When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Surviv [...]
They Want Us to Give Up “Mother” While Rapists Keep “Father”
"Will a highly neutral parentage framework be sensitive enough to recognize unequal power, violence, coercion, reproductive abuse, and sexual [...]
9 Dangerous Myths About Violence Against Women and Children
Violence against women and children is a pervasive issue, often perpetuated by misconceptions that downplay its severity and prevalence. Recognizing [...]
Believe in What Believes in You.
Why spend your precious energy trying to prove your humanity to systems, circles, or people who have already decided they don’t see you? That they don [...]
The Fable of the Flame that Would Not Bow: The Importance of Help Seeking Language in Troubled Times
Discouragement is part of the battle. It always has been. But defeatist language can become dangerous when it stops people from seeking help, making p [...]
Unloving the People We’re Told to Never Give Up On
“But That’s Your Family…”
There’s a sacred pain that often goes unnamed.The kind of pain that comes from realizing that someone you are related to [...]
Who Protects the Women Whose Stories Don’t Trend
The work of women's safety, women's rights, women's liberation and women's healing is not a music and entertainment battle.When our movements turn [...]
🚧 9 Signs You’re Dealing with a Stonewaller
And Why That’s Not Your Fault[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Stonewalling is one of the most soul-draining tactics used in abusive relationships. It’s when so [...]
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12 Things Women Have Always Been Told Don’t Matter—But Actually Matter Deeply
We talk about domestic and sexual violence with so much more ease now-not enough but we are not who we used to be- it is easy to forget the road that [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If you've ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red [...]
🔥 Black Women Didn’t Just Get Here—We Dragged Ourselves Through Fire to Arrive
You may have heard it said:“Black women are the most educated group in America.”
And while that phrase is often used to uplift and celebrate, it dese [...]
Putting an End to Useless Debate: Listening to the Voices of Violence Survivors
Over the years, society has been engaged in countless debates surrounding issues such as violence, abuse, and discrimination. While these discuss [...]
Public Humiliation Is Not Entertainment: How Shame Becomes a Tool of Control
“Don’t let folks play in your face.”-Black Proverb
Public humiliation is often dismissed as personality conflict, humor, or spectacle.
But humiliati [...]
When Niceness Becomes a Trap: Why Women Deserve the Bottom Line, Not Confusion
Women are often encouraged to be kind, accommodating, flexible, and understanding — even when our safety is at stake. We are told to “be nice.” We are [...]
You Cannot Punish Women for Protecting Themselves from Male Violence Against Women
You cannot name male violence as a danger for one group and then punish another group for protecting themselves from the same danger. That i [...]
🌱 If Stress Can Shrink Your Brain, Can Healing Grow It Back?
For years, people thought that once trauma reshaped the brain, the damage was permanent. But we now know the truth: the brain is alive, adaptable, and [...]
“She Was No Angel” — But What If She Was Hurting?
People say it like a verdict.
“She was no angel.”
But I’ve sat across from women others were quick to throw away. Once they started speaking and t [...]
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements Survivors Should Recognize and Trust Their Gut About
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements
“I’m going to get help—just give me a little more time.”Used to delay accountability and stop the Survivor [...]
🔥 Self-Sourced Power: When the World Won’t Crown You, You Crown Yourself
There comes a time in the life of every Survivor, every truth-teller, every woman who’s been underestimated, overlooked, or left to fend for herself—w [...]
They Weren’t Just Controlling—They Were Consuming
Survivors often face: the coercion to disappear inside someone else’s reflection.
Some people weren’t looking for love.They were looking for someon [...]
When Human Resources Protects Power, Not People: What the Sean Combs Case Reveals
The trial against music mogul Sean Combs is not just about one man’s alleged abuse—it is about the systems that allowed it to persist for deca [...]
Dr. Angella Dorothea Ferguson: The Woman Who Refused to Let Sickle Cell Patients Be Forgotten
Calling Things by Their Proper Name: Honoring Dr. Angella Dorothea Ferguson
“The beginning of wisdom is to call things by their proper name.” [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themselves away.
What we are seeing—too often, and too [...]
Whispered Civil Rights Movement Secrets: Fannie Lou Hamer the Truth Teller
There are people—loud and determined—who would have you believe that the systemic rape of women of color ended with slavery.That is a lie. A har [...]
The Ancient Words of Womanhood: Feminine Power Before ‘Femininity’
Know this: Long before present day calls for women to embrace our power,
women have been embracing our birthright power!- Tonya GJ Prince
In toda [...]
The Economist: Why Nations that Fail Women FAIL
Please do not watch this pretend that the West is exempt or any political party is "different". It is 2025 and no group of males is doing well at list [...]
Part 2: Why I Resist Diluted Language
But self-knowledgeBut self-knowledgeThe reason I refuse diluted language is because I have watched institutions dilute women's experiences f [...]
Rejection in Dating: Why Learning to Accept “No” Is Essential for Healthy Relationships
Dating is not a promise of access. It is a process of discovering mutual interest, compatibility, and trust. Understanding rejection is part of buildi [...]
We Will Never Have a Safer World If We Don’t Treat Survivors with Respect
We keep saying we want a safer world. blah, blah, blahBut we will never get there until we demand that society do better and be better toward Surviv [...]