Sad But True Little Known Facts About Women in Prison
It is only by the grace of God that every female Survivor of abuse is not in prison, suffering more abuse and violence at the hands of men. Again.
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Why Blaming Porn Alone Won’t End Violence Against Women
When we treat symptoms as causes, harm finds new ways to grow.
When we face the root, we begin to change what is possible.
When We Make Po [...]
Manhood Won’t Shatter If We Tell the Truth
There are men who prey on men. Go ahead and get the gasp out of the way.
Because this seems to be a truth everybody sees but is afraid to say out lou [...]
Women Have Every Right to Feel Safe Even If That Annoys You
Immediately following the height of #MeToo women and girls have been inundated with messages like "be kind".
If #MeToo got us talking and [...]
When the Harm Comes from Another Child: Why We Must Take Intra-Child Sexual Abuse Seriously
Updated from Oct 2016.....
Sexual violence at the hands of children is just as destructive as any violation by an adult.It’s hard being th [...]
Catholic Abuse Crisis Isn’t Over: The Urgent Need to Keep Listening to Victims
For decades, Survivors of child sexual abuse within the Catholic Church have bravely stepped forward—risking everything to tell the truth. Their testi [...]
“The Forgive and Overlook Habit”: Why the Crisis of Child Predators Isn’t Going Anywhere
The crisis of child predators isn’t going anywhere. Unless the adults change our harmful ways and change them right away.
Because the pressure has al [...]
UPDATE: How Good Parents Miss Child Sexual Abuse and 5 Questions to Change That
Update: I published this during the summer months (2015). It spread across quite a few websites and I got a great deal of positive feedback. [...]
Male Indecent Exposure: Ensuring the Safety of Young Girls
Male indecent exposure refers to the act of exposing one's genitals with an explicit intention to shock, intimidate, or sexually [...]
WE Deserve Justice: Law Firm Helps Others Seek Justice by Filing Sex Abuse Claims Against Care Facilities And Trust-Based Settings
*This post is unpaid, uncompensated and unaffiliated. For informational purposes and not a recommendation. As always, please ask aro [...]
10 Lessons for Survivors from Melba Wilson’s Crossing the Boundary: Black Women Survive Incest
Melba Wilson wrote about something that Black women had certainly been living but had rarely been given room to discuss publicly: incest and childhood [...]
Congo Is Asking the World to Look: 7 Devastating Truths About Sexual Violence in the DRC
Well, actually...they've been asking for help for awhile. At some point we as a global family can deal with why their cries have gone unheard, includi [...]
Lessons from Survivor Jenifer Lewis on Overcoming Shame (videos)
As incredibly talented as she is, Jenifer Lewis is also a teacher! She is a teacher to all who struggle with mental illness, racism, sexism, and ab [...]
Preserving Women’s Energy for Liberating Women and Girls: Girl Child Marriage in Nepal
Can you imagine being pressured to center males in work for women and girls in a world where there is still girl-child marriage? Little girls can't id [...]
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Child Centering vs Personal Interest Centering: Only One of These Keeps Kids Safe (video)
What happened to those girls in Loudon County was always preventable. Remember folks yelling: "This never happens." For the sake of th [...]
5 Reasons Why the Silence Around Abuse Isn't Golden
They say "silence is golden". No, it isn't, it's tarnished and rusty on the edges. At least when it comes to abuse it is.Allow m [...]
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm w/video featuring Michelle Browder, Mothers of Gynecology
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm
From the plantation to the present day, men—particularly those in power [...]
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Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated)
(Updates below) Remember when they yelled: "This never happens." This tragedy was always preventable.Reaction audio: 4:23Grand ju [...]
Because She Sang, We Speak: Honoring Billie Holiday’s Legacy of Truth
If you are silent about your pain, they will kill you and say that you enjoyed it.- Zora Neale Hurston
Before there were hashtags.Before there were v [...]
You’re Not Her Judge. You’re Not Even Helpful.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivor’s choices is the same as offering help.It’s not. [...]
The Unseen Burden: Black Eldest Daughters and the Weight of Expectations
In many Black families, eldest daughters are celebrated as leaders, protectors, and role models. But behind that honor often lies a heavy, unspoken [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you were children, trying to survive another [...]
Child Abuse: Avoid Confusing ‘Familiar’ with ‘Known’ when Describing Perpetrator-Victim Relationships
I think most adults have at least the first step of the "grooming process" well understood. To review: Grooming begins by building rapp [...]
The Truth About Suicide that No One is Telling You
From 5/11/ 16The secret: Some people take pleasure in pouring salt into wounds that they know are there. Wounds that they have been trained to re [...]
The Faux Fight Against Child Sex Abuse
Last May was one of the happiest days of my entire life.My son graduated from high school. I sat there among the other proud family members as the ban [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?” The Dangerous Game of Subtracting Context
We’ve all heard it: “Only 2% of white people "owned" slaves.”It’s a talking point tossed around to downplay history. But here’s the truth: it’s not th [...]
🚨 When Power Imbalances Are Ignored—and Victims Get Hurt
In schools, faith communities, workplaces, and even families, efforts to keep the peace often ignore the power imbalance between abusers and Survivors [...]
