Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
updated from June 3 2025
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for expressin [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truths—like what it means to be a woman—are being rewritten, not by science or [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
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There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harmed by them.
She sets a boundary.She tel [...]
Revisting the Silencing of Silenced Women and Girls: R Kelly
When the groundbreaking documentary Surviving RKelly (produced by Dream Hampton) came out, people were amazed.
How did this go on [...]
Rosa Ingram’s Unyielding Courage: How Her Family’s Struggle for Justice Changed History
A Mother. A Defense. A Jim Crow Injustice.
The story of Rosa Ingram and her two teenage sons, Haywood and George, is one of the most heartb [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predator targeting a person—saying the right things, isolating them, offering gifts, br [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring the Dark Side of Festivals: Uncovering the Reali [...]
The Default State is Autonomy: 10 Reasons You Never Owe a Justification for “No”
We’ve been conditioned to treat "no" like a legal defense. We feel the need to back it up with a deposition: “I’m busy,” “I have a b [...]
Survivor Rachel Williams Highlights Strangulation Timeline
updated from November 7, 2023Some advocates for women and girls are not pleased with how we are talking about strangulation. Strangulation is ofte [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
Why Defending Your Boundaries Doesn’t Make You Hateful—It Makes You Strong
And we know how people feel about strong women.It is deeply disrespectful to violate women’s boundaries.Boundaries are not optional; they [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
When “Nothing Will Happen” Isn’t a Safety Plan: Asking About Real Safeguards
updated from February 2026“If your confidence turns out to be misplaced, what protections exist for the people expected to absorb the consequences [...]
Woman You Are Already Enough: A Reminder from Fannie Lou Hamer
In a world where women — especially minoritized women, poor women, disabled women, elder women, and other marginalized women all over the globe — ha [...]
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm w/video featuring Michelle Browder, Mothers of Gynecology
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm
From the plantation to the present day, men—particularly those in power [...]
The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty.It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies [...]
What Women Are Still Waiting to Hear (podcast episode)
Why won't they say our names?In an era when nearly every issue has a spokesperson, why do so many women and girls feel u [...]
🛑 We don’t negotiate safety
⚖️ Some Things Are Black and White
Yes means safety.No means protection.
Clear, certain, unapologetic boundaries are not cruelty.They are care—espec [...]
Let’s Be Honest: It’s Past Time for Men to Show Up for Each Other
For far too long, society has quietly and dangerously assigned the role of protector, counselor, and emotional caretaker to women and girls—even when [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in suits, some in uniforms, some behind pulp [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
7 Devastating Truths About the Atrocities Facing Women and Girls in Sudan (and Why the World Must Not Look Away)
updated from June 13, 2025
Women and girls in Sudan are facing unspeakable violence—sexual violence used as a weapon of war, mass displacement, and e [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quiet about it.
In this upside-down worldvi [...]
Coercive Sex Trafficking: What People Don’t Understand
That line is more fragile than people think.
Too many people in the U.S. still picture sex trafficking as some shadowy van pulling up to snatch a g [...]
The Hidden Law: Child Marriage is Still Legal in 37 U.S. States
Child marriage is often mistakenly viewed as an issue exclusive to the Global South, but it persists significantly across the West, including the Unit [...]
Is He Tracking You? 12 Places to Check When Someone Seems to Know Too Much
Technology has given abusive people new ways to watch, follow and frighten women. Some of them are hiding in places you may not think to look.
Leena [...]
Victimization, Victimhood, and the Right to Keep Naming What Happened
Victimized vs. Victimization
Victimization describes an experience, act, process, or condition in which someone is harmed, exploited, abused, targete [...]
🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into women’s spaces. That silence is the policy.”
🌾 1. The Hidden RealityAcross gyms [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Protect their reputation.Look the other wa [...]
Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal.It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to complacency around violence and abuse.C [...]
❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabulary—it’s about dignity, [...]