🧬 Hope’s Name Was No Coincidence: How One Woman’s Tragic Murder Changed Forensic History
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Her name was Hope Denise Hall.And in life, she embodied it.In death, she redefined it. 🎙️ Who Was Hope?
Hope was a 22-year [...]
You Don’t Find Your People By What They Post—You Find Them By What They Protect
"I don’t want to hear you say, 'Honey, I’m behind you.' Well, move, I don’t want you back there because you could be 200 miles behind. I want you to [...]
Risk Doesn’t Rise by Accident—What Happens When Care is Uneven for Black Women
Risk for harm grows where care is uneven. And for Black women, care has never been evenly given. Healthcare didn’t listen. Domestic violence se [...]
🧨 Selective Empathy: Who Gets Compassion—and Who Gets Condemned
⚖️ "But His Parents Divorced..."
As an advocate for victims of violence, abuse, and rape; I’ve sat in enough courtrooms to know this:When a white def [...]
When Love Becomes a Warning: The Forgotten Conversation About Parricide and Estrangement
There’s a growing trend across online spaces where people—especially younger adults—discuss estrangement from parents as if it’s a simple math equatio [...]
10 Ways Violence Against Black People Is Dehumanized, Dismissed, and Minimized
“It is a peculiar cruelty to demand extraordinary proof from
those who have endured ordinary injustice.”
My pain does not require cross-examination [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were told to keep going.To be strong.To not make a scene.To forgive.To forget.To move on [...]
International Holocaust Remembrance Day: Violence Against Women in the Holocaust
I'm not always certain what the "right thing" to say on important days like these.
Painful days. Excruciatingly painful days that ripple [...]
⚖️ The Fight for Protection: What You Should Know About U.S. FGM Laws
In the United States, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is illegal under federal law.But it took decades of struggle, advocacy, and survivor voices to g [...]
Lessons from the Murder of Tonie Nicole: The Family Shares
I came across and compiled this years ago. I was struck by how the family members brought her to life for us....shared her with us. It saddens me that [...]
Leadership Failure: How Leaders Are Failing Women Who Ask for Safety
When Women Say, “I Don’t Feel Safe”
That’s not a threat.It’s an invitation to build something better.
But when leaders double down on silencing in [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
She Knows What He’s Capable Of—Do You?
Why doesn't she leave?
Because domestic abuse is not a disagreement. It’s a terror campaign.
Because domestic abuse isn’t a disagreement.It’s a ca [...]
The “Helper” Mandate is Hurting Us
It whispers to Black people—especially Black women —that we are here to help.To soothe.To teach.To forgive.To make the world softer for others, even w [...]
🪞When Her Mirror Is a Mask: The Women Who Reflect Us—But Don’t Stand With Us
Not every woman who looks like she’s with you is for you.
Some women mirror your words, your struggles, your fire for truth—but deep down, they are w [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
Violence Against Women Always Looks for an Inside Woman
Like most acts of violence against women,invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.It counts on betrayal.It counts on a hand extend [...]
Costumes of Control: How Some Male Murderers Used Disguise to Harm Women
Throughout history, some of the most dangerous predators have worn masks—not just metaphorical ones, but literal disguises used to deceive, confuse, [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same pattern: minimization, denial, and reve [...]
🚨 Pregnancy Shouldn’t Be a Death Sentence
Let’s tell the truth—pregnancy should never be a death sentence.
But in the United States, the leading cause of death for pregnant and postpartum w [...]
Why Body Safety for Black Women Must Include Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Reproductive Justice: Honoring Adriana Smith
When we talk about Adriana Smith, especially online, we must remember: people around the world are entering this conversation from vastly different [...]
The Crucial Role of Responsible Media Reporting on Violence Against Women
Violence against women is an endemic issue that plagues societies worldwide, perpetuating gender inequalities and undermining women's rights. Whi [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
Why “I Don’t Care About Potential Harm-Doers” Sounds Empowering But Isn’t
We get it.You’re tired of tiptoeing.You’re tired of warning signs, red flags, and feeling like you have to carry the burden of watching your back all [...]
