The Myth of Easy Access: Why You Don’t Owe the World Your Self
When people are treated as if others "ought to have access" to them, it is a systematic denial of their right to remain inviolate.Here are some u [...]
When Someone Refuses to Leave You Alone: Understanding Forced Access
When Someone Refuses to Respect Distance
It's one thing to talk about the need for and importance of boundaries. We need to talk more about w [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
Men Already Have More Access to Women Than Ever. Why Is the Answer Still “Give Men More”?
There is something missing from a great deal of our modern conversation about men, women, loneliness, relationships, and belonging.
We rarely [...]
Why Leaving an Abusive Relationship Is a Process—Not Just a Decision
Because: leaving an abusive relationship is not a single event—it’s a complex, emotional, and often life-threatening process.
Here are the real reaso [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money.She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
Before He Killed Again: How Many Women Tried to Warn Us?
What I love about Octavia Spencer's production direction of "The Lost Women of Highway 20" is that she intentionally spotlighted all the missed opport [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before:"You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreacting.""You need more therapy.""You’re dam [...]
More Safe Spaces for Women Now: Even in the US, Women Are Dying in a System That Limits Their Escape
There are moments that should stop us. Not just emotionally, but structurally.As we reflect on the loss of women and children, the question is n [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language.Too often, th [...]
“Why All Women Deserve to Be Heard When Speaking About Violence and Abuse—Not Just the Powerful”
For many men, all of life is a measuring contest.Who has more. Who is stronger. Who commands the most followers, the highest salary, the biggest pla [...]
Ride Hail Assault Isn’t Rare—It’s Underreported
updated August 2025
Every day, people step into rideshare vehicles hoping to get from point A to point B. But some never make it there safely.
Ride [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re violent.
It doesn’t matter if he’s a c [...]
If You Have Nothing Healing to Say to Survivors, You Can Be Silent
In the early days of healing, Survivors are doing sacred, difficult work.
They are not “just leaving.”They are grieving.They are remembering.They are [...]
When Women Must Explain Their Boundaries, Society Has Already Failed Them.
updated from November 5, 2025
Do you see how not one male is explaining his right to boundaries, just women and girls? You see how rested they are? T [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with power.Fed with protection.Fed with the benefit of the doubt.
But it wasn’t me.[...]
When Technology Becomes a Weapon: What You Need to Know About Cyberstalking and Deepfake Abuse
People like to be casual about it, but cyberstalking is a crime.Cyberstalking looks like:Following you from platform to platform, even after [...]
Hidden Camera Spying, Covert Filming, and the New Sexual Surveillance of Women and Girls: A FAQ
Back in the early 2000s, many women understood spy recording through cases like Andrew Luster: a wealthy, predatory man, drugs in drinks [...]
30 Red Flags of Unsafe People: How to Spot Them Early
Some people are simply unsafe. Whether in personal relationships, workplaces, social settings, movements, politics, or online spaces, unsafe individ [...]
The Algorithms are Watching Her, Too: Coercive Control in the Digital Age
Technology didn’t invent abuse—it just made it harder to escape.
She didn’t hand him a knife.She handed him a password.She didn’t give him permission [...]
10 Ways Faux Concern About Cheek Swabs in Sports Does Not Protect Black Women—It Exploits Us
updated from March 27, 2025
It is an age-old, exhausting pattern: expecting Black women to absorb the impact, soothe, cushion, and hold space for m [...]
Red Flag #1: If They Won’t Let You Have Privacy, They Don’t See You as Human
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe that their partners, children, or family members do not deserve privacy. That bel [...]
Rejection in Dating: Why Learning to Accept “No” Is Essential for Healthy Relationships
Dating is not a promise of access. It is a process of discovering mutual interest, compatibility, and trust. Understanding rejection is part of buildi [...]
Breaking the Myth: “Men Don’t Need to Be Trans to Rape Women”
One of the most dangerous and dismissive talking points circulating today is the claim that “men don’t need to be trans to rape women because men will [...]
You Shall Not Be Moved by Hate
God does not send lifelines shaped like chains—if it’s choking you, it ain’t saving you.
Let’s say this plainly: You are being manipulated.
When s [...]
When Your Strength Makes Them Angry
Some people will try to make you feel like you did something wrong just for standing in your own power.
You say no.You speak up.You leave.You choos [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
He raped her with his maleness, and now that he is in court (that in itself is a miracle because very few rapists are ever prosecuted), no one can ack [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
⚖️ The System May Not Bring Closure—But You Still Have a Right to Choose
Let’s tell the truth:You may not find closure in the American justice system.Many Survivors don’t.Some find more harm.More dismissal.More delay.More [...]
What Really Protects Women: Moving Beyond Racial Myths and Toward Real Safety
For generations, women have been taught to fear the wrong things.We were warned about dark alleys, strangers, and the “unknown man” who might leap out [...]