đš Pregnancy Shouldnât Be a Death Sentence
Letâs tell the truthâpregnancy should never be a death sentence.
But in the United States, the leading cause of death for pregnant and postpartum w [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries-Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves.......In Jim Crow America, Black peopleâespecially Black women and girlsâwere forbidden from having boundarie [...]
âđœ When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men donât fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,âYou will not harm me anymore.â
This is perpe [...]
đȘWhen Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect UsâBut Donât Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like sheâs with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truthâbut deep down, they are w [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truthsâlike what it means to be a womanâare being rewritten, not by science or [...]
Calling Women âHatefulâ for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
updated from June 3 2025
Letâs name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women âhatefulâ for expressin [...]
Women Are Fed UP with Having Our Own Womanhood Mansplained At Us (w/TikTok creators)
We keep doing that thing that we have always done. We are not listening to women and girls. And when we do hear pieces of what they are saying here an [...]
Reshona Landfair: Jane Doe in R. Kelly’s sex tape reclaims name and shares her story
Adults. Adults can either create safety or harm. We play a hand in upholding abusers and harmers of children. A larger part than we want to admit. [...]
đżHealing Without Being Pulled Into Someone Elseâs Agenda
Survivors are not projects to be shaped.They are people who deserve safety, clarity, and freedom.
Many Survivors have lived through:
coerciv [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have TrustâAnd It Doesnât Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
HE Chose Violence
Blaming women is the usual default setting but if a man is violent, letâs put the blame where it belongs.Â
Because too many conversations around abus [...]
12 Burdens Growing Up In Dysfunctional Families Teaches You to Accept-and Why We Must Reject Them
 In dysfunctional families and abusive relationships, women are often askedâno, expectedâto tolerate things that should never be tolerated. These are [...]
Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individualsâmost often abusers or those in powerârespond with defensiveness, victim-playing, o [...]
The Murder of Sakia Gunn: Why the World Looked Away, and Why Her Community Refused to Forget
It was just past midnight on a Sunday in May 2003 when fifteen-year-old Sakia Gunn stood at a Newark bus corner, laughing with her friends. Sh [...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
updated from 2/5/25
I exchanged emails with this mother, Carolyn Mosley, many years ago.
I don't think I will ever forget she and her d [...]
â FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabularyâitâs about dignity, [...]
To the Misguided, Misdirected, Mislead, and Misinformed, about Child Sexual Abuse
Back in 2016 this post was inspired when a very famous celebrity publicly blamed how young girls dress for males in schools being sexually tempt [...]
Predators Donât Play by the Same Rules
Thereâs something deeply dangerous about how weâre taught to think about harmâand especially about the people who cause it.
Weâre told:âIf someone wa [...]
When âI Amâ Becomes a Demand
âI amâŠâTwo of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who weâ [...]
When Love Feels Like Walking on Eggshells: FAQs About Coercive Control
FAQs About Coercive Control
Is coercive control the same as emotional abuse?
They overlap, but coercive control is often broader. It [...]
When Identity Becomes a Shield: Who We Protect When We Pretend Everyone Is Treated Equal
The Lie We Tell to Stay Comfortable
People say:âRape is rape, it doesnât matter who did it.âBut that has never been true in practice.[...]
The Algorithms are Watching Her, Too: Coercive Control in the Digital Age
Technology didnât invent abuseâit just made it harder to escape.
She didnât hand him a knife.She handed him a password.She didnât give him permission [...]
đ When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
[wesurviveabuse.com]
There are menâtoo manyâwho believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harmed by them.
She sets a boundary.She tel [...]
The Dangerous Myth: Why Unkind Men Are Not Protectors of Women
Hollywood movies and the biased media have taught us well. Too well.
One of the most dangerous myths we carry is the belief that men who are unkind, [...]
The Distortion of Gender: How a Controversial Psychologist Reframed the Conversation
Only some people use their knowledge and intelligence for the betterment of humanity.
Some people use their knowledge and intelligence to destroy it [...]
Fire Test: When You Ask Women to Support Violence
You are sending forth aspiring leaders who have no history of standing against violence,no record of defending women or children,
no evidence [...]
#IAmJada: She Spoke Fire Back Into Her Name
They called it scandal.
But it was sacrifice.
A young girlâs truth laid bare
on the altar of a watching world.They tried to make her shame [...]
Safety Requires Strategy â Not Just âBeing Niceâ
updated from August 7 2025
Remember now, plenty of wives and children around the world are very nice to men who think nothing of harming them in an i [...]
When They Donât See You as a Person, They Donât Protect You as One
The objectification of Black people doesnât stay on screen.It follows us into courtrooms, hospitals, shelters, and survivor servicesâplaces where safe [...]
When âJust Give Him a Chanceâ Stops Being Advice and Starts Becoming Pressure
Old habits die hard. Changing laws is often easier than changing hearts and minds. For generations, many women did not have full freed [...]
Coercive Sex Trafficking: What People Donât Understand
That line is more fragile than people think.
Too many people in the U.S. still picture sex trafficking as some shadowy van pulling up to snatch a g [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent PeopleâEspecially in Love
Letâs talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what theyâre doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]