This Is Why Victims Sue: It’s Not About Greed. It’s About Survival.
They say it’s a “cash grab.”They roll their eyes.They whisper behind hands.They ask: Why didn’t she just go to the police?
But we know better.
We’ve [...]
Detachment Is Not Coldness—It’s Protection
They told you to go back.To be patient.To “love him through it.”To pour water on a man who doesn’t grow, doesn’t change, doesn’t offer safety, doesn’t [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
Stop Adding Barriers. Start Listening.
People don’t listen to women and children.Not even when we bring a mountain of proof.
So no—Don’t add more hoops, more exceptions, more “what about [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
Your Opinion Is Not Protection
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s get something straight:
Your opinion about how she should’ve escaped, how fast she should’ve healed, how she should’ve ta [...]
When They Can’t Control You Anymore, They Try to Control How People See You
One of the realities of working with women trying to get away from an abusive relationship is the difficult work that must be done long after the brea [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you were children, trying to survive another [...]
The Tender Hands the World Must Never Forget
The Richard Speck murders had a deep and lasting impact on how America viewed women’s safety, personal security, and institutional responsibility, es [...]
Predators Are Not Always Charismatic—Don’t Be Fooled by the Stereotype
Many people have a picture in their minds of what a predator looks like: charming, confident, manipulative, always in control. But let’s be clear—pred [...]
Violation is the Crime (Post Compilation)
I know everyone is short on time. So here's a post compilation.
One of the biggest obstacles to getting judges, attorneys, and political leaders to g [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
Why Leaving an Abusive Relationship Is a Process—Not Just a Decision
Because: leaving an abusive relationship is not a single event—it’s a complex, emotional, and often life-threatening process.
Here are the real reaso [...]
The Myth of Easy Access: Why You Don’t Owe the World Your Self
When people are treated as if others "ought to have access" to them, it is a systematic denial of their right to remain inviolate. Here are some u [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before: "You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreacting.""You need more therapy.""You’re dam [...]
Breaking the Myth: “Men Don’t Need to Be Trans to Rape Women”
One of the most dangerous and dismissive talking points circulating today is the claim that “men don’t need to be trans to rape women because men will [...]
Rest in Peace and Power Detroit Nurse Latricia Green
Phillip Lewis, Ross Jones, and other journalists have kept this very tragic story alive even through the tragedies and chaos of our days so that we [...]
🛑 What the 2023 Supreme Court Stalking Case Means for Women — And Why We Must Act Now
There’s a lot going on in the world right now. The headlines are heavy, the pace is relentless, and it’s easy to feel pulled in a thousand directions. [...]
Red Flag #1: If They Won’t Let You Have Privacy, They Don’t See You as Human
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe that their partners, children, or family members do not deserve privacy. That bel [...]
Stop Handing Out Character References When a Woman Is Talking About Risk
The women and children who society listens to the least, suffer the most intense, torturous, and excruciating harm.
There is a pattern that keeps sho [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who we’ [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Moc [...]
When Technology Becomes a Weapon: What You Need to Know About Cyberstalking and Deepfake Abuse
People like to be casual about it, but cyberstalking is a crime. Cyberstalking looks like: Following you from platform to platform, even after [...]
Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
Fire Test: When You Ask Women to Support Violence
You are sending forth aspiring leaders who have no history of standing against violence, no record of defending women or children,
no evidence [...]
When Women Must Explain Their Boundaries, Society Has Already Failed Them.
updated from November 5, 2025
Do you see how not one male is explaining his right to boundaries, just women and girls? You see how rested they are? T [...]
Is Face ID a Danger for Women in Abusive Relationships?
“Convenience shouldn’t cost you your safety.” We don’t always talk about this, but we should:
Face ID (and other biometric features like fingerpri [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcome?The same [...]
If You Have Nothing Healing to Say to Survivors, You Can Be Silent
In the early days of healing, Survivors are doing sacred, difficult work.
They are not “just leaving.”They are grieving.They are remembering.They are [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]