The Dangerous Myth: Why Unkind Men Are Not Protectors of Women
Hollywood movies and the biased media have taught us well. Too well.
One of the most dangerous myths we carry is the belief that men who are unkind, [...]
Survivors, Ask the Questions. And Keep Asking. It’s Sacred Work.
If you’re a Survivor, you’ve probably heard it all before:"You’re just being paranoid.""You’re overreacting.""You need more therapy.""You’re dam [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who we’ [...]
Affirmation: I Am My Own Unique Self-Special, Creative, and Wonderful
updated for 2025
✨ Affirmation: I Am My Own Unique Self
I am my own unique self—special, creative, and wonderful.No one in the entire universe i [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”
updated from August 7 2025
Remember now, plenty of wives and children around the world are very nice to men who think nothing of harming them in an i [...]
How Some Teachers Are on the Frontlines of Fighting Child Sexual Abuse
Did you know that some victims of child sexual abuse prefer to confide in teachers rather than parents? Even those from "good" loving homes? No one [...]
The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty.It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies [...]
The Right to Say “NO” is Mine: Youth Edition (video)
Same Game, Different Day: Violating Women's and Children's Rights | WE Survive AbuseIsn't It Refreshing When a Man "Gets It"? | WE Survive AbuseSurviv [...]
A Checklist for Anyone Claiming to Care About Women and Children’s Safety
No matter how you identify, if you continuously show up only to argue that women shouldn’t fight for our own health, opportunity, and safety, then the [...]
When “Sisterhood” is a Setup: The Weaponization of Love Bombing to Enforce Male Violence
Watching this got me thinking....... Because at her lowest, a woman who seemed kind. Who seemed to be kind. Led her into a path of prostitution. Then [...]
The Distortion of Gender: How a Controversial Psychologist Reframed the Conversation
Only some people use their knowledge and intelligence for the betterment of humanity.
Some people use their knowledge and intelligence to destroy it [...]
High Five from WESurvive: 3 Crucial Life Lessons from Survivor LaQuisha Hall
Survivors are my favorite people. Hands down, no contest. I love their war stories, their wisdom, their testimony. They inspire me. I [...]
Stop Debating Women Into Danger: Saying You Care Is Not the Same as Protecting Women
When men debate whether women deserve safety, they are not having a conversation.
They are auditioning for authority over women’s [...]
When Movements Mimic Religious Shunning: Why Silencing Dissent Won’t Build a Just World
Some of today’s loudest movements say they’re about justice, liberation, and community.
But too often, when someone disagrees—or simply asks a ques [...]
8 Phrases of Comfort Parents Can Communicate to Children to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse
So every night my mother would come to tuck me in at night. Every night without fail. And every night without fail, this would happen [...]
12 Burdens Growing Up In Dysfunctional Families Teaches You to Accept-and Why We Must Reject Them
In dysfunctional families and abusive relationships, women are often asked—no, expected—to tolerate things that should never be tolerated. These are [...]
Gaslighting Isn’t Love: Red Flags Black Women Can Choose to Name Out Loud — and Walk Away From
updated from April 7, 2023
Sometimes they try to make you feel like you're “too emotional,” “too sensitive,” or “doing too much.” But the truth is: [...]
Strength for the Journey: Resilience Through the Wisdom of Dr. Clenora Hudson-Weems
Not every name that carries wisdom is known in every household. Some voices travel quietly, like rivers underground, shaping the landscape even if w [...]
Respect Without Surrender: When Rights Don’t Mean Access
The Foundation of True Respect
Respect is not ownership.And justice does not mean surrender.
We live in a world that often confuses access with equa [...]
This Is Why Victims Sue: It’s Not About Greed. It’s About Survival.
They say it’s a “cash grab.”They roll their eyes.They whisper behind hands.They ask: Why didn’t she just go to the police?
But we know better.
We’v [...]
6 FAQ by Parents & Caretakers about Child Sexual Abuse
Today, I would like to speak to the parents and caretakers of children. I realize that some of them might be a bit concerned. When someone [...]
On the Grounds That We Are Human: Why Women and Girls Need Single-Sex Spaces
You have chosen to lie
for a man you respect.
I have chosen to tell the truth
for all the women I've never met.
~Aja the Poet
updated fro [...]
Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangerous World (ebook) 2025 UPDATE
In a world where girls face unique dangers and challenges, Keeping Girls Safe in a Dangerous World is a guide for parents, caregivers, and [...]
Do Not Throw “Studies” in Our Face
Women know this story all too well:
We raise alarms. We say, this is unsafe, this will hurt us, this will hurt our children. And what do we hear back [...]
Men Have a Duty to Be Safe Around Women and Children
We need to say this more often, and we need to say it without apology: men have a duty to be safe around women and children.
Do not cross bou [...]
We Are Tired, Not Silent: Honoring the Lives, Holding the Line, and Learning to Carry This Together
Sometimes I feel weak and weary. Like today, and yesterday, and the day before that.This work—this witnessing, this advocating, this holding t [...]
When a Woman Is Talking About Risk Are We Busy Handing Out Character References?: 11 Signs
updated from April 21, 2026
Her Fear Is Not Yours to Edit
The women and children whom society listens to the least suffer the most intense, [...]
🕯️ “Are they truly on the side of children… or just pretending to be?”
Because in this world—especially now—some people wear the mask of concern, but their actions, silence, or alliances tell the real story.
Here’s how y [...]
“Why Are Women Still Cleaning Up the Violence Men Refuse to Name?”
🩸 Say It Plain.
The crimes that males commit?They’ve become unsayable on social media—but not uncommittable in real life.
Every day, som [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
How Women Can Support Gay Men In Their Lives in Abusive Relationships
Abuse doesn’t care about gender or sexuality. It happens in all kinds of relationships—straight, gay, lesbian, and everything in between. But when it [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the DoubtWe’ve heard it since childhood:“You’ve got [...]
Why We Test: The Hidden History of Fairness in Sports—and in Women’s Lives
Panic. You can always tell when men are being asked to do something that women have always been expected to do.Did you know? All female athletes a [...]
Even in Progressive Spaces, Systems Still Fail Survivors
In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things:
🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful systems.🟩 Center the most marginalized.🟩 Practic [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speaking.
To be honest. To open up. To tell your truth.
They asked you to join gro [...]
When Women Must Explain Their Boundaries, Society Has Already Failed Them.
updated from November 5, 2025
Do you see how not one male is explaining his right to boundaries, just women and girls? You see how rested they are? T [...]
How Some Well-Meaning Proclamations Contribute to a Culture of Abuse and Victim Blaming
Some proclamations are written or spoken to defend groups that people want to protect. Understandable. When you start talking over victims [...]
🧩 REARTICULATION: When the System Repackages Harm in New Clothes
WARNING TO THE LOVING, THE NURTURING, THE HEALERS:
The systems we fight do not always come with burning crosses or slurs. Sometimes, they show up a [...]
Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Can’t Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
Even When They Didn’t Hear Your “No,” You Still Deserve to Be Heard
Sometimes the harm didn’t stop when you said no.Sometimes the people who should have protected you didn’t pause, didn’t question, didn’t care.And beca [...]
9 Reasons Why Making Laws Around Beliefs That Serve a Few While Harming Most is Dangerous
Laws are meant to serve and protect everyone, not just a chosen few. But time and time again, history shows us what happens when laws are built arou [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]