Don’t Say You’re in Our Corner—Fight Like It
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in my corner—fight like it.Don’t post slogans and [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
“It is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those who have endured ordinary injustice.”
My pain does not require cross-examination [...]
Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. She was soft-spoken, nurturing, and trust [...]
💔 When Sisterhood Is a Silencer: Spotting the Wounds Behind the Smile
Some women walk with us in sisterhood—but not in solidarity.
They speak our language. Quote the affirmations. Light the candles. Clap at the empowerm [...]
When is “All Skin Folk Ain’t Kin Folk” Going to Apply to Those Who Kill Us?
"All skin folk ain't kin folk"
really ought to start
applying to people
who maim, murder, & leave
children parentless
in the Black commu [...]
24 Facts About Genocide: How Women Across Generations and Nations Have Been Targeted in Genocide
When a group has been treated as property, their boundaries are never automatically recognized
—they have to be asserted, defended, and reasserted ac [...]
When Violence Enters the Home, Children Bleed Too—Even Without a Bruise.
Let’s stop pretending.
Let’s stop pretending that domestic violence is something that only happens “between the adults.”
Let’s stop pretending tha [...]
More Safe Spaces for Women Now: Even in the US, Women Are Dying in a System That Limits Their Escape
There are moments that should stop us. Not just emotionally, but structurally.As we reflect on the loss of women and children, the question is n [...]
When Male Pain Is Exploited, Women and Children Pay the Price
A woman named Poinsettia Grant-Parks was preparing to move in with her sister—just two days away from escaping a stalker and abusive ex-boyfriend. Sh [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
Truth Over Tropes in True Crime Storytelling
Let me say this plainly, first and always:
What Noel Stevens did was horrific.Shauna Tiaffay is the victim.Her children are victims.Nothing about thi [...]
The Distortion of Gender: How a Controversial Psychologist Reframed the Conversation
Only some people use their knowledge and intelligence for the betterment of humanity.
Some people use their knowledge and intelligence to destroy it [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would never let that happen to you.”
But here’s [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common things we hear is:“I told her.”“I war [...]
10 Truths About Grooming: What It Is and What It Is Not
updated from March 2, 2025
Grooming is a word we hear often, yet misunderstanding still surrounds it.
That confusion can lead to silence.It can feed [...]
We Are Tired, Not Silent: Honoring the Lives, Holding the Line, and Learning to Carry This Together
Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the day before that.This work—this witnessing, this advocating, this holding t [...]
10 Reasons to Be Outraged about Harvey Marcelin: How the System Protected a Killer Instead of Women
When a man kills three women over his lifetime, the system did not just fail once. It failed over and over. It was designed this way. Not all [...]
Red Flags in Relationships: Recognizing Silent Signals of Control
updated from January 12 2025Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a si [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately.When a crisis emerges somewhere in the wor [...]
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I’m Not Angry at Other Women — I’m Committed to the Whole Truth
I'm not angry at other women.Not even the ones who shame, silence, or mock.Not even the ones who call truth-telling "too much," "too angry," or "too d [...]
In California, Will a Male Mass Shooter Serve His Life Sentence in a Male or Women’s Prison? (upated)
This family is never going to leave my soul I see. I keep cleaning off my PC, but never their family picture. The one with Benny in a suit surrounded [...]
💜 20 Ways to Support Celebrity Women Who Protect Themselves from Abuse
Before we cheer for progress, we must reckon with our past.Tina Turner was not just a legend—she was a Survivor.And yet, when she told the truth abo [...]
Stop the Ahistorical Comparison: Jim Crow Was Violent, Girls’ Sports Does Not Have To Be
updated from March 28, 2025
This is so cruel.
There’s a new talking point going around:That not allowing boys to compete against girls in sp [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—Then you need to say that.And sound l [...]
Pornography Didn’t Start the Fire: A Clear Look at History, Power, and Violence
With war, comes murder and rape
Pornography is often blamed as the reason violence—especially violence against women—has escalated.
That sounds clea [...]
In Safety-Centered Spaces—Let’s Tell the Truth About Invasion
When it comes to women and girls, invasion looks like:
Forcing male presence into spaces where women go to breathe, to heal, to be safe wit [...]
The Cage Looks Different, But It’s Still a Cage
Some men enforce gender roles by pushing women into cages:
Be obedient. Be soft. Be nurturing. Be silent.Other men wear those same gender roles l [...]
Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, when women say “no”—especially in conversations about safety, space, and [...]
Imagine How Women Escaping Domestic Violence Feel
Mom, 34, Allegedly Killed by the Father of Her Children During a Custody Swap After the Kids' Christmas Visit
When my home state got a new govern [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re violent.
It doesn’t matter if he’s a c [...]
Why Does the Racist Masculinization of Women Obligate Us to Fight for Others—But Not the Other Way Around?
Remember when you were little and another kid hit you. Maybe you yelled back at the other kid. The adults would overhear the commotion and make both [...]
We Can Care About the World Without Ignoring the Harm Shortening Lives Here at Home
Every month, an average of more than 70 women in the United States are shot and killed by an intimate partner. Everytownreasearch.org | [...]
9 Reasons Why Making Laws Around Beliefs That Serve a Few While Harming Most is Dangerous
Laws are meant to serve and protect everyone, not just a chosen few. But time and time again, history shows us what happens when laws are built arou [...]
When Men Encourage Boundary Violations, Women Pay the Price
Why It’s Wrong—And Sometimes Criminal—for Men to Overrule a Woman’s “No”
In every corner of society—online and offline—there’s a dangerous pattern we [...]