Truth Over Tropes in True Crime Storytelling
Let me say this plainly, first and always:
What Noel Stevens did was horrific.Shauna Tiaffay is the victim.Her children are victims.Nothing about thi [...]
What “Just Say No” Taught Us About False Solutions
There was a time when America believed a slogan could solve a crisis.
The Just Say No campaign told people:
Just say no to drugs.
Simple. Clear. Re [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says: “Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
Changing Restrooms, Changing Questions: What You Should Know
How come they can build these things that bring men in closer proximity to women and children but not more homes for the unhoused, affordable homes [...]
HE Chose Violence
Blaming women is the usual default setting but if a man is violent, let’s put the blame where it belongs.
Because too many conversations around abus [...]
The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and patriarchy—are built into society, shaping the [...]
Released From Jail But Still a Danger to Women and Girls
@carloswins #torreymoore #maryland #foryou #fyp ♬ original sound - Carlos
Reminder: Males who are released from prison may still pose a danger [...]
You Do Not Have to Apologize for Knowing What Danger Looks Like
You’ve seen too much.Lived too much.Heard the stories no one else wanted to hear.
And still, they want you to second-guess yourself.
They say:“Don [...]
I Wish You No Harm—But This Doesn’t Work for Me: The Truth About Women’s Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a "good person" she must sacrifice her safety for men [...]
The End of Tolerating Anti-Female B.S.
In order to end prejudice against people born female, we have to call it out using clear and precise language: Male Violence Male violence agai [...]
The Cage Looks Different, But It’s Still a Cage
Some men enforce gender roles by pushing women into cages:
Be obedient. Be soft. Be nurturing. Be silent. Other men wear those same gender roles l [...]
Injustice Trauma: When the Violence Isn’t the Only Wound
There is a kind of pain that cuts deeper than bruises.A wound that doesn't show up on x-rays or medical reports.It's called injustice trauma—and it ch [...]
✊🏾 Women Deserve Safety Without Apology
It is not hateful to name a reality:The same laws that allow trans-identified males to enter women’s spaces also open the door for any man—including [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, abusive males more rights and protections—Then you need to say that.And sound l [...]
When They Don’t See You as a Person, They Don’t Protect You as One
The objectification of Black people doesn’t stay on screen.It follows us into courtrooms, hospitals, shelters, and survivor services—places where safe [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Different cultures.Different religions.Some in suits, some in uniforms, some behind pulp [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common things we hear is: “I told her.”“I war [...]
From Koketia King to Lisa Marie Riley: The Danger Didn’t End. It Just Changed Addresses.
In 2010, Florida boxer Yathomas Riley was arrested after his then-girlfriend, Koketia King, was shot in the head inside his Miami apartment.Riley clai [...]
10 Truths About Grooming: What It Is and What It Is Not
updated from March 2, 2025
Grooming is a word we hear often, yet misunderstanding still surrounds it.
That confusion can lead to silence.It can feed [...]
I Hit Him Back. The Survey Called It “Mutual Abuse.” Here’s Why That Logic Destroyed Me.
If you are a Black person, you know what it is like when the "both sides" playbook is used against you. You know what it is like to be pushed to be si [...]
Grief That Echoes: Honoring the Women Amiri Baraka Lost to Violence
There are wounds that don’t stop bleeding just because the headlines fade.There are names that deserve to be spoken with reverence—not only in trage [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
Kenyan Women Refuse to Be Silenced: The Fight for Safety, Dignity, and Justice
There is a roaring fire rising across Kenya—lit by the courage of women who are tired of living in silence, tired of grieving alone, and tired of sy [...]
The Numbers Do Not Lie, So Stop Asking Women to Accept Less Safety (UPDATE)
Organizations around the world have been distracted. Consumed with chastising women and pushing us to "be kind". Silencing us. De-platforming [...]
Male Access Supremacy: When Entitlement Disguises Itself as Equality
There is a belief too many refuse to name—because to name it would reveal the lie.
