6 Smart Tactics to Help Survivors Strengthen Confidence
People who have been abused often struggle with self-doubt. Yeah. You can put up a tough exterior for everyone else. Some days you can even [...]
🛑 Stop Saying “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far to Abuse Women
Please stop telling Survivors that "men wouldn’t go through the trouble of dressing up as women just to abuse women."
We’ve heard it too many times [...]
6 FAQ by Parents & Caretakers about Child Sexual Abuse
Today, I would like to speak to the parents and caretakers of children. I realize that some of them might be a bit concerned. When someone [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, and power. And in that intersection, those of us w [...]
Manhood Won’t Shatter If We Tell the Truth
There are men who prey on men. Go ahead and get the gasp out of the way.
Because this seems to be a truth everybody sees but is afraid to say out lou [...]
When Older Women Are Told to Give Until It Hurts
The internet will have you believe something very simple and very cruel, and in my view, is rooted in misogyny:If younger people cut you off, it m [...]
Stay Out of Her Healing, You Weren’t There.
This is not about whether you think she was right or wrong.This is not about your definition of accountability.This is not about your fantasy version [...]
When the Harm Comes from Another Child: Why We Must Take Intra-Child Sexual Abuse Seriously
Updated from Oct 2016.....
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult.It’s hard being th [...]
The Truth About Catfishing: It’s Not Harmless. It’s Harm.
Catfishing isn’t just a little lie or a “lonely person trying to connect.” It’s deception wrapped in manipulation.
People build entire false identiti [...]
How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics
Let Me Tell ItI once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia. Here is what I learned. What one thing [...]
Why Don’t We Talk About Black Men Who Survived Childhood Abuse?
There are stories we rarely let breathe.The stories of Black men who were once Black boys — hurt, silenced, told to “man up,” told t [...]
13 Red Flags: How to Identify Organizations Failing to Address Child Sexual Abuse
1. Lack of transparency: Such environments tend to operate under a veil of secrecy and discourage open dialogue regarding child sexual abus [...]
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Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated)
(Updates below) Remember when they yelled: "This never happens." This tragedy was always preventable.Reaction audio: 4:23Grand ju [...]
High Five from WESurvive: 3 Crucial Life Lessons from Survivor LaQuisha Hall
Survivors are my favorite people. Hands down, no contest. I love their war stories, their wisdom, their testimony. They inspire me. I [...]
What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence
Updated 8 21 2025
original March 2016About sixteen years ago, I was sitting in service while Pastor Lance Watson preach [...]
🚨 When Power Imbalances Are Ignored—and Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power imbalance between abusers and Survivors [...]
🌿 Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivors—from all walks of life—should know this:
many Survivors are people of faith.Not all. But many.Some draw stre [...]
The Damage You Can’t See: Confronting Non-Physical Child Abuse
Too many people are sharing news articles all around social media about church leaders, police officers, and teachers violating children then adding.. [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits “pause.” It doesn’t wa [...]
Safe Father Figures: 5 Powerful Ways to Help Protect Children from Sexual Abuse
In a world where too many children face harm in silence, safe father figures—biological, step, chosen, or community-based—can be a powerful sh [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
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Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
#IAmJada: She Spoke Fire Back Into Her Name
They called it scandal.
But it was sacrifice.
A young girl’s truth laid bare
on the altar of a watching world.They tried to make her shame [...]
“Why Are Women Still Cleaning Up the Violence Men Refuse to Name?”
🩸 Say It Plain.
The crimes that males commit?They’ve become unsayable on social media—but not uncommittable in real life.
Every day, som [...]
The Real Locker Room Talk: Men Don’t Need Cheerleaders—They Need Witnesses
Let’s stop dancing around what everybody can feel but few want to say:Men are not suffering because women won’t let them cry.They are sufferin [...]
Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Can’t Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
Mirror Reflections: How What We Don’t Know About Suicide is Killing People
updated from 7/1/2015
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides wer [...]
Is Your Child Advocacy Child-Centered or Adult-Centered?
Child advocacy means supporting and promoting the rights and well-being of children. When advocating for children, it's essential to ensure [...]
Letter from an Angry Survivor of Sexual Violence about this Bill Cosby Tragedy
7/7/2015Tonight I am angry.
That isn't my default setting though. Usually, I smile so much that I have to consciously tell myself not to d [...]
Stop Calling Children “Underage Women”: How Language Is Used to Soften Harm Against Girls
No.
We are not doing that word-washing anymore. Not after what we had to read. Not after people had to live through.....or not live thr [...]
Predators Don’t Play by the Same Rules
There’s something deeply dangerous about how we’re taught to think about harm—and especially about the people who cause it.
We’re told:“If someone wa [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are not wrong. [...]