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Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
Parents of Woman Murdered in Domestic Violence Ambush Involving NYC Cop Speak Out
Nearly everywhere refers to this tragedy as a woman "killed in a love triangle." As others in the comment section of this video also noted, this wa [...]
Take a Look at WHO Is Being Killed by Guns
Who needs a war? Who needs expensive weapons if genocide is what you desire most? Just give everyone and anyone a gun anytime they [...]
Violence Against Women Always Looks for an Inside Woman
Like most acts of violence against women,invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.It counts on betrayal.It counts on a hand extend [...]
9 Reasons Why Making Laws Around Beliefs That Serve a Few While Harming Most is Dangerous
Laws are meant to serve and protect everyone, not just a chosen few. But time and time again, history shows us what happens when laws are built arou [...]
7 Devastating Truths About the Atrocities Facing Women and Girls in Sudan (and Why the World Must Not Look Away)
Women and girls in Sudan are facing unspeakable violence—sexual violence used as a weapon of war, mass displacement, and ethnic cleansing. These are n [...]
Respect Is Supposed to Be Mutual—But Women Know Better
Respect is supposed to be mutual.But you wouldn’t know that if you listened to today’s men speak.
Somehow, women are expected to earn it, perform for [...]
She Didn’t Stay Because She Didn’t Know. She Stayed Because She Did.
People assume she stayed because she didn’t know.
Didn’t know her worth.Didn’t know what he was doing to her.Didn’t know what love is supposed to l [...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
updated from 2/5/25
I exchanged emails with this mother, Carolyn Mosley, many years ago.
I don't think I will ever forget she and her d [...]
Who Will Find Missing Women and Girls?
updated from September 25, 2023
For over thirty years I have been dedicated to working to end violence against women and girls.
Along the way, I wor [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
🏛️ What Rural Women Need from Policymakers
My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rural areas.
Rural women experiencing dom [...]
The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and patriarchy—are built into society, shaping the [...]
Why Women Say ‘Text Me When You Get Home’: The Everyday Safety Steps Men Rarely Think About (video)
Our continued thoughts and condolences to the family and loved ones of Nia Wilson. May she rest in peace and power.
When women say “Text me when you [...]
From Koketia King to Lisa Marie Riley: The Danger Didn’t End. It Just Changed Addresses.
In 2010, Florida boxer Yathomas Riley was arrested after his then-girlfriend, Koketia King, was shot in the head inside his Miami apartment.Riley clai [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say: “I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She should’ve known better.” But this isn’t the moment to center your predictions—It’ [...]
We Are Tired, Not Silent: Honoring the Lives, Holding the Line, and Learning to Carry This Together
Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the day before that. This work—this witnessing, this advocating, this holding t [...]
Red Flag #1: If They Won’t Let You Have Privacy, They Don’t See You as Human
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe that their partners, children, or family members do not deserve privacy. That bel [...]
Black Domestic Violence Victims Deserve Compassion. Not Cruelty Dressed as “Accountability.”
Let’s tell the truth:
Black women are often the last to be believed,the last to be protected,and the first to be blamed.
When we speak about the vio [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
Stop Debating Women Into Danger: Saying You Care Is Not the Same as Protecting Women
When men debate whether women deserve safety, they are not having a conversation.
They are auditioning for authority over women’s [...]
Domestic Violence Is Rising While Survivor Services Are Disappearing: What the Latest Data Reveals
I don’t know if you saw this, but while overall violent crime is reportedly on the decline, domestic violence in the U.S. has actually risen by ab [...]
Boundary Blur Bingo: The Games People Play with Women’s Safety
Some people do not attack women’s boundaries directly.
They fog them.
They turn a woman’s “no” into a debate.
They turn her caution into “o [...]
Dignity Is Not Bitterness: Elder Women Deserve Safety, Too
Aging should not mean surrendering safety.Growing older should not mean losing the right to be heard, respected, or protected.
And yet—Too many eld [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately. When a crisis emerges somewhere in the wor [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—Then you need to say that.And sound l [...]
I Hit Him Back. The Survey Called It “Mutual Abuse.” Here’s Why That Logic Destroyed Me.
If you are a Black person, you know what it is like when the "both sides" playbook is used against you. You know what it is like to be pushed to be si [...]
Truth Over Tropes in True Crime Storytelling
Let me say this plainly, first and always:
What Noel Stevens did was horrific.Shauna Tiaffay is the victim.Her children are victims.Nothing about thi [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the systemic failures that left her vulnera [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025 Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once: “The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.” Her friend asked, “How could you know? Maybe he was just upset.”
[...]
💔 When Sisterhood Is a Silencer: Spotting the Wounds Behind the Smile
Some women walk with us in sisterhood—but not in solidarity.
They speak our language. Quote the affirmations. Light the candles. Clap at the empowerm [...]
