Costumes of Control: How Some Male Murderers Used Disguise to Harm Women
Throughout history, some of the most dangerous predators have worn masks—not just metaphorical ones, but literal disguises used to deceive, confuse, [...]
This Is Not Confusion. It Is Memory: Black Women, Language, and the Right to Self-Definition.
This history is not symbolic. It is specific, embodied, and carried forward through language.For many Black American women, forced renaming has ne [...]
Self-Determination Doesn’t Always Look Like You Think It Should
There’s a blind spot on the Left.
A loud, well-meaning, but dangerous assumption that all women want the same things, live by the same codes, and a [...]
They Mock You, Then Expect You to Serve—The Trap Ends Now
May you never again fall into the trap of using your labor for an individual or group who calls your worth into question by...
Mocking your b [...]
When Belonging Breaks: Surviving in Truth When Cultures Defends Abusers
I get when some groups defend some aspects of abusers. I've slipped (more than once) and done it too. I'm a human.I still have a duty to push bac [...]
🛑 Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beauty—but not our justice.
They say they care about Black women.
They post our photos.Quote our hero [...]
There Are No Magic Words That Grant Access to Our Boundaries
There are no magic words.
No title, no role, no identity, no costume, no tone of voice, no declaration of who you claim to be—
grants you automatic [...]
When HR Doesn’t Protect You: What Survivors Deserve to Know
Human Resources (HR) is often unreliable for sexual harassment victims—especially in systems where protecting the organization takes priority over pro [...]
Some of Us Can’t Pretend Institutions Are Harmless
It’s a strange kind of exhaustion—working beside women who understand abuse in private relationships, yet act confused when the same dyn [...]
When Overpolicing Silences Survivors of Domestic Violence
When you work in organizations that address violence against women, middle class women-especially those who are not minoritized- do not get this p [...]
Coercive Sex Trafficking: What People Don’t Understand
That line is more fragile than people think.
Too many people in the U.S. still picture sex trafficking as some shadowy van pulling up to snatch a g [...]
Alleged “Male Loneliness” is Causing Men to Come Up With Bizarre Ideas
Women, start flipping tables everywhere you go. How hard is it to just stop being violent and abusive?How difficult is it to finally recognize th [...]
5 Things You Should Know About the History of “Gender”
For many of us, the word gender feels like it has always existed in the way we use it today. But the truth is, the meaning of gender has changed over [...]
The Myth of Neutrality: Why Identity Blindness Fails Survivors Every Time
There’s a phrase people love to say when conversations get uncomfortable:
“I don’t see gender, race, sexuality, or identity. I treat everyone the sam [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
Not All Prosecutors Are the Same: Why Survivors Must Look Deeper
In Survivor Advocacy, Complexity MattersIn today’s climate, it’s easy to fall into “for or against” narratives—especially when it comes to the jus [...]
Courtney Stodden’s Lifetime Movie Exposes the Public Grooming of a Child Bride—and the Cruelty of Celebrity Culture
I wasn't deeply familiar with this young woman prior to watching the Lifetime movie. I'm a bit out of her target age range. But being a teenager and t [...]
What Is a Rape Apologist?
People catch on to the fact that victims get blamed and no one tells men to stop harming women and girls. Ever. -Tonya GJ Prince
A rape apologist i [...]
“I Don’t Want to Choose Sides” Is a Side
The illusion of neutrality is a weapon.
When harm is done—when a woman speaks her truth and dares to name what broke her—there is always a moment.
A [...]
When Media Protects Abuse, It Makes the World Unsafe for Everyday Women
We’ve said it before:What happens in media doesn’t stay in media.
When journalists, commentators, celebrities, and influencers:
Mock women [...]
Why Declaring Women’s Right to Privacy and Safety Means Rejecting Male Entitlement
When we declare that women and girls have the right to privacy, dignity, and safety, we are also declaring something deeper:🚫 What It Means [...]
Public Humiliation Is Not Entertainment: How Shame Becomes a Tool of Control
Public humiliation is often dismissed as personality conflict, humor, or spectacle.
But humiliation, especially when repeated or strategic, is rarely [...]
10 Ways Women Are Coerced in Daily Life—And Why It’s a Problem
Coercion isn’t always obvious. It can be subtle, disguised as “concern,” “tradition,” or even “love.” Many women experience coercion in daily life wit [...]
Do Not Throw “Studies” in Our Face
Women know this story all too well:
We raise alarms. We say, this is unsafe, this will hurt us, this will hurt our children. And what do we hear back [...]
💔 They’ve Been Ignoring Our Pain for Generations. But We Still Feel It.
On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social media application calling for Black people to go to Los Angeles, California and ge [...]
💔 Understanding Marital Rape: Consent Still Matters
In too many parts of the world—and even in the minds of too many people—rape inside of marriage is still not fully recognized as a crime.But here’ [...]
🔥 “Why Does My Safety Offend You?” — When Women Ask for Boundaries and Other Women Dare to Try to Shut Us Down
“Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate prediction, perhaps even momentarily make th [...]
🚫 STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People don’t listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital re [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. It’s Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:"That makes me uncomfortable."
She said it gently at first.A whisper in the lock [...]
They Tell Us We Don’t Belong in What We Built (featuring K.Michelle short)
Some people may see this clip of K. Michelle as just a moment.
But we see history.
Few dare to understand what it is like to come from a people—Bl [...]
Even When They Didn’t Hear Your “No,” You Still Deserve to Be Heard
Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t pause, didn’t question, didn’t care.And beca [...]
What Does It Really Mean To Be Socialized As a Woman?
To be socialized as a woman means to be trained — subtly and overtly — in what the world expects from those born female. It’s a lifetime of unspoken l [...]