Why Leaders Who Excuse Abuse Can’t Build Safety—They Recreate Harm
When someone dismisses violence, mocks Survivors, or excuses abuse, they’re not neutral.
They’re signaling the kind of safety they intend to build—on [...]
The Physical Reality of Trauma: Why Boundaries Aren’t Optional
There is nothing abstract about the blood on the floor.
The room could be a delivery room.
A girl's restroom after school.
A woman's restroom after [...]
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Why People Should Stop Asking Survivors of Abuse “Why Now?”
Let's get in the habit of allowing people to survive the impact of harm first.- Tonya GJ Prince
When it comes to domestic and sexual violence, mo [...]
30 Things You Can Do Right Now to Support Domestic Violence Survivors in the U.S.
If you’re heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamed—you are not alone.But feelings aren’t enough. Survivors need [...]
When Is a Woman’s “No” Not Considered a Form of Hate?
Her name was Marzieh Nieri. She was 23 years old.Marzieh said she fought back when a man attempted to sexually assault her. The man died from his [...]
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Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predator targeting a person—saying the right things, isolating them, offering gifts, br [...]
Even in Progressive Spaces, Systems Still Fail Survivors
In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things:
🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful systems.🟩 Center the most marginalized.🟩 Practic [...]
Creating Safe Spaces: Encouraging Open Discussions About Personal Security
How many times have you hesitated before speaking up about your safety concerns? How often have you been told, "Oh, you're overreacting," "It’s [...]
Tina Turner Survived Through Hell and NOTHINg About That is Funny
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The Cost of Agreeability: How We Uphold the Barriers We Think We Are Fighting
I've served the women who responded to violence and were facing harsher punishment than any man would have for the same crime. No one was willing to h [...]
12 Most Alarming Revelations Ann Rule Shared About Knowing Ted Bundy
Ann Rule is one of my faves. I liked her long before I started hearing about her connection to Ted Bundy. Her insight into the tragic stories she told [...]
The Manifestation of Emotional Abuse Can Alter Your Life? – Out Loud With Claudia Jordan
“People think it’s easy to just leave a toxic relationship. But what they don’t see is how it starts. Just like Claudia said (on another show)—it [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
Joan Little: First Woman Acquitted of Murder for Defense Against Sexual Assault
updated 8/19/2025I want to make this clear. There is no bragging in this post. No, "look the first woman was Black." That is extremely intere [...]
Survivor Spotlight: Toni D. Rivera, Human Trafficking Expert
You can watch Toni's amazingly brave story: For My Man, S6 E13...Chained by Love from TVONE
Toni D Rivera - Human Traff [...]
❓FAQ: What’s Going On With Untested Rape Kits?
Q: What is a rape kit?
A rape kit (also called a sexual assault forensic evidence kit) is used to collect DNA and physical evidence from a [...]
🕊️ The Sisterhood Gag Order
When protecting him means punishing her.
Some women aren’t silenced by men.They’re silenced by other women.
Not with fists.But with sideways glances [...]
✨ When Male Gentleness Is Assumed: Expanding Our Ears, Expanding Our Understanding
updated from December 11 2025
Myth: Straight men are the only danger to women.
**Shayla told me about the male relative she grew up with who was a d [...]
The Faux Fight Against Child Sex Abuse
Last May was one of the happiest days of my entire life.My son graduated from high school. I sat there among the other proud family members as the ban [...]
🔊 The Right to Speak: What a Difference a Voice Makes
Updated for 2025Silence
“You have the right to remain silent.”
I first heard that phrase in my 8th grade Civics class during the lesson on Miran [...]
Seeking Justice: Empowering Survivors through Civil Cases
Cassie, an American singer, recently made headlines when news broke out that she was suing her longtime music mentor and boyfriend, Sean "Diddy" Combs [...]
This Is Why Victims Sue: It’s Not About Greed. It’s About Survival.
They say it’s a “cash grab.”They roll their eyes.They whisper behind hands.They ask: Why didn’t she just go to the police?
But we know better.
We’ve [...]
🔥 Druella Jones (Aunt Jonas), Alabama, 1915: The Woman Who Lit A Fire Freedom Remembers
updated from May 16 2025
Some women today get married on plantations.
OG rebellious women lit a match
and tried to burn that torture chamber d [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry.People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update.Hi [...]
Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal.It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to complacency around violence and abuse.C [...]
The Book I Avoided—Until I Couldn’t Anymore
By a Survivor Who Now Understands Why the Caged Bird Sings
I’ve always been a voracious reader.
Since as far back as I can remember, my mother [...]
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For Women and Children, Indefinitely Going Along to Get Along is One of the Most Dangerous Strategies in the World
Many of us have had to "go along to get along" for a little while,but pushing for it indefinitely and just "hoping for safety"is d [...]
The Conversation That Keeps Missing the Point on Violence Against Women
People direct public anger toward groups that may have hurt or failed them. That reaction is human. But it can stop the conversation at the surface.
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Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money.She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
Prevent it-Trauma is Traumatizing.
This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without encountering people who do not recover.Some are in prison.Some are in b [...]
I Will Survive: How Survivor Gloria Gaynor Keeps Inspiring Decades After the Release of Grammy Winning Song
originally published 2/8/ 2016At First I Was Afraid... When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of&n [...]
Even When They Didn’t Hear Your “No,” You Still Deserve to Be Heard
Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t pause, didn’t question, didn’t care.And beca [...]
Why We Teach Girls to Approach Women First
Because safety isn’t about luck — it’s about strategy.In July 2017, a 14-year-old girl was raped twice in one night.The first attack happened [...]
“The Forgive and Overlook Habit”: Why the Crisis of Child Predators Isn’t Going Anywhere
The crisis of child predators isn’t going anywhere. Unless the adults change our harmful ways and change them right away.
Because the pressure has al [...]
A Woman-Centered Truth About FGM We Cannot Abandon (w/list of resource organizations)
updated from December 13, 2025
FGM victims’ fury as academics compare practice to cosmetic surgeryAny honest critique of global efforts t [...]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Expanding the Conversation to Cohabitation Spaces
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed [...]
