When They Say You’re ‘Not So Innocent’—You Still Deserve Justice
How to Stay Safe When You're Judged Instead of Believed In the quiet corners of our communities, there are Survivors who never got justice—not beca [...]
When Male Pain Is Exploited, Women and Children Pay the Price
A woman named Poinsettia Grant-Parks was preparing to move in with her sister—just two days away from escaping a stalker and abusive ex-boyfriend. Sh [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
Who Protects the Women Whose Stories Don’t Trend
The work of women's safety, women's rights, women's liberation and women's healing is not a music and entertainment battle. When our movements turn [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Reckoning Is Not Chaos. It Is Correction.(w/Affirmations)
We arrived here because too many people rush to shield their favorite men instead of listening to the harmed. We can stop. Right now.
We arrived here [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into women’s spaces. That silence is the policy.”
🌾 1. The Hidden Reality Across gyms [...]
His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written.
James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in [...]
The Pressure to “Be Nice” While Male Violence Goes Excused
If ever you have any question about which people in the room are women: It will be the ones in the room pushed to "be nice" or "be kind"
The [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”!
As an advocate, I’ve aided thousands of women in creating safety plans to stay alive from people close to them — friends, family, spouses!
Believing [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
When “Woman Is a Feeling” Becomes Another Way to Erase Us
When People Say “Woman Is a Feeling,” Something Important Disappears
We know that we were not born to give men feelings. We were made for so much mor [...]
Disturbing Someone’s Peace Like This Is VIOLENCE — And We Must Stop Pretending Otherwise
For too long, people have treated women’s safety, children’s innocence, and the peace of vulnerable people as something small — something optional, so [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
Sometimes Survivors speak in whispers.Sometimes in long pauses, in shaking hands, in misplaced laughter.Sometimes… not at all.
But let me tell you so [...]
Consent Never Came, But the Agreement Was Made
from WESurviveAbuse.com
No one asked her.No one asked the girl with trembling hands and a racing heart.No one asked the woman staring into nothing, c [...]
The Dangerous Myth: Why Unkind Men Are Not Protectors of Women
Hollywood movies and the biased media have taught us well. Too well.
One of the most dangerous myths we carry is the belief that men who are unkind, [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says: “Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
Why Blaming Porn Alone Won’t End Violence Against Women
When we treat symptoms as causes, harm finds new ways to grow.
When we face the root, we begin to change what is possible.
When We Make Po [...]
To the Misguided, Misdirected, Mislead, and Misinformed, about Child Sexual Abuse
Back in 2016 this post was inspired when a very famous celebrity publicly blamed how young girls dress for males in schools being sexually tempt [...]
When “Nothing Will Happen” Isn’t a Safety Plan: Asking About Real Safeguards
“If your confidence turns out to be misplaced, what protections exist for the people expected to absorb the consequences?” When certainty replaces [...]
10 Dangerous Beliefs That Have Harmed Women Around the World
Some lies don’t look like lies.They wear the clothing of “tradition,” “culture,” “love,” or “femininity.”But if you look closer, you’ll see the brui [...]
Let’s Be Honest: It’s Past Time for Men to Show Up for Each Other
For far too long, society has quietly and dangerously assigned the role of protector, counselor, and emotional caretaker to women and girls—even when [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, “Now’s not the time.”They say, “It’s not that serious.”They say, “Be the bigger person.”They say, “Other people have it worse.”
And just li [...]
Unmuting the Voices: Empowering Women and Girls to Break the Silencing Chains
You may have noticed that it is young women and girls who often shame and silence other women and girls who speak out about their experiences with vio [...]
If We Were Better We Would Be Prioritizing Silenced Children And Not Grown Men
This is how the rest of us end up in therapy for yearssss. Dealing with people who run to console, protect, and shield grown sturdy men and not hurtin [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Protect their reputation.Look the other wa [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/loves There’s a saying that floats around on [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
⚖️ The Fight for Protection: What You Should Know About U.S. FGM Laws
In the United States, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is illegal under federal law.But it took decades of struggle, advocacy, and survivor voices to g [...]