Why We Teach Girls to Approach Women First
Because safety isn’t about luck — it’s about strategy.In July 2017, a 14-year-old girl was raped twice in one night.The first attack happened [...]
You Call It Staying. She Calls It Surviving.
You look at her and ask, “Why did she stay?”
But you don’t know the whole story.
You saw a snapshot.She’s been living the full movie.
To you, it [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
Reshona Landfair: Jane Doe in R. Kelly’s sex tape reclaims name and shares her story
Adults. Adults can either create safety or harm. We play a hand in upholding abusers and harmers of children. A larger part than we want to admit. [...]
Reclaiming Anna Julia Cooper: Why Black Women’s Liberation Is Not a Call to Self-Sacrifice
1. The Distortion of Cooper’s Vision
Some have taken Cooper’s line to mean that Black women must always be the “gateway,” carrying everyone else on [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring the Dark Side of Festivals: Uncovering the Reali [...]
What Women Are Still Waiting to Hear (podcast episode)
Why won't they say our names?In an era when nearly every issue has a spokesperson, why do so many women and girls feel u [...]
Predators Don’t Play by the Same Rules
There’s something deeply dangerous about how we’re taught to think about harm—and especially about the people who cause it.
We’re told:“If someone wa [...]
Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve Justice—No Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation.Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured ag [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
Megan Thee Stallion 101: You Don’t Break Me in Public and Expect Me to Heal in Silence
Why are people angry? I will tell you. This happens to nearly every victim who chooses themselves and the truth.After a season of ambivalence and [...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
updated from 2/5/25
I exchanged emails with this mother, Carolyn Mosley, many years ago.
I don't think I will ever forget she and her d [...]
His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written.
James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with power.Fed with protection.Fed with the benefit of the doubt.
But it wasn’t me.[...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ PrinceEvery single year, thousands of Black girls vanish from our comm [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them makes your story less true.
Some of you were children, trying to survive another [...]
You Can’t Protect Survivors and Still Make Space for Predators
You must choose a side.
There are things we don’t say often enough—because saying them out loud means we can’t unhear them.
Here’s one of them:[...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says:“Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
🕯️ “Are they truly on the side of children… or just pretending to be?”
Because in this world—especially now—some people wear the mask of concern, but their actions, silence, or alliances tell the real story.
Here’s how y [...]
#IAmJada: She Spoke Fire Back Into Her Name
They called it scandal.
But it was sacrifice.
A young girl’s truth laid bare
on the altar of a watching world.They tried to make her shame [...]
12 Ways That We Rob Women—Then Judge Their Survival
It is a contradiction to restrict women's opportunities, safety, or autonomy and then criticize the ways women adapt. If we want different outcomes, w [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
“Prove You’re Really With Us”: When Allyship Is Measured in Access to Your Body
A good, strong boundary might save your life one day.Where is She?She joined the group because she believed in what it stood for. The peop [...]
Forced Sterilization Never Ended — It Just Learned How to Hide (women’s present day stories through videos)
The thing about 'female exams' is that we have to make our bodies available to doctors, but we have no idea what they may be doing to our bodies.
&n [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty.It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies [...]
🛑 Summer Safety Alert: Predators Count on Your Distractions—Don’t Let Them
Yes, it’s summer again.
And while many of us are focused on camps, cookouts, rest, and routine changes—some people are focused on y [...]
The Algorithms are Watching Her, Too: Coercive Control in the Digital Age
Technology didn’t invent abuse—it just made it harder to escape.
She didn’t hand him a knife.She handed him a password.She didn’t give him permission [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quiet about it.
In this upside-down worldvi [...]
“Why Are Women Still Cleaning Up the Violence Men Refuse to Name?”
🩸 Say It Plain.
The crimes that males commit?They’ve become unsayable on social media—but not uncommittable in real life.
Every day, som [...]
When “Nothing Will Happen” Isn’t a Safety Plan: Asking About Real Safeguards
“If your confidence turns out to be misplaced, what protections exist for the people expected to absorb the consequences?”When certainty replaces [...]