The Faux Fight Against Child Sex Abuse
Last May was one of the happiest days of my entire life.My son graduated from high school. I sat there among the other proud family members as the ban [...]
If We Were Better We Would Be Prioritizing Silenced Children And Not Grown Men
This is how the rest of us end up in therapy for yearssss. Dealing with people who run to console, protect, and shield grown sturdy men and not hurtin [...]
Minimizing Chronic Pain Can Be Dangerous and Deadly (impactful Tiktok video story)
Pain hurts in a way that words fail.Pain doesn’t announce itself politely.It arrives like weather—uninvited, undeniable, and immune to reason. [...]
The Benefit of Anger for Survivors: A Fire That Heals
For too long, Survivors have been told to suppress their anger. “Be the bigger person.” “Let it go.” “Forgive and move on.” Society is comfortable w [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
Humiliation Is an Abuse Tactic: When Someone Keeps Trying to Make You Feel Small
Some people try to control women by frightening us.Others discover they can control a room by humiliating us.Humiliation can look like “joking [...]
What's In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist
Did I tell y’all about that time that they printed a speech I delivered in public in the paper? Well, that isn’t even the most interestin [...]
Safe Father Figures: 5 Powerful Ways to Help Protect Children from Sexual Abuse
In a world where too many children face harm in silence, safe father figures—biological, step, chosen, or community-based—can be a powerful sh [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
Feminism Isn’t About Hating Men. It’s About Asking Why Women and Girls Keep Paying for Men’s Violence
Let's talk about the girls no one gives any energy to.Protecting women does not require fearing men. It requires refusing to make women responsibl [...]
The Manipulative Power of Changing Language
Her: I need a protective order.
Judge: Did he actually say that he would kill you?
Her: Well....no but he said,
"That's okay I will take [...]
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12 Most Alarming Revelations Ann Rule Shared About Knowing Ted Bundy
Ann Rule is one of my faves. I liked her long before I started hearing about her connection to Ted Bundy. Her insight into the tragic stories she told [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montgomery, Alabama, three young enslaved Black women [...]
Iyanla Vanzant: Abusive People Have a Way of Making You Feel it is All Love
Background and Vulnerability: She explains that she and her brother had been sent to stay with her aunt and uncle for what was intended to [...]
Unveiling the Dark History of Gynecology | Ill Will
In this eye-opening first episode of "Ill Will," host A.B. Burns-Tucker is joined by Dr. Keisha Ray to dive into the troubling history of gynecology's [...]
Recognizing Truth is a Basic Life Skill (mini-post)
Parenting is one of the most rewarding and challenging journeys in life.And then, one day you have to let their hand go. Before you do that [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
Revisting the Silencing of Silenced Women and Girls: R Kelly
When the groundbreaking documentary Surviving RKelly (produced by Dream Hampton) came out, people were amazed.
How did this go on [...]
How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics
Let Me Tell ItI once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia. Here is what I learned. What one thing [...]
🛑 When “Being Nice” Becomes Dangerous: Reclaiming Boundaries After Trauma
The Very Idea
For years, people walked all over my boundaries.
And I let them.
Not because I didn’t care.Not because I wanted mistreatment.
I l [...]
Stop Calling Children “Underage Women”: How Language Is Used to Soften Harm Against Girls
No.
We are not doing that word-washing anymore. Not after what we had to read. Not after people had to live through.....or not live thr [...]
What Does “MAP” Mean? What Parents Should Know to Protect Every Child (w/TikTok Commentary)
In today's times, we have some adults in leadership positions who openly play favorites. They aren't "comfortable" standing up for EVERY child only so [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
The Real Exclusion Happens When We Refuse to Face the Truth: Male on Male Violence
It is not women who are being exclusionary when we protect our spaces.It is not women who are the barrier to real, lasting change.
When people refuse [...]
#IAmJada: She Spoke Fire Back Into Her Name
They called it scandal.
But it was sacrifice.
A young girl’s truth laid bare
on the altar of a watching world.They tried to make her shame [...]
How Fame Shields Harm: Why Children Are Ignored Until Adult Comfort Is Threatened
Many entertainers are protected in our culture.They are called “artists.”
They are called “talented.”
They are called “important.”So when th [...]
The Eye of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor: A Black Man Takes the Mic
It is my honor to highlight the words of author Tremayne Moore as he courageously shares his story and offers advice for healing: Hi. My n [...]
What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence
Updated 8 21 2025
original March 2016About sixteen years ago, I was sitting in service while Pastor Lance Watson preach [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators — and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too many of us watched it happen in real time.P [...]
Friendly Fire: Why Are Women Funding Their Own Erasure?
Tell me who I have to be to gain some reciprocity.... Ms. Lauryn HillAs kids, we used to complain about the guy who pulled our braids. [...]
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8 Common Characteristics of People Who Support and Enable Abusive People (Infographic)
Some people find truth-telling to be abhorrent and offensive. -TGJPLINKelink.io | See Original [...]
Mirror Reflections: How What We Don’t Know About Suicide is Killing People
updated from 7/1/2015
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides wer [...]
“Why Are Women Still Cleaning Up the Violence Men Refuse to Name?”
🩸 Say It Plain.
The crimes that males commit?They’ve become unsayable on social media—but not uncommittable in real life.
Every day, som [...]