The Injustice of Down Low Marriages: When Women Pay the Price for a Man’s Secrets
Everyone should get the opportunity to live this life loving who truly and authentically loves them back.There is nothing wrong with struggling w [...]
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW (audio)
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, and Violence With GaryJones LCSW [...]
We Need Politicians Who Center Women’s Real Lives
We need politicians who center women. Full stop.
Not just women who marry.Not just women who mother.Not just women who serve the goals of men.
We me [...]
American Greed: Inside The Episode with Jenifer Lewis | CNBC Prime
You can do everything right and still meet people whose only plan for you is deception, manipulation, and harm. I loved watching how Jenifer Lewis han [...]
They Don’t Miss You. They Miss the Version of You That Didn’t Know Better
Let’s tell the truth today.
Sometimes when people say they “miss you,”what they’re really saying is:“I miss the version of you that didn’t know what [...]
Celebrity Trials, Silencing, and the Spectacle of Misogyny
Let’s talk about what we should be learning from these celebrity court cases—about abuse, about loyalty, and about truth.
Time and again, we see wo [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truths—like what it means to be a woman—are being rewritten, not by science or [...]
🛑 Start Noticing: Saying No Is Not Hate
You may want to start observing the number of times men declare that women saying no—is hate.Not submitting? Hate.Setting a boundary? Hate.Wal [...]
When Did Women Lose the Right to Define “Female”? A Question Worth Sitting With
When did women lose the ability to define “female” based on sex—and who made that call? Name them.
In nearly every community, there are and always ha [...]
They Hope You Never Realize How Powerful You Already Are
🌹 They Hope You Don’t See It
There is something they hope you never realize.Something that terrifies them.
It’s not your weakness.It’s your power.
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The Disposability of the “Wrong” Women: A Call to Conscience (w/Affirmations)
There is a silence that wraps itself around certain women like a shroud—thick, suffocating, strategic.
It’s the silence reserved for women who are p [...]
⚠️ They Know. And Still, They Point You Toward the Danger.
Understand this:
When men tell you—warn you—joke with youabout how men operate…
When they say things like:“Men are dogs.”“He’s probably chea [...]
Not Every Wound Needs a Healing Deadline
I am growing in curves, not in straight lines.
My journey bends like water and still arrives on time.We are not okay everyday....and that i [...]
If Your Argument Needs Blackface, It’s Already Weak and Shifty
You can’t force moral concern by disrespecting another group.That contradiction collapses your message.
This use of blackface (actually carrying it o [...]
Why Female Suffering Deserves Its Own Language, Its Own Care, and Its Own Honor
Why is one person’s discomfort treated as urgent while another person’s safety is treated as negotiable?And beneath that question lives another on [...]
⚖️So If Robin Fought. Sierah Shouldn’t Have Had To.
Some stories never stop echoing — they just move from one woman’s life to another’s.In 1990, a woman named Robin Gardner was riding her bicycle do [...]
10 Hard Truths About Men Who Have Been Violent in Relationships
Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of future abuse is past abuse. Men who have harmed partners before are likely to re [...]
Walking Away Isn’t Weak. It’s the Bravest Thing You Ever Did.
They told you walking away meant you gave up.That you weren’t strong enough to “stick it out.”That you didn’t try hard enough, didn’t pray hard enou [...]
“I Don’t Want to Choose Sides” Is a Side
The illusion of neutrality is a weapon.
When harm is done—when a woman speaks her truth and dares to name what broke her—there is always a moment.
A [...]
A Lot of Movements Need Black Women. But Do They Value Us?
....to gain some reciprocity
Lauryn Hill/X FactorWe see it every time there’s a crisis.Every time someone needs a turnout.Every time a campai [...]
We Keep Asking Women to Be Kinder. Who Is Asking Why Men Are Not Kinder?
Someone on X.com said these wise words:One of patriarchy’s hidden rules is that men have a right to feel good about themselves. The golden rul [...]
Life-Saving Advice for Black Women from The Positive Birth Coach
@thepositivebirthcoach Replying to @MVP I hope this helps, a guide for black women advocating for yourselves in maternity care @The Motherhood Group @ [...]
The Neuroscience of Political Tribalism | Why You Can’t Think Straight
You saw it too.I was watching clips from Jesse Jackson's homegoing service. Then all of a sudden, people who openly despised this man and ALL that [...]
When Love Becomes a Warning: The Forgotten Conversation About Parricide and Estrangement
There’s a growing trend across online spaces where people—especially younger adults—discuss estrangement from parents as if it’s a simple math equatio [...]
Survivor Affirmation: During Difficult Times My Intuition Speaks
I am able to hear my intuition speak during difficult times. During difficult times, I listen to my intuition and follow its advice. My intuition [...]
The Gate That Didn’t Trust Anyone (podcast episode)
The Gate That Didn't Trust AnyoneAt first glance, it's just an old wooden gate.It squeaks when it opens. It always swings shut. It stands quietly [...]
50 Times We Walked Past You—Our Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain.
Just our hair.
You formed opinions. Y [...]
You Don’t Need Their Explanation to Be Free
You waited for an apology that never came.You held your breath, hoping for an ounce of truth.You thought maybe if you asked the right questions,crie [...]
The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty.It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies [...]