It is the belief that: “No space should ever be off-limits to [...]
Black Domestic Violence Victims Deserve Compassion. Not Cruelty Dressed as “Accountability.”
Let’s tell the truth:
Black women are often the last to be believed,the last to be protected,and the first to be blamed.
When we speak about the vio [...]
Highlighting Stories Calling for An End to Violence Against Women and Children in 2023 Part 1
There has been debate around Black victims of domestic and sexual violence withdrawing support from writers and creators who choose to ridicule, [...]
💔 When Sisterhood Is a Silencer: Spotting the Wounds Behind the Smile
Some women walk with us in sisterhood—but not in solidarity.
They speak our language. Quote the affirmations. Light the candles. Clap at the empowerm [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all women.We were told that when women rise, we all rise.But too many of us are still in [...]
When Women’s Murders Are Hijacked: How Race, Politics, and Silence Derail the Fight Against Male Violence
Too often, when a woman is murdered, the conversation shifts quickly away from her life, her safety, and the systemic failures that left her vulnera [...]
Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, when women say “no”—especially in conversations about safety, space, and [...]
We Are Tired, Not Silent: Honoring the Lives, Holding the Line, and Learning to Carry This Together
Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the day before that. This work—this witnessing, this advocating, this holding t [...]
In California, Will a Male Mass Shooter Serve His Life Sentence in a Male or Women’s Prison? (upated)
This family is never going to leave my soul I see. I keep cleaning off my PC, but never their family picture. The one with Benny in a suit surrounded [...]
🛑 We don’t negotiate safety
⚖️ Some Things Are Black and White
Yes means safety.No means protection.
Clear, certain, unapologetic boundaries are not cruelty.They are care—espec [...]
Surviving Abuse Daily: Every Month is Male Discomfort Awareness Month
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The Distortion of Gender: How a Controversial Psychologist Reframed the Conversation
Only some people use their knowledge and intelligence for the betterment of humanity.
Some people use their knowledge and intelligence to destroy it [...]
12 Reasons Black Women Have Always Needed Womanism and Feminism
It is so concerning that people who live within community with Black women don't really see or hear us beyond their need for us.
There is a dange [...]
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Supporting Women: Tweeted Thoughts Post Bette Midler and Macy Gray Statements on Women’s Rights…. (updated)
I wrote this one ordinary day when men and women from all sides of the political aisle called for the death of Bette Midler and Macy Gray simply becau [...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for expressing concerns about our safet [...]
Politicians Must Stop Dismissing Us: Women’s Safety is Non-Negotiable
Political leaders must prioritize the rights women need in our own right—not just the ones tied to men.
Yes, women must have the right to make ou [...]
When Black Women Speak About Violence, Too Many People Attack the Voice Instead of the Harm
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsk8VmR4KCA There is something very familiar happening around Is God Is. (The Color Purple? Eve's Bayou? Is [...]
You Didn’t Know Him. She Did. He Killed Her.
He killed her. Murdered her. Left the broken pieces for their children to pick up for the rest of their lives.
And people still asked about his menta [...]
When the System Calls It a Catfight: The Silencing of Black Lesbian Survivors
A Survivor-centered truth from an advocate who has witnessed too much silence Let’s tell the truth—because lives depend on it. I’ve work [...]
Pornography Didn’t Start the Fire: A Clear Look at History, Power, and Violence
With war, comes murder and rape
Pornography is often blamed as the reason violence—especially violence against women—has escalated.
That sounds clea [...]
More Safe Spaces for Women Now: Even in the US, Women Are Dying in a System That Limits Their Escape
There are moments that should stop us. Not just emotionally, but structurally. As we reflect on the loss of women and children, the question is n [...]
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
In the era of Jim Crow, Black women were denied full personhood. Their bodies were brutalized.
Their cr [...]
When Violence Enters the Home, Children Bleed Too—Even Without a Bruise.
Let’s stop pretending.
Let’s stop pretending that domestic violence is something that only happens “between the adults.”
Let’s stop pretending tha [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because first, women have to fight for our safe [...]