Women Who Menstruate Have Every Right to Speak with Authority on Periods
Women have every right to speak with authority about menstruation.
Maybe it’s those old television commercials—the ones with smil [...]
🚫 Where the Real Toxicity Lies: Boundaries, Consent, and Culture
In recent years, we’ve seen debates play out over whether actors—or anyone in the public eye—should agree to certain scenes, roles, or performances. [...]
🚩 Red Flags: When “Allies” Are Really Just Bullies
In advocacy, passion often draws people in—it can light up a room, stir emotions, and rally attention. But not every loud voice is a trustworthy one. [...]
Lessons from Survivor Jenifer Lewis on Overcoming Shame (videos)
As incredibly talented as she is, Jenifer Lewis is also a teacher! She is a teacher to all who struggle with mental illness, racism, sexism, and ab [...]
You Are Worthy Now and You Were Then: Featuring Brielle Fowler (audio/podcast)
In this empowering episode of Survivor Affirmations, we emphasize the power of uplifting unheard voices and celebrate resilience. Join us as w [...]
When Your Strength Makes Them Angry
Some people will try to make you feel like you did something wrong just for standing in your own power.
You say no.You speak up.You leave.You choos [...]
Don’t Be Fooled: Giving Away Your Rights Isn’t Liberation
They told you it was clever.Told you it was edgy.Told you it was revolutionary.
But let’s talk about what it really is when you hand over your righ [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the Doubt We’ve heard it since childhood:“You’ve got [...]
What Is Strength (For a Survivor)?
They told us strength meant being hard.Tough. Silent. Unshakable.They told us it meant never falling apart.Never crying.Never walking away.Never say [...]
The More You Heal, the More You Offend Those Who Don’t Want To
Healing is sacred work. And yet, it can come with surprising backlash—not just from strangers, but from people you once trusted with your heart.
What [...]
Protecting Your Spirit: What Spiritual Boundaries Are and Why They Matter
For people who work with and serve victims of violence and abuse, violation of spiritual boundaries is common. I have seen women's entire families go [...]
How People Prompt or Lure Women to Prove Their Worth
"Why doesn't she leave? Why did she go back?"
We don't spend a lot of time examining what makes women doubt themselves. I look forward to the days [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are not wrong. [...]
Start Your Own, Even If It’s Small. Because Truth Needs a Home.
Let’s tell the truth that so many are scared to say:
They keep claiming they want real voices,diverse creators,truth-tellers,legacy wisdom.
But unti [...]
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Dear Survivor: You Were Not Born to Absorb Abuse or Protect Harmful Men
A Message for Every Woman Who Was Taught to Shrink Herself to Keep the Peace
The violence against oppressed communities is real, but they load the bu [...]
Even Warriors Need a Well: Faith, Feminism, and the Right to Refuel (w/affirmations)
People may mean well. But to insist that women fighting for justice — especially women working to protect other women — must also abandon faith [...]
Don’t Share My Scars and Then Ask for My Help.
Let’s talk about something that happens all too often—especially to women, especially to Survivors.
Someone insults us.Mocks us.Lies about us.Disre [...]
Alleged “Male Loneliness” is Causing Men to Come Up With Bizarre Ideas
Women, start flipping tables everywhere you go. How hard is it to just stop being violent and abusive? How difficult is it to finally recognize th [...]
11 Ways to Maintain Your Cool When Life Has No Chill
originally published 12/22/16Circa 1980 something, New JerseyMy mother: "So, if everybody else goes crazy does that you mean you go crazy too?"Me:.... [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you.
It’s the people who stay quiet.
It’s the family who says,“Do [...]
Even in Progressive Spaces, Systems Still Fail Survivors
In many justice-minded communities, we say the right things:
🟩 Believe Survivors.🟩 Abolish harmful systems.🟩 Center the most marginalized.🟩 Practic [...]
Loneliness vs. Depletion: Why Women Need Safe, Reciprocal Companionship—Not One-Sided Connections
Loneliness is real, but being drained by one-sided “connections” is far worse than being alone. Here’s an expanded version with more life-giving examp [...]
🌙 Future Faking: When Promises Become a Trap
Let’s talk about something a lot of Survivors don’t even know has a name—but once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
It’s called future faking.And it’ [...]
The Fable of the Flame that Would Not Bow: The Importance of Help Seeking Language in Troubled Times
Discouragement is part of the battle. It always has been. But defeatist language can become dangerous when it stops people from seeking help, making p [...]
🌿 What Is Healing?
I'm a plant Mom again. I didn't realize I was sensitive about it until I sent one of my relatives pictures of my plants. She didn't say anythin [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Fear Exists to Teach Us
Male human beings have no idea what what qualifies as a "valid fear" for a female human being. Fear is a whisper [...]
How Women Can Support Gay Men In Their Lives in Abusive Relationships
Abuse doesn’t care about gender or sexuality. It happens in all kinds of relationships—straight, gay, lesbian, and everything in between. But when it [...]
Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
When You’re Silenced: How You Might Respond & Why It Matters
When people are silenced—whether by fear, trauma, or pressure from others—they don’t just stop talking. They find other ways to cope. Some of those [...]
🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into women’s spaces. That silence is the policy.”
🌾 1. The Hidden Reality Across gyms [...]
