When Control Becomes Abuse: Recognizing Coercive Control in Relationships
🚩 Concerning Signs of Abuse and Control
How Loss of Autonomy Mirrors the Pain of Imposter Syndrome 🔒 Loss of Autonomy
Every adult has the [...]
Why Abuse Leaves You with Chronic Self-Doubt
And Why That Doesn’t Mean You’re Broken
There’s something few people talk about after abuse ends:The way self-doubt clings to you like a second ski [...]
They Love What We Give, Not Who We Are: The Quiet Erasure of Women’s Inner Lives
When we say, “He objectified her,” we make it sound like mere casual disrespect. What really happens is extermination of recognition. She is [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated after they speak out.
It doesn’t always look like disbelief.It doesn’t always look [...]
Difference Does Not Erase Consent: What Prince’s Refusal Teaches Us (w/audio story)
I've listened.
Far too many people within the LGBTQ+ community respond to Prince's response insist that he had no right to say no because he was per [...]
Own the Narrative: The Power of Storytelling Against Epistemicide
In a world where algorithms dictate whose voices are heard and whose truths are silenced, storytelling becomes an act of revolution. It is an act of [...]
Respecting Black Women’s Hair: Embracing Autonomy and Wellness
We don't often speak about the impact that trauma has on hair. Maybe we should. Throughout my healing journey, my hair has told on me. And the women a [...]
Celebrating Her Voice: Women’s Voices Belong to Women (video)
In this video we celebrate the strength and resilience of women who refuse to be silenced. This video is a call to all women to speak their truth bold [...]
Black Woman, Begin With You
They taught us to pour and pour and pour.To give ‘til we vanish.
But Sis, your best love—your warmest care, your fiercest protection, your most nou [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
The More You Heal, the More You Offend Those Who Don’t Want To
Healing is sacred work. And yet, it can come with surprising backlash—not just from strangers, but from people you once trusted with your heart.
What [...]
🧩 Oppressive Systems Are Built to Erase Specificity
We must say it plainly: Oppressive systems are designed to flatten, generalize, and erase.
They pretend to be “fair” by treating everyone the same—bu [...]
Affirmations for Parents Trying to Keep the Family Close
Podcast Episode Link:https://anchor.fm/survivoreye/episodes/Affirmations-for-Parents-Trying-to-Keep-the-Family-Close-e1kmoj8 [...]
Love Doesn’t Mean Lying: I Can Respect You and Still Speak the Truth
If you think I have to choose between truth and respect,You underestimate the power of both.
See, real love doesn't demand silence.Real respect doesn [...]
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When Movements Mimic Religious Shunning: Why Silencing Dissent Won’t Build a Just World
Some of today’s loudest movements say they’re about justice, liberation, and community.
But too often, when someone disagrees—or simply asks a ques [...]
Why Setting Boundaries Feels Like Breaking Rules You Never Agreed To
You finally speak up.You say, “I can’t do that.”You say, “I don’t feel safe.”You say, “That’s not okay with me.”
And suddenly… it’s like you broke so [...]
I’m Not Explaining Myself Anymore—You Were Just Never Listening
There comes a point in your healing when you get tired.Not just tired of the pain—But tired of the explaining.Tired of the justifying.Tired of repea [...]
Raising Children, Keeping House: Unpaid Labor Has a Cost
We say, “It takes a village.”
But more often than not, “the village” means the women.
The ones who give their time, their rest, their breath, and [...]
🚫 Some of the Most Empowering Movements Still Require Women’s Submission
updated from June 9, 2025
Control doesn’t always disappear. Sometimes it evolves its language and waits for you to mistake it for freedom.
Let’s t [...]
💔 When the Weight Is More Than Weight: Understanding the Link Between Trauma and Body Size
I know. This is sensitive territory. This is my battle too.
As a Survivor, I know how heartless, cruel, and unkind people can be to those [...]
I’m Not Bitter—I Just Finally Know Better
They’ll say you’re angry now.That you’re bitter.That you’ve changed.
And you have changed.But not in the way they’re trying to spin it.
You're not [...]
No Predator Has the Authority to Rename Violence As a “Right.”
Abusers call what they do to women and children by many names. They dress it up with lies, excuses, and false respectability. They label it “l [...]
🌿 Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivors—from all walks of life—should know this:
many Survivors are people of faith. Not all. But many. Some draw stre [...]
You’re Not Failing—You’re Feeling
A post for Survivors who mistake emotional struggle for regression So often, when the tears come back, when the triggers resurface, when the grief [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Value Wise Counseling
I value wise counseling.In times of confusion, wise words enable me to stay grounded like the anchor on a ship. Instead of being swayed by every wind [...]
Naming the Chains: Understanding Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
These systems and beliefs shape how society treats women and girls, often reinforcing oppression, inequality, and violence. While they overlap, each [...]
Male Access Supremacy: When Entitlement Disguises Itself as Equality
There is a belief too many refuse to name—because to name it would reveal the lie.
It is the belief that: “No space should ever be off-limits to [...]
You Don’t Owe Closure to Danger
(And You Don’t Need the Internet to Validate Your Boundaries)
Do not listen to people online who speak from comfort, not from experience.
If someo [...]
Unshackled: Black Women, Boundaries, and the Right to Rest
I saw a video short this morning where a young woman stated that we women were talking about a few things a little too much. Among those [...]
