I Wish You No Harm—But This Doesn’t Work for Me: The Truth About Women’s Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a "good person" she must sacrifice her safety for men [...]
Take a Look at WHO Is Being Killed by Guns
Who needs a war? Who needs expensive weapons if genocide is what you desire most?Just give everyone and anyone a gun anytime they [...]
You Do Not Have to Apologize for Knowing What Danger Looks Like
You’ve seen too much.Lived too much.Heard the stories no one else wanted to hear.
And still, they want you to second-guess yourself.
They say:“Don [...]
When Girls’ Boundaries Are Rebranded as “Hate” (featuring Boundary Setting video from Dr. Tracey Marks)
updated from November 5, 2022
"You know good and well that a boundary never did a damn thing to you.
But a male has every potential to AND be excus [...]
If You Don’t Name It, You Can’t Protect It
*Note: This horrifying and tragic Dominican Republic story came to my attention because of white adult human females who identify as feminists. From t [...]
I uncovered the DARK TRUTH about my grandparents… | The Moth
Growing up, Angela loved spending time with her grandfather who became a widower at a young age. But when he passes, Angela learns the truth about her [...]
Her Name Was Nicole Beverly
And she should still be here, holding her son.
Nicole Beverly was a Black mother of four living in Detroit. She was soft-spoken, nurturing, and trust [...]
This Moment Is Teaching Us
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
A young Black woman—famous, talented, in the public eye—is harmed in plain view.She finds the courage to come forward. To say: I [...]
Facing Reality: Identity Does Not Erase Patterns of Male Violence
updated from March 11 2025
We can respect individuals while remaining honest about patterns. Those two things are not enemies.
We cannot fix what we [...]
According to Homicide Data, the Most Dangerous State in the US for Black Women is…..
MissouriCelia: How an Enslaved Girl Continues to Inform Black Women's Work to End Violence Against Women | WE Survive AbuseYour Ignorance Around Black [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torches were males of all 'identities'. Who ev [...]
Who Will Find Missing Women and Girls?
updated from September 25, 2023
For over thirty years I have been dedicated to working to end violence against women and girls.
Along the way, I wor [...]
The Crucial Role of Responsible Media Reporting on Violence Against Women
Violence against women is an endemic issue that plagues societies worldwide, perpetuating gender inequalities and undermining women's rights. Whi [...]
When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silenceLet’s tell the truth—because lives depend on it.I’ve work [...]
African Women Will Not Be Silenced: How the Continent is Rising Against Gender-Based Violence
"If the lion does not tell her story, the hunter will." — African ProverbAcross Africa, women are rising—not just in protest, but [...]
Black Women: Unshakable, Unstoppable, Undeniable
When people build entire campaigns against you, they recognize your power even if YOU do not.
Black womanhood has never been up for debate. It has ne [...]
Stop the Ahistorical Comparison: Jim Crow Was Violent, Girls’ Sports Does Not Have To Be
updated from March 28, 2025
This is so cruel.
There’s a new talking point going around:That not allowing boys to compete against girls in sp [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before:"You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreacting.""You need more therapy.""You’re dam [...]
She Didn’t Stay Because She Didn’t Know. She Stayed Because She Did.
People assume she stayed because she didn’t know.
Didn’t know her worth.Didn’t know what he was doing to her.Didn’t know what love is supposed to l [...]
13 Alarming Global Signs Life is Getting More Dangerous for Women and Girls (Audio/Podcast)
For generations, women fought to move the line forward: toward safety, freedom, education, economic independence, bodily autonomy, and the right to mo [...]
Rosa Parks: A Stealth Strategist Against Deceit, Manipulation, and Violence
updated from January 6, 2025 with new links and information
Let's be honest, the word "gaslighting" gets thrown around a lot these days. But for thos [...]
12 Reasons Black Women Have Always Needed Womanism and Feminism
It is so concerning that people who live within community with Black women don't really see or hear us beyond their need for us.
There is a dange [...]
10 Facts about Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & Girls
10 Facts About MMIWG by Tonya GJ Prince
Exploring the Dark Side of Festivals: Uncovering the Reali [...]
They Got So Much Things To Say Right Now (But here’s what Survivors actually need to hear.)
When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say.“She should’ve left.”“Why didn’t she tell anyone?”“What did [...]
The End of Tolerating Anti-Female B.S.
In order to end prejudice against people born female, we have to call it out using clear and precise language:
Male Violence
  [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
“It is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those who have endured ordinary injustice.”
My pain does not require cross-examination [...]
The Cage Looks Different, But It’s Still a Cage
Some men enforce gender roles by pushing women into cages:
Be obedient. Be soft. Be nurturing. Be silent.Other men wear those same gender roles l [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
“Why Do We Treat Male ‘Change’ Like a Sacred Revelation Instead of a Responsibility?”
A man "changes".Why do we women receive this as our "marching orders"?Do men do this? NO. They treat our changes and transformations as our pe [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because first, women have to fight for our safe [...]
Imagine How Women Escaping Domestic Violence Feel
Mom, 34, Allegedly Killed by the Father of Her Children During a Custody Swap After the Kids' Christmas Visit
When my home state got a new govern [...]
