When the Mask Matters More Than the Truth, Survivors Are Asked to Disappear
There is a reason people cling so tightly to labels when harm is exposed.
Often, it is not confusion.
It is fear.Fear of admitting they were mis [...]
The Hidden Law: Child Marriage is Still Legal in 37 U.S. States
Child marriage is often mistakenly viewed as an issue exclusive to the Global South, but it persists significantly across the West, including the Unit [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quiet about it.
In this upside-down worldvi [...]
🎯Weaponized Hypotheticals Are Not Harmless — They’re Punishment for a Woman’s Freedom
updated from June 9 2025
Weaponized HypotheticalsDefinition: When people—often men—create imagined stories about a woman’s love life (“She probably [...]
Tammi Terrell’s Story Reminds Us That Survival Is More Than Staying Alive
When people speak about Tammi Terrell, they often begin with how young she was when she died.
Twenty-four.
They talk about the brain [...]
Consent Is Not an Afterthought. It Is the First Requirement
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s make this plain:Consent is not a footnote.It is not a favor.It is not a vibe, a guess, or something you assume [...]
When the Bank Said No: How Credit Laws Once Trapped Survivors in Abuse
Before we begin, a word to younger generations: Please extend grace to the women who came before you.
Many older women didn’t stay in abusive relatio [...]
Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve Justice—No Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation.Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured ag [...]
We Warned You: The Deadly Price Black Women Pay for Social Justice Experiments by The Way She Came
One thing I have learned about life on this planet, people just act like it goes against everything that they believe to listen to Black women.
Th [...]
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW (audio)
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, and Violence With GaryJones LCSW [...]
Black Women Have Always Spoken Truth to Power — and We Still Will
In the end anti-black, anti-female, and all forms of discrimination are
equivalent to the same thing: anti-humanism.
Shirley Chisholm
F [...]
✨ When Male Gentleness Is Assumed: Expanding Our Ears, Expanding Our Understanding
updated from December 11 2025
Myth: Straight men are the only danger to women.
**Shayla told me about the male relative she grew up with who was a d [...]
Don’t Use Our History to Justify Our Endangerment
Jim Crow taught the world that Black girls and women existed to be used, violated, discarded. It wasn’t just about water fountains and buses. It was a [...]
🌿Healing Without Being Pulled Into Someone Else’s Agenda
Survivors are not projects to be shaped.They are people who deserve safety, clarity, and freedom.
Many Survivors have lived through:
coerciv [...]
9 Reasons Why Making Laws Around Beliefs That Serve a Few While Harming Most is Dangerous
Laws are meant to serve and protect everyone, not just a chosen few. But time and time again, history shows us what happens when laws are built arou [...]
Reckoning Is Not Chaos. It Is Correction.(w/Affirmations)
We arrived here because too many people rush to shield their favorite men instead of listening to the harmed. We can stop. Right now.
We arrived here [...]
How to Get the Truth Around Obstacles of Myths, Lies, & Distraction: Infographics
Let Me Tell ItI once worked as the sexual assault Outreach Advocate for the state of Virginia. Here is what I learned. What one thing [...]
What Mean Girls and Bring It On Teach Us About How Systems Change Without Really Changing
Have you ever noticed that sometimes people change the rules, change the words, or act like things are different……but somehow the same people stil [...]
Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
Our Safety Isn’t a Punchline: Standing Strong Against Ridicule
Women’s safety isn’t a joke. Ain't a damn thing "funny" about it.Yet, whenever we gather the courage to openly discuss our unique safety chall [...]
You Didn’t Know Him. She Did. He Killed Her.
He killed her. Murdered her. Left the broken pieces for their children to pick up for the rest of their lives.
And people still asked about his menta [...]
Implanting an Enemy Within Women and Girls
You were mocked for being smart then and now by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
When Women Excuse Violence, Everyone Pays: The High Cost of Ignoring Abuse
In politics, too many women of privilege in America give violent men a pass.
They vote for them.
They praise them.
They scold other women for not l [...]
Unveiling the Dark History of Gynecology | Ill Will
In this eye-opening first episode of "Ill Will," host A.B. Burns-Tucker is joined by Dr. Keisha Ray to dive into the troubling history of gynecology's [...]
12 Burdens Growing Up In Dysfunctional Families Teaches You to Accept-and Why We Must Reject Them
In dysfunctional families and abusive relationships, women are often asked—no, expected—to tolerate things that should never be tolerated. These are [...]
When They Blame You for Asking, Then Blame You for Fixing It Yourself
The Trap in Toxic Relationships and Systems
"Fine. I will do it myself." Ancient Black women's proverb.
At first, she thought the pr [...]
Fire Test: When You Ask Women to Support Violence
You are sending forth aspiring leaders who have no history of standing against violence,no record of defending women or children,
no evidence [...]
10 Lessons The Hate U Give Teaches Us About Seeing, Hearing, and Protecting Girls
The most dangerous thing adults can do to a child is not always hurting them directly.Sometimes it is failing to see them clearly.
[...]
Why Listening to Women’s Pain Feels Hard—And Why It Matters More Than We Admit
I was confused by my own exhaustion.
I had spent years doing what some people think is the hardest part of advocacy.
Helping women find shel [...]
When “Nothing Will Happen” Isn’t a Safety Plan: Asking About Real Safeguards
“If your confidence turns out to be misplaced, what protections exist for the people expected to absorb the consequences?”When certainty replaces [...]
12 Ways That We Rob Women—Then Judge Their Survival
It is a contradiction to restrict women's opportunities, safety, or autonomy and then criticize the ways women adapt. If we want different outcomes, w [...]
🚨 Pregnancy Shouldn’t Be a Death Sentence
Let’s tell the truth—pregnancy should never be a death sentence.
But in the United States, the leading cause of death for pregnant and postpartum w [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
Unless He Says So
From X.comA woman or girl can say no to a man in her space. Unless he refuses to admit that he is a man.A woman or girl can say no to men in bath [...]
“Prove You’re Really With Us”: When Allyship Is Measured in Access to Your Body
A good, strong boundary might save your life one day.Where is She?She joined the group because she believed in what it stood for. The peop [...]
An Ancestor Remembered: Carol Denise McNair
She would have been 73 years old today.
May she rest in power.🕊
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Hip Hop’s Double Standard Around Gun Violence
#Hiphop this week: Earlier this week the community was mourning the death of Takeoff & the gun violence that snatched him away. The videos & i [...]
Women Who Menstruate Have Every Right to Speak with Authority on Periods
Women have every right to speak with authority about menstruation.
Maybe it’s those old television commercials—the ones with smil [...]
Strength for the Journey: Resilience Through the Wisdom of Dr. Clenora Hudson-Weems
Not every name that carries wisdom is known in every household. Some voices travel quietly, like rivers underground, shaping the landscape even if w [...]
The Economist: Why Nations that Fail Women FAIL
Please do not watch this pretend that the West is exempt or any political party is "different". It is 2025 and no group of males is doing well at list [...]
You Are Not a Hero to Women for Teaching Men They are Entitled to Women’s Spaces (podcast episode)
What does it really mean to protect women? And who gets to decide when a woman's safety concerns are "serious enough" to matter?
In this epis [...]
Healthy Teen Dating Tip Sheet
CANVA LINK There has always been a lot of pressure on girls regarding dating. There are so many traps that can put labels on her. Terrible [...]