I Wish You No Harm—But This Doesn’t Work for Me: The Truth About Women’s Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a "good person" she must sacrifice her safety for men [...]
13 Powerful Truths About Womanism: A Pathway to Liberation, Healing, and Community
When people ask why I embrace Womanism, I say this: It tells the whole truth. It acknowledges what many of us already know in our bones—our survival [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry. People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update. Hi [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says: “Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
Released From Jail But Still a Danger to Women and Girls
@carloswins #torreymoore #maryland #foryou #fyp ♬ original sound - Carlos
Reminder: Males who are released from prison may still pose a danger [...]
Motherhood in the Shadow of Violence
Motherhood has often been romanticized in myths and sentiment, yet the brutal reality remains: for many women, pregnancy and early motherhood are hig [...]
Changing Restrooms, Changing Questions: What You Should Know
How come they can build these things that bring men in closer proximity to women and children but not more homes for the unhoused, affordable homes [...]
📍 Across Borders, Beneath Systems: The Global Face of Sex-Based Oppression
Sex-based oppression is not confined to a single culture, continent, or community. It is a global reality—a multi-layered system of inequality roote [...]
7 Devastating Truths About the Atrocities Facing Women and Girls in Sudan (and Why the World Must Not Look Away)
Women and girls in Sudan are facing unspeakable violence—sexual violence used as a weapon of war, mass displacement, and ethnic cleansing. These are n [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common things we hear is: “I told her.”“I war [...]
Truth Over Tropes in True Crime Storytelling
Let me say this plainly, first and always:
What Noel Stevens did was horrific.Shauna Tiaffay is the victim.Her children are victims.Nothing about thi [...]
We Are Tired, Not Silent: Honoring the Lives, Holding the Line, and Learning to Carry This Together
Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the day before that. This work—this witnessing, this advocating, this holding t [...]
💡 Why the Protests Against Kamala Harris Are Making Her More Relatable (w/quotes from Shirley Chisholm)
"We have been so patient and loyal ... and what has it gotten us? We want our full share now." ~ Shirley Chisholm When critics and protestors attem [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
Our Safety Isn’t a Punchline: Standing Strong Against Ridicule
Women’s safety isn’t a joke. Ain't a damn thing "funny" about it. Yet, whenever we gather the courage to openly discuss our unique safety chall [...]
Stephan Smerk Pleads Guilty in 1994 Slaying of Virginia Mother Robin Lawrence
*48Hours had a female FBI expert who shared valuable insight. In her opinion the murder was likely pre-planned. If you get an opportunit [...]
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✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
You Don’t Find Your People By What They Post—You Find Them By What They Protect
"I don’t want to hear you say, 'Honey, I’m behind you.' Well, move, I don’t want you back there because you could be 200 miles behind. I want you to [...]
Rosa Parks: A Stealth Strategist Against Deceit, Manipulation, and Violence
updated from January 6, 2025 with new links and information
Let's be honest, the word "gaslighting" gets thrown around a lot these days. But for thos [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, HD, and every group chat:Aesthetic Gateke [...]
Stop the Ahistorical Comparison: Jim Crow Was Violent, Girls’ Sports Does Not Have To Be
updated from March 28, 2025
This is so cruel.
There’s a new talking point going around:That not allowing boys to compete against girls in sp [...]
Why Women Say ‘Text Me When You Get Home’: The Everyday Safety Steps Men Rarely Think About (video)
Our continued thoughts and condolences to the family and loved ones of Nia Wilson. May she rest in peace and power.
When women say “Text me when you [...]
Gynophobia Is Not New—We’ve Just Been Taught to Ignore It
The word gynophobia—meaning fear or hatred of women—has existed for centuries. But while misogyny gets mainstream attention, gynophobia re [...]
When Love Becomes a Warning: The Forgotten Conversation About Parricide and Estrangement
There’s a growing trend across online spaces where people—especially younger adults—discuss estrangement from parents as if it’s a simple math equatio [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
24 Facts About Genocide: How Women Across Generations and Nations Have Been Targeted in Genocide
When a group has been treated as property, their boundaries are never automatically recognized
—they have to be asserted, defended, and reasserted ac [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
Black Domestic Violence Victims Deserve Compassion. Not Cruelty Dressed as “Accountability.”
Let’s tell the truth:
Black women are often the last to be believed,the last to be protected,and the first to be blamed.
When we speak about the vio [...]
When He Stops Hiding the Harm, Start Protecting Your Life
When an abuser stops caring that people know, a restraint has fallen away. Shame is no longer holding him back. Reputation is no longer enough to cont [...]
The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and patriarchy—are built into society, shaping the [...]
Costumes of Control: How Some Male Murderers Used Disguise to Harm Women
Throughout history, some of the most dangerous predators have worn masks—not just metaphorical ones, but literal disguises used to deceive, confuse, [...]
You Do Not Have to Apologize for Knowing What Danger Looks Like
You’ve seen too much.Lived too much.Heard the stories no one else wanted to hear.
And still, they want you to second-guess yourself.
They say:“Don [...]
Failure to Listen to Women Is the Red Flag
We talk a lot about red flags.But let’s be honest.Refusing to listen to women? That’s the first red flag.
It doesn’t always come with shouting or sla [...]