Facing Reality: Identity Does Not Erase Patterns of Male Violence
We cannot fix what we refuse to face. And when it comes to the safety of women and girls, sidestepping truth in favor of comfort serves no one. There [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? [...]
When They Don’t See You as a Person, They Don’t Protect You as One
The objectification of Black people doesn’t stay on screen.It follows us into courtrooms, hospitals, shelters, and survivor services—places where safe [...]
Where “Bidirectional Abuse” Comes From and Why It Can Mislead People About Black Women
I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting "bidirectional violence" on dead women that they [...]
According to Homicide Data, the Most Dangerous State in the US for Black Women is…..
MissouriCelia: How an Enslaved Girl Continues to Inform Black Women's Work to End Violence Against Women | WE Survive AbuseYour Ignorance Around Black [...]
The Voices We Don’t Hear Are Still Speaking
In our fast-moving world, where everything from news to justice seems to depend on who has the loudest microphone, I want us to remember something sac [...]
Gynophobia Is Not New—We’ve Just Been Taught to Ignore It
The word gynophobia—meaning fear or hatred of women—has existed for centuries. But while misogyny gets mainstream attention, gynophobia re [...]
This Is No Time for a Victory Lap: 35 Modern Dangers Women Are Still Being Pushed to Tolerate
Remember that race where the person winning started celebrating ....but forgot to officially cross the finish line and win the race? A [...]
24 Facts About Genocide: How Women Across Generations and Nations Have Been Targeted in Genocide
When a group has been treated as property, their boundaries are never automatically recognized
—they have to be asserted, defended, and reasserted ac [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
When history talks about hip hop, C. Delores Tucker’s name oft [...]
🛑 Start Noticing: Saying No Is Not Hate
You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Wal [...]
More Safe Spaces for Women Now: Even in the US, Women Are Dying in a System That Limits Their Escape
There are moments that should stop us. Not just emotionally, but structurally. As we reflect on the loss of women and children, the question is n [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Protect their reputation.Look the other wa [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
🧨 Selective Empathy: Who Gets Compassion—and Who Gets Condemned
⚖️ "But His Parents Divorced..."
As an advocate for victims of violence, abuse, and rape; I’ve sat in enough courtrooms to know this:When a white def [...]
Male Deception Gets a Pass
And Women Who Tell the Truth Pay the Price.
Let’s tell the truth that too many are afraid to name:
Male deception gets a pass.Male abuse is ration [...]
The Gish Gallop: When Overload Becomes a Weapon Against Survivors
There’s a tactic that shows up in debates, politics, in online videos, and—far too often—in the lives of Survivors. It’s called the Gish Gallop.
The [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same pattern: minimization, denial, and reve [...]
Costumes of Control: How Some Male Murderers Used Disguise to Harm Women
Throughout history, some of the most dangerous predators have worn masks—not just metaphorical ones, but literal disguises used to deceive, confuse, [...]
Leadership Failure: How Leaders Are Failing Women Who Ask for Safety
When Women Say, “I Don’t Feel Safe”
That’s not a threat.It’s an invitation to build something better.
But when leaders double down on silencing in [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because first, women have to fight for our safe [...]
This Is Not Just a Relationship. It’s a Campaign of Control.
Some people still think abuse is about losing tempers.Or that it's a relationship that just got too intense.Or two people who need to learn how to c [...]
She Lied to Herself First: How Women Protect Harmful Men—And Turn on Other Women
There’s a quiet lie that echoes through many women’s lives.A lie whispered in silence. Repeated in prayer. Spoken with eyes closed tight.
It goes s [...]
📍 Across Borders, Beneath Systems: The Global Face of Sex-Based Oppression
Sex-based oppression is not confined to a single culture, continent, or community. It is a global reality—a multi-layered system of inequality roote [...]
And Why Don’t Black Women Call the Police? (Graphic video posted by Ben Crump)
“The Constitution they wrote was designed to protect the rights of white, male citizens. As there were no black Founding Fathers, there were no foun [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say. “She should’ve left.”“Why didn’t she tell anyone?”“What did [...]
When Men Encourage Boundary Violations, Women Pay the Price
Why It’s Wrong—And Sometimes Criminal—for Men to Overrule a Woman’s “No”
In every corner of society—online and offline—there’s a dangerous pattern we [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?” The Dangerous Game of Subtracting Context
We’ve all heard it: “Only 2% of white people "owned" slaves.”It’s a talking point tossed around to downplay history. But here’s the truth: it’s not th [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcome?The same [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring the Dark Side of Festivals: Uncovering the Reali [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, when women say “no”—especially in conversations about safety, space, and [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
🚨 Silence Isn’t Neutral. It’s Permission.
Let’s talk about the men who say:
“I don’t get involved in drama.”“That’s between them.”“Not all men are like that.”“I’d never do that, but I’m not [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expe [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]