When HR Doesnât Protect You: What Survivors Deserve to Know
Human Resources (HR) is often unreliable for sexual harassment victimsâespecially in systems where protecting the organization takes priority over pro [...]
When They Say Speaking About Racism is the Problem: The Same Old Victim-Blaming Playbook
There is a pattern.
A Survivor of abuse speaks up, and the world responds: "Why now?"
"Youâre just being divisive."
"Talking about it [...]
Misogynist Gaslighting: The Reversal That Keeps Women Unsafe
Misogynist gaslighting is not just individual.It's systemic, strategic, and silencing.
Hereâs how it worksâover and over again: 1. Women Set Bound [...]
Affirmations for Strength and Boundaries Around Black Women’s Humanity: Rooted in Baldwinâs Wisdom
"We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression
and denial of my humanity and right to exist."
-Jame [...]
Why Truth Is What Finally Sets Survivors Free After Abuse
Truth is still in the business of setting people free. People often misunderstand what happens when a woman calls a domestic violence hotline [...]
đŻ Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understandâthey're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
12 Things It Is Not Womenâs Job to Fix
updated from July 11, 2025 â Especially When Weâre Still Doing Most of the Work for Less Pay This piece honors the fact that women perform a [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truthsâlike what it means to be a womanâare being rewritten, not by science or [...]
When Disability and Blackness Meet: Over 25 Times When Grace Was Denied To Disabled Black People
There is a quiet cruelty that rarely gets named plainly. It lives in the space where Blackness and disability intersect. It shows up not only in drama [...]
Respecting Black Women’s Hair: Embracing Autonomy and Wellness
We don't often speak about the impact that trauma has on hair. Maybe we should. Throughout my healing journey, my hair has told on me. And the women a [...]
What Does It Cost to Constantly Prove You Know Your Own Life?
It costs energyâthe kind your body needs to rest and repair.
It costs peaceâthe quiet that allows your nervous system to settle.
It costs trustâin y [...]
Women Are Not Required to Be Available
No one could have predicted how this year would end. It bent sharply. Again and again.
Just when people thought they understood the terrain, t [...]
Youâre Not Her Judge. Youâre Not Even Helpful.
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The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivorâs choices is the same as offering help.Itâs not. [...]
Keeping Children Safe in School: Body Safety
Learning from the Loudon County Tragedy (updated) | WE Survive Abuse WE Can't Afford to Repeat the Mistakes of (PIE) Paedophile Information E [...]
Black Pride Is Not a Mask for Violence
We talk a lot about Black pride.We wear it.We speak it.We teach it to our childrenâso they walk with their heads high in a world that too often trie [...]
Your Body Knows the Truth: Letting Survivors Define Abuse and Violation
You are seen. You are heard.
Survivors are speaking in this moment.And when they speak, something important shifts.
Not toward labels.
Not toward d [...]
13 Powerful Truths About Womanism: A Pathway to Liberation, Healing, and Community
When people ask why I embrace Womanism, I say this: It tells the whole truth. It acknowledges what many of us already know in our bonesâour survival [...]
The Healing Isnât in the Headlines. Itâs in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
Love Doesnât Mean Lying: I Can Respect You and Still Speak the Truth
If you think I have to choose between truth and respect,You underestimate the power of both.
See, real love doesn't demand silence.Real respect doesn [...]
Your Mind is Your Strongest WeaponâKeep It Sharp, Keep It Healed
Self-mastery is the foundation of the most powerful and effective advocacy.
Survivor, before you fight for others, before you take on the weight of t [...]
When Niceness Becomes a Trap: Why Women Deserve the Bottom Line, Not Confusion
Women are often encouraged to be kind, accommodating, flexible, and understanding â even when our safety is at stake. We are told to âbe nice.â We are [...]
Itâs Not Just in Your Head: Trauma, Migraines, and the Truth About Pain
Youâve been told your migraines are emotional.âJust relax,â they say.But your head doesnât pound from willful choice.It pounds because your bo [...]
50 Times We Walked Past YouâOur Hair Not to Your Liking, But We Were Dying Inside
updated March 27, 2025
You saw our hair.
Not our fear.Not our exhaustion.Not our grief.Not our pain.
Just our hair.
You formed opinions. Y [...]
Protecting Our Children: Essential Questions for Background Checks on Adults Working with Children
Lessons WE Should Have Learned from School Volunteer Deonte Carraway | WE Survive Abuse"Familiar" or "Known": The Fine Line Between Acquaintan [...]
Why Abuse Leaves You with Chronic Self-Doubt
And Why That Doesnât Mean Youâre Broken
Thereâs something few people talk about after abuse ends:The way self-doubt clings to you like a second ski [...]
The Fable of the Flame that Would Not Bow: The Importance of Help Seeking Language in Troubled Times
Discouragement is part of the battle. It always has been. But defeatist language can become dangerous when it stops people from seeking help, making p [...]
What the Data Doesnât SayâBut Survivors KNOW
Source:Â U.S. Sentencing Commission, FY 2024 Datafile,
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Quick Facts at a Glance Almost all offenders are men [...]
6 Ways Asking for Help Enriches Your Life
I realize that in our society, it is almost fashionable to come down on someone in need. Unfortunately, this keeps millions upon milli [...]
The âDying Aloneâ Myth: A Fear Tactic to Control Women
One of the most persistent, tired myths used to scare women into compliance is the idea that if we follow feminism, womanism, or choose to remain un [...]
She Lied to Herself First: How Women Protect Harmful MenâAnd Turn on Other Women
Thereâs a quiet lie that echoes through many womenâs lives.A lie whispered in silence. Repeated in prayer. Spoken with eyes closed tight.
It goes s [...]
What the Olympic Boxing Debate Really Reveals About Gender, Power & Responsibility
updated 2025
You know what truly angers and frustrates me about this Olympic boxing issue?
Itâs not just the debateâitâs the pattern.
Whenever th [...]