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When is “All Skin Folk Ain’t Kin Folk” Going to Apply to Those Who Kill Us?
"All skin folk ain't kin folk"
really ought to start
applying to people
who maim, murder, & leave
children parentless
in the Black commu [...]
The Harrowing Murder of Olivia Jones | Killers Caught On Camera
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRKZ9tddZrk&t=87s The surveillance cameras that he posted in the home helped to convict him of her murder. They [...]
🚨 Silence Isn’t Neutral. It’s Permission.
Let’s talk about the men who say:
“I don’t get involved in drama.”“That’s between them.”“Not all men are like that.”“I’d never do that, but I’m not [...]
This Isn’t “Just Drama.” This Is Coercive Sex Trafficking
There is a deep and dangerous misunderstanding about the case involving Sean Combs and what it means to traffic someone through coercion. So let’s m [...]
💔 When Sisterhood Is a Silencer: Spotting the Wounds Behind the Smile
Some women walk with us in sisterhood—but not in solidarity.
They speak our language. Quote the affirmations. Light the candles. Clap at the empowerm [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were told to keep going.To be strong.To not make a scene.To forgive.To forget.To move on [...]
Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal. It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to complacency around violence and abuse. C [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? [...]
The Tender Hands the World Must Never Forget
The Richard Speck murders had a deep and lasting impact on how America viewed women’s safety, personal security, and institutional responsibility, es [...]
Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, when women say “no”—especially in conversations about safety, space, and [...]
Grief That Echoes: Honoring the Women Amiri Baraka Lost to Violence
There are wounds that don’t stop bleeding just because the headlines fade.There are names that deserve to be spoken with reverence—not onl [...]
23 Common Excuses Used to Downplay Safety Risks for Women
IF we truly want to end violence against women, scapegoating women for male violence must end. You cannot scapegoat women for male violence on one da [...]
When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silence Let’s tell the truth—because lives depend on it. I’ve work [...]
She Didn’t Stay Because She Didn’t Know. She Stayed Because She Did.
People assume she stayed because she didn’t know.
Didn’t know her worth.Didn’t know what he was doing to her.Didn’t know what love is supposed to l [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
Gynophobia: The Fear That Shapes Our Stories and Our Lives
In a world full of contradictions, there is one fear that rarely gets named, but is woven into the seams of our cultures, systems, and stories: gyno [...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for expressing concerns about our safet [...]
Her Name Is Mary Turner. Her Story Still Speaks.
We can’t have an honest conversation about why our grandmothers—and their mothers before them—often prescribed silence in the face of pain without ack [...]
From Koketia King to Lisa Marie Riley: The Danger Didn’t End. It Just Changed Addresses.
In 2010, Florida boxer Yathomas Riley was arrested after his then-girlfriend, Koketia King, was shot in the head inside his Miami apartment.Riley clai [...]
When a Woman Is Talking About Risk Are We Busy Handing Out Character References?
The women and children who society listens to the least, suffer the most intense, torturous, and excruciating harm.
There is a pattern that k [...]
Lessons from the Murder of Tonie Nicole: The Family Shares
I came across and compiled this years ago. I was struck by how the family members brought her to life for us....shared her with us. It saddens me that [...]
12 Things Men Say “I’m Not Worried About” — While Treating Women’s Concerns as Silly
Men love to say it with a shrug, a smirk, sometimes even a laugh: “I’m not worried about that.”
The arrogance in that statement is thick enough to [...]
💔 When She Protects Herself, He Cries Harm
[wesurviveabuse.com]
There are men—too many—who believe that a woman harms them simply by refusing to be harmed by them.
She sets a boundary.She tel [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once: “The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.” Her friend asked, “How could you know? Maybe he was just upset.”
[...]
And Why Don’t Black Women Call the Police? (Graphic video posted by Ben Crump)
“The Constitution they wrote was designed to protect the rights of white, male citizens. As there were no black Founding Fathers, there were no foun [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
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Erin Justice: The Worst That Could Happen
Women and girls do not always survive rape.
Erin Justice was a teen being jointly raised by both of her parents. Erin notified police [...]
Respect Is Supposed to Be Mutual—But Women Know Better
Respect is supposed to be mutual.But you wouldn’t know that if you listened to today’s men speak.
Somehow, women are expected to earn it, perform for [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the systemic failures that left her vulnera [...]
Leadership Failure: How Leaders Are Failing Women Who Ask for Safety
When Women Say, “I Don’t Feel Safe”
That’s not a threat.It’s an invitation to build something better.
But when leaders double down on silencing in [...]
I uncovered the DARK TRUTH about my grandparents… | The Moth
Growing up, Angela loved spending time with her grandfather who became a widower at a young age. But when he passes, Angela learns the truth about her [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022 LISTEN HERE Black women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse — including humiliation, insults, [...]
When They Don’t See You as a Person, They Don’t Protect You as One
The objectification of Black people doesn’t stay on screen.It follows us into courtrooms, hospitals, shelters, and survivor services—places where safe [...]
Kenyan Women Refuse to Be Silenced: The Fight for Safety, Dignity, and Justice
There is a roaring fire rising across Kenya—lit by the courage of women who are tired of living in silence, tired of grieving alone, and tired of sy [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before: "You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreacting.""You need more therapy.""You’re dam [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our children—so they walk with their heads high in a world that too often trie [...]