⚠️ They Know. And Still, They Point You Toward the Danger.
Understand this:
When men tell you—warn you—joke with youabout how men operate…
When they say things like: “Men are dogs.”“He’s probably chea [...]
A Lot of Movements Need Black Women. But Do They Value Us?
....to gain some reciprocity
Lauryn Hill/X Factor We see it every time there’s a crisis.Every time someone needs a turnout.Every time a campai [...]
🔥 “You Look Like a Man”? That’s Not an Observation. That’s an Attack. 🔥
Still, I Rise BY MAYA ANGELOU
You may write me down in history with your bitter, twisted lies.........
A moment of truth.
When someone says, “Yo [...]
Be Well: 25 Creative Outlets for Your Wellbeing (FREE flipbook)
20 Youtube Video Ideas for Introverts (Product) | WE Survive Abuse7 Days of Journal Prompts and Affirmations (FREE download) | WE Survive Abus [...]
Creating a Safety Plan: Essential Steps for Protecting Yourself from Stalking and Harassment
When faced with stalking, harassment, or any form of abuse, having a safety plan is a vital step toward reclaiming control and ensuring your well-be [...]
Boundaries Are Sacred: Honoring the Line Between Survival and Self-Betrayal
Boundaries aren’t walls.They’re doors you open for love — and shut to harm.
For too long, women, especially Black women, have been praised for how mu [...]
How to Respond with Strength When Abusers Accuse You of Playing the ‘Victim’
Abusers accuse victimized people of “playing victim” because it serves as a power tactic. Here are the key reasons: 1. Deflection of Respon [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I teach others how to treat me by how I treat myself
I teach others how to treat me by how I treat myselfI listen to the inner voice inside of me that tells me how valuable I am. It reminds me that [...]
Unsilencing Women’s Voices: Our Power in Speaking Up about Female Health and Social Issues
"Social pats on the head will not cure health problems that have been ailing women for centuries".- Tonya GJ PrinceSo this happened .......A beautiful [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with power.Fed with protection.Fed with the benefit of the doubt.
But it wasn’t me. [...]
You Don’t Owe Anyone Access to the Version of You That Had to Survive Them
There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they romanticize it.
They call it “loyalty.”They call it “love.”They call it “the good [...]
10 Reasons Men Invading Women’s Spaces—No Matter How They Identify—Is Abusive, Misogynistic, Gynophobic, and Sexist
Women’s spaces exist for safety, healing, solidarity, and empowerment—yet, men demanding access to these spaces is a continuation of male entitlement, [...]
You See Our Blackness, But Not Our Bruises
updated from June 8 2025 We are not just Black.We are not just women....or girlsWe are Black women and Black girlsand we need care, health, and saf [...]
I Disagree with a Lot of Women—That’s Life. But Misogyny? That’s Where You Lose Me.
Let’s get something straight:
I disagree with a lot of women.
Philosophically. Politically. Spiritually.
That’s life. That's family. That's culture [...]
Survivor Affirmation: Chaos Encourages Me to Practice Centering Behaviors
Chaos encourages me to practice centering behaviors.Each chaotic situation I encounter gives me a chance to develop new skills, new lessons, and new [...]
Why It’s Wrong to Call Women “Hateful” for Demanding Safety
When Black and Indigenous Women Are Called “Hateful” for Demanding Safety
For centuries, whenever Black and Indigenous women raised their voices fo [...]
19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit (on audio)
Latest episode of WESurviveAbusePodcast.com
19 James Baldwin Truths and Affirmations That Still Strengthen the Human Spirit [...]
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm w/video featuring Michelle Browder, Mothers of Gynecology
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm
From the plantation to the present day, men—particularly those in power [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
The End of Tolerating Anti-Female B.S.
In order to end prejudice against people born female, we have to call it out using clear and precise language: Male Violence Male violence agai [...]
What Does It Cost to Constantly Prove You Know Your Own Life?
It costs energy—the kind your body needs to rest and repair.
It costs peace—the quiet that allows your nervous system to settle.
It costs trust—in y [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because first, women have to fight for our safe [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”!
As an advocate, I’ve aided thousands of women in creating safety plans to stay alive from people close to them — friends, family, spouses!
Believing [...]
Our Rights Are Not Disposable
Women's rights are not up for elimination.Not now. Not ever.
Our rights are not conditional based on someone else's discomfort.They are not meant to [...]
Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
🔥 “You Said I Look Like a Man? Let’s Break That Down.”
Subjective Much?
“Looking like a man” is a subjective opinion, not a sacred truth.It reflects your perception, not my reality. Irrelevant. Entirel [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. It’s Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:"That makes me uncomfortable."
She said it gently at first.A whisper in the lock [...]
A Letter to the Young Me Who Didn’t Know She Was Magic Yet
You were never too much.You were never asking for too much.You were never dreaming too loud, loving too hard, feeling too deep.
I know people made yo [...]
Myth: “Women Are Safe as Long as There Are Good Men Around”
Reality: Women Are Only as Safe as the Boundaries and Protections We Demand
One of the most misleading and harmful ideas about women’s safety is the [...]
Your Mind is Your Strongest Weapon—Keep It Sharp, Keep It Healed
Self-mastery is the foundation of the most powerful and effective advocacy.
Survivor, before you fight for others, before you take on the weight of t [...]
🚧 9 Signs You’re Dealing with a Stonewaller
And Why That’s Not Your Fault[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Stonewalling is one of the most soul-draining tactics used in abusive relationships. It’s when so [...]
