We Must Unlearn the Misplaced Blame We Inherited
I am a Black woman.I was raised as a Black woman in the United States of America.Raised to be strong, to be smart, to see danger from arou [...]
Jenifer Lewis Says Pastor Took Her Career After Molestation| UnCensored
"Tell until someone listens"- Jenifer Lewis
She Didn’t Whisper. She Roared.
There is a particular kind of silence that lives in the shadows of pews [...]
🧱 “You Just Keep Complaining”: How Abusers Use This Phrase to Stonewall You
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
“You just keep complaining.”“You’re always bringing that up.”“You never let anything go.”
If you've ever heard these phrases [...]
Being Protective Is Good: Why You Don’t Have to Choose Between Kindness and Boundaries
In today’s world—especially in progressive spaces—many women are made to feel that if they truly care about human rights, they must stay quiet about t [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the DoubtWe’ve heard it since childhood:“You’ve got [...]
Even Warriors Need a Well: Faith, Feminism, and the Right to Refuel (w/affirmations)
People may mean well.But to insist that women fighting for justice — especially women working to protect other women — must also abandon faith [...]
⚡ Trust Yourself — Without Apology
“They may call you hateful. But what they won’t call you is gone — because you trusted yourself.”
Ignore the noise of people who do not know better. [...]
How People Prompt or Lure Women to Prove Their Worth
"Why doesn't she leave? Why did she go back?"
We don't spend a lot of time examining what makes women doubt themselves. I look forward to t [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Protect their reputation.Look the other wa [...]
Why Some People Fear the Truth About Domination
There’s a strange thing happening in our world today—especially online—where people want to argue about the words we use instead of faci [...]
10 Signs Someone Is Using Shame to Control You
Shame is one of the oldest tools of control.It does not simply tell you that you made a mistake. It whispers that you are the mistake.Healthy [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Surviv [...]
When Human Resources Protects Power, Not People: What the Sean Combs Case Reveals
The trial against music mogul Sean Combs is not just about one man’s alleged abuse—it is about the systems that allowed it to persist for deca [...]
The Cost of Lying for Men: What Happens When Women Are Expected to “Protect Feelings” Instead of Tell the Truth
We’ve all seen it. Felt it. Been told to do it.
"Don't embarrass him."
"He's under a lot of stress.""Don’t ruin his life."
"It costs nothing to b [...]
Juneteenth: Proof That Even Our Freedom Is Seen as “Too Much”
Juneteenth is not just a holiday. It is a mirror—reflecting how this nation has long believed that Black people deserve nothing [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting [...]
Naming is Healing. Naming is Legacy
There is power in a name.
When you name an experience, you call it out of the shadows.When you name an injustice, you make it undeniable.When you nam [...]
When History Becomes Pressure: How Black Women Are Asked to Carry More
If learning about the burdens carried by Black women yesterday becomes another reason we are expected to carry everyone today, then the lesson has bee [...]
“Prove You’re Really With Us”: When Allyship Is Measured in Access to Your Body
A good, strong boundary might save your life one day.Where is She?She joined the group because she believed in what it stood for. The peop [...]
Surviving Stalking: It’s Surviving a Terror Campaign
You just can't even imagine.
That’s not a cliché. That’s a fact.
Unless you’ve lived it—being stalked, pursued, hunted—you don’t know what it’s li [...]
📺 “You Look Fine on TV…”How Media Representation Became a Distraction from Real Black Struggle
"You looked fine."
"I saw you on television."
But what if that wasn't me?What if I wasn't on television?
Maybe it was Will Smith. Or Oprah. Or Bill [...]
Why It’s Wrong to Call Women “Hateful” for Demanding Safety
When Black and Indigenous Women Are Called “Hateful” for Demanding Safety
For centuries, whenever Black and Indigenous women raised their voices fo [...]
You May Think He Was Misunderstood—But What He Did Was Evil
And the damage may last for lifetimes.
We live in a world where the predator’s pain often gets more airtime than the Survivor’s truth.
He had a roug [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If you've ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red [...]
Courtesy or Compelled Speech? Why the Difference Matters
There’s a difference between choosing courtesy and being forced into compelled speech.
Courtesy is voluntary. It’s when you call someone “Liz [...]
12 Most Alarming Revelations Ann Rule Shared About Knowing Ted Bundy
Ann Rule is one of my faves. I liked her long before I started hearing about her connection to Ted Bundy. Her insight into the tragic stories she told [...]
💡 Why the Protests Against Kamala Harris Are Making Her More Relatable (w/quotes from Shirley Chisholm)
"We have been so patient and loyal ... and what has it gotten us? We want our full share now." ~ Shirley ChisholmWhen critics and protestors attem [...]
Stop Shaming Survivors. Start Shaming Abusers.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Survivors should not be met with interrogation, suspicion, or scorn.They should not have to fight to be believed while the abuse [...]
Respect Without Surrender: When Rights Don’t Mean Access
The Foundation of True Respect
Respect is not ownership.And justice does not mean surrender.
We live in a world that often confuses access with equa [...]
✨ Survivor Affirmations for the Women Who’ve Held Their Tongue Far Too Long
Let’s be honest.
The people who critique dark-skinned Black women’s beauty?Often have deep gaps in their own appearance, character, and spirit that [...]
🚨 The Women Who Climbed the Ladder Are Now Pulling It Up Behind Them
Truth does not become false because it becomes unpopular. And the truth is, as proud as we are of some of these women for how they climbed the ladder. [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were told to keep going.To be strong.To not make a scene.To forgive.To forget. [...]