“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common things we hear is:“I told her.”“I war [...]
If You Don’t Name It, You Can’t Protect It
*Note: This horrifying and tragic Dominican Republic story came to my attention because of white adult human females who identify as feminists. From t [...]
Our Safety Isn’t a Punchline: Standing Strong Against Ridicule
Women’s safety isn’t a joke. Ain't a damn thing "funny" about it.Yet, whenever we gather the courage to openly discuss our unique safety chall [...]
The Gish Gallop: When Overload Becomes a Weapon Against Survivors
There’s a tactic that shows up in debates, politics, in online videos, and—far too often—in the lives of Survivors. It’s called the Gish Gallop.
The [...]
Police in Milwaukee No Longer Report the Biological Sex of Crime Victims
Heads up Wisconsin!Well, here is one way to end violence against women and girls.... I guess. Just make it vanish. Erase it.But doesn't the public hav [...]
Her Story Isn’t About Weakness. It’s About Knowing Who Can’t Be Trusted
Celebrity trials that encompass domestic violence and rape annoy me. A whole lot of people get to talking about victims like they know them.
Peop [...]
Lifting As We Climb: The Radical Blueprint of the Black Women’s Club Movement
When Black women were excluded, they built their own.
They didn’t wait for permission. They didn’t wait for safety to be handed to them.They create [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? [...]
Why Women Say ‘Text Me When You Get Home’: The Everyday Safety Steps Men Rarely Think About (video)
Our continued thoughts and condolences to the family and loved ones of Nia Wilson. May she rest in peace and power.
When women say “Text me when you [...]
Her Name Is Mary Turner. Her Story Still Speaks.
We can’t have an honest conversation about why our grandmothers—and their mothers before them—often prescribed silence in the face of pain without ack [...]
Serial Killer Harvey Marcelin Serving Time in Women’s Prison
From X platform,
Co-Founder of Reduxx, Genevieve Gluck
Harvey Marcelin, a transgender serial killer who identifies as a [...]
The Numbers Do Not Lie, So Stop Asking Women to Accept Less Safety (UPDATE)
Organizations around the world have been distracted. Consumed with chastising women and pushing us to "be kind". Silencing us. De-platforming [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
You See Our Blackness, But Not Our Bruises
updated from June 8 2025We are not just Black.We are not just women....or girlsWe are Black women and Black girlsand we need care, health, and saf [...]
I Hit Him Back. The Survey Called It “Mutual Abuse.” Here’s Why That Logic Destroyed Me.
If you are a Black person, you know what it is like when the "both sides" playbook is used against you. You know what it is like to be pushed to be si [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
Who Protects the Women Whose Stories Don’t Trend
The work of women's safety, women's rights, women's liberation and women's healing is not a music and entertainment battle.When our movements turn [...]
Truth Heals: Why Forcing Survivors to Lie About Identity is Harmful
Survivors Deserve to Speak the Truth
Survivors of abuse, assault, and violence have long been silenced—by shame, by fear, by systems that prioritiz [...]
I Wish You No Harm—But This Doesn’t Work for Me: The Truth About Women’s Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a "good person" she must sacrifice her safety for men [...]
This Is No Time for a Victory Lap: 35 Modern Dangers Women Are Still Being Pushed to Tolerate
Remember that race where the person winning started celebrating ....but forgot to officially cross the finish line and win the race? A [...]
Why Women Protect Single-Sex Spaces—Even from “Nice Guys”
Women aren’t being mean. We’re being wise.
We’ve learned—through generations of harm—that safe spaces must be protected. Not just in theory. But in [...]
Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, when women say “no”—especially in conversations about safety, space, and [...]
🧬 Hope’s Name Was No Coincidence: How One Woman’s Tragic Murder Changed Forensic History
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Her name was Hope Denise Hall.And in life, she embodied it.In death, she redefined it.🎙️ Who Was Hope?
Hope was a 22-year [...]
🛑 12 Reasons “She Should’ve Known Better” Does Nothing to Keep Women Safe
We’ve heard it too many times:“She made a bad choice.”“She knew he was violent.”“We warned her.”“Why can’t I say that out loud?”[...]
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From Koketia King to Lisa Marie Riley: The Danger Didn’t End. It Just Changed Addresses.
In 2010, Florida boxer Yathomas Riley was arrested after his then-girlfriend, Koketia King, was shot in the head inside his Miami apartment.Riley clai [...]
She Never Saw It Coming: The Danger of Assuming a Man Will Take Care of You for a Lifetime
No woman envisions herself needing the services of a domestic violence or rape advocate. No woman walks into a marriage or long-term relationship expe [...]
This Moment Is Teaching Us
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A young Black woman—famous, talented, in the public eye—is harmed in plain view.She finds the courage to come forward. To say: I [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
“It is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those who have endured ordinary injustice.”
My pain does not require cross-examination [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, and power. And in that intersection, those of us w [...]
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For Women and Children, Indefinitely Going Along to Get Along is One of the Most Dangerous Strategies in the World
Many of us have had to "go along to get along" for a little while,but pushing for it indefinitely and just "hoping for safety"is d [...]
The Crucial Role of Responsible Media Reporting on Violence Against Women
Violence against women is an endemic issue that plagues societies worldwide, perpetuating gender inequalities and undermining women's rights. Whi [...]
Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. She was soft-spoken, nurturing, and trust [...]
