Why Manipulators Pretend to Share Your Values (Even When They Don’t)
Some people don’t believe in your mission, your healing, or your values.They just learn to sound like they do—because it gets them something.
Here’ [...]
Protecting Our Children: Essential Questions for Background Checks on Adults Working with Children
Lessons WE Should Have Learned from School Volunteer Deonte Carraway | WE Survive Abuse"Familiar" or "Known": The Fine Line Between Acquaintan [...]
Green Flag: Safe Adult Males Stay Out of Female Spaces and Advocate for It
Miss us entirely with all of your hurdles for women to clear demonstrating that we can "be kind" in a world does nothing to make this world safer for [...]
10 Rights Every Child Deserves Without Compromise
Children Have the Right to Set the Following Boundaries: Bodily Autonomy: They have the right to say “no” to unwanted touch or affection, even [...]
When “Nothing Will Happen” Isn’t a Safety Plan: Asking About Real Safeguards
“If your confidence turns out to be misplaced, what protections exist for the people expected to absorb the consequences?” When certainty replaces [...]
💔 When the Weight Is More Than Weight: Understanding the Link Between Trauma and Body Size
I know. This is sensitive territory. This is my battle too.
As a Survivor, I know how heartless, cruel, and unkind people can be to those [...]
🎶 Playlist: Songs That Speak the Truth — Domestic Violence & Survival
Sometimes music is the only thing brave enough to say what we’ve been through.
This playlist brings together 11 songs across R&B, soul, pop, and [...]
Weaponized Witnessing: When They Watch You Fall, But Never Help You Rise
There’s a kind of watching that doesn’t come from love.A kind of watching that waits for you to stumble—not to catch you,but to collect the footage. [...]
Some of Us Refuse To Walk Back into Bondage Dressed as Progress
Some folks treat danger like it’s a dare.They treat survival like it’s a thrill.They treat oppression like it’s a rollercoaster ride—they want to hop [...]
30 Things You Can Do Right Now to Support Domestic Violence Survivors in the U.S.
If you’re heartbroken, angry, or tired of seeing Survivors harmed, silenced, or shamed—you are not alone.But feelings aren’t enough. Survivors need [...]
A Society That Centers Harmful Males Will Never Have Trust—And It Doesn’t Deserve It
Trust is not a gift.Trust is built.Earned.Sustained through action, protection, and accountability.
But what happens when a society builds its laws [...]
Unloving the People We’re Told to Never Give Up On
“But That’s Your Family…”
There’s a sacred pain that often goes unnamed.The kind of pain that comes from realizing that someone you are related to [...]
You Shrink So Others Don’t Feel Threatened
But What Happens When You Stop?
The Sign:You minimize your gifts, your pain, your truth—because you’ve been told your full presence makes people unco [...]
Mirror Reflections: How What We Don’t Know About Suicide is Killing People
updated from 7/1/2015
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides wer [...]
Why It’s Wrong to Call Women “Hateful” for Demanding Safety
When Black and Indigenous Women Are Called “Hateful” for Demanding Safety
For centuries, whenever Black and Indigenous women raised their voices fo [...]
Women in the West Are Being Emotionally Abused And We Can’t Keep Standing for It
Globally, we are in an abusive relationship with males. As a domestic violence advocate, some of the most difficult calls and court c [...]
How to Know You’re Not Safe—Even If No One’s Hitting You
(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs)
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this really abuse?” or told yourself, “At least they’re not hitting me,”—you’ [...]
It’s Not About Tradition, It’s About Freedom: The Power of Dropping a Name That No Longer Fits
Last names are deeply personal women who live through violence, abuse, or attack. It should remain that way. Personal. Even when she chooses to reveal [...]
No One is Like Us. Women Fight Differently
Women fight differently.
When the Taliban ordered Afghan women not to sing,they sang anyway.Soft, loud, hidden, public — they sang their existence [...]
His Truth Does Not Need a Permission Slip — Even When It Makes People Squirm
This post is dedicated to James Ransone, who died by suicide two weeks after this was written.
James spoke openly about being violated by a tutor in [...]
When the Truth Ain’t Enough, They Spread Lies: How Rumors Were Used to Silence Civil Rights Women
They built movements.They led revolutions against wrongs, violence, and abuse they never should have to deal with.And when that wasn’t enough [...]
‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same pattern: minimization, denial, and reve [...]
24 Facts About Genocide: How Women Across Generations and Nations Have Been Targeted in Genocide
When a group has been treated as property, their boundaries are never automatically recognized
—they have to be asserted, defended, and reasserted ac [...]
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed the truth to protect someone else's comfort:You are not late.You are not wrong. [...]
Healing Hurts—and It Hurts for a Long Time
Everyone wants to talk about healing like it’s a tidy process.A quick fix.A checklist.A makeover.
But here’s the truth Survivors know too well: [...]
When Struggling People Are Called “Capitalists”: The Manipulation Behind a Cruel and Convenient Lie
The Manipulation Behind a Cruel and Convenient Lie
There is a quiet cruelty in accusing poor and marginalized people of being “capitalists.”
It soun [...]
When the Help Hurts: Understanding Institutional Betrayal
There is a special kind of pain that comes when the place you turned to for help becomes the source of another wound.That is institutional betrayal — [...]
Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, it leaves too much room for people to hide intent, to blur goals, to claim the [...]
Healing When Your Abuser Is Still Welcome at the Table
The betrayal no one wants to talk about—but every Survivor remembers. There’s a kind of betrayal that lives in the silence.In the sideways glan [...]
We Are Not Meant to Disappear Inside Someone Else’s Reflection
There is a quiet war being waged on selfhood.A thousand little whispers telling women—and especially Black women, Indigenous women, and other [...]
10 Dangerous Beliefs That Have Harmed Women Around the World
Some lies don’t look like lies.They wear the clothing of “tradition,” “culture,” “love,” or “femininity.”But if you look closer, you’ll see the brui [...]
Performative Allyship: When the Applause Is Louder Than the Protection
There’s a kind of allyship that shows up only when the lights are on.When there's an audience.When speaking up will gain applause, followers, or favor [...]