🎬 We’re Not Just Watching the Story—We’re Being Told Who We’re Allowed to Be
At We Survive Abuse, we talk a lot about truth, survival, and the power of reclaiming your story. But what if I told you that even the stories we wa [...]
🌿 What Is Healing?
I'm a plant Mom again. I didn't realize I was sensitive about it until I sent one of my relatives pictures of my plants.She didn't say anythin [...]
Disrespect Is Not a Small Thing—It’s a Pattern, a Wound, and a Warning (Quotes)
Disrespect is more than just “rudeness.”It is a dehumanizing act—a subtle (or loud) reminder that someone sees you as less than.Less worthy.Less human [...]
Please Stop Signaling Support to Grown Men Accused of Harming Children
Start Showing Up for the People Who Need It Most
When someone is arrested for harming a child,we do not need adults jumping online or into rooms to s [...]
🛑 What Is a Boundary? (And Why It’s Not a Punishment)
A boundary is not a wall to keep people out.It is a door that you control.You decide who gets to come in, how long they stay, and what kind of energy [...]
Unveiling the Truth: Why Women’s Bathroom Rights Matter
When I was a kid, the cartoon Quickdraw McGraw was a must-watch retro cartoon. At 36 seconds you can hear Quickdraw say one of his signatur [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
Sometimes Survivors speak in whispers.Sometimes in long pauses, in shaking hands, in misplaced laughter.Sometimes… not at all.
But let me tell you so [...]
Your Mind is Your Strongest Weapon—Keep It Sharp, Keep It Healed
Self-mastery is the foundation of the most powerful and effective advocacy.
Survivor, before you fight for others, before you take on the weight of t [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the intersection of culture, medicine, and power. And in that intersection, those of us w [...]
Sexual Violence Against Black Males: No Video, No Witnesses, and It IS Killing Them
updated from original post on 12/15/2015So last night I Twitter watched one of my favorite shows. A true crime show. You c [...]
Please Stop Telling Survivors, “Men Wouldn’t Go That Far.” History Says Otherwise.
updated from March 24 2025 Interesting fact:
Before his murders were discovered, Bundy did volunteer at a suicide crisis hotline in [...]
It’s Not About Tradition, It’s About Freedom: The Power of Dropping a Name That No Longer Fits
Last names are deeply personal women who live through violence, abuse, or attack. It should remain that way. Personal. Even when she chooses to reveal [...]
Women in the West Are Being Emotionally Abused And We Can’t Keep Standing for It
Globally, we are in an abusive relationship with males. As a domestic violence advocate, some of the most difficult calls and court c [...]
Why Black Women Stay So Careful When We Are in Distress
It shattered me that as Cherrie Moore was being punched in the face by a maniacal madman police officer, she was trying to reassure and co [...]
Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Can’t Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
The Truth We Don’t Want to See About Trauma and the Body
Meeting men and women in their final years teaches you something—something that cuts right through the polite praise we give people for not having an [...]
🌿 Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivors—from all walks of life—should know this:
many Survivors are people of faith.Not all. But many.Some draw stre [...]
Who Protects the Women Whose Stories Don’t Trend
The work of women's safety, women's rights, women's liberation and women's healing is not a music and entertainment battle.When our movements turn [...]
Beyond the Theory: Why We Still Need Audre Lorde, Our Warrior Poet
There are moments that reveal to you exactly who you are and why you better be clear about it all.
There is a specific kind of exhaustion that comes [...]
It’s Not Just in Your Head: Trauma, Migraines, and the Truth About Pain
You’ve been told your migraines are emotional.“Just relax,” they say.But your head doesn’t pound from willful choice.It pounds because your bo [...]
Dr. Angella Dorothea Ferguson: The Woman Who Refused to Let Sickle Cell Patients Be Forgotten
Calling Things by Their Proper Name: Honoring Dr. Angella Dorothea Ferguson
“The beginning of wisdom is to call things by their proper name.” [...]
Red Flags: Why Do Some People Refuse to Challenge Systems of Harm — and What Does that Reveal About Them?
Women’s safety movements grew from necessity — from the silences of law, the blind spots of culture, and the cruelty of normalized harm. Every woman l [...]
Are You Sure That You Are Listening to Women and Girls? (audio & blog post)
In this world where misogyny and sexism runs rampant, even fellow women may need continued education on simply listening to the concerns of women and [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
Affirmations for Strength and Boundaries Around Black Women’s Humanity: Rooted in Baldwin’s Wisdom
"We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression
and denial of my humanity and right to exist."
-Jame [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If you've ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting [...]
Remembering the Women Silenced by Political Violence in America (w/womanist film recommendations)
💡 Pattern to Notice:Most of these women were killed not just for themselves but because they stood between power and the vulnerable—protecting m [...]
🛑 Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beauty—but not our justice.
They say they care about Black women.
They post our photos.Quote our hero [...]
The Overlooked History of Black Disabled Lives: Survival, Misunderstanding, and Strength
As a Black woman who has struggled with a health condition that is limiting, and has worked in the professional serving capacity for people with disab [...]
Why Must We Carry Everyone? The Heavy Expectation Placed on Black Women’s Healing
She wasn’t just expected to heal. She was expected to heal everyone around her too—without flinching, without resting, without breaking.”Why i [...]
An Infographic Explanation of the Word “No” (infographic) w/ audio
🚩Because people who can't take "no" for an answer aren't known to be the safest people to keep company with.Teen Version Because grown men wh [...]