When Beauty Becomes a Battleground: 7 Names for This Power Grab
When men try to crown one woman and crucify another based on looks, that’s not preference—it’s control wrapped in a compliment.
That ain’t admirati [...]
What Are Pseudoseizures? Understanding Psychogenic Seizures in Trauma Survivors
Remember, trauma lives in the body........
Psychogenic non-epileptic seizures (PNES), are seizure-like episodes that look and feel like epileptic sei [...]
What Is Strength (For a Survivor)?
They told us strength meant being hard.Tough. Silent. Unshakable.They told us it meant never falling apart.Never crying.Never walking away.Never say [...]
Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individuals—most often abusers or those in power—respond with defensiveness, victim-playing, o [...]
🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]
When Women Are Violated by Men, Don’t Police Our Tone — Restore Our Safety
Men should never expect a polite, dainty response when they violate women’s spaces.When you disrupt our safety, you activate our nervous systems — and [...]
Affirmations for Strength and Boundaries Around Black Women’s Humanity: Rooted in Baldwin’s Wisdom
"We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression
and denial of my humanity and right to exist."
-Jame [...]
Some of Us Can’t Pretend Institutions Are Harmless
It’s a strange kind of exhaustion—working beside women who understand abuse in private relationships, yet act confused when the same dyn [...]
No Gratitude, No Quilt: A Lesson from My Mama (and a Little Fried Chicken)
*Updated for 2025 Several months ago, my mom asked me to pick up some hair accessories like the ones she saw me wearing. Naturally, I did.
B [...]
10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. Yo [...]
10 Reasons Men Invading Women’s Spaces—No Matter How They Identify—Is Abusive, Misogynistic, Gynophobic, and Sexist
Women’s spaces exist for safety, healing, solidarity, and empowerment—yet, men demanding access to these spaces is a continuation of male entitlement, [...]
You’re Not Her Judge. You’re Not Even Helpful.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivor’s choices is the same as offering help.It’s not. [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
The Truth About External Validation: What It Builds, It Can Destroy
The Queen is the most powerful piece on the chess board.
We all need connection. We all need recognition. But when external validation becomes the [...]
The Book I Avoided—Until I Couldn’t Anymore
By a Survivor Who Now Understands Why the Caged Bird Sings
I’ve always been a voracious reader.
Since as far back as I can remember, my mother [...]
📢 Boundaries Are My Vitamins—And I Take Them Daily
You ever been around somebody who drains your energy just by texting “hey”?Yeah. That’s why I take my Boundaries Supplement every morning—no water n [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
Not Like Us: The Black Freedom Legacy Was Not Built on Unquestioning Institutional Compliance
There is a pattern that deserves daylight. Some movements wrap themselves in the language, symbolism, and moral authority of the Black American fre [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
Dr. Tracey Marks: Why Self-Love Has Nothing to Do with Confidence
Chapters 0:00 – Caring relationships that still feel distant 0:18 – Why this isn’t a mindset or self-esteem problem 0:31 – The self-love circuit and n [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
Own the Narrative: The Power of Storytelling Against Epistemicide
In a world where algorithms dictate whose voices are heard and whose truths are silenced, storytelling becomes an act of revolution. It is an act of [...]
🚧 9 Signs You’re Dealing with a Stonewaller
And Why That’s Not Your Fault[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Stonewalling is one of the most soul-draining tactics used in abusive relationships. It’s when so [...]
The Relationship Between Power and Truth: Why Survivors Must Be Free to Speak
So women all over the globe started telling truths around violence, abuse, and sexual harassment. The next thing you [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
He raped her with his maleness, and now that he is in court (that in itself is a miracle because very few rapists are ever prosecuted), no one can ack [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
Healing Beyond the Pain: Exploring the Latest Technologies in Treating PTSD
For Survivors of abuse and violence, the road to healing from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is deeply personal and often fraught with ch [...]
A Woman-Centered Truth About FGM We Cannot Abandon (w/list of resource organizations)
FGM victims’ fury as academics compare practice to cosmetic surgery Any honest critique of global efforts to address female genital mutil [...]
Future-Proofing Your Mind in an Unpredictable World
From guest contributor Jonathan Garner/shamekills.info. This blog post contains affiliate links. If you click on these links and make a purchase, [...]
🔥 Here’s How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especially over things that aren’t intended to be hurtful, it can feel like walking th [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]