Do Not Throw “Studies” in Our Face
Women know this story all too well:
We raise alarms. We say, this is unsafe, this will hurt us, this will hurt our children. And what do we hear back [...]
🛑 12 Reasons “She Should’ve Known Better” Does Nothing to Keep Women Safe
We’ve heard it too many times:“She made a bad choice.”“She knew he was violent.”“We warned her.”“Why can’t I say that out loud?”[...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
updated from June 3 2025
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for expressin [...]
10 Reasons to Be Outraged about Harvey Marcelin: How the System Protected a Killer Instead of Women
When a man kills three women over his lifetime, the system did not just fail once. It failed over and over. It was designed this way. Not all [...]
💜 20 Ways to Support Celebrity Women Who Protect Themselves from Abuse
Before we cheer for progress, we must reckon with our past.Tina Turner was not just a legend—she was a Survivor.And yet, when she told the truth abo [...]
And Why Don’t Black Women Call the Police? (Graphic video posted by Ben Crump)
“The Constitution they wrote was designed to protect the rights of white, male citizens. As there were no black Founding Fathers, there were no foun [...]
Erin Justice: The Worst That Could Happen
updated from May 31, 2023
Women and girls do not always survive rape.
Erin Justice was a teen being jointl [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.”You “would’ve left sooner.”You “would never let that happen to you.”
But here’s [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once:“The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.”Her friend asked, “How could you know? Maybe he was just upset.”
[...]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Expanding the Conversation to Cohabitation Spaces
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed [...]
Why Women Protect Single-Sex Spaces—Even from “Nice Guys”
Women aren’t being mean. We’re being wise.
We’ve learned—through generations of harm—that safe spaces must be protected. Not just in theory. But in [...]
7 Devastating Truths About the Atrocities Facing Women and Girls in Sudan (and Why the World Must Not Look Away)
Women and girls in Sudan are facing unspeakable violence—sexual violence used as a weapon of war, mass displacement, and ethnic cleansing. These are n [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
Truth Heals: Why Forcing Survivors to Lie About Identity is Harmful
Survivors Deserve to Speak the Truth
Survivors of abuse, assault, and violence have long been silenced—by shame, by fear, by systems that prioritiz [...]
10 Truths About Grooming: What It Is and What It Is Not
updated from March 2, 2025
Grooming is a word we hear often, yet misunderstanding still surrounds it.
That confusion can lead to silence.It can feed [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
Male Violence Against Women: Males with Disabilities #RIP Yazmen Williams
We will never end male violence against women if we continue to give cover to males the general population decides should get a pass based on sp [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry.People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update.Hi [...]
Surviving Abuse Daily: Every Month is Male Discomfort Awareness Month
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🏛️ What Rural Women Need from Policymakers
My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rural areas.
Rural women experiencing dom [...]
Injustice Trauma: When the Violence Isn’t the Only Wound
There is a kind of pain that cuts deeper than bruises.A wound that doesn't show up on x-rays or medical reports.It's called injustice trauma—and it ch [...]
10 Women Who Paid With Their Lives While Fighting for Women’s Freedom
We were taught what women won. We weren't always taught what women paid.We should talk more about the women who died fighting for women’s civil ri [...]
Qasim Rashid, Esq: Women Are Not Safe Around Men
Before we talk about solutions, we have to be honest about the danger.Women and girls are not imagining this. We are not b [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
She Knows What He’s Capable Of—Do You?
Why doesn't she leave?
Because domestic abuse is not a disagreement. It’s a terror campaign.
Because domestic abuse isn’t a disagreement.It’s a ca [...]
“She Wasn’t Told He Killed Before: The Tragic Workplace Murder of Kerri Harris and the Warning Signs We Can’t Ignore”
Women are significantly more likely to be victims of stalking.
Approximately 1 in 3 women have experienced stalking at some point in thei [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
When Male Pain Is Exploited, Women and Children Pay the Price
A woman named Poinsettia Grant-Parks was preparing to move in with her sister—just two days away from escaping a stalker and abusive ex-boyfriend. Sh [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
Leadership Failure: How Leaders Are Failing Women Who Ask for Safety
When Women Say, “I Don’t Feel Safe”
That’s not a threat.It’s an invitation to build something better.
But when leaders double down on silencing in [...]
Why Women Say ‘Text Me When You Get Home’: The Everyday Safety Steps Men Rarely Think About (video)
Our continued thoughts and condolences to the family and loved ones of Nia Wilson. May she rest in peace and power.
When women say “Text me when you [...]
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For Women and Children, Indefinitely Going Along to Get Along is One of the Most Dangerous Strategies in the World
Many of us have had to "go along to get along" for a little while,but pushing for it indefinitely and just "hoping for safety"is d [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males, Violence, & Abuse: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
updated from March 21 2022 Th [...]
Where “Bidirectional Abuse” Comes From and Why It Can Mislead People About Black Women
I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting "bidirectional violence" on dead women that they [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
🕯️ Sandy’s Law: The Price She Paid, The Road She Built
There are women today who believe that feminism is no longer needed.But sometimes the only reason it feels unnecessary is because you are [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
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