The Benefit of Anger for Survivors: A Fire That Heals
For too long, Survivors have been told to suppress their anger. “Be the bigger person.” “Let it go.” “Forgive and move on.” Society is comfortable w [...]
🌿 Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivors—from all walks of life—should know this:
many Survivors are people of faith. Not all. But many. Some draw stre [...]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Expanding the Conversation to Cohabitation Spaces
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed [...]
Celebrity Trials, Silencing, and the Spectacle of Misogyny
Let’s talk about what we should be learning from these celebrity court cases—about abuse, about loyalty, and about truth.
Time and again, we see wo [...]
When Communities Celebrate Predators: The Cost of Uplifting R. Kelly in Black Spaces
Stop making abuse a softer crime just because the beat is familiar.
Let me just get this sentence out so I can be done:
Must we use every Bl [...]
If You Don’t Name It, You Can’t Protect It
*Note: This horrifying and tragic Dominican Republic story came to my attention because of white adult human females who identify as feminists. From t [...]
Sexual Assaults at American Festivals: The 2000 Puerto Rican Parade
For many years, the Puerto Rican Parade has been a symbol of pride and celebration. Every year, thousands of people march through the stre [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/loves There’s a saying that floats around on [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal. It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to complacency around violence and abuse. C [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say. “She should’ve left.”“Why didn’t she tell anyone?”“What did [...]
I Will Survive: How Survivor Gloria Gaynor Keeps Inspiring Decades After the Release of Grammy Winning Song
originally published 2/8/ 2016At First I Was Afraid... When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of&n [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
When history talks about hip hop, C. Delores Tucker’s name oft [...]
The Hidden Role of Women in Child Exploitation: Kenya’s “Madams”
SELF CARE ALERT This one minute clip is difficult to watch. Please take care of yourself. "They’re still children, so it’s easy to manipu [...]
It’s Not About Tradition, It’s About Freedom: The Power of Dropping a Name That No Longer Fits
Last names are deeply personal women who live through violence, abuse, or attack. It should remain that way. Personal. Even when she chooses to reveal [...]
The Old Code of Chains: A Timeline of Control Over Women’s Privacy and Safety
Women who demand male free spaces are not hateful but have you explored the possibility that you may be? Are you carrying on the ancient global wi [...]
Beyond the Perpetrator: It’s Not About Who Harmed, It Is About THE Harm (Podcast)
Survivor and victim's advocate Tonya GJ Prince addresses how making assumptions about who is or isn't capable of violence silences Survivors of [...]
What's In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist
Did I tell y’all about that time that they printed a speech I delivered in public in the paper? Well, that isn’t even the most interestin [...]
Who’s Really Saying “Stop Harming Her”?
You want women to fight for men when those same men will not even say, “Stop doing that.”
Too often, when violence is committed against a woman, men [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predator targeting a person—saying the right things, isolating them, offering gifts, br [...]
Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve Justice—No Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured ag [...]
🔊 The Right to Speak: What a Difference a Voice Makes
Updated for 2025 Silence
“You have the right to remain silent.”
I first heard that phrase in my 8th grade Civics class during the lesson on Miran [...]
This Is Not Confusion. It Is Memory: Black Women, Language, and the Right to Self-Definition.
This history is not symbolic. It is specific, embodied, and carried forward through language. For many Black American women, forced renaming has ne [...]
What Is a Rape Apologist?
People catch on to the fact that victims get blamed and no one tells men to stop harming women and girls. Ever. -Tonya GJ Prince
A rape apologist i [...]
What Really Protects Women: Moving Beyond Racial Myths and Toward Real Safety
For generations, women have been taught to fear the wrong things.We were warned about dark alleys, strangers, and the “unknown man” who might leap out [...]
The Door Closes When You Choose Their Violence Over My Truth
(Including the violence you want me to stop talking about.)
There’s a particular kind of betrayal that Black, Indigenous, and other racially marginal [...]
10 Excellent Memoirs about the Sexual Violence Survivor's Journey
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors. Excellent! What is most unfortunate is that there ar [...]
When Political Parties “Care” — But Only in One Corner of Our Lives
Political parties love to remind women and minorities: We care about you.But too often, their care is narrow. Conditional. Safe for their talking poin [...]
Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money. She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
The Disparity Between Property Protection and Women’s Safety
People ask strange questions about sexual violence that they wouldn't think to ask about other crimes like robbery or physical violence.Consider [...]
Why Leaders Who Excuse Abuse Can’t Build Safety—They Recreate Harm
When someone dismisses violence, mocks Survivors, or excuses abuse, they’re not neutral.
They’re signaling the kind of safety they intend to build—on [...]
Highlighting Stories Calling for An End to Violence Against Women and Children in 2023 Part 1
There has been debate around Black victims of domestic and sexual violence withdrawing support from writers and creators who choose to ridicule, [...]
The One Question Every Parent of a Girl Must Ask Themselves
Memory Lane (2000's) “No!” “Nobody kisses me! Except my mother, my Grammy, my Aunt Kisha, my LaLa, my Nanny, my Dada, my Gma,” (and the list went [...]
Whispered Civil Rights Movement Secrets: Fannie Lou Hamer the Truth Teller
There are people—loud and determined—who would have you believe that the systemic rape of women of color ended with slavery.That is a lie. A har [...]
Non-Stranger Assault: Why Self-Doubt is Part of the Trauma, Not the Truth (Infographic)
Non-Stranger Assault: Why Self-Doubt is Part of the Trauma, Not the Truth by Tonya GJ Prince
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Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. She was soft-spoken, nurturing, and trust [...]
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Who Protects the Women Whose Stories Don’t Trend
The work of women's safety, women's rights, women's liberation and women's healing is not a music and entertainment battle. When our movements turn [...]