⚠️ Trigger Warning: Child Sexual Abuse, Victim-Blaming
Updated for 2025 Updated from 2016: I was watching one of my favorite shows—Greenleaf on OWN. If you’ve ever watched it, you know [...]
8 Phrases of Comfort Parents Can Communicate to Children to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse
So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night. Every night without fail. And every night without fail, this would happen [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately. When a crisis emerges somewhere in the wor [...]
When Silence is Taught, Suffering is Inherited: How Childhood Conditioning Sets the Stage for Abuse
Some lessons aren’t written in books.Some are taught in the hush of a disappointed glance, a side eye when you spoke up, punishment for being a natura [...]
Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Can’t Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
The Faux Fight Against Child Sex Abuse
Last May was one of the happiest days of my entire life.My son graduated from high school. I sat there among the other proud family members as the ban [...]
A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince reveals how sharing our truths can empower others to d [...]
When Identity Becomes a Shield: Who We Protect When We Pretend Everyone Is Treated Equal
The Lie We Tell to Stay Comfortable
People say: “Rape is rape, it doesn’t matter who did it.” But that has never been true in practice. [...]
What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common
Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:The problem of black men who prey upon black girls/boys must be discussed and addresse [...]
Respect Without Surrender: When Rights Don’t Mean Access
The Foundation of True Respect
Respect is not ownership.And justice does not mean surrender.
We live in a world that often confuses access with equa [...]
Best Books on Surviving Violence and Abuse, So Far: Black History Month Edition
What books have you read that you would have included in this edition? [...]
Beyond the Perpetrator: It’s Not About Who Harmed, It Is About THE Harm (Podcast)
Survivor and victim's advocate Tonya GJ Prince addresses how making assumptions about who is or isn't capable of violence silences Survivors of [...]
🕯️ “Are they truly on the side of children… or just pretending to be?”
Because in this world—especially now—some people wear the mask of concern, but their actions, silence, or alliances tell the real story.
Here’s how y [...]
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🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm w/video featuring Michelle Browder, Mothers of Gynecology
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm
From the plantation to the present day, men—particularly those in power [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators — and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too many of us watched it happen in real time.P [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
🕊️ We Will Always Choose the Child: Culture Cannot Justify Harm
In the United States, there has always been a clash between cultural beliefs and the safety of the child. We just happen to be diverse like that.
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Sarah Palin Was Right—This Time
I don’t know if she and I will ever agree again.But today, on this?We stand on the same side of the truth. I Am a Survivor.
I survived m [...]
Unveiling the Sneaky Strategies of Child Predators: Protect Your Child with these Expert Insights
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High Five from WESurvive: 3 Crucial Life Lessons from Survivor LaQuisha Hall
Survivors are my favorite people. Hands down, no contest. I love their war stories, their wisdom, their testimony. They inspire me. I [...]
🛑 When Children Are Punished for Feeling, They Learn to Go Along with Harm
There’s something we don’t talk about nearly enough:
When children are punished too often—especially for having feelings or telling the truth—they do [...]
Sexual Violence Against Black Males: No Video, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them
updated from original post on 12/15/2015So last night I Twitter watched one of my favorite shows. A true crime show. You c [...]
No Gratitude, No Quilt: A Lesson from My Mama (and a Little Fried Chicken)
*Updated for 2025 Several months ago, my mom asked me to pick up some hair accessories like the ones she saw me wearing. Naturally, I did.
B [...]
Zainab Jama Is the Voice So Many Girls Have Been Waiting For
Zainab Jama, Miss World Somalia 2025, is not just a beauty queen—She is a truth-teller.A torchbearer.A fierce, unflinching voice for girls the world [...]
Keeping Children Safe in School: Body Safety
Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated) | WE Survive Abuse WE Can't Afford to Repeat the Mistakes of (PIE) Paedophile Information E [...]
Organizations Endorsing Sexualizing Children: World Health Organization
We no longer have time to be shocked, surprised, and astonished. Once reliable organizations that could be depended upon are blatantly and [...]
How People Lose Themselves: One Compromise at a Time
We don't do any of ourselves any favors when we believe that coercion, abuse, and loss of rights happen to "stupid or weak people".
People in abusive [...]
The Real Exclusion Happens When We Refuse to Face the Truth: Male on Male Violence
It is not women who are being exclusionary when we protect our spaces.It is not women who are the barrier to real, lasting change.
When people refuse [...]
Reckoning Is Not Chaos. It Is Correction.(w/Affirmations)
We arrived here because too many people rush to shield their favorite men instead of listening to the harmed. We can stop. Right now.
We arrived here [...]
Sad But True Little Known Facts About Women in Prison
It is only by the grace of God that every female Survivor of abuse is not in prison, suffering more abuse and violence at the hands of men. [...]
How Women are Surviving More Abuse in Prison
For Some Girls, Sexual Abuse Can Lead to Prison
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When They Blame You for Asking, Then Blame You for Fixing It Yourself
The Trap in Toxic Relationships and Systems
"Fine. I will do it myself." Ancient Black women's proverb.
