May this book and resources offer c [...]
Violence Survivor Alert: How to Get a PO Box for Free (2024 USPS Guide)
Just wanted to pass on information because WE realize that there may be many reasons that Survivors of violence may find ourselves between permanent r [...]
Gender Critical Thinkers: How Can We Speak of Freedom When So Many Women Still Can’t Speak at All?
A womanist does not enter this conversation as a spectator — we enter it as those who have lived inside the body that the world debates.
Long before [...]
🌿 You’re Not Required to March in Every Parade
Advocates are not required to be active in every cause.
As human beings, we can’t do it — not physically, not emotionally, not spiritually. That’ [...]
🔥 Here’s How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especially over things that aren’t intended to be hurtful, it can feel like walking th [...]
When Children Ask for Safeguards: Reflections on the Supreme Court, Safety, and Respect
In the wake of the recent Supreme Court decision around parental rights and school curriculum, the conversation has grown louder. But beneath the nois [...]
Let’s Make It Plain: Jim Crow and Sex-Based Boundaries Are Not the Same Thing
Some people are confused.Some were misinformed.Some are using half-truths to guilt others into giving up spaces that were built for survival.
So let’ [...]
The Neuroscience of Political Tribalism | Why You Can’t Think Straight
You saw it too.I was watching clips from Jesse Jackson's homegoing service. Then all of a sudden, people who openly despised this man and ALL that [...]
Understanding Ethnic and Gender Differences is Survival
I keep seeing people wave off gender and racial differences as "social constructs." This would be fine if the people asserting the words [...]
The Voices We Don’t Hear Are Still Speaking
In our fast-moving world, where everything from news to justice seems to depend on who has the loudest microphone, I want us to remember something sac [...]
When They Say You’re ‘Not So Innocent’—You Still Deserve Justice
How to Stay Safe When You're Judged Instead of BelievedIn the quiet corners of our communities, there are Survivors who never got justice—not beca [...]
Who Gets Believed Without Footnotes?
People closest to power.
Belief, in our world, is not evenly distributed. It flows along familiar lines—toward those whose voices already sound “righ [...]
Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, when women say “no”—especially in conversations about safety, space, and [...]
Predators Don’t Play by the Same Rules
There’s something deeply dangerous about how we’re taught to think about harm—and especially about the people who cause it.
We’re told:“If someone wa [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re violent.
It doesn’t matter if he’s a c [...]