When Women Rise, We All Rise: Why Seeing Women as an Asset is Not a Threat, But a Lifeline
Somewhere along the way, too many men were taught a dangerous lie.
A lie that says a woman’s growth is a threat to his position.That her education, [...]
Why Wise Women Guard Their Circles: Avoiding Those Who Defend Violence
This is must not only for your survival, but the quality of your living days. Avoid people who are close to those who do not like you or disrespect [...]
Respect Is Supposed to Be Mutual—But Women Know Better
Respect is supposed to be mutual.But you wouldn’t know that if you listened to today’s men speak.
Somehow, women are expected to earn it, perform for [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
It’s Not About Tradition, It’s About Freedom: The Power of Dropping a Name That No Longer Fits
Last names are deeply personal women who live through violence, abuse, or attack. It should remain that way. Personal. Even when she chooses to reveal [...]
🎤 Survival, Sisterhood, and Triumph: Honoring Salt-N-Pepa Enter the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame
When Salt-N-Pepa burst onto the scene, they didn't just make music — they made space.Space for women's voices. Space for boldness. Space for honesty a [...]
Tina Turner Survived Through Hell and NOTHINg About That is Funny
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Your Voice Was Never the Problem—Their Comfort with Harm Was
They told you to lower your voice.To be more careful.To stop "bringing it up."To let it go.
But let’s name what was really happening:
Your voice was [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Let Others Know When Their Actions Impact Me (video) #c…
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Can White Women Deny Black Women Womanhood? (audio)
Womanhood is about character, lessons, wisdom, & journey but there is a troubling social assertion that white women denying Black women woma [...]
The Overlooked Truth: Asexuality, Boundaries, and Survivor Safety
Conversations about safety, consent, and boundaries are vital, yet there is a community that often gets overlooked: asexual individuals. Asexuality [...]
The Power of Self-Affirmation in the Black Community
When an executive order was released "canceling" acknowledgment of Black History Month on the federal level, did you notice that Black peo [...]
They Teach Us to Watch Our Cups, Not to Question the Pour
🍷headed into the fourth of July, right?.......Freedom?
Because they’d rather keep us on defensethan dare teach him self-control.
Because it’s easier [...]
Every Woman Deserves to Be Heard in the Delivery Room
Please pay close attention to this woman's story and her words. ‘The day I was reduced to a Black birthing body.’ A doctor reflects on pr [...]
They Want Us Only in the Streets—But We Carry Resistance Everywhere
Resistance Wears Many Faces
Too often, when people talk about resistance, they point only to one image: bodies in the streets. Specifically Black [...]
Affirmation: I Am My Own Unique Self-Special, Creative, and Wonderful
updated for 2025
✨ Affirmation: I Am My Own Unique Self
I am my own unique self—special, creative, and wonderful.No one in the entire universe i [...]
Saying Yes When You Mean No Is a Silent Form of Self-Betrayal
They will keep coming backto your spirit, your softness, your giving hands—as long as you let them.
But you were never meant to be the onewho saves e [...]
Why Forgetting the Wisdom of Elders Weakens Movements — And How Honoring Them Strengthens the Future
“A river that forgets its source will soon run dry.”— African proverb
There is a scene in The Women of Brewster Place where the women get fed up wit [...]
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW (audio)
FAQ About Trauma, Abuse, and Violence With GaryJones LCSW [...]
Consent Never Came, But the Agreement Was Made
from WESurviveAbuse.com
No one asked her.No one asked the girl with trembling hands and a racing heart.No one asked the woman staring into nothing, c [...]
🌸 Trusting Yourself Again After Abuse: A Return to Your Inner Knowing
When you’ve survived abuse — especially the kind that twists your reality, shames your feelings, or calls your truth a lie —self-trust doesn’t just co [...]
📌 Allyship Is Not a Dating Obligation
Let’s make something abundantly clear:
Being an ally to a group, a cause, or a community does not require that women date anyone in that [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They call it justice.But only when women are asked to surrender boundaries.
They call [...]
Why Body Safety for Black Women Must Include Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Reproductive Justice: Honoring Adriana Smith
When we talk about Adriana Smith, especially online, we must remember: people around the world are entering this conversation from vastly different [...]
When Belief Becomes a Cage
Belief is powerful. It shapes how we see the world, how we raise our children, how we decide what is right and what is wrong. But belief can also be t [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
🚩 5 Signs You’re Facing Control Disguised as Concern
1. They Center Their Comfort Over Your Safety
If your boundary causes them to feel uncomfortable, they try to make you feel guilty for protecting you [...]
In the Hands of Survivors, Self-Compassion Can Be a Beacon of Strength
Self-compassion can emerge as a beacon of strength for survivors of abuse and violence.
Despite what others who do not know any better say, sel [...]
Red Flags: Why Do Some People Refuse to Challenge Systems of Harm — and What Does that Reveal About Them?
Women’s safety movements grew from necessity — from the silences of law, the blind spots of culture, and the cruelty of normalized harm. Every woman l [...]
Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
10 Signs You’re Being Dehumanized—Even by People Who Say They Support You
This is a crucial question—because recognizing when you are being dehumanized is often the first step in reclaiming dignity, power, and bounda [...]
Megan Thee Stallion: They Can Fake Your Image, But They Can’t Rewrite Your Worth
Some of us didn’t need a courtroom to tell us that digital harm is real. We felt it in our bones the moment someone used our name, our picture, [...]