Parents of Woman Murdered in Domestic Violence Ambush Involving NYC Cop Speak Out
Nearly everywhere refers to this tragedy as a woman "killed in a love triangle."As others in the comment section of this video also noted, this wa [...]
Facing Reality: Identity Does Not Erase Patterns of Male Violence
We cannot fix what we refuse to face. And when it comes to the safety of women and girls, sidestepping truth in favor of comfort serves no one. There [...]
Kenyan Women Refuse to Be Silenced: The Fight for Safety, Dignity, and Justice
There is a roaring fire rising across Kenya—lit by the courage of women who are tired of living in silence, tired of grieving alone, and tired of sy [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males, Violence, & Abuse: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
updated from March 21 2022 Th [...]
7 Devastating Truths About the Atrocities Facing Women and Girls in Sudan (and Why the World Must Not Look Away)
Women and girls in Sudan are facing unspeakable violence—sexual violence used as a weapon of war, mass displacement, and ethnic cleansing. These are n [...]
Male Access Supremacy: When Entitlement Disguises Itself as Equality
updated from July 31, 2025The Space Was Never the Argument. The Entitlement Was.
Survivor Affirmation
Every woman deserv [...]
Dignity Is Not Bitterness: Elder Women Deserve Safety, Too
Aging should not mean surrendering safety.Growing older should not mean losing the right to be heard, respected, or protected.
And yet—Too many eld [...]
Black Domestic Violence Victims Deserve Compassion. Not Cruelty Dressed as “Accountability.”
Let’s tell the truth:
Black women are often the last to be believed,the last to be protected,and the first to be blamed.
When we speak about the vio [...]
Highlighting Stories Calling for An End to Violence Against Women and Children in 2023 Part 1
There has been debate around Black victims of domestic and sexual violence withdrawing support from writers and creators who choose to ridicule, [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
When Black Women Speak About Violence, Too Many People Attack the Voice Instead of the Harm
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsk8VmR4KCAThere is something very familiar happening around Is God Is. (The Color Purple? Eve's Bayou? Is [...]
When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silenceLet’s tell the truth—because lives depend on it.I’ve work [...]
5 Red Flags That Technology Meant to Protect Us Can Become a Tool of Control: What Women Need to Know About Surveillance and Safety
Who isn't surveilling women these days?There have been documented cases where law enforcement officers allegedly misused Flock Safety automated l [...]
Male Deception Gets a Pass
And Women Who Tell the Truth Pay the Price.
Let’s tell the truth that too many are afraid to name:
Male deception gets a pass.Male abuse is ration [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torches were males of all 'identities'. Who ev [...]
You Do Not Have to Apologize for Knowing What Danger Looks Like
You’ve seen too much.Lived too much.Heard the stories no one else wanted to hear.
And still, they want you to second-guess yourself.
They say:“Don [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
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When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022LISTEN HEREBlack women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse — including humiliation, insults, [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in [...]
HE Chose Violence
Blaming women is the usual default setting but if a man is violent, let’s put the blame where it belongs.
Because too many conversations around abus [...]
The Murder of Sakia Gunn: Why the World Looked Away, and Why Her Community Refused to Forget
It was just past midnight on a Sunday in May 2003 when fifteen-year-old Sakia Gunn stood at a Newark bus corner, laughing with her friends. Sh [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They call it justice.But only when women are asked to surrender boundaries.
They call [...]
✊🏾 Since When Did a Man Saying He’s Changed Become a Gospel Truth?
She called me because I was serving as her victim advocate:His family is mad at me and now I'm so confused."He is trying to change but sometim [...]
Unchain the Warrior Within: Empower Yourself as a Woman Who Fights for Herself
1. "I just want y'all to be honest about......"YOUR hair
Seriously? All these obstacles women and girls face and that's what you want to [...]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Expanding the Conversation to Cohabitation Spaces
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed [...]
Injustice Trauma: When the Violence Isn’t the Only Wound
There is a kind of pain that cuts deeper than bruises.A wound that doesn't show up on x-rays or medical reports.It's called injustice trauma—and it ch [...]
What Is Trauma? A Simple Explanation (w/Quotes)
*Note: This is meant to be an elementary explanation. It came out of a conversation. Sometimes you realize you are speaking but your words are not r [...]
I Hit Him Back. The Survey Called It “Mutual Abuse.” Here’s Why That Logic Destroyed Me.
If you are a Black person, you know what it is like when the "both sides" playbook is used against you. You know what it is like to be pushed to be si [...]
The End of Tolerating Anti-Female B.S.
In order to end prejudice against people born female, we have to call it out using clear and precise language: Male Violence Male violence agai [...]
Why Women Say ‘Text Me When You Get Home’: The Everyday Safety Steps Men Rarely Think About (video)
Our continued thoughts and condolences to the family and loved ones of Nia Wilson. May she rest in peace and power.
When women say “Text me when you [...]
13 Powerful Truths About Womanism: A Pathway to Liberation, Healing, and Community
When people ask why I embrace Womanism, I say this: It tells the whole truth. It acknowledges what many of us already know in our bones—our survival [...]
This Isn’t “Just Drama.” This Is Coercive Sex Trafficking
There is a deep and dangerous misunderstanding about the case involving Sean Combs and what it means to traffic someone through coercion. So let’s m [...]
Surviving Abuse Daily: Every Month is Male Discomfort Awareness Month
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9 Dangerous Myths About Violence Against Women and Children
Violence against women and children is a pervasive issue, often perpetuated by misconceptions that downplay its severity and prevalence. Recognizing [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
I Wish You No Harm—But This Doesn’t Work for Me: The Truth About Women’s Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a "good person" she must sacrifice her safety for men [...]