Do Not Throw “Studies” in Our Face
Women know this story all too well:
We raise alarms. We say, this is unsafe, this will hurt us, this will hurt our children. And what do we hear back [...]
🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into women’s spaces. That silence is the policy.”
🌾 1. The Hidden RealityAcross gyms [...]
Did You Hear the Joke about Blue Ivy, Brown Girls & Sexual Abuse? ME NEITHER
updated from August 2015
People often assume that if you’re bold on the page, you must be loud in person.
But many of us who speak boldly in p [...]
💣 In Just One Second: 12 Ways People Tell You They’re Pro-Abuser
(And Maybe Capable of Abuse Themselves)
Sometimes it doesn’t take a full conversation.Sometimes it takes just one sentence, one smirk, one moment o [...]
Does Naming Ourselves Hurt Anyone? No. Erasing Us Does.
If the harm is sex-specific, the language has to be sex-specific.Especially for Black women.Especially in maternal health.
Black women have [...]
Manhood Won’t Shatter If We Tell the Truth
There are men who prey on men. Go ahead and get the gasp out of the way.
Because this seems to be a truth everybody sees but is afraid to say out lou [...]
🌿 The Truth About Hate Groups & Their Harm to Women and Children
I speak the truth, even when it shakes the room.
My refusal to accept harm is not hatred. It is sacred love.
We often think of hate groups as someth [...]
Gynophobia: The Fear That Shapes Our Stories and Our Lives
In a world full of contradictions, there is one fear that rarely gets named, but is woven into the seams of our cultures, systems, and stories: gyno [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re violent.
It doesn’t matter if he’s a c [...]
Shaming Survivors Is How You Build an Abuser’s Paradise
You want to know how abusers thrive in families, churches, and communities?It’s not just what he does.It’s what you do for him.
Every time you shame [...]
Women Have Every Right to Feel Safe Even If That Annoys You
Immediately following the height of #MeToo women and girls have been inundated with messages like "be kind".
If #MeToo got us talking and [...]
🛑 Summer Safety Alert: Predators Count on Your Distractions—Don’t Let Them
Yes, it’s summer again.
And while many of us are focused on camps, cookouts, rest, and routine changes—some people are focused on y [...]
Men Have a Duty to Be Safe Around Women and Children
We need to say this more often, and we need to say it without apology: men have a duty to be safe around women and children.
Do not cross bou [...]
“Why Can’t I Say She Made a Bad Choice?”
We hear it all the time.
“She knew he was violent.”“We warned her.”“She got mad at us for trying to help.”“Why can’t I say she made a bad choice?”
[...]
Lessons from Survivor Jenifer Lewis on Overcoming Shame (videos)
As incredibly talented as she is, Jenifer Lewis is also a teacher! She is a teacher to all who struggle with mental illness, racism, sexism, and ab [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If you've ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Moc [...]
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Maryland Middle School Students Weigh in on Curriculum
The voices of these children are only unheard if we choose not to listen. -Tonya GJ PrinceThe recent allegations are that these children and the [...]
To the Misguided, Misdirected, Mislead, and Misinformed, about Child Sexual Abuse
Back in 2016 this post was inspired when a very famous celebrity publicly blamed how young girls dress for males in schools being sexually tempt [...]
❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabulary—it’s about dignity, [...]
Hip Hop’s Double Standard Around Gun Violence
#Hiphop this week: Earlier this week the community was mourning the death of Takeoff & the gun violence that snatched him away. The videos & i [...]
Why Leaders Who Excuse Abuse Can’t Build Safety—They Recreate Harm
When someone dismisses violence, mocks Survivors, or excuses abuse, they’re not neutral.
They’re signaling the kind of safety they intend to build—on [...]
Implanting an Enemy Within Women and Girls
You were mocked for being smart then and now by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Will NOT Shrink Truth to Comfort Those Who Fear Boundaries
Boundaries are love not hate.
They are love in action — love for your peace, your time, your healing, and your future.Saying “no” is not crue [...]
New Read: The Handbook of Research on Trauma with Children, Working with High Poverty Schools and Communities
LINK@supreme.neck.protector #Trauma #Youth #MentalHealth #Neurodivergent #BAND #Read ♬ original sound - Supreme.Neck.ProtectorThe Handbo [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
Sometimes Survivors speak in whispers.Sometimes in long pauses, in shaking hands, in misplaced laughter.Sometimes… not at all.
But let me tell you so [...]
Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or “making [...]
How Climate Change is Making the Violence Against Women Epidemic Worse
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The Cost of Agreeability: How We Uphold the Barriers We Think We Are Fighting
I've served the women who responded to violence and were facing harsher punishment than any man would have for the same crime. No one was willing to h [...]
Caution and Prevention is a Necessity for Women
Women (and really, all people who want to stay safe) have always had to use discernment when encountering others. Questioning motives is not about bei [...]
When “Woman Is a Feeling” Becomes Another Way to Erase Us
When People Say “Woman Is a Feeling,” Something Important Disappears
We know that we were not born to give men feelings. We were made for so much mor [...]
How What We Don't Know About Suicide is Killing People
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides were reported, making suicide the [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says:“Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
It’s Not the Phrase. It’s the Harm.
Some folks are upset nowabout the phrase:“I don’t owe you.”
Around here, we are retiring the phrase.
But not because people do not like it,
but be [...]
Sexual Violence Against Black Males: No Video, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them
updated from original post on 12/15/2015So last night I Twitter watched one of my favorite shows. A true crime show. You c [...]
What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence
Updated 8 21 2025
original March 2016About sixteen years ago, I was sitting in service while Pastor Lance Watson preach [...]
Alley Greening: A Safety Solution Rooted in Justice
Because forgotten spaces shouldn’t become hunting grounds.
There’s a part of the city we don’t talk about enough.
Not the main roads. Not the bright [...]
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Centering Women and Girls, Again
They want us to stop centering women and girls. We will not comply.-TGJPelink.io | See Original [...]
Real Activism Protects Children, Not Egos
If the full extent of your “activism” against grooming is railing against age-gap relationships between older women and younger men,
you might want t [...]
What Is Trauma? A Simple Explanation (w/Quotes)
*Note: This is meant to be an elementary explanation. It came out of a conversation. Sometimes you realize you are speaking but your words are not r [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/lovesThere’s a saying that floats around on [...]
Consent Is Not an Afterthought. It Is the First Requirement
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s make this plain:Consent is not a footnote.It is not a favor.It is not a vibe, a guess, or something you assume after yo [...]
Courtney Stodden’s Lifetime Movie Exposes the Public Grooming of a Child Bride—and the Cruelty of Celebrity Culture
I wasn't deeply familiar with this young woman prior to watching the Lifetime movie. I'm a bit out of her target age range. But being a teenager and t [...]