Every Woman Has the Right to Say ‘No Thanks
Since the dawn of time, women have been pushed, scolded, and lectured into bending their boundaries, reshaping their desires, and swallowing discomfor [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
Don’t Erase Us to Include Others: The Cost of Confusing Oppressions
“Beware the man who calls you beast — he is preparing to be your cage or your butcher.”
At We Survive Abuse, we speak truth — even when it’s uncomfo [...]
10 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Respect You (And How Survivors Can Break Free From the Programming That Keeps Us Silent)
Respect isn’t what he says in public. It’s how he moves when no one is watching, and how he treats your truth, your boundaries, and your dignity. Here [...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ PrinceEvery single year, thousands of Black girls vanish from our comm [...]
Access to Women Is Not a Male Human Right
There is something deeply revealing about the world we live in.
You cannot rent a car without agreeing to terms....and a credit card.
You cannot lea [...]
When Black Women Are Targeted for Questioning What Others Pretend Not to See
There was another time I learned just how selective feminism and women's work can be. After 30 plus years of service, there are too many.
That time [...]
Eve’s Legacy Is More Than Music—It’s a Blueprint for Reinvention
Eve is more than a mic and a moment—she’s a one woman movement.From Philly cyphers to global stages, from "Love Is Blind" to Emmy-winning co-h [...]
A Brief Timeline: Marital Rape Laws in the West
A tremendous amount of work went into giving spouses legal recourse if they are assaulted by their spouse. Prior to this work, you couldn't even bring [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring the Dark Side of Festivals: Uncovering the Reali [...]
Violence Against Women Always Looks for an Inside Woman
Like most acts of violence against women,invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.It counts on betrayal.It counts on a hand extend [...]
🚫 Where the Real Toxicity Lies: Boundaries, Consent, and Culture
In recent years, we’ve seen debates play out over whether actors—or anyone in the public eye—should agree to certain scenes, roles, or performances. [...]
Not Every Wound Needs a Healing Deadline
I am growing in curves, not in straight lines.
My journey bends like water and still arrives on time.We are not okay everyday....and that i [...]
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“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common things we hear is:“I told her.”“I war [...]
🌿 You’re Not Required to March in Every Parade
Advocates are not required to be active in every cause.
As human beings, we can’t do it — not physically, not emotionally, not spiritually. That’ [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth threatens [...]
6 Life-Changing Ways Sports Build Courage in Women and Girls
For a short season, my home state had a WNBA team, and I got to go and see a few games up close with my siblings. I was in my early twenties, and I sm [...]
Even When They Didn’t Hear Your “No,” You Still Deserve to Be Heard
Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t pause, didn’t question, didn’t care.And beca [...]
15 Reasons a Woman’s Silence Does Not Mean She Is Comfortable
One of the most dangerous assumptions in the world is believing that if a woman does not openly object, she must be okay with what is [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the systemic failures that left her vulnera [...]
12 Things It Is Not Women’s Job to Fix
updated from July 11, 2025— Especially When We’re Still Doing Most of the Work for Less PayThis piece honors the fact that women perform a [...]
If You Have Nothing Healing to Say to Survivors, You Can Be Silent
In the early days of healing, Survivors are doing sacred, difficult work.
They are not “just leaving.”They are grieving.They are remembering.They are [...]
🛑 Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beauty—but not our justice.
They say they care about Black women.
They post our photos.Quote our hero [...]
Honoring Dr. Cerina Wanzer Fairfax in Virginia
Virginia will lower flags Monday to honor the life and legacy of Dr. Cerina Wanzer Fairfax. It appears that Virginia will begin taking a long over [...]
Safety Is Power. Access Is a Privilege.
People are always telling us about the habits of powerful people. Well, one thing that powerful people do is maintain strict boundaries. The average [...]
Women Have Every Right to Feel Safe Even If That Annoys You
Immediately following the height of #MeToo women and girls have been inundated with messages like "be kind".
If #MeToo got us talking and [...]
When Cruelty Pretends to Be Care: The Lie Behind ‘I Was Just Teaching You a Lesson
All of this, "we didn't do the right thing to to teach you a lesson." Yeah, that's bs. They want control. Over YOU.
When someone tries to convince yo [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
10 Ways Faux Concern About Cheek Swabs in Sports Does Not Protect Black Women—It Exploits Us
updated from March 27, 2025
It is an age-old, exhausting pattern: expecting Black women to absorb the impact, soothe, cushion, and hold space for m [...]
Sisterhood Isn’t a Cage: Reject the Love Bombs That Protect Male Violence
Some women will drench you in compliments, promises, and affection —not to celebrate you,not to empower you,but to disarm you.
They come smiling, arm [...]