Your Body Knows the Truth: Letting Survivors Define Abuse and Violation
You are seen. You are heard.
Survivors are speaking in this moment.And when they speak, something important shifts.
Not toward labels.
Not toward d [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, HD, and every group chat:Aesthetic Gateke [...]
The Overlooked History of Black Disabled Lives: Survival, Misunderstanding, and Strength
As a Black woman who has struggled with a health condition that is limiting, and has worked in the professional serving capacity for people with disab [...]
The Cost of Lying for Men: What Happens When Women Are Expected to “Protect Feelings” Instead of Tell the Truth
We’ve all seen it. Felt it. Been told to do it.
"Don't embarrass him."
"He's under a lot of stress.""Don’t ruin his life."
"It costs nothing to b [...]
10 Reasons Men Invading Women’s Spaces—No Matter How They Identify—Is Abusive, Misogynistic, Gynophobic, and Sexist
Women’s spaces exist for safety, healing, solidarity, and empowerment—yet, men demanding access to these spaces is a continuation of male entitlement, [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]
❓ FAQ: Why Is It Sexist to Dismiss Women’s Boundaries and Need for Safety?
Q: Is it really sexist to question or challenge women-only spaces?
A: Yes. Dismissing, undermining, or demanding access to women-only spaces—especial [...]
Domestic Abuse And Suicide Prevention: How To Help A Loved One
Heads up! This post comes from Michelle Peterson from RecoveryPride.org. Be very informed..... Domestic Abuse And Suicide Prevention: [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expe [...]
💣 Beauty as a Battlefield: When We Compete, They Win
Let’s tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each other.
Not over justice.Not over safety.But over aesthetics.
It’s no accident t [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the systemic failures that left her vulnera [...]
Survivor Affirmations: My Health Story Matters and My Voice is Unafraid (video short)
Survivor Affirmations: I Have a Disability and Reclaim My Voice (video short) | WE Survive Abuse [...]
Some of Us Can’t Pretend Institutions Are Harmless
It’s a strange kind of exhaustion—working beside women who understand abuse in private relationships, yet act confused when the same dyn [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcome?The same [...]
Love Doesn’t Mean Lying: I Can Respect You and Still Speak the Truth
If you think I have to choose between truth and respect,You underestimate the power of both.
See, real love doesn't demand silence.Real respect doesn [...]
You Don’t Have to Stay Where You’re Not Safe
Some of us are trying to bloom in gardens that were never planted for us.
We show up with our hands full—bandages, truth-telling, receipts, prayers, [...]
We Are Not the World’s Dumping Ground: The Sacred Art of Refusing Misplaced Blame
Black women, how much of the world’s weight have you carried today?
How many wounds have you stitched up that weren’t yours? How many fires have yo [...]
Dr. Tracey Marks: Why Self-Love Has Nothing to Do with Confidence
Chapters 0:00 – Caring relationships that still feel distant 0:18 – Why this isn’t a mindset or self-esteem problem 0:31 – The self-love circuit and n [...]
Why We All Build Our Own Healing Spaces
It may be noticed when specific groups build their own
healing spaces but nearly everyone builds their own healing spaces
where people who live, s [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits “pause.” It doesn’t wa [...]
Unloving the People We’re Told to Never Give Up On
“But That’s Your Family…”
There’s a sacred pain that often goes unnamed.The kind of pain that comes from realizing that someone you are related to [...]
Other People’s Emotional Unavailability Is Not Your Fault
Survivor, you’ve carried so much.
You’ve fought for healing, for hope, for wholeness—not just for yourself, but for others too. You’ve tried to pour [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are not wrong. [...]
🎭 The Enforcer in the Room: When Women Police Other Women for Abusers
"I will give you something to cry out about"
There is something few people want to talk about—but every Survivor knows it.
In systems of abuse and e [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why you’re not “mean” for wanting peace It starts with a bad decision. Maybe a DUI.Maybe losing another job.Maybe a fight with the [...]
When Disability and Blackness Meet: Over 25 Times When Grace Was Denied To Disabled Black People
There is a quiet cruelty that rarely gets named plainly. It lives in the space where Blackness and disability intersect. It shows up not only in drama [...]
11 Ways to Maintain Your Cool When Life Has No Chill
originally published 12/22/16Circa 1980 something, New JerseyMy mother: "So, if everybody else goes crazy does that you mean you go crazy too?"Me:.... [...]
We Are Not Meant to Disappear Inside Someone Else’s Reflection
There is a quiet war being waged on selfhood.A thousand little whispers telling women—and especially Black women, Indigenous women, and other [...]
Nell Carter: A Voice That Refused to Break
When I was a child, Nell Carter was one of my favorite entertainers. She still is. I had to share her with millions of other people though.
[...]
🎬 We’re Not Just Watching the Story—We’re Being Told Who We’re Allowed to Be
At We Survive Abuse, we talk a lot about truth, survival, and the power of reclaiming your story. But what if I told you that even the stories we wa [...]
🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]