10 Excellent Memoirs about the Sexual Violence Survivor's Journey
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors. Excellent! What is most unfortunate is that there ar [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you.
It’s the people who stay quiet.
It’s the family who says,“Do [...]
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And The Global Pressure for Women’s Submission Continues….
Submission is not always announced by the word "submit." Sometimes submission arrives dressed in the moral vocabulary of its era.
Yesterday it might [...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ PrinceEvery single year, thousands of Black girls vanish from our comm [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
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There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harmed by them.
She sets a boundary.She tel [...]
“She Was No Angel” — But What If She Was Hurting?
People say it like a verdict.
“She was no angel.”
But I’ve sat across from women others were quick to throw away. Once they started speaking and t [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/lovesThere’s a saying that floats around on [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Expanding the Conversation to Cohabitation Spaces
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed [...]
When Belonging Breaks: Surviving in Truth When Cultures Defends Abusers
I get when some groups defend some aspects of abusers. I've slipped (more than once) and done it too. I'm a human.I still have a duty to push bac [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in suits, some in uniforms, some behind pulp [...]
Survivor Spotlight: Toni D. Rivera, Human Trafficking Expert
You can watch Toni's amazingly brave story: For My Man, S6 E13...Chained by Love from TVONE
Toni D Rivera - Human Traff [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say.“She should’ve left.”“Why didn’t she tell anyone?”“What did [...]
The Book I Avoided—Until I Couldn’t Anymore
By a Survivor Who Now Understands Why the Caged Bird Sings
I’ve always been a voracious reader.
Since as far back as I can remember, my mother [...]
They’d Say You Asked For It: The Cost of a Woman’s Truth in a World That Loves a Lie
When you watch Thelma & Louise, you aren’t just watching a movie; you’re watching a masterclass in how society sets up a trap for a woman [...]
Why Women’s Rights Vary by State—and Men’s Don’t: A Breakdown of Legal Inequality in America
Do you see all this debate over "women's spaces" and NONE over men's spaces?
There’s a line from a 1976 film that still echoes today:“I [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators — and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too many of us watched it happen in real time.P [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
When Is a Woman’s “No” Not Considered a Form of Hate?
Her name was Marzieh Nieri. She was 23 years old.Marzieh said she fought back when a man attempted to sexually assault her. The man died from his [...]
The Benefit of Anger for Survivors: A Fire That Heals
For too long, Survivors have been told to suppress their anger. “Be the bigger person.” “Let it go.” “Forgive and move on.” Society is comfortable w [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you were children, trying to survive another [...]
⚠️ Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse, Victim-Blaming
Updated for 2025Updated from 2016: I was watching one of my favorite shows—Greenleaf on OWN. If you’ve ever watched it, you know [...]
How Some Teachers Are on the Frontlines of Fighting Child Sexual Abuse
Did you know that some victims of child sexual abuse prefer to confide in teachers rather than parents? Even those from "good" loving homes? No one [...]
“Why Are Women Still Told to Have Faith in Men Who ‘Rebrand’ Themselves?”
“If his change requires your suffering to prove it, it isn’t change — it’s another performance.”
— WeSurviveAbuse.com
Somehow, we allowed ourselve [...]
Once You Know, You’re Responsible for the Truth
Coercive Sex Trafficking Isn’t Hidden. We’ve Just Been Taught Not to See It.
Coercive sex trafficking thrives in the cracks of our silence.
It sur [...]
The Faux Fight Against Child Sex Abuse
Last May was one of the happiest days of my entire life.My son graduated from high school. I sat there among the other proud family members as the ban [...]
Joan Little: First Woman Acquitted of Murder for Defense Against Sexual Assault
updated 8/19/2025I want to make this clear. There is no bragging in this post. No, "look the first woman was Black." That is extremely intere [...]
A Brief Timeline: Marital Rape Laws in the West
A tremendous amount of work went into giving spouses legal recourse if they are assaulted by their spouse. Prior to this work, you couldn't even bring [...]
No, Feminists Didn’t “Give Up a Happy Home.” We Fought to Escape a Cage
And the walls of that cage were built with silence, shame, and sanctioned suffering.
There’s a dangerous myth floating around like perfum [...]
Why Survivors of Abuse Can’t Afford to Choose Political Candidates Like Party Entertainment (And the 15 Things That Actually Matter)
Most women, even if they are in a soft season now, do not have the luxury of choosing leaders like a child chooses entertainment for a birthday party. [...]
Why Some People Fear the Truth About Domination
There’s a strange thing happening in our world today—especially online—where people want to argue about the words we use instead of faci [...]
Survivor Q & A: What Do You Mean by “Sacred Castes” in Violence & Abuse? (video)
updated 2025
Below are 10 signs of a “sacred caste”—a group, ideology, or identity that becomes exempt from criticism, even when doing harm [...]
When Black Women Are Targeted for Questioning What Others Pretend Not to See
There was another time I learned just how selective feminism and women's work can be. After 30 plus years of service, there are too many.
That time [...]
Why Is It Always Supposed to Be Feminists’ Job to End Rape? (FAQ Style)
Women are not responsible for fixing every wound the world refuses to face.
When people talk about ending rape, sexual violence, an [...]
What The Women of Brewster Place Teaches Us About Access, Isolation, and the Right to Move Freely
Red flags aren't just about individual people's behavior. They are about systemic neglect, officials and leaders ignoring the community's needs, syste [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were told to keep going.To be strong.To not make a scene.To forgive.To forget. [...]
The Culture That Questions Women Before It Stops Men
Femicide.We keep saying it.“We can’t bring her back, but justice was served.”We say it after the trial.
After the sentencing.
After [...]
Non-Stranger Assault: Why Self-Doubt is Part of the Trauma, Not the Truth (Infographic)
Non-Stranger Assault: Why Self-Doubt is Part of the Trauma, Not the Truth by Tonya GJ Prince
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