Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in denial, [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcome?The same [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
Stop Handing Out Character References When a Woman Is Talking About Risk
The women and children who society listens to the least, suffer the most intense, torturous, and excruciating harm.
There is a pattern that keeps sho [...]
This Is Why Victims Sue: It’s Not About Greed. It’s About Survival.
They say it’s a “cash grab.”They roll their eyes.They whisper behind hands.They ask: Why didn’t she just go to the police?
But we know better.
We’ve [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]
Don’t Look Away: How Polite Fiction Becomes a Predator’s Shield
There is language that has been troubling my soul. As a Womanist historian, I know that misinformation is not just an error; it is a weapon use [...]
It Doesn’t Take Long: When Obsession Turns Deadly After Just a Few Dates
By Tonya GJ Prince | WeSurviveAbuse.com Some people believe that stalking only happens after long, intense relationships.
They think, "Oh, she mus [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth threatens [...]
The Tender Hands the World Must Never Forget
The Richard Speck murders had a deep and lasting impact on how America viewed women’s safety, personal security, and institutional responsibility, es [...]
Jingle Bells Too: When People Pretend the Story Ended at “Slavery Ended”
This isn't about a song but like most art, it offers life lessons. Jingle Bells” was written in 1857 by James Lord Pierpont, a white composer who w [...]
They Weren’t Just Controlling—They Were Consuming
Survivors often face: the coercion to disappear inside someone else’s reflection.
Some people weren’t looking for love.They were looking for someon [...]
Misogynist Gaslighting: The Reversal That Keeps Women Unsafe
Misogynist gaslighting is not just individual.It's systemic, strategic, and silencing.
Here’s how it works—over and over again: 1. Women Set Bound [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
There is a dangerous misconception that rape is simply about lust or uncontrolled sexual attraction. This is false. Rape is about power and control. I [...]
Breaking the Myth: “Men Don’t Need to Be Trans to Rape Women”
One of the most dangerous and dismissive talking points circulating today is the claim that “men don’t need to be trans to rape women because men will [...]
“Why All Women Deserve to Be Heard When Speaking About Violence and Abuse—Not Just the Powerful”
For many men, all of life is a measuring contest.Who has more. Who is stronger. Who commands the most followers, the highest salary, the biggest pla [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was let in who shouldn’t have been.And then, no one shut the door behind them.
In [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before: "You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreacting.""You need more therapy.""You’re dam [...]
In Safety-Centered Spaces—Let’s Tell the Truth About Invasion
When it comes to women and girls, invasion looks like:
Forcing male presence into spaces where women go to breathe, to heal, to be safe wit [...]
Your Opinion Is Not Protection
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s get something straight:
Your opinion about how she should’ve escaped, how fast she should’ve healed, how she should’ve ta [...]
⚖️So If Robin Fought. Sierah Shouldn’t Have Had To.
Some stories never stop echoing — they just move from one woman’s life to another’s. In 1990, a woman named Robin Gardner was riding her bicycle do [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Moc [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re violent.
It doesn’t matter if he’s a c [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
Who’s Really Saying “Stop Harming Her”?
You want women to fight for men when those same men will not even say, “Stop doing that.”
Too often, when violence is committed against a woman, men [...]
Violation is the Crime (Post Compilation)
I know everyone is short on time. So here's a post compilation.
One of the biggest obstacles to getting judges, attorneys, and political leaders to g [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our children—so they walk with their heads high in a world that too often trie [...]
Creating a Safety Plan: Essential Steps for Protecting Yourself from Stalking and Harassment
When faced with stalking, harassment, or any form of abuse, having a safety plan is a vital step toward reclaiming control and ensuring your well-be [...]
Predators Are Not Always Charismatic—Don’t Be Fooled by the Stereotype
Many people have a picture in their minds of what a predator looks like: charming, confident, manipulative, always in control. But let’s be clear—pred [...]