Why I Believe Women When They Say They’re Afraid — And Why You May Want To Too (updated with podcast link)
updated from June 28, 2024 Listen to this blog post here There are mom [...]
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense.Or two people who need to learn how to c [...]
📺 The Objectification of Black People After the Civil Rights Movement
How American Media Became a Gatekeeper of Perception—Not Progress🧠 1. From Visibility to Commodification
After the Civil Rights Movement forc [...]
7 Lessons from Gina’s “Push” Scene on Martin: Setting Boundaries & Demanding Respect
When this Martin episode dropped, Black Gen Xers were tuned in heavy like we did every week. We knew Tisha Campbell didn’t need help singing a note—he [...]
🧨 Myth-Busting the “Racial Harmony” Era: What We Weren’t Supposed to Say
Many believe the 1980s to early 2000s were a time of racial harmony in America, especially within the women's movement to end violence. But for Black, [...]
When the Request for Truth Is Framed as Hate
It’s an old tactic.Polished. Weaponized.Still as effective as ever.
When someone—especially a woman, especially someone from a minoritized group—asks [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was let in who shouldn’t have been.And then, no one shut the door behind them.
In [...]
Money, Morality, and Misunderstanding: Why Women Must See Clearly
Sometimes we align with people because we believe we share values.But values that haven’t been tested by deprivation often lack depth.
Women [...]
The Architecture of False Safety: 7 Red Flags
We have got to stop treating the violent crossing of human boundaries as a 'lapse in judgment.'
You don't accidentally break into a woman's [...]
🧩 REARTICULATION: When the System Repackages Harm in New Clothes
WARNING TO THE LOVING, THE NURTURING, THE HEALERS:
The systems we fight do not always come with burning crosses or slurs. Sometimes, they show up a [...]
It Doesn’t Take Long: When Obsession Turns Deadly After Just a Few Dates
By Tonya GJ Prince | WeSurviveAbuse.comSome people believe that stalking only happens after long, intense relationships.
They think, "Oh, she mus [...]
The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty.It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the story to sound softer than it was—it’s easy for outsiders to say:
“Why [...]
The Bench at Maple and Ninth: When Men Decide Whether Women Get Boundaries (audio)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we step into a modern fable about a simple bench, a tired woman, and a town that does not realize it is [...]
When They Say ‘All Women,’ Listen Closely to Who Is Missing with Reflecting Questions
Because clarity is how women find themselves againwhen the world keeps speaking fluently in half-truths.
There is a kind of languag [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
When Misinformation Spreads, Survivors Suffer: Meghann Cuniff’s Steady Voice in a Chaotic Case
So, Meghann Cuniff.The Megan Thee Stallion case didn’t just expose a violent act.It exposed a culture — one that treats Black women’s pain lik [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first?“The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you were children, trying to survive another [...]
The New Rules of Manipulation: 12 Things Every Woman and Girl Should Know
Much of today's manipulation no longer looks openly threatening. It often arrives looking compassionate, progressive, emotionally intelligent, [...]
Retro Report: The Domestic Violence Case That Turned Outrage Into Action
Generation X was not ready for this story but we needed it! Our Boomer parents were not ready either but they most definitely needed it.In fac [...]
Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individuals—most often abusers or those in power—respond with defensiveness, victim-playing, o [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—Then you need to say that.And sound l [...]
We’re Done Paying the Toll for “Acceptance”
We are not what ignorance calls us.We are not who ignorance says we are.
And we no longer owe our silence in exchange for phony belonging.
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What Is DARVO? How It Harms Black Women and Black Girls
DARVO is a pattern some harmful people use when they are confronted.
It stands for:
DenyThey deny what happened.
AttackThey attack the person who s [...]
Women Deserve Privacy, Safety, and Respect—Especially in Campus Athletics
Across campuses, colleges have a duty: to protect all students.
That includes the right to privacy, safety, and dignity—especially for young women [...]
🛑 What the 2023 Supreme Court Stalking Case Means for Women — And Why We Must Act Now
There’s a lot going on in the world right now. The headlines are heavy, the pace is relentless, and it’s easy to feel pulled in a thousand directions. [...]
When They Say You’re ‘Not So Innocent’—You Still Deserve Justice
How to Stay Safe When You're Judged Instead of BelievedIn the quiet corners of our communities, there are Survivors who never got justice—not beca [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Moc [...]
Why Do So Many Lies Feel True? The Hidden Psychology No One Talks About
There is a moment in every soul’s journey when the world begins to whisper:
“This must be the truth—everyone is saying it.”
But repetition is not re [...]