Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individuals—most often abusers or those in power—respond with defensiveness, victim-playing, o [...]
24 Facts About Genocide: How Women Across Generations and Nations Have Been Targeted in Genocide
When a group has been treated as property, their boundaries are never automatically recognized
—they have to be asserted, defended, and reasserted ac [...]
Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal. It is exhausting and deeply painful to be a witness to complacency around violence and abuse. C [...]
Not Like Us: The Black Freedom Legacy Was Not Built on Unquestioning Institutional Compliance
There is a pattern that deserves daylight. Some movements wrap themselves in the language, symbolism, and moral authority of the Black American fre [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Wise Words from Louise Elliot on Self-Checks
Wise words shared by Louise Elliot on the X platform. When it comes to how we treat other people; we *all* fall short sometimes, but [...]
30 Things You Can Do Right Now to Support Domestic Violence Survivors in the U.S.
If you’re heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamed—you are not alone.But feelings aren’t enough. Survivors need [...]
When Women Are Violated by Men, Don’t Police Our Tone — Restore Our Safety
Men should never expect a polite, dainty response when they violate women’s spaces.When you disrupt our safety, you activate our nervous systems — and [...]
5 traits women who don’t have friends share (featuring video by Tiffany Monday)
You'd be amazed how many people get themselves through recovery and/or parts of healing and abuse...... Why do some women have no friends, and what [...]
Signs of Covert Abuse and Why It is So Harmful
Covert abuse is abuse that hides in plain sight. It’s harm done in ways that are subtle, disguised, or easily denied, making it harder for the victim— [...]
When Women Excuse Violence, Everyone Pays: The High Cost of Ignoring Abuse
In politics, too many women of privilege in America give violent men a pass.
They vote for them.
They praise them.
They scold other women for not l [...]
Beliefs vs. Facts: A Roadblock to Women’s Rights
Belief vs. Fact — What’s the Difference?
1. What is a Belief?
Definition: A personal conviction, opinion, or interpretation that someone accep [...]
10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. Yo [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Different countries.Different customs.But somehow—they all agree.
There is a global a [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first? “The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
Gaslighting with a Grin: What Covert Bullying Really Looks Like
What Is Covert Bullying?
The Abuse You Can’t Always See
Not all bullying looks like yelling, pushing, or name-calling.Some of the most damaging harm [...]
Your Defense of Them Is a Betrayal of Me
Let’s say this out loud—for the ones still doubting themselves.For the ones grieving the loss of community, connection, or even family:
You are not w [...]
Let’s Be Honest: It’s Past Time for Men to Show Up for Each Other
For far too long, society has quietly and dangerously assigned the role of protector, counselor, and emotional caretaker to women and girls—even when [...]
His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written.
James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in [...]
You’re Not Her Judge. You’re Not Even Helpful.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivor’s choices is the same as offering help.It’s not. [...]
Believe in What Believes in You.
Why spend your precious energy trying to prove your humanity to systems, circles, or people who have already decided they don’t see you? That they don [...]
“They’ll Be Raped Anyway” Is Not a Strategy—It’s Cowardly a Surrender
Some people are not "foxhole" people. They surrender mid-battle.
You say,“Well, women will be raped anyway…”as if that justifies handing predators [...]
The Pain They Tell You to Swallow: On Disrespect, Dehumanization, and the Lie of Strength
They say, “Now’s not the time.”They say, “It’s not that serious.”They say, “Be the bigger person.”They say, “Other people have it worse.”
And just li [...]
If the Mind Believes What It Hears Most — What Are We Teaching It About Safety?
There’s a reason children learn the alphabet through songs. There’s a reason faith traditions chant.
There’s a reason we remember “I have a dream. [...]
Your Body Knows the Truth: Letting Survivors Define Abuse and Violation
You are seen. You are heard.
Survivors are speaking in this moment.And when they speak, something important shifts.
Not toward labels.
Not toward d [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torches were males of all 'identities'. Who ev [...]
Future-Proofing Your Mind in an Unpredictable World
From guest contributor Jonathan Garner/shamekills.info. This blog post contains affiliate links. If you click on these links and make a purchase, [...]
When Silence is Taught, Suffering is Inherited: How Childhood Conditioning Sets the Stage for Abuse
Some lessons aren’t written in books.Some are taught in the hush of a disappointed glance, a side eye when you spoke up, punishment for being a natura [...]
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Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with power.Fed with protection.Fed with the benefit of the doubt.
But it wasn’t me. [...]
🌿 What Is Healing?
I'm a plant Mom again. I didn't realize I was sensitive about it until I sent one of my relatives pictures of my plants. She didn't say anythin [...]
How Many Warnings Does It Take Before We Protect Women Like Sonya Massey?
You know what?
We can’t afford to look at these cases as “isolated incidents.”
We’ve got to look at patterns. Because what happened to Sonya Mass [...]