When Niceness Becomes a Trap: Why Women Deserve the Bottom Line, Not Confusion
Women are often encouraged to be kind, accommodating, flexible, and understanding — even when our safety is at stake. We are told to “be nice.” We are [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torches were males of all 'identities'. Who ev [...]
Facing Reality: Identity Does Not Erase Patterns of Male Violence
We cannot fix what we refuse to face. And when it comes to the safety of women and girls, sidestepping truth in favor of comfort serves no one. There [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
When They Say Speaking About Racism is the Problem: The Same Old Victim-Blaming Playbook
There is a pattern.
A Survivor of abuse speaks up, and the world responds:"Why now?"
"You’re just being divisive."
"Talking about it [...]
Letter from an Angry Survivor of Sexual Violence about this Bill Cosby Tragedy
7/7/2015Tonight I am angry.
That isn't my default setting though. Usually, I smile so much that I have to consciously tell myself not to d [...]
The Overlooked Truth: Asexuality, Boundaries, and Survivor Safety
Conversations about safety, consent, and boundaries are vital, yet there is a community that often gets overlooked: asexual individuals. Asexuality [...]
Life-Saving Advice for Black Women from The Positive Birth Coach
@thepositivebirthcoach Replying to @MVP I hope this helps, a guide for black women advocating for yourselves in maternity care @The Motherhood Group @ [...]
Public Humiliation Is Not Entertainment: How Shame Becomes a Tool of Control
“Don’t let folks play in your face.”-Black Proverb
Public humiliation is often dismissed as personality conflict, humor, or spectacle.
But humiliati [...]
A Woman-Centered Truth About FGM We Cannot Abandon (w/list of resource organizations)
updated from December 13, 2025
FGM victims’ fury as academics compare practice to cosmetic surgeryAny honest critique of global efforts t [...]
🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]
Why Abuse Leaves You with Chronic Self-Doubt
And Why That Doesn’t Mean You’re Broken
There’s something few people talk about after abuse ends:The way self-doubt clings to you like a second ski [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themselves away.
What we are seeing—too often, and too [...]
Domestic Abuse And Suicide Prevention: How To Help A Loved One
Heads up! This post comes from Michelle Peterson from RecoveryPride.org. Be very informed.....Domestic Abuse And Suicide Prevention: [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
Your Mind is Your Strongest Weapon—Keep It Sharp, Keep It Healed
Self-mastery is the foundation of the most powerful and effective advocacy.
Survivor, before you fight for others, before you take on the weight of t [...]
🔥 What Is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is when someone tries to make you doubt your own reality—your memory, your feelings, your instincts, your truth.
It’s not just lying.It’s [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
When Giving Up Women’s Rights Is Called Progress: 15 Questions Worth Asking
updated from March 23 2025There is a familiar pattern in history.Women organize. Women speak. Women document harm. Women build shelt [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Value Wise Counseling
I value wise counseling.In times of confusion, wise words enable me to stay grounded like the anchor on a ship. Instead of being swayed by every wind [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]
When Disability and Blackness Meet: Over 25 Times When Grace Was Denied To Disabled Black People
There is a quiet cruelty that rarely gets named plainly. It lives in the space where Blackness and disability intersect. It shows up not only in drama [...]
To the Misguided, Misdirected, Mislead, and Misinformed, about Child Sexual Abuse
Back in 2016 this post was inspired when a very famous celebrity publicly blamed how young girls dress for males in schools being sexually tempt [...]
How Abusers and Systems Use “You Have It Good” to Normalize Deprivation
You ought to be thankful for the little things.
But little things are all you seem to give.
Janet Jackson| What Have You Done For Me LatelyG [...]
Love Doesn’t Mean Lying: I Can Respect You and Still Speak the Truth
If you think I have to choose between truth and respect,You underestimate the power of both.
See, real love doesn't demand silence.Real respect doesn [...]
Why We All Build Our Own Healing Spaces
It may be noticed when specific groups build their own
healing spaces but nearly everyone builds their own healing spaces
where people who live, s [...]
Men Have a Duty to Be Safe Around Women and Children
We need to say this more often, and we need to say it without apology: men have a duty to be safe around women and children.
Do not cross bou [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
What Is Strength (For a Survivor)?
They told us strength meant being hard.Tough. Silent. Unshakable.They told us it meant never falling apart.Never crying.Never walking away.Never say [...]
📢 Boundaries Are My Vitamins—And I Take Them Daily
You ever been around somebody who drains your energy just by texting “hey”?Yeah. That’s why I take my Boundaries Supplement every morning—no water n [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting [...]
“They’ll Be Raped Anyway” Is Not a Strategy—It’s Cowardly a Surrender
Some people are not "foxhole" people. They surrender mid-battle.
You say,“Well, women will be raped anyway…”as if that justifies handing predators [...]