When “I’ll Kill Myself If You Leave” Becomes Abuse: 15 Things Women Need to Know About Suicide Threats and Emotional Blackmail
updated from November 18 2024Helping a woman put herself first becomes much harder when the person hurting her repeatedly threatens to end his lif [...]
🚨 The Women Who Climbed the Ladder Are Now Pulling It Up Behind Them
Truth does not become false because it becomes unpopular. And the truth is, as proud as we are of some of these women for how they climbed the ladder. [...]
The World Loves Powerful Men. Even When They’re Violent.
Let’s tell the truth today.
The world loves powerful men. Even when they’re violent.Especially when they’re violent.
It doesn’t matter if he’s a c [...]
🧨 The Dangerous Oversight in Some “Alternative Justice” Conversations
In the push for restorative or alternative justice, one painful reality is too often left behind:
👉🏾 Victims have a right to safety.
Not imagined [...]
American Greed: Inside The Episode with Jenifer Lewis | CNBC Prime
You can do everything right and still meet people whose only plan for you is deception, manipulation, and harm. I loved watching how Jenifer Lewis han [...]
✊🏾 First, We Fight for Our Safety.
Then, We Fight for Our Story.(And We Are Tired.)
She survived.That should be enough.But it never is.
Because first, women have to fight for our safe [...]
When He Won’t Pay the Bills: The Financial Abuse People Miss
Financial abuse doesn’t always look like taking money. Sometimes it looks like refusing to carry your part—knowing the damage will fall on her and you [...]
“She Went Off”: Why Women Are Expected to Stay Calm While Being Violated
Every time a woman raises her voice about a violation, someone appears — online, in the comments, in the community — to say:
“She went off.”“She over [...]
Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Can’t Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the story to sound softer than it was—it’s easy for outsiders to say:
“Why [...]
Red Flag #1: If They Won’t Let You Have Privacy, They Don’t See You as Human
When Privacy Is Forbidden—It’s a Deadly Warning
Some people believe that their partners, children, or family members do not deserve privacy. That bel [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve always existed.But for too long, they’ve been shamed into silence.Dismissed. Moc [...]
“Why Do Her Posts Always Seem to Reassure Men, Not Women?”
updated from Dec. 13 2025First of all, before I say anything else, for your own survival, believe her. You are growing awareness of who benefits f [...]
10 Signs You’re Being Asked to Tolerate the Intolerable
adjusting.being understanding.keeping the peace.
repeat.
Your cheek muscles hurt from smiling so much to keep others "comfortable".
And then.....on [...]
Surviving Abuse Daily: Vintage Sexist Ads
updated from June 24, 2022
A Grounding Perspective
Looking back visually can feel startling because images bypass intellectual defenses. They speak [...]
10 Signs You’re Being Dehumanized—Even by People Who Say They Support You
This is a crucial question—because recognizing when you are being dehumanized is often the first step in reclaiming dignity, power, and bounda [...]
Let’s Talk About Social Coercion: When the World Pressures You to Be Who You’re Not
You ever feel like you're being nudged, guilted, or flat-out pushed into saying “yes” when your soul is screaming “no”?That’s not just pressure. That’ [...]
The Rules of Misogyny: A History of a Brilliant Internet List
This list is brilliant because it captures the messy truth so succinctly.This list is usually credited to a second-wave feminist who goes by the o [...]
The Harrowing Murder of Olivia Jones | Killers Caught On Camera
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRKZ9tddZrk&t=87sThe surveillance cameras that he posted in the home helped to convict him of her murder. They [...]
I Wish You No Harm—But This Doesn’t Work for Me: The Truth About Women’s Boundaries
There is this strange, deeply embedded belief that in order for a woman or girl to be considered a "good person" she must sacrifice her safety for men [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once:“The first time he raised his voice again, I knew.”Her friend asked, “How could you know? Maybe he was just upset.”
[...]
Why Some Survivors Are Alarmed by the Push to Redefine Womanhood as An Aesthetic
It is harder to ignore now.
Some people noticed it earlier but now it is getting harder to ignore isn't it?
Across cultures, languages, and generati [...]
Black Truth-Telling on Violence Was Never the Problem
"I've never seen or heard of anything like this!" Black people have been telling the truth about violence for a long time.N [...]
10 Reasons Why “Not This Person” Fails Women Every Time
People who shut their eyes to reality simply invite their own destruction,
and anyone who insists on remaining in a state of
innocence long after th [...]
When the Help Hurts: Understanding Institutional Betrayal
There is a special kind of pain that comes when the place you turned to for help becomes the source of another wound.That is institutional betrayal — [...]
What Is a Rape Apologist?
People catch on to the fact that victims get blamed and no one tells men to stop harming women and girls. Ever. -Tonya GJ Prince
A rape apologist i [...]
If You Don’t Name It, You Can’t Protect It
*Note: This horrifying and tragic Dominican Republic story came to my attention because of white adult human females who identify as feminists. From t [...]
13 Things Black Men Could Be Using Their Mics to Talk About
updated from November 25, 2025Staying informed is an act of power.Because once you see how the system works, you stop begging for fairness and [...]
Women Are Losing Ground: 13 Alarming Signs Life Is Getting More Dangerous for Women and Girls (w TikTok video)
There is wisdom in women noticing when something is changing before everyone else is willing to name it.
There is something deeply wrong when women [...]
The Performance of Ignorance: How Men Pretend Sexual Violence Is News.
There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subject turns to sexual violence—an amnesia so convenient, so well-practiced, it deser [...]
Don’t Say You’re in Our Corner—Fight Like It
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in my corner—fight like it.Don’t post slogans and [...]
🛑 Women’s Safety Is Not Up for Debate: On Pressure, Autonomy, and Male Violence
We know that society still expects women to protect men’s reputations—
especially when those men are climbing the ladder of power.
Even if preservi [...]
When Women Excuse Violence, Everyone Pays: The High Cost of Ignoring Abuse
In politics, too many women of privilege in America give violent men a pass.
They vote for them.
They praise them.
They scold other women for not l [...]
Gaslighting with a Grin: What Covert Bullying Really Looks Like
What Is Covert Bullying?
The Abuse You Can’t Always See
Not all bullying looks like yelling, pushing, or name-calling.Some of the most damaging harm [...]
Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
He raped her with his maleness, and now that he is in court (that in itself is a miracle because very few rapists are ever prosecuted), no one can ack [...]
🎶 Playlist: Songs That Speak the Truth — Domestic Violence & Survival
Sometimes music is the only thing brave enough to say what we’ve been through.
This playlist brings together 11 songs across R&B, soul, pop, and [...]
Who Decided Black Women Weren’t Feminine?
A movement does not become more compassionate by asking the vulnerable to become invisible. True justice makes more room without removing the people w [...]
The Disposability of the “Wrong” Women: A Call to Conscience (w/Affirmations)
There is a silence that wraps itself around certain women like a shroud—thick, suffocating, strategic.
It’s the silence reserved for women who are p [...]
📵 Why So Many Social Media Platforms Are Against Naming Harm
Let’s tell the truth:Most major social media platforms are not safe spaces for truth-tellers.Especially when that truth involves naming abuse, calling [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of “inclusion” to force girls to surrender