🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into women’s spaces. That silence is the policy.”
🌾 1. The Hidden RealityAcross gyms [...]
Gaslighting with a Grin: What Covert Bullying Really Looks Like
What Is Covert Bullying?
The Abuse You Can’t Always See
Not all bullying looks like yelling, pushing, or name-calling.Some of the most damaging harm [...]
Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money.She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
🕯️ The Truth About “Victimhood” as an Insult
There is a lot going on in the world. But crimes against women—especially stalking, coercive control, and violence—don’t take time off. They don’t pau [...]
When They Don’t See You as a Person, They Don’t Protect You as One
The objectification of Black people doesn’t stay on screen.It follows us into courtrooms, hospitals, shelters, and survivor services—places where safe [...]
A Woman-Centered Truth About FGM We Cannot Abandon (w/list of resource organizations)
FGM victims’ fury as academics compare practice to cosmetic surgeryAny honest critique of global efforts to address female genital mutil [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud. It often slips in quietly, disguised as being “easygoing,” “low maintenance,” [...]
An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer aren't known to be the safest people to keep company with.Teen Version Because grown men wh [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rarely Given the Benefit of the DoubtWe’ve heard it since childhood:“You’ve got [...]
🎭 The Enforcer in the Room: When Women Police Other Women for Abusers
"I will give you something to cry out about"
There is something few people want to talk about—but every Survivor knows it.
In systems of abuse and e [...]
🌍 When People Say “No” — And Mean It
Recently, a young YouTuber was arrested after sneaking onto North Sentinel Island, home to the Sentinelese—one of the last uncontacted peoples on Ea [...]
Umoja: Belief as a Source of Strength, Not Control
Umoja is a
Kiswahili word
that means "unity"
Your beliefs—whether they come from religion, personal values, or life experiences—are you [...]
10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. Yo [...]
Some of Us Can’t Pretend Institutions Are Harmless
It’s a strange kind of exhaustion—working beside women who understand abuse in private relationships, yet act confused when the same dyn [...]
10 Rights Every Child Deserves Without Compromise
Children Have the Right to Set the Following Boundaries:Bodily Autonomy: They have the right to say “no” to unwanted touch or affection, even [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
It Doesn’t Take Long: When Obsession Turns Deadly After Just a Few Dates
By Tonya GJ Prince | WeSurviveAbuse.comSome people believe that stalking only happens after long, intense relationships.
They think, "Oh, she mus [...]
Our Mental Health Crisis is a Values Crisis
We have made a choice.
Not quietly.Not accidentally.Not without consequence.
We have chosen to be a nation that does not guarantee authentic and tru [...]
Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
When Safety Isn’t Simple: How Domestic Violence Hits Differently for People with Neurodivergence
Tonya GJ Prince | We Survive Abuse
There’s something the world needs to say out loud more often: Safety isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. [...]
What Are Pseudoseizures? Understanding Psychogenic Seizures in Trauma Survivors
Remember, trauma lives in the body........
Psychogenic non-epileptic seizures (PNES), are seizure-like episodes that look and feel like epileptic sei [...]
You Can’t Reason With People Who See Facts as a Personal Attack
One of life’s hardest lessons is this: you cannot reason with people who treat facts and reality as a personal attack. No matter how carefully you exp [...]
50 Times We Walked Past You—Our Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain.
Just our hair.
You formed opinions. Y [...]
Signs of Covert Abuse and Why It is So Harmful
Covert abuse is abuse that hides in plain sight. It’s harm done in ways that are subtle, disguised, or easily denied, making it harder for the victim— [...]
What Does It Really Mean To Be Socialized As a Woman?
To be socialized as a woman means to be trained — subtly and overtly — in what the world expects from those born female. It’s a lifetime of unspoken l [...]
Remembering the Women Silenced by Political Violence in America (w/womanist film recommendations)
💡 Pattern to Notice:Most of these women were killed not just for themselves but because they stood between power and the vulnerable—protecting m [...]
How to Know You’re Not Safe—Even If No One’s Hitting You
(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs)
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this really abuse?” or told yourself, “At least they’re not hitting me,”—you’ [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first?“The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
6 Ways Asking for Help Enriches Your Life
I realize that in our society, it is almost fashionable to come down on someone in need. Unfortunately, this keeps millions upon milli [...]
Minimizing Chronic Pain Can Be Dangerous and Deadly (impactful Tiktok video story)
Pain hurts in a way that words fail.Pain doesn’t announce itself politely.It arrives like weather—uninvited, undeniable, and immune to reason. [...]
Healing Hurts—and It Hurts for a Long Time
Everyone wants to talk about healing like it’s a tidy process.A quick fix.A checklist.A makeover.
But here’s the truth Survivors know too well:[...]