Signs of Covert Abuse and Why It is So Harmful
Covert abuse is abuse that hides in plain sight. It’s harm done in ways that are subtle, disguised, or easily denied, making it harder for the victim— [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say.“She should’ve left.”“Why didn’t she tell anyone?”“What did [...]
🚩 Red Flag: When Someone Is Offended by Your Boundaries
Pay attention.
If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” a partner—gets angry, offended, or manipulative because you’ve set a boundary…
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When Power Aligns Against a Black Woman: Why Megan’s Case Still Matters for Every Survivor
There are times in this work where you have to resist the urge to cuss everybody clean out. Just tell people the truth with no filter.
That's why I [...]
If Any of Your Relationships Run on Silence and Lies, It’s Time to Reclaim Your Voice
I need to speak to you plain today.
There comes a time in healing when you must take a long, hard look around you and ask:Who benefits from my sile [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately.When a crisis emerges somewhere in the wor [...]
How Women’s Pain Is Minimized to Keep Men Comfortable
If there were no men in the room,no men in the equation,no men to protect or appease—
would anyone ever look a girl in the eye and say:“It’s no [...]
What Happens When Women Reach Their Breaking Point: The Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Cost of Carrying Too Much for Too Long
When a human being, especially a woman who has been carrying others for too long, reaches her breaking point, several things can happen—physically, em [...]
🔥 “Why Does My Safety Offend You?” — When Women Ask for Boundaries and Other Women Dare to Try to Shut Us Down
“Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate prediction, perhaps even momentarily make th [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries-Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves.......In Jim Crow America, Black people—especially Black women and girls—were forbidden from having boundarie [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, and power. And in that intersection, those of us w [...]
Smart People Can Be Fooled: Why Propaganda Loves an Educated Mind
One of the most dangerous myths in the world is the belief that only “ignorant” people fall for propaganda.That is not true.Smart people can b [...]
How Fame Shields Harm: Why Children Are Ignored Until Adult Comfort Is Threatened
Many entertainers are protected in our culture.They are called “artists.”
They are called “talented.”
They are called “important.”So when th [...]
When Girls’ Boundaries Are Rebranded as “Hate” (featuring Boundary Setting video from Dr. Tracey Marks)
updated from November 5, 2022
"You know good and well that a boundary never did a damn thing to you.
But a male has every potential to AND be excus [...]
Why Do Some Men Bash Good Men Rather Than Learning From Them?
Facts…why men rush to social media to bash Klay Thompson and Russell Wilson. pic.twitter.com/7O3U0642rm
— Fck_Yaya🎧✍️🏾 (@FckYaya) November 20, 20 [...]
Rosa Parks: A Stealth Strategist Against Deceit, Manipulation, and Violence
updated from January 6, 2025 with new links and information
Let's be honest, the word "gaslighting" gets thrown around a lot these days. But for thos [...]
When Men Encourage Boundary Violations, Women Pay the Price
updated from June 7 2025
Why It’s Wrong—And Sometimes Criminal—for Men to Overrule a Woman’s “No”
In every corner of society—online and offline—ther [...]
They Know Exactly Who They Are
We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone…
…that they’re abusive.…that they’re a predator.…that they hurt wome [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
How to Know You’re Not Safe—Even If No One’s Hitting You
(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs)
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this really abuse?” or told yourself, “At least they’re not hitting me,”—you’ [...]
💔 They’ve Been Ignoring Our Pain for Generations. But We Still Feel It.
On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social media application calling for Black people to go to Los Angeles, California and ge [...]
The Hidden Role of Women in Child Exploitation: Kenya’s “Madams”
SELF CARE ALERTThis one minute clip is difficult to watch. Please take care of yourself."They’re still children, so it’s easy to manipu [...]
Jennifer’s Law Exists Because Too Many Women Are Not Believed Until Too Late
update from April 25, 2025
We honor the lives of Jennifer Farber Dulos and Jennifer Magnano, two women whose stories pierced the silence su [...]
When the Harm Comes for Us First: Updates on the Megan Thee Stallion Case
Black women have always been expected to endure harm quietly, yet blamed when we finally speak it plainly. The updates around Megan Thee Stallion remi [...]
What Is DARVO? How It Harms Black Women and Black Girls
DARVO is a pattern some harmful people use when they are confronted.
It stands for:
DenyThey deny what happened.
AttackThey attack the person who s [...]
Our Mental Health Crisis is a Values Crisis
We have made a choice.
Not quietly.Not accidentally.Not without consequence.
We have chosen to be a nation that does not guarantee authentic and tru [...]
7 Lessons from Gina’s “Push” Scene on Martin: Setting Boundaries & Demanding Respect
When this Martin episode dropped, Black Gen Xers were tuned in heavy like we did every week. We knew Tisha Campbell didn’t need help singing a note—he [...]
Every Solution Was Rejected Because Access Was the Goal: Understanding Forced Access, Coercion, and Why So Many Women Feel Pressured to Explain Themselves
A woman asks for safety.
Everyone else asks for evidence.
🌿 Sometimes a woman is not asking for much.
She is asking for rest.Sh [...]
When They Say ‘All Women,’ Listen Closely to Who Is Missing with Reflecting Questions
Because clarity is how women find themselves againwhen the world keeps speaking fluently in half-truths.
There is a kind of languag [...]
Coercion in Disguise: When Love Asks You to Lie
When someone pressures a woman to lie, to go against her beliefs, her conscience, her values, her faith, or her integrity—that is not love. That is [...]
Maybe They Never Hit You… But Maybe They Do This.
Some of us were taught to only watch for bruises.
But there are people who will never lift a hand—and still tear your spirit down piece by piece.
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When Struggling People Are Called “Capitalists”: The Manipulation Behind a Cruel and Convenient Lie
The Manipulation Behind a Cruel and Convenient Lie
There is a quiet cruelty in accusing poor and marginalized people of being “capitalists.”
It soun [...]