📢 Boundaries Are My Vitamins—And I Take Them Daily
You ever been around somebody who drains your energy just by texting “hey”?Yeah. That’s why I take my Boundaries Supplement every morning—no water n [...]
When the Help Hurts: Understanding Institutional Betrayal
There is a special kind of pain that comes when the place you turned to for help becomes the source of another wound.That is institutional betrayal — [...]
🛑 Stop Saying “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far to Abuse Women
Please stop telling Survivors that "men wouldn’t go through the trouble of dressing up as women just to abuse women."
We’ve heard it too many times [...]
Don’t Be Fooled: Giving Away Your Rights Isn’t Liberation
They told you it was clever.Told you it was edgy.Told you it was revolutionary.
But let’s talk about what it really is when you hand over your righ [...]
When HR Doesn’t Protect You: What Survivors Deserve to Know
Human Resources (HR) is often unreliable for sexual harassment victims—especially in systems where protecting the organization takes priority over pro [...]
Why Did Our Grandmothers Have So Many Children — and Why It Wasn’t About Sex or Desire
Alright — let’s tell the truth with love and with fire.
When people today look back at photos of our grandmothers and great-grandmothers — surround [...]
Rosa Parks: A Stealth Strategist Against Deceit, Manipulation, and Violence
updated from January 6, 2025 with new links and information
Let's be honest, the word "gaslighting" gets thrown around a lot these days. But for thos [...]
Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, she is shamed. Other women tell her she’s “overreacting,” “paranoid,” or “making [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
How to Support Lesbian Friends in Abusive Relationships
As an advocate, you become familiar with the careful way that a woman tells you her story. She's testing your waters. Are you safe? Are you judgment [...]
Stop Calling It ‘Inclusion’ If You Aren’t Providing ‘Safety’ for ALL
"Institutionally, we still don't understand what inclusion means. Just because you invite someone into a space, but you don't provide the necessary re [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language. Too often, th [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated after they speak out.
It doesn’t always look like disbelief.It doesn’t always look [...]
Dr. Tracey Marks: Why Self-Love Has Nothing to Do with Confidence
Chapters 0:00 – Caring relationships that still feel distant 0:18 – Why this isn’t a mindset or self-esteem problem 0:31 – The self-love circuit and n [...]
Unloving the People We’re Told to Never Give Up On
“But That’s Your Family…”
There’s a sacred pain that often goes unnamed.The kind of pain that comes from realizing that someone you are related to [...]
When Male Pain Is Exploited, Women and Children Pay the Price
A woman named Poinsettia Grant-Parks was preparing to move in with her sister—just two days away from escaping a stalker and abusive ex-boyfriend. Sh [...]
Performative Allyship: When the Applause Is Louder Than the Protection
There’s a kind of allyship that shows up only when the lights are on.When there's an audience.When speaking up will gain applause, followers, or favor [...]
Your Opinion Is Not Protection
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s get something straight:
Your opinion about how she should’ve escaped, how fast she should’ve healed, how she should’ve ta [...]
Before Social Media, Women Told Stories—Did We Forget How to Listen?
Before critique culture.Before hot takes. Before performance listening.Before everyone felt required to respond.
Women told stories.And other [...]
🛑 They Hate Questions. That’s the Red Flag.
Manipulators. Abusers. Tyrants.They don’t like questions.They don’t like debate. They do not want to be challenged.Because questions open the doo [...]
🛑 What Is a Boundary? (And Why It’s Not a Punishment)
A boundary is not a wall to keep people out.It is a door that you control.You decide who gets to come in, how long they stay, and what kind of energy [...]
Children Deserve Truth—And They Deserve Protection Too
In the wake of the Supreme Court decision regarding parental rights and LGBTQ+ curriculum opt-outs, many of us find ourselves sitting with complex emo [...]
Beliefs vs. Facts: A Roadblock to Women’s Rights
Belief vs. Fact — What’s the Difference?
1. What is a Belief?
Definition: A personal conviction, opinion, or interpretation that someone accep [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first? “The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
Survivor Q & A: What Do You Mean by “Sacred Castes” in Violence & Abuse? (video)
updated 2025
Below are 10 signs of a “sacred caste”—a group, ideology, or identity that becomes exempt from criticism, even when doing harm [...]
🕊️ The Sisterhood Gag Order
When protecting him means punishing her.
Some women aren’t silenced by men.They’re silenced by other women.
Not with fists.But with sideways glances [...]
🌍 When People Say “No” — And Mean It
Recently, a young YouTuber was arrested after sneaking onto North Sentinel Island, home to the Sentinelese—one of the last uncontacted peoples on Ea [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of “inclusion” to force girls to surrender their safe spaces, they are no [...]
Justice for All: The Overlapping Paths of DEI and Disability Rights (Updated w/related links)
We need RIGHTS—not just kindness.
Because while kindness is beautiful, it is not dependable policy.
And when it comes to protecting your children, [...]
The Healing Isn’t in the Headlines. It’s in the Listening
There is a rhythm that the media loves:Shock. Outrage. Silence.A Survivor comes forward.The story catches fire.It lands in headlines, hashtags, and tr [...]
10 Ways Society Trains Women to Doubt Their Own Safety Instincts
Many women can remember a moment when their instincts spoke clearly. A feeling in the stomach.
A tightening in the chest.
A quiet inner voice say [...]