We Must Unlearn the Misplaced Blame We Inherited
I am a Black woman.I was raised as a Black woman in the United States of America.Raised to be strong, to be smart, to see danger from arou [...]
Reshona Landfair: Jane Doe in R. Kelly’s sex tape reclaims name and shares her story
Adults. Adults can either create safety or harm. We play a hand in upholding abusers and harmers of children. A larger part than we want to admit. [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
⚖️ The Fight for Protection: What You Should Know About U.S. FGM Laws
In the United States, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is illegal under federal law.But it took decades of struggle, advocacy, and survivor voices to g [...]
When “Just Give Him a Chance” Stops Being Advice and Starts Becoming Pressure
Old habits die hard. Changing laws is often easier than changing hearts and minds. For generations, many women did not have full freed [...]
WE Deserve Justice: Law Firm Helps Others Seek Justice by Filing Sex Abuse Claims Against Care Facilities And Trust-Based Settings
*This post is unpaid, uncompensated and unaffiliated. For informational purposes and not a recommendation. As always, please ask aro [...]
When “Woman Is a Feeling” Becomes Another Way to Erase Us
When People Say “Woman Is a Feeling,” Something Important Disappears
We know that we were not born to give men feelings. We were made for so much mor [...]
Not Minor, Not Temporary: The Lasting Impact of Male Violence on Women’s Bodies
“What is dismissed in a momentcan echo for a lifetime.”
There was a time I didn’t fully understand this.
I knew violence was wrong.I knew it caused [...]
Forced Sterilization Never Ended — It Just Learned How to Hide (women’s present day stories through videos)
The thing about 'female exams' is that we have to make our bodies available to doctors, but we have no idea what they may be doing to our bodies.
&n [...]
“Prove You’re Really With Us”: When Allyship Is Measured in Access to Your Body
A good, strong boundary might save your life one day.Where is She?She joined the group because she believed in what it stood for. The peop [...]
When Male Pain Is Exploited, Women and Children Pay the Price
A woman named Poinsettia Grant-Parks was preparing to move in with her sister—just two days away from escaping a stalker and abusive ex-boyfriend. Sh [...]
Red Flag #1: If They Won’t Let You Have Privacy, They Don’t See You as Human
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe that their partners, children, or family members do not deserve privacy. That bel [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themselves away.
What we are seeing—too often, and too [...]
Why Truth Is What Finally Sets Survivors Free After Abuse
Truth is still in the business of setting people free.People often misunderstand what happens when a woman calls a domestic violence hotline [...]
Rosa Ingram’s Unyielding Courage: How Her Family’s Struggle for Justice Changed History
A Mother. A Defense. A Jim Crow Injustice.
The story of Rosa Ingram and her two teenage sons, Haywood and George, is one of the most heartb [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
They Are Still Calling Us “Hysterical” and “Stupid” Online on the Sly
Is the conversation still about the concern, or has it become about the person who raised it?
There are a lot of accounts online that [...]
What Women Are Still Waiting to Hear (podcast episode)
Why won't they say our names?In an era when nearly every issue has a spokesperson, why do so many women and girls feel u [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Unmuting the Voices: Empowering Women and Girls to Break the Silencing Chains
You may have noticed that it is young women and girls who often shame and silence other women and girls who speak out about their experiences with vio [...]
🛑 We don’t negotiate safety
⚖️ Some Things Are Black and White
Yes means safety.No means protection.
Clear, certain, unapologetic boundaries are not cruelty.They are care—espec [...]
Megan Thee Stallion 101: You Don’t Break Me in Public and Expect Me to Heal in Silence
Why are people angry? I will tell you. This happens to nearly every victim who chooses themselves and the truth.After a season of ambivalence and [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Surviv [...]
Friendly Fire: Why Are Women Funding Their Own Erasure?
Tell me who I have to be to gain some reciprocity.... Ms. Lauryn HillAs kids, we used to complain about the guy who pulled our braids. [...]
The Murder of Sakia Gunn: Why the World Looked Away, and Why Her Community Refused to Forget
It was just past midnight on a Sunday in May 2003 when fifteen-year-old Sakia Gunn stood at a Newark bus corner, laughing with her friends. Sh [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
When History Is Weaponized: Seeing the Manipulation Clearly, Even on the Hard Days
A reminder that “slavery is white history, how we survived it is Black history." ~ Malcolm Jamal Warner
There are moments when the world fe [...]
Courtney Stodden’s Lifetime Movie Exposes the Public Grooming of a Child Bride—and the Cruelty of Celebrity Culture
I wasn't deeply familiar with this young woman prior to watching the Lifetime movie. I'm a bit out of her target age range. But being a teenager and t [...]
Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individuals—most often abusers or those in power—respond with defensiveness, victim-playing, o [...]
How Abusers and Systems Use “You Have It Good” to Normalize Deprivation
You ought to be thankful for the little things.
But little things are all you seem to give.
Janet Jackson| What Have You Done For Me LatelyG [...]
Woman You Are Already Enough: A Reminder from Fannie Lou Hamer
In a world where women — especially minoritized women, poor women, disabled women, elder women, and other marginalized women all over the globe — ha [...]