Consent Never Came, But the Agreement Was Made
from WESurviveAbuse.com
No one asked her.No one asked the girl with trembling hands and a racing heart.No one asked the woman staring into nothing, c [...]
You Don’t Have to Keep Fighting. You’re Allowed to Heal.
There comes a time when the world will keep handing you more work to do.More injustice to confront.More family pain to resolve.More people to carry. [...]
🔥 Here’s How to Deal with Someone Who Always Chooses to Be Hurt
When someone in your life always chooses to have hurt feelings, especially over things that aren’t intended to be hurtful, it can feel like walking th [...]
Crossover: When Harm Happens But the Apology Does Not (audio/video)
Apologies are part of recognizing that you are a human being and that others are too. We live in a world with other human beings that doesn't recogniz [...]
5 Reasons Abusive People See Your Boundaries as Unnecessary
When you begin to heal, grow, or protect yourself, one of the first things you'll notice is how violently unnecessary your boundaries feel to the pe [...]
8 Strategies to Help Survivors Get Over Guilt
Feelings of guilt are distressing and draining. There doesn’t seem to be an escape. As you are healing, you realize that you’ve do [...]
🛡️ Building Courage After Abuse: Breath by Breath, Brick by Brick
After abuse, courage doesn't roar back all at once.It flickers.It shakes.It comes in broken whispers and trembling steps.And that's okay.
Courage aft [...]
Every Woman Has the Right to Say ‘No Thanks
Since the dawn of time, women have been pushed, scolded, and lectured into bending their boundaries, reshaping their desires, and swallowing discomfor [...]
New Wars Against Women Require New Strategies
Like a virus, silencing tactics always adapt and evolve. Tonya GJ Prince"Where are all the feminists?" I abhor this question.&nbs [...]
When Pretending You’re Okay Is Wearing You Down
What to Do Instead of Faking It All the Time
Some days, pretending to be okay feels safer than telling the truth.
You already know what happens when [...]
You Can’t Reason With People Who See Facts as a Personal Attack
One of life’s hardest lessons is this: you cannot reason with people who treat facts and reality as a personal attack. No matter how carefully you exp [...]
10 Hard Truths About Men Who Have Been Violent in Relationships
Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of future abuse is past abuse. Men who have harmed partners before are likely to re [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Encouragement to Women Everywhere (video/audio)
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You Were Never Meant to Carry What He Refused to Unpack
For the woman who’s been told her standards are too high—stand taller.
Sister,Let’s tell the truth today.
They say: “That’s just how men are.”“ [...]
Other People’s Emotional Unavailability Is Not Your Fault
Survivor, you’ve carried so much.
You’ve fought for healing, for hope, for wholeness—not just for yourself, but for others too. You’ve tried to pour [...]
When Women’s Values Are Tested: The Fight to Protect What’s Sacred
People who get confused about what is best for their own lives seem to spend an excessive amount of time telling women what is best for their lives. [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth threatens [...]
Instinct Is Not Ignorance. It’s Survival.
There’s something sacred about a warning call in the wild.
A rustle.A cry.A shift in the wind.The herd doesn’t debate.The birds don’t fact-check.The [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Exemplify Brotherly Love
I exemplify brotherly love.Brotherly love means looking out for others as if they are family. That thought guides my interactions with each person I c [...]
Celebrating Her Voice: Women’s Voices Belong to Women (video)
In this video we celebrate the strength and resilience of women who refuse to be silenced. This video is a call to all women to speak their truth bold [...]
Fire Test: When You Ask Women to Support Violence
You are sending forth aspiring leaders who have no history of standing against violence, no record of defending women or children,
no evidence [...]
How to Stop Pouring Into What Doesn’t Grow
Water does nothing for fake flowers. So why are women still told to pour?
Women are always told to give.To support, love, uplift, and protect—especia [...]
True Rights Protect—They Don’t Endanger Women and Children
Access to women's private spaces is not a matter of "human rights". Access to women's private spaces is a matter of women's rights. As soon as we say [...]
Believe in What Believes in You.
Why spend your precious energy trying to prove your humanity to systems, circles, or people who have already decided they don’t see you? That they don [...]
Cold Water Calms the Storm: A Healing Tool Our Elders Already Knew
There are days when your body feels like a house on fire.
Your heart races.Your chest tightens.Your thoughts scatter like dry leaves in a hard wind.
[...]
Why “I Don’t Care About Potential Harm-Doers” Sounds Empowering But Isn’t
We get it.You’re tired of tiptoeing.You’re tired of warning signs, red flags, and feeling like you have to carry the burden of watching your back all [...]
You Can Be Inclusive Without Abandoning Girls, Women, or Survivors
Inclusion should never come at the cost of someone else’s safety.
But lately, women and Survivors are being told to prove our goodness by staying sil [...]
💔 “I Was Coerced by Someone I Trusted. I Didn’t Say No. Is It Still Assault?”
This is one of the most common — and most heartbreaking — questions Survivors ask. And it deserves a clear, loving, truthful answer.
Yes. Coer [...]
Why Forgetting the Wisdom of Elders Weakens Movements — And How Honoring Them Strengthens the Future
“A river that forgets its source will soon run dry.”— African proverb
There is a scene in The Women of Brewster Place where the women get fed up wit [...]