I Wish You No Harm—But This Doesn’t Work for Me: The Truth About Women’s Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a "good person" she must sacrifice her safety for men [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say: “I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She should’ve known better.” But this isn’t the moment to center your predictions—It’ [...]
Lifting As We Climb: The Radical Blueprint of the Black Women’s Club Movement
When Black women were excluded, they built their own.
They didn’t wait for permission. They didn’t wait for safety to be handed to them.They create [...]
Why Body Safety for Black Women Must Include Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Reproductive Justice: Honoring Adriana Smith
When we talk about Adriana Smith, especially online, we must remember: people around the world are entering this conversation from vastly different [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
The Crucial Role of Responsible Media Reporting on Violence Against Women
Violence against women is an endemic issue that plagues societies worldwide, perpetuating gender inequalities and undermining women's rights. Whi [...]
Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Expanding the Conversation to Cohabitation Spaces
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
Released From Jail But Still a Danger to Women and Girls
@carloswins #torreymoore #maryland #foryou #fyp ♬ original sound - Carlos
Reminder: Males who are released from prison may still pose a danger [...]
When It’s Not Pride: 11 Ways Violence Against Black Women Hides Behind “Black Pride”
We lift up Black pride as sacred—a celebration of survival, brilliance, resilience, and the sacredness of our people. But pride without protection? [...]
You Do Not Have to Apologize for Knowing What Danger Looks Like
You’ve seen too much.Lived too much.Heard the stories no one else wanted to hear.
And still, they want you to second-guess yourself.
They say:“Don [...]
🛑 We don’t negotiate safety
⚖️ Some Things Are Black and White
Yes means safety.No means protection.
Clear, certain, unapologetic boundaries are not cruelty.They are care—espec [...]
Gynophobia: The Fear That Shapes Our Stories and Our Lives
In a world full of contradictions, there is one fear that rarely gets named, but is woven into the seams of our cultures, systems, and stories: gyno [...]
International Holocaust Remembrance Day: Violence Against Women in the Holocaust
I'm not always certain what the "right thing" to say on important days like these.
Painful days. Excruciatingly painful days that ripple [...]
Why Women Say ‘Text Me When You Get Home’: The Everyday Safety Steps Men Rarely Think About (video)
Our continued thoughts and condolences to the family and loved ones of Nia Wilson. May she rest in peace and power.
When women say “Text me when you [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says: “Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
Black women in London facing ‘crisis’ as higher femicide rates revealed
The figures have been obtained by the PA news agency from the Metropolitan Police in a Freedom of Information request. T [...]
Parents of Woman Murdered in Domestic Violence Ambush Involving NYC Cop Speak Out
Nearly everywhere refers to this tragedy as a woman "killed in a love triangle." As others in the comment section of this video also noted, this wa [...]
Grief That Echoes: Honoring the Women Amiri Baraka Lost to Violence
There are wounds that don’t stop bleeding just because the headlines fade.There are names that deserve to be spoken with reverence—not only in trage [...]
💜 20 Ways to Support Celebrity Women Who Protect Themselves from Abuse
Before we cheer for progress, we must reckon with our past.Tina Turner was not just a legend—she was a Survivor.And yet, when she told the truth abo [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
She Lied to Herself First: How Women Protect Harmful Men—And Turn on Other Women
There’s a quiet lie that echoes through many women’s lives.A lie whispered in silence. Repeated in prayer. Spoken with eyes closed tight.
It goes s [...]
Highlighting Stories Calling for An End to Violence Against Women and Children in 2023 Part 1
There has been debate around Black victims of domestic and sexual violence withdrawing support from writers and creators who choose to ridicule, [...]
Our Mental Health Crisis is a Values Crisis
We have made a choice.
Not quietly.Not accidentally.Not without consequence.
We have chosen to be a nation that does not guarantee authentic and tru [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same pattern: minimization, denial, and reve [...]
Silenced Prey: Unsolved murders of Black women in Chicago leave puzzling pattern
https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/betrayal-blindness-the-cost-of-ignoring-harm/ https://wesurviveabuse.com/2025/03/lets-not-confuse-two-differ [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry. People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update. Hi [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males: C. Delores Tucker
How We Villainize Black Women Who Disagree with Males C Delores Tucker
When history talks about hip hop, C. Delores Tucker’s name oft [...]
12 Things Men Say “I’m Not Worried About” — While Treating Women’s Concerns as Silly
Men love to say it with a shrug, a smirk, sometimes even a laugh: “I’m not worried about that.”
The arrogance in that statement is thick enough to [...]
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Failure to Listen to Women Is the Red Flag
We talk a lot about red flags.But let’s be honest.Refusing to listen to women? That’s the first red flag.
It doesn’t always come with shouting or sla [...]
Male Access Supremacy: When Entitlement Disguises Itself as Equality
There is a belief too many refuse to name—because to name it would reveal the lie.
It is the belief that: “No space should ever be off-limits to [...]
Respect Is Supposed to Be Mutual—But Women Know Better
Respect is supposed to be mutual.But you wouldn’t know that if you listened to today’s men speak.