12 Reasons Black Women Have Always Needed Womanism and Feminism
It is so concerning that people who live within community with Black women don't really see or hear us beyond their need for us.
There is a dange [...]
When Women Say No: Why Men Mocking Our Boundaries Is a New Low
We Are Protecting Our Bodies, Not Asking for Permission
There’s something deeply broken and dangerous happening in the public square.
Women and girl [...]
Costumes of Control: How Some Male Murderers Used Disguise to Harm Women
Throughout history, some of the most dangerous predators have worn masks—not just metaphorical ones, but literal disguises used to deceive, confuse, [...]
When a Woman Is Talking About Risk Are We Busy Handing Out Character References?: 11 Signs
updated from April 21, 2026
Her Fear Is Not Yours to Edit
The women and children whom society listens to the least suffer the most intense, [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in [...]
When Male Pain Is Exploited, Women and Children Pay the Price
A woman named Poinsettia Grant-Parks was preparing to move in with her sister—just two days away from escaping a stalker and abusive ex-boyfriend. Sh [...]
✊🏾 Since When Did a Man Saying He’s Changed Become a Gospel Truth?
She called me because I was serving as her victim advocate:His family is mad at me and now I'm so confused."He is trying to change but sometim [...]
A Mother Daughter Team Teaching Lessons on Teen Dating Violence: Carolyn Mosely and Ortralla Mosely (Resting in Power)
updated from 2/5/25
I exchanged emails with this mother, Carolyn Mosley, many years ago.
I don't think I will ever forget she and her d [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?” The Dangerous Game of Subtracting Context
We’ve all heard it: “Only 2% of white people "owned" slaves.”It’s a talking point tossed around to downplay history. But here’s the truth: it’s not th [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the systemic failures that left her vulnera [...]
What Is Trauma? A Simple Explanation (w/Quotes)
*Note: This is meant to be an elementary explanation. It came out of a conversation. Sometimes you realize you are speaking but your words are not r [...]
Nellie Jackson: After All Her Yeses, They Still Could Not Honor Her No
Because access is not respect. And entitlement is not love.
Even when men have the access they want, saying no can still be dangerous.
Histo [...]
Predators Are Not Always Charismatic—Don’t Be Fooled by the Stereotype
Many people have a picture in their minds of what a predator looks like: charming, confident, manipulative, always in control. But let’s be clear—pred [...]
In California, Will a Male Mass Shooter Serve His Life Sentence in a Male or Women’s Prison? (upated)
This family is never going to leave my soul I see. I keep cleaning off my PC, but never their family picture. The one with Benny in a suit surrounded [...]
You Don’t Find Your People By What They Post—You Find Them By What They Protect
"I don’t want to hear you say, 'Honey, I’m behind you.' Well, move, I don’t want you back there because you could be 200 miles behind. I want you to [...]
The End of Tolerating Anti-Female B.S.
In order to end prejudice against people born female, we have to call it out using clear and precise language:
Male Violence
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International Holocaust Remembrance Day: Violence Against Women in the Holocaust
I'm not always certain what the "right thing" to say on important days like these.
Painful days. Excruciatingly painful days that ripple [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in suits, some in uniforms, some behind pulp [...]
Women Are Not a Feeling. We Are Not Yours to Define.
originally published in 2025
There is a dangerous lie being whispered and shouted in this world:That a woman is a feeling.That our existence—our li [...]
You Call It Staying. She Calls It Surviving.
You look at her and ask, “Why did she stay?”
But you don’t know the whole story.
You saw a snapshot.She’s been living the full movie.
To you, it [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022LISTEN HEREBlack women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse — including humiliation, insults, [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
[wesurviveabuse.com]
There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harmed by them.
She sets a boundary.She tel [...]
Politicians Must Stop Dismissing Us: Women’s Safety is Non-Negotiable
Political leaders must prioritize the rights women need in our own right—not just the ones tied to men.
Yes, women must have the right to make ou [...]
Qasim Rashid, Esq: Women Are Not Safe Around Men
Before we talk about solutions, we have to be honest about the danger.Women and girls are not imagining this. We are not b [...]
Don’t Say You’re in Our Corner—Fight Like It
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in my corner—fight like it.Don’t post slogans and [...]
The Tender Hands the World Must Never Forget
The Richard Speck murders had a deep and lasting impact on how America viewed women’s safety, personal security, and institutional responsibility, es [...]
Aline Borel Was Not Just a Meme: When a Woman Is Misread, Labeled, and Killed
I've seen the meme of her so often. You may have too.
She was a woman from Brazil who was harmed "by mistake," they say. Accused of be [...]
The Voices We Don’t Hear Are Still Speaking
In our fast-moving world, where everything from news to justice seems to depend on who has the loudest microphone, I want us to remember something sac [...]
When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silenceLet’s tell the truth—because lives depend on it.I’ve work [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ PrinceEvery single year, thousands of Black girls vanish from our comm [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
“Why Do We Treat Male ‘Change’ Like a Sacred Revelation Instead of a Responsibility?”
A man "changes".Why do we women receive this as our "marching orders"?Do men do this? NO. They treat our changes and transformations as our pe [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—Then you need to say that.And sound l [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
Human Rights Organizations Should NEVER Tell Women and Girls to “Move”
The year is 2026. So-called leaders, writers, the academic class, news media, medical groups, and organizations are calling women's rights group [...]
