Black Women Do Not Ever Have to Sacrifice Safety to Prove Solidarity
And do not use Black people’s current struggle as a cloak for taking from women. Black women know both histories too well to be fooled by th [...]
Children Deserve Truth—And They Deserve Protection Too
In the wake of the Supreme Court decision regarding parental rights and LGBTQ+ curriculum opt-outs, many of us find ourselves sitting with complex emo [...]
Even In Social Justice Movements, Black Pain for White Gain
Letter from Birmingham Jail By Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr., 16 April 1963"First, I must confess that over the last few years I
have been gravely [...]
Some of Us Can’t Pretend Institutions Are Harmless
It’s a strange kind of exhaustion—working beside women who understand abuse in private relationships, yet act confused when the same dyn [...]
Reclaiming Anna Julia Cooper: Why Black Women’s Liberation Is Not a Call to Self-Sacrifice
1. The Distortion of Cooper’s Vision
Some have taken Cooper’s line to mean that Black women must always be the “gateway,” carrying everyone else on [...]
Why Black Women Must Define Misogyny for Ourselves: Because Being a Black Woman Is Different
Let’s imagine this.
All the girls in the world are sitting around a big table.They’re laughing, learning, growing—but they’re also talking about the [...]
Creating Healing Spaces for Black Girls: A Life-Affirming Necessity
There’s a quiet magic in Black girls. But all too often, that magic is forced to grow in hostile soil, surrounded by harsh winds and cold s [...]
When the Help Hurts: Understanding Institutional Betrayal
There is a special kind of pain that comes when the place you turned to for help becomes the source of another wound.That is institutional betrayal — [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common things we hear is: “I told her.”“I war [...]
Hello: 10 Issues Black Women Have Been Sounding the Alarm About for Decades
Across social media and public conversations, there is a pattern many Black women recognize immediately. When a crisis emerges somewhere in the wor [...]
What Really Protects Women: Moving Beyond Racial Myths and Toward Real Safety
For generations, women have been taught to fear the wrong things.We were warned about dark alleys, strangers, and the “unknown man” who might leap out [...]
When Women’s Values Are Tested: The Fight to Protect What’s Sacred
People who get confused about what is best for their own lives seem to spend an excessive amount of time telling women what is best for their lives. [...]
Coach, Therapist, Psychologist, or Doctor? A Compassionate Guide for Abuse Survivors Seeking the Right Support
My strength is sacred, but I do not have to carry everything alone.
I release the belief that asking for help makes me weak. Support is not failur [...]
🚧 9 Signs You’re Dealing with a Stonewaller
And Why That’s Not Your Fault[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Stonewalling is one of the most soul-draining tactics used in abusive relationships. It’s when so [...]
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Even in Crisis Women Are Planners!
Fun Facts:Did you know? Starfish have the remarkable ability to regenerate entire limbs if they are damaged or lost. They can regenerate a [...]
🕯️ The Truth About “Victimhood” as an Insult
There is a lot going on in the world. But crimes against women—especially stalking, coercive control, and violence—don’t take time off. They don’t pau [...]
FALSE! FAKE! FRAUD!: Some of Us Have Seen This Before
I'm learning that many of us who lived through the 1970's, 1980's, & 1990s psychiatric and abuse scandals see many of today's social issues [...]
Why Do Men Kill Women?
“When the truth is too loud to ignore, the world calls it discomfort. We call it survival.”
Why do men kill women?
Too often, it’s not because o [...]
23 Common Excuses Used to Downplay Safety Risks for Women
IF we truly want to end violence against women, scapegoating women for male violence must end. You cannot scapegoat women for male violence on one da [...]
Survivor Affirmations: My Health Story Matters and My Voice is Unafraid (video short)
Survivor Affirmations: I Have a Disability and Reclaim My Voice (video short) | WE Survive Abuse [...]
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
Jim Crow and the Erasure of Black Womanhood
In the era of Jim Crow, Black women were denied full personhood. Their bodies were brutalized.
Their cr [...]
Weaponizing Fear: How the ‘Die Alone’ Myth Is Used to Control Women
“Fear is the tool of the tyrant and the weapon of the weak.”
— African Proverb Fear as a Tool of Control
Throughout history, fe [...]
Maybe They Never Hit You… But Maybe They Do This.
Some of us were taught to only watch for bruises.
But there are people who will never lift a hand—and still tear your spirit down piece by piece.
[...]
Women Deserve Privacy, Safety, and Respect—Especially in Campus Athletics
Across campuses, colleges have a duty: to protect all students.
That includes the right to privacy, safety, and dignity—especially for young women [...]
Shame Has Never Been a Substitute for Justice
I deeply despise stories that depict women finding their way through to the other side of sex work or a season of promiscuity as being synonym [...]
🧩 The Price of Silence: Black Women, Coercive Control, and the Hidden Costs of “Unity”
There is a kind of violence that doesn’t leave bruises.A kind that hides behind charm, culture, tradition, “community.”A kind that preys on the idea t [...]
In Memory of Charisse Shumate: I Am Not Going to Stop Fighting Until My Last Breath is Out of Me.
I have long asserted that the concept of "self-defense" is a set-aside privilege for some people. Abused women are not in that group. Women with disa [...]
A Slap to the Ear Is Not “Just a Slap”: What Survivors Need to Know About Ear Injuries, Concussion Symptoms, and Strangulation
Some injuries announce themselves with bruises. Others move in quietly, sit behind the ear, ring through the night, [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
The Power of Unapologetic Truth: Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston (audio/podcast)
In this episode of We Survive Abuse, we explore how women like Fannie Lou Hamer and Zora Neale Hurston resisted the systemic micromanagement of [...]
You Call It Staying. She Calls It Surviving.
You look at her and ask, “Why did she stay?”
But you don’t know the whole story.
You saw a snapshot.She’s been living the full movie.
To you, it [...]