Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Once You Know, You’re Responsible for the Truth
Coercive Sex Trafficking Isn’t Hidden. We’ve Just Been Taught Not to See It.
Coercive sex trafficking thrives in the cracks of our silence.
It sur [...]
Survivor Spotlight: Toni D. Rivera, Human Trafficking Expert
You can watch Toni's amazingly brave story: For My Man, S6 E13...Chained by Love from TVONE
Toni D Rivera - Human Traff [...]
Sexual Assaults at American Festivals: The 2000 Puerto Rican Parade
For many years, the Puerto Rican Parade has been a symbol of pride and celebration. Every year, thousands of people march through the stre [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators — and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too many of us watched it happen in real time.P [...]
The Culture That Questions Women Before It Stops Men
Femicide. We keep saying it. “We can’t bring her back, but justice was served.” We say it after the trial.
After the sentencing.
After [...]
A Woman-Centered Truth About FGM We Cannot Abandon (w/list of resource organizations)
FGM victims’ fury as academics compare practice to cosmetic surgery Any honest critique of global efforts to address female genital mutil [...]
Whispered Civil Rights Movement Secrets: Fannie Lou Hamer the Truth Teller
There are people—loud and determined—who would have you believe that the systemic rape of women of color ended with slavery.That is a lie. A har [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our children—so they walk with their heads high in a world that too often trie [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language. Too often, th [...]
Jenifer Lewis Talks About Sexual Assault and Dealing with a Con Artist | Studio Q
This is a mighty woman! She survives AND she does the work to heal. A mighty woman indeed. Check out these jewels in the form of lessons that she shar [...]
Beyond the Perpetrator: It’s Not About Who Harmed, It Is About THE Harm (Podcast)
Survivor and victim's advocate Tonya GJ Prince addresses how making assumptions about who is or isn't capable of violence silences Survivors of [...]
His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written.
James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in [...]
“Why Didn’t She Fight Back?”
I like how Apple Tree Yard explains it. The character seems to be speaking a language that he understands. Clearly. [...]
Some of Us Refuse To Walk Back into Bondage Dressed as Progress
Some folks treat danger like it’s a dare.They treat survival like it’s a thrill.They treat oppression like it’s a rollercoaster ride—they want to hop [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? [...]
10 Excellent Memoirs about the Sexual Violence Survivor's Journey
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors. Excellent! What is most unfortunate is that there ar [...]
Let’s Make It Plain: Jim Crow and Sex-Based Boundaries Are Not the Same Thing
Some people are confused.Some were misinformed.Some are using half-truths to guilt others into giving up spaces that were built for survival.
So let’ [...]
Pregnancy, Panic, and the Past: Supporting Survivors Through the Miracle of Birth
*Updated for 2025
When a close relative—let’s call her Morgan—announced her pregnancy, our entire family was ecstatic.
I wanted to hear ever [...]
Tina Turner Survived Through Hell and NOTHINg About That is Funny
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What Does Violence Against Women Really Look Like Today? Truths You Can’t Ignore
Women with Disabilities Face Higher Risk
Women and girls with disabilities are more than twice as likely to experience sexual violence. Yet many shel [...]
“Why All Women Deserve to Be Heard When Speaking About Violence and Abuse—Not Just the Powerful”
For many men, all of life is a measuring contest.Who has more. Who is stronger. Who commands the most followers, the highest salary, the biggest pla [...]
Domestic Violence Is Rising While Survivor Services Are Disappearing: What the Latest Data Reveals
I don’t know if you saw this, but while overall violent crime is reportedly on the decline, domestic violence in the U.S. has actually risen by ab [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in suits, some in uniforms, some behind pulp [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
When We Look Away: The Cost of Animal Abuse
Every minute in the United States, at least one animal is abused. That’s not metaphor—it’s fact. Behind every tick of the clock is a life mistreated, [...]
High Five from WESurvive: 3 Crucial Life Lessons from Survivor LaQuisha Hall
Survivors are my favorite people. Hands down, no contest. I love their war stories, their wisdom, their testimony. They inspire me. I [...]
What the Data Doesn’t Say—But Survivors KNOW
Source: U.S. Sentencing Commission, FY 2024 Datafile,
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Quick Facts at a Glance Almost all offenders are men [...]
How Some Teachers Are on the Frontlines of Fighting Child Sexual Abuse
Did you know that some victims of child sexual abuse prefer to confide in teachers rather than parents? Even those from "good" loving homes? No one [...]
Creating Safe Spaces: Encouraging Open Discussions About Personal Security
How many times have you hesitated before speaking up about your safety concerns? How often have you been told, "Oh, you're overreacting," "It’s [...]
5 Reasons Why the Silence Around Abuse Isn't Golden
They say "silence is golden". No, it isn't, it's tarnished and rusty on the edges. At least when it comes to abuse it is.Allow m [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says: “Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
5 Reasons Why the Silence Around Abuse Isn't Golden
They say "silence is golden". No, it isn't, it's tarnished and rusty on the edges. At least when it comes to abuse it is.Allow m [...]
When the Harm Comes from Another Child: Why We Must Take Intra-Child Sexual Abuse Seriously
Updated from Oct 2016.....
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It’s hard being th [...]
Nell Carter: A Voice That Refused to Break
When I was a child, Nell Carter was one of my favorite entertainers. She still is. I had to share her with millions of other people though.
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Violence Against Women Always Looks for an Inside Woman
Like most acts of violence against women,invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.It counts on betrayal.It counts on a hand extend [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man." “My Man” is, in many ways, a love song about endurance, not just devotion.Billie Holiday, the [...]