Somehow, women are expected to earn it, perform for [...]
🛑 Start Noticing: Saying No Is Not Hate
You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Wal [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Protect their reputation.Look the other wa [...]
Truth Over Tropes in True Crime Storytelling
Let me say this plainly, first and always:
What Noel Stevens did was horrific.Shauna Tiaffay is the victim.Her children are victims.Nothing about thi [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
Police in Milwaukee No Longer Report the Biological Sex of Crime Victims
Heads up Wisconsin!Well, here is one way to end violence against women and girls.... I guess. Just make it vanish. Erase it.But doesn't the public hav [...]
You Don’t Find Your People By What They Post—You Find Them By What They Protect
"I don’t want to hear you say, 'Honey, I’m behind you.' Well, move, I don’t want you back there because you could be 200 miles behind. I want you to [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
Pornography Didn’t Start the Fire: A Clear Look at History, Power, and Violence
With war, comes murder and rape
Pornography is often blamed as the reason violence—especially violence against women—has escalated.
That sounds clea [...]
10 Truths About Grooming: What It Is and What It Is Not
updated from March 2, 2025
Grooming is a word we hear often, yet misunderstanding still surrounds it.
That confusion can lead to silence.It can feed [...]
✊🏾 Since When Did a Man Saying He’s Changed Become a Gospel Truth?
She called me because I was serving as her victim advocate: His family is mad at me and now I'm so confused. "He is trying to change but sometim [...]
The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and patriarchy—are built into society, shaping the [...]
According to Homicide Data, the Most Dangerous State in the US for Black Women is…..
MissouriCelia: How an Enslaved Girl Continues to Inform Black Women's Work to End Violence Against Women | WE Survive AbuseYour Ignorance Around Black [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They call it justice.But only when women are asked to surrender boundaries.
They call [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, “Now’s not the time.”They say, “It’s not that serious.”They say, “Be the bigger person.”They say, “Other people have it worse.”
And just li [...]
Motherhood in the Shadow of Violence
Motherhood has often been romanticized in myths and sentiment, yet the brutal reality remains: for many women, pregnancy and early motherhood are hig [...]
A Historic Look at Female Bodies Under Attack by the Medical Community
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Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
In the era of Jim Crow, Black women were denied full personhood. Their bodies were brutalized.
Their cr [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
She Knows What He’s Capable Of—Do You?
Why doesn't she leave?
Because domestic abuse is not a disagreement. It’s a terror campaign.
Because domestic abuse isn’t a disagreement.It’s a ca [...]
Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, when women say “no”—especially in conversations about safety, space, and [...]
Politicians Must Stop Dismissing Us: Women’s Safety is Non-Negotiable
Political leaders must prioritize the rights women need in our own right—not just the ones tied to men.
Yes, women must have the right to make ou [...]
Changing Restrooms, Changing Questions: What You Should Know
How come they can build these things that bring men in closer proximity to women and children but not more homes for the unhoused, affordable homes [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
HE Chose Violence
Blaming women is the usual default setting but if a man is violent, let’s put the blame where it belongs.
Because too many conversations around abus [...]
📍 Across Borders, Beneath Systems: The Global Face of Sex-Based Oppression
Sex-based oppression is not confined to a single culture, continent, or community. It is a global reality—a multi-layered system of inequality roote [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in denial, [...]
✊🏾 Women Deserve Safety Without Apology
It is not hateful to name a reality:The same laws that allow trans-identified males to enter women’s spaces also open the door for any man—including [...]
Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal. It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to complacency around violence and abuse. C [...]
Don’t Ignore the History and Connection of Accountability Evasion in Violence, Abuse, and Racism (w/ podcast episode)
So we have reached the place where the n-word is actually Black American people's fault. And that is part of the cycle of harm. Evading accountability [...]
Whispered Civil Rights Movement Secrets: Fannie Lou Hamer the Truth Teller
There are people—loud and determined—who would have you believe that the systemic rape of women of color ended with slavery.That is a lie. A har [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before: "You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreacting.""You need more therapy.""You’re dam [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately. When a crisis emerges somewhere in the wor [...]
9 Reasons Why Making Laws Around Beliefs That Serve a Few While Harming Most is Dangerous
Laws are meant to serve and protect everyone, not just a chosen few. But time and time again, history shows us what happens when laws are built arou [...]
🧬 Hope’s Name Was No Coincidence: How One Woman’s Tragic Murder Changed Forensic History
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Her name was Hope Denise Hall.And in life, she embodied it.In death, she redefined it. 🎙️ Who Was Hope?
Hope was a 22-year [...]
Leaving Isn’t Just Courage. It’s Conditions.
They tell women:
“If it was bad enough, you would have left.” That sounds like truth. You don't have to be fooled, though. It isn’t. Leaving is [...]
When DEI Disappears, So Do the Safeguards for Victims and Survivors
The Tech Transparency Project reports that Google removed 58 nonprofit organizations from a public list of those receiving “most substantial contribut [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torches were males of all 'identities'. Who ev [...]