It’s Not Just in Your Head: Trauma, Migraines, and the Truth About Pain
You’ve been told your migraines are emotional.“Just relax,” they say.But your head doesn’t pound from willful choice.It pounds because your bo [...]
Does Naming Ourselves Hurt Anyone? No. Erasing Us Does.
updated from November 18 2025
If the harm is sex-specific, the language has to be sex-specific.Especially for Black women.Especially in mater [...]
Tina Turner Survived Through Hell and NOTHINg About That is Funny
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They Weren’t Just Controlling—They Were Consuming
Survivors often face: the coercion to disappear inside someone else’s reflection.
Some people weren’t looking for love.They were looking for someon [...]
The Survival Doll Trap: A Caution
Stay away from people who can’t wait to see you step into danger, but never rejoice in your survival. These are the ones who treat your survival like [...]
There Are No Magic Words That Grant Access to Our Boundaries
There are no magic words.
No title, no role, no identity, no costume, no tone of voice, no declaration of who you claim to be—
grants you automatic [...]
Selective Advocacy Syndrome: When They Show Up for Ego, Not Justice
They say they care about equality.They say they believe in fairness.They say they’re here for liberation.
But watch when they speak up—and who they [...]
Anger Isn’t Ruining Your Healing. Silence Did. (10 Quick Reclamation Tips)
For a long time, many of us were taught that anger was the danger.That if we were calm enough, soft enough, understanding enough, things would not [...]
You Don’t Owe Anyone Access to the Version of You That Had to Survive Them
There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they romanticize it.
They call it “loyalty.”They call it “love.”They call it “the good [...]
Unveiling the Hidden Danger of Enmeshment: Its Role in Perpetuating Male Violence
When we talk about male violence, we must confront a harsh reality: some men develop insecure and unhealthy attachments to women. In the [...]
10 Signs You’re Being Asked to Tolerate the Intolerable
adjusting.being understanding.keeping the peace.
repeat.
Your cheek muscles hurt from smiling so much to keep others "comfortable".
And then.....on [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
Braids, Locs, and the Right to Be: The Truth About Black Hair Discrimination
We need less focus on aesthetics—less chatter about who’s worn braids, who’s styled locs, and who can trace it back to their culture. That conversatio [...]
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A Nurse Speaks: What They’re Not Telling Black Women About PrEP, Trust, and Risk
"The pharmaceutical industry is profiting off a cycle of deceit,
selling us the cure for the recklessness they are quietly enabling.".......
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How Abusers and Systems Use “You Have It Good” to Normalize Deprivation
You ought to be thankful for the little things.
But little things are all you seem to give.
Janet Jackson| What Have You Done For Me LatelyG [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because first, women have to fight for our safe [...]
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Survivor Affirmations: I Live an Authentic Life, Lessons from Big Mama Thornton (podcast episode)
In this compelling episode of the We Survive Abuse podcast, we dive into the powerful life and legacy of blues legend Big Mama Thornton. Jo [...]
10 Surprising Facts About Breast Cancer (for Women)
Most breast cancers are not inheritedOnly about 5–10 % of breast cancers come from inherited genetic mutations (like BRCA1/2). The majority de [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Have a Right to Safety and Dignity Regardless of Male Desires
If a man wakes up believing he is divinely entitled to every woman, that is between him and his treatment team.
I still have a right to privacy, saf [...]
12 Things About the Female Body Many Men Do Not Understand
Pain is routinely normalized for womenMen are often treated quickly for pain. Women are more likely to be told it’s “stress,” “hormones,” or s [...]
💣 Beauty as a Battlefield: When We Compete, They Win
Let’s tell the truth:This world wants women to be at war with each other.
Not over justice.Not over safety.But over aesthetics.
It’s no accident t [...]
10 Important Things I Might Be Unlearning on My Healing Journey
1. That my pain has to be “explained well” to be real.
My body already told the truth. My spirit already kept the record.2. That being kind m [...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
updated from June 3 2025
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or public influencers call women “hateful” for expressin [...]
10 Ways Women Are Coerced in Daily Life—And Why It’s a Problem
Coercion isn’t always obvious. It can be subtle, disguised as “concern,” “tradition,” or even “love.” Many women experience coercion in daily life wit [...]
🚫 Some of the Most Empowering Movements Still Require Women’s Submission
updated from June 9, 2025
Control doesn’t always disappear. Sometimes it evolves its language and waits for you to mistake it for freedom.
Let’s t [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Moc [...]
When Women’s Values Are Tested: The Fight to Protect What’s Sacred
People who get confused about what is best for their own lives seem to spend an excessive amount of time telling women what is best for their lives. [...]
When Survivors Speak, They Name the Wound—Not the Excuse (w/affirmations)
For abusive persons, there are few human beings perfect enough to be worthy of justice. Tonya GJ PrinceWhen Survivors speak, they talk about [...]
When a Name Is a Doorway Back to Harm: Why women’s personal choices are not public property
Some decisions look so simple. From the outside.A last name.A form.A signature.A box checked or left blank.But for some women, a [...]
🧱 “You Just Keep Complaining”: How Abusers Use This Phrase to Stonewall You
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
“You just keep complaining.”“You’re always bringing that up.”“You never let anything go.”
If you've ever heard these phrases [...]