What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence
 Updated 8 21 2025Â
original March 2016 About sixteen years ago, I was sitting in service while Pastor Lance Watson preach [...]
The Benefit of Anger for Survivors: A Fire That Heals
For too long, Survivors have been told to suppress their anger. âBe the bigger person.â âLet it go.â âForgive and move on.â Society is comfortable w [...]
Some of Us Refuse To Walk Back into Bondage Dressed as Progress
Some folks treat danger like itâs a dare.They treat survival like itâs a thrill.They treat oppression like itâs a rollercoaster rideâthey want to hop [...]
The Culture That Questions Women Before It Stops Men
Femicide. We keep saying it. âWe canât bring her back, but justice was served.â We say it after the trial.
After the sentencing.
After [...]
Survivor Q & A: What Do You Mean by “Sacred Castes” in Violence & Abuse? (video)
updated 2025
Below are 10 signs of a âsacred casteââa group, ideology, or identity that becomes exempt from criticism, even when doing harm [...]
Seeking Justice: Empowering Survivors through Civil Cases
Cassie, an American singer, recently made headlines when news broke out that she was suing her longtime music mentor and boyfriend, Sean "Diddy" Combs [...]
I Will Survive: How Survivor Gloria Gaynor Keeps Inspiring Decades After the Release of Grammy Winning Song
originally published 2/8/ 2016At First I Was Afraid... When we have been wounded we must heal. To do that, I think we all use a combination of&n [...]
#IAmJada: She Spoke Fire Back Into Her Name
They called it scandal.
But it was sacrifice.
A young girlâs truth laid bare
on the altar of a watching world. They tried to make her shame [...]
Explain Like I'm 5: What victims of domestic violence go through to get justice
I originally posted this on 9/3/15. On 5/16/2016 I aided a victim in DC and unfortunately this is still true. Why doesn't she leave? This [...]
Only 2% âOwnedâ Slaves?â: Slavery and Slaveholding in the United States Facts (Part 3)
Why âThe Last Recorded Lynchingâ IS NOT the Same As âThe Last Lynchingâ Slavery and Slaveholding in the United States, 1860 Introduction
On [...]
đż Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivorsâfrom all walks of lifeâshould know this:
many Survivors are people of faith. Not all. But many. Some draw stre [...]
Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. She was soft-spoken, nurturing, and trust [...]
đ âI Was Coerced by Someone I Trusted. I Didnât Say No. Is It Still Assault?â
This is one of the most common â and most heartbreaking â questions Survivors ask. And it deserves a clear, loving, truthful answer.
Yes. Coer [...]
When Political Parties âCareâ â But Only in One Corner of Our Lives
Political parties love to remind women and minorities: We care about you.But too often, their care is narrow. Conditional. Safe for their talking poin [...]
Why âI Donât Care About Potential Harm-Doersâ Sounds Empowering But Isnât
We get it.Youâre tired of tiptoeing.Youâre tired of warning signs, red flags, and feeling like you have to carry the burden of watching your back all [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But hereâs what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say. âShe shouldâve left.ââWhy didnât she tell anyone?ââWhat did [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
Theyâve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in suits, some in uniforms, some behind pulp [...]
âđœ When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men donât fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,âYou will not harm me anymore.â
This is perpe [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montgomery, Alabama, three young enslaved Black women [...]
The 5 Motivations of a Victim Shamer
A call-in to those ready to grow past it.
We donât arrive in this world knowing how to shame Survivors.It is something we are taught.It is something [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes itâs not just the person who hurts you.
Itâs the people who stay quiet.
Itâs the family who says,âDo [...]
đŻïž No Screening? No Safety.
âThere is no screening process for the males who are allowed into womenâs spaces. That silence is the policy.â
đŸ 1. The Hidden Reality Across gyms [...]
To the Misguided, Misdirected, Mislead, and Misinformed, about Child Sexual Abuse
Back in 2016 this post was inspired when a very famous celebrity publicly blamed how young girls dress for males in schools being sexually tempt [...]
Ignored Crimes Become Generational Crises: A Tale As Old As Time
History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.-Maya Angelou From the very first pages [...]
Why âBeing Loyalâ Shouldnât Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man." âMy Manâ is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Holiday, the [...]
When Black Women Are Targeted for Questioning What Others Pretend Not to See
There was another time I learned just how selective feminism and women's work can be. After 30 plus years of service, there are too many.Â
That time [...]
Celebrity Trials, Silencing, and the Spectacle of Misogyny
Letâs talk about what we should be learning from these celebrity court casesâabout abuse, about loyalty, and about truth.
Time and again, we see wo [...]
Iâm Terrified to Tell You that Iâm a Rape Survivor Because
Iâm Terrified to Tell You that Iâm a Rape Survivor Because Iâm Afraid Youâre Going to Judge Me Negatively, Deny My Experience, and Care More About Not [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
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No, Feminists Didnât “Give Up a Happy Home.” We Fought to Escape a Cage
And the walls of that cage were built with silence, shame, and sanctioned suffering.
Thereâs a dangerous myth floating around like perfum [...]
Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve JusticeâNo Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white menâs impunity to excuse Black menâs predation. Accountability for Black predators is notâ and will never beâmeasured ag [...]
Not Everything Is Equal: Why Moral Clarity Still Matters for All Human Beings
Connecting with political allies is harder than people admitâespecially when your foundation is not hate, not outrage for sport, but a clear, grou [...]
Non-Stranger Assault: Why Self-Doubt is Part of the Trauma, Not the Truth (Infographic)
Non-Stranger Assault: Why Self-Doubt is Part of the Trauma, Not the Truth by Tonya GJ Prince
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Why Survivors of Abuse Can’t Afford to Choose Political Candidates Like Party Entertainment (And the 15 Things That Actually Matter)
Most women, even if they are in a soft season now, do not have the luxury of choosing leaders like a child chooses entertainment for a birthday party. [...]
Why Womenâs Rights Vary by Stateâand Menâs Donât: A Breakdown of Legal Inequality in America
Do you see all this debate over "women's spaces" and NONE over men's spaces?
Thereâs a line from a 1976 film that still echoes today: âI [...]
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Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated)
(Updates below) Remember when they yelled: "This never happens." This tragedy was always preventable.Reaction audio: 4:23Grand ju [...]
Whispered Civil Rights Movement Secrets: Fannie Lou Hamer the Truth Teller
There are peopleâloud and determinedâwho would have you believe that the systemic rape of women of color ended with slavery.That is a lie. A har [...]