You Don’t Owe Closure to Danger
(And You Don’t Need the Internet to Validate Your Boundaries)
Do not listen to people online who speak from comfort, not from experience.
If someo [...]
I’m Terrified to Tell You that I’m a Rape Survivor Because
I’m Terrified to Tell You that I’m a Rape Survivor Because I’m Afraid You’re Going to Judge Me Negatively, Deny My Experience, and Care More About Not [...]
When Women Excuse Violence, Everyone Pays: The High Cost of Ignoring Abuse
In politics, too many women of privilege in America give violent men a pass.
They vote for them.
They praise them.
They scold other women for not l [...]
🌸 Trusting Yourself Again After Abuse: A Return to Your Inner Knowing
When you’ve survived abuse — especially the kind that twists your reality, shames your feelings, or calls your truth a lie —self-trust doesn’t just co [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
Cathy Hughes and The Quiet Storm: Healing on the Airwaves
“Good evening, sweetheart…”Those few words, whispered through radios across America, weren’t just an introduction—they were an invitation. An invita [...]
🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]
Please Stop Signaling Support to Grown Men Accused of Harming Children
Start Showing Up for the People Who Need It Most
When someone is arrested for harming a child,we do not need adults jumping online or into rooms to s [...]
Raising Children, Keeping House: Unpaid Labor Has a Cost
We say, “It takes a village.”
But more often than not, “the village” means the women.
The ones who give their time, their rest, their breath, and [...]
10 Surprising Facts About Breast Cancer (for Women)
Most breast cancers are not inheritedOnly about 5–10 % of breast cancers come from inherited genetic mutations (like BRCA1/2). The majority de [...]
Personal Sovereignty: The Right to Rule Your Own Life
Personal sovereignty isn’t just for nations. It’s for us too.It’s the power to say: I belong to me. My body, my mind, my time, my spirit.
Here’s what [...]
No, Feminists Didn’t “Give Up a Happy Home.” We Fought to Escape a Cage
And the walls of that cage were built with silence, shame, and sanctioned suffering.
There’s a dangerous myth floating around like perfum [...]
Why Do They Say We’re “Against Men” Just Because We Want to Be Safe?
Don’t fall for it. Promise yourself that you will not fall for it.
Don’t fall for the guilt traps, the twisting of truth, the smooth talk that tel [...]
The Injustice of Down Low Marriages: When Women Pay the Price for a Man’s Secrets
Everyone should get the opportunity to live this life loving who truly and authentically loves them back. There is nothing wrong with struggling w [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I LOVE Myself for my Uniqueness
I love myself for my uniqueness.I value myself because I am different.I am exactly as I am meant to be. Only I can make my own unique contributions to [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Will NOT Shrink Truth to Comfort Those Who Fear Boundaries
Boundaries are love not hate.
They are love in action — love for your peace, your time, your healing, and your future. Saying “no” is not crue [...]
🧱 “You Just Keep Complaining”: How Abusers Use This Phrase to Stonewall You
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
“You just keep complaining.”“You’re always bringing that up.”“You never let anything go.”
If you've ever heard these phrases [...]
The Real Exclusion Happens When We Refuse to Face the Truth: Male on Male Violence
It is not women who are being exclusionary when we protect our spaces.It is not women who are the barrier to real, lasting change.
When people refuse [...]
Predators Don’t Play by the Same Rules
There’s something deeply dangerous about how we’re taught to think about harm—and especially about the people who cause it.
We’re told:“If someone wa [...]
Our Tongues Survived the Fire: The Story of Xhosa, Survival, and Respect
There are languages that carry the rhythm of a people’s soul.Languages that rise and fall like the breath of generations.
Xhosa is one of those langu [...]
8 Strategies to Help Survivors Get Over Guilt
Feelings of guilt are distressing and draining. There doesn’t seem to be an escape. As you are healing, you realize that you’ve do [...]
The Power of Self-Affirmation in the Black Community
When an executive order was released "canceling" acknowledgment of Black History Month on the federal level, did you notice that Black peo [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you.
It’s the people who stay quiet.
It’s the family who says,“Do [...]
New Wars Against Women Require New Strategies
Like a virus, silencing tactics always adapt and evolve. Tonya GJ Prince"Where are all the feminists?" I abhor this question.&nbs [...]
Reclaiming Anna Julia Cooper: Why Black Women’s Liberation Is Not a Call to Self-Sacrifice
1. The Distortion of Cooper’s Vision
Some have taken Cooper’s line to mean that Black women must always be the “gateway,” carrying everyone else on [...]
What We’ve Carried Was Never Meant for Us
They taught us early how to carry it.
The silence. The secrets.The shame.The duty.
They said it was our role. Our burden. Our badge of streng [...]
Avoid Praising Harm: How Women Can Break the Cycle of Defending Those Who Do Damage
When women defend harmful behavior, they lose their sense of safety. Learn how awareness, honesty, and discernment can help break the cycle and restor [...]
💔 Why Didn’t I Leave Sooner?
Abuse is confusing.
It’s not constant — it shifts. Abusive people are not abusive all the time.
That’s what makes it so complicated. When [...]
Why Women Must Use Our Labor Wisely: From Survival to True Progress
In my early 30's I realized that I had three female conditions brewing inside me. And they had been there for a long time. In spite of me getting [...]
You’re Not Her Judge. You’re Not Even Helpful.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivor’s choices is the same as offering help.It’s not. [...]