At first, she thought the pr [...]
New Survey: 1 in 10 Men Have Carried Out Sex Offenses Against Children
Here we go again......another truth that has been ignored because it came from the mouths of women and children. New research suggests 1 in 10 [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
Predators Be Like: “Don’t Tell Your Parents” (Faithful background)
Predators are not hard to figure out. If someone tells you not to tell your parents, they mean you no good.
Predators Be Like: Only I [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of “inclusion” to force girls to surrender their safe spaces, they are no [...]
The Benefit of Anger for Survivors: A Fire That Heals
For too long, Survivors have been told to suppress their anger. “Be the bigger person.” “Let it go.” “Forgive and move on.” Society is comfortable w [...]
To the Misguided, Misdirected, Mislead, and Misinformed, about Child Sexual Abuse
Back in 2016 this post was inspired when a very famous celebrity publicly blamed how young girls dress for males in schools being sexually tempt [...]
WE Can’t Afford to Repeat the Mistakes of (PIE) Paedophile Information Exchange
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Because She Sang, We Speak: Honoring Billie Holiday’s Legacy of Truth
If you are silent about your pain, they will kill you and say that you enjoyed it.- Zora Neale Hurston
Before there were hashtags.Before there were v [...]
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Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated)
(Updates below) Remember when they yelled: "This never happens." This tragedy was always preventable.Reaction audio: 4:23Grand ju [...]
Mirror Reflections: How What We Don’t Know About Suicide is Killing People
updated from 7/1/2015
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides wer [...]
13 Red Flags: How to Identify Organizations Failing to Address Child Sexual Abuse
1. Lack of transparency: Such environments tend to operate under a veil of secrecy and discourage open dialogue regarding child sexual abus [...]
10 Excellent Memoirs about the Sexual Violence Survivor's Journey
Glad to see that we are in a season of listening to the powerful voices of Survivors. Excellent! What is most unfortunate is that there ar [...]
The Right to Say “NO” is Mine: Youth Edition (video)
Same Game, Different Day: Violating Women's and Children's Rights | WE Survive AbuseIsn't It Refreshing When a Man "Gets It"? | WE Survive AbuseSurviv [...]
Survivor Q & A: What Do You Mean by “Sacred Castes” in Violence & Abuse? (video)
updated 2025
Below are 10 signs of a “sacred caste”—a group, ideology, or identity that becomes exempt from criticism, even when doing harm [...]
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8 Common Characteristics of People Who Support and Enable Abusive People (Infographic)
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What To Remember When You Check on Your Stong Friend Who Was Assaulted
It is incredibly difficult to share with someone that you know. "I was abused.""I was victimized.""I was attacked.""I was assaulted." [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
If We Were Better We Would Be Prioritizing Silenced Children And Not Grown Men
This is how the rest of us end up in therapy for yearssss. Dealing with people who run to console, protect, and shield grown sturdy men and not hurtin [...]
When the Harm Comes from Another Child: Why We Must Take Intra-Child Sexual Abuse Seriously
Updated from Oct 2016.....
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult. It’s hard being th [...]
Your Body Knows the Truth: Letting Survivors Define Abuse and Violation
You are seen. You are heard.
Survivors are speaking in this moment.And when they speak, something important shifts.
Not toward labels.
Not toward d [...]
WE Deserve Justice: Law Firm Helps Others Seek Justice by Filing Sex Abuse Claims Against Care Facilities And Trust-Based Settings
*This post is unpaid, uncompensated and unaffiliated. For informational purposes and not a recommendation. As always, please ask aro [...]
Manhood Won’t Shatter If We Tell the Truth
There are men who prey on men. Go ahead and get the gasp out of the way.
Because this seems to be a truth everybody sees but is afraid to say out lou [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montgomery, Alabama, three young enslaved Black women [...]
Catholic Abuse Crisis Isn’t Over: The Urgent Need to Keep Listening to Victims
For decades, Survivors of child sexual abuse within the Catholic Church have bravely stepped forward—risking everything to tell the truth. Their testi [...]
Predators Don’t Play by the Same Rules
There’s something deeply dangerous about how we’re taught to think about harm—and especially about the people who cause it.
We’re told:“If someone wa [...]
Honoring the Courage of James Ransone Who Walked in Truth
updated from December 22 2025
I'm hearing that James Ransone was left out of the Oscars "In Memoriam" segment on Sunday March 15, ceremony. Let's r [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?” The Dangerous Game of Subtracting Context
We’ve all heard it: “Only 2% of white people "owned" slaves.”It’s a talking point tossed around to downplay history. But here’s the truth: it’s not th [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, and power. And in that intersection, those of us w [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
UPDATE: How Good Parents Miss Child Sexual Abuse and 5 Questions to Change That
Update: I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread across quite a few websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback. [...]
“The Forgive and Overlook Habit”: Why the Crisis of Child Predators Isn’t Going Anywhere
The crisis of child predators isn’t going anywhere. Unless the adults change our harmful ways and change them right away.
Because the pressure has al [...]