7 Lessons from Gina’s “Push” Scene on Martin: Setting Boundaries & Demanding Respect
When this Martin episode dropped, Black Gen Xers were tuned in heavy like we did every week. We knew Tisha Campbell didn’t need help singing a note—he [...]
When Women Are Violated by Men, Don’t Police Our Tone — Restore Our Safety
Men should never expect a polite, dainty response when they violate women’s spaces.When you disrupt our safety, you activate our nervous systems — and [...]
🚩 Red Flag: When Someone Is Offended by Your Boundaries
Pay attention.
If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” a partner—gets angry, offended, or manipulative because you’ve set a boundary…
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🔁 Starting Over: A Sacred Act of Power, Not Failure
They don’t talk about how painful starting over can be.They don't talk about how holy it is either.
Sometimes it doesn’t look like courage.It looks [...]
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm w/video featuring Michelle Browder, Mothers of Gynecology
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm
From the plantation to the present day, men—particularly those in power [...]
Unshackled: Black Women, Boundaries, and the Right to Rest
I saw a video short this morning where a young woman stated that we women were talking about a few things a little too much. Among those [...]
When Love Becomes a Warning: The Forgotten Conversation About Parricide and Estrangement
There’s a growing trend across online spaces where people—especially younger adults—discuss estrangement from parents as if it’s a simple math equatio [...]
The Divorce Was Inevitable: We Never Chose This Marriage
No one asked women anything.
People just kept telling women how they "ought to" and "must" feel.-TGJP
This is a very scary time for some women.Bec [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why you’re not “mean” for wanting peaceIt starts with a bad decision.Maybe a DUI.Maybe losing another job.Maybe a fight with the [...]
When Setting Boundaries Feels Wrong (But It’s Actually You Healing)
"We don't warn one another how hard this part is."
Sometimes setting a boundary feels less like self-care and more like you’re about to get in troubl [...]
Harm-Jacking: When Your Pain Becomes Someone Else’s Weapon
There have always been obstacles—but there have also always been real ones by our side, standing strong with us to rise above with them.
It’s been [...]
Start Your Own, Even If It’s Small. Because Truth Needs a Home.
Let’s tell the truth that so many are scared to say:
They keep claiming they want real voices,diverse creators,truth-tellers,legacy wisdom.
But unti [...]
Myth: “If Women Just Spoke Up Sooner, They Could Have Stopped the Abuse”
Reality: Abusers Cultivate Silence, and Society Punishes Women Who Speak
One of the most insidious myths about abuse is the idea that if [...]
It’s Not About Tradition, It’s About Freedom: The Power of Dropping a Name That No Longer Fits
Last names are deeply personal women who live through violence, abuse, or attack. It should remain that way. Personal. Even when she chooses to reveal [...]
Why Leaders Who Excuse Abuse Can’t Build Safety—They Recreate Harm
When someone dismisses violence, mocks Survivors, or excuses abuse, they’re not neutral.
They’re signaling the kind of safety they intend to build—on [...]
Who Gets Believed Without Footnotes?
People closest to power.
Belief, in our world, is not evenly distributed. It flows along familiar lines—toward those whose voices already sound “righ [...]
🌺 Affirmation Post: “I Will Not Apologize for Surviving”
A truth spoken from generations who endured, to those rising now.I will not apologize for surviving.Not for growing wiser. Not for finally spe [...]
They Don’t Deserve to Witness the Healed You if They Mocked the Broken You
Can we romanticizing reconciliation with people who ridiculed your pain?
If they laughed when you were gasping for air—If they rolled their eyes wh [...]
From Objectified to Empowered: Women’s Rights in Medicine Inspired by Henrietta Lacks (podcast/audio)
Henrietta Lacks’ story is a stark reminder of the injustices women, especially Black women, have faced in the medical field. Her [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
What Are Pseudoseizures? Understanding Psychogenic Seizures in Trauma Survivors
Remember, trauma lives in the body........
Psychogenic non-epileptic seizures (PNES), are seizure-like episodes that look and feel like epileptic sei [...]
Survivors Who Speak Up Become Light for the Rest of Us
Young people say: I don't believe women and girls should have to be stronger. We ought to be fighting for a world that gives us all less to survive. I [...]
How Women Can Support Gay Men In Their Lives in Abusive Relationships
Abuse doesn’t care about gender or sexuality. It happens in all kinds of relationships—straight, gay, lesbian, and everything in between. But when it [...]
🌿 Healing Means Lowering Your Chaos Tolerance
Healing involves lowering chaos tolerance—not by becoming fragile, but by refusing to live in constant emotional emergency.This might mean:C [...]
She Lied to Herself First: How Women Protect Harmful Men—And Turn on Other Women
There’s a quiet lie that echoes through many women’s lives.A lie whispered in silence. Repeated in prayer. Spoken with eyes closed tight.
It goes s [...]
The Unseen Burden: Black Eldest Daughters and the Weight of Expectations
In many Black families, eldest daughters are celebrated as leaders, protectors, and role models. But behind that honor often lies a heavy, unspoken [...]
What Is Spiritual Violence? And Why We Must Talk About It
“If your faith doesn’t let you cry, rage, rest, or leave the places that are killing you—it’s not faith. It’s control dressed in scripture.”Spir [...]
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10 Important Things I Might Be Unlearning on My Healing Journey
1. That my pain has to be “explained well” to be real.
My body already told the truth. My spirit already kept the record.2. That being kind m [...]
A Letter to the Young Me Who Didn’t Know She Was Magic Yet
You were never too much.You were never asking for too much.You were never dreaming too loud, loving too hard, feeling too deep.
I know people made yo [...]
Give Yourself a Gift That Keeps You Moving Forward
Give yourself a gift going forward.Not something wrapped in paper or tied with a bow —
but something far more powerful.Give yourself the [...]
🌍 When People Say “No” — And Mean It
Recently, a young YouTuber was arrested after sneaking onto North Sentinel Island, home to the Sentinelese—one of the last uncontacted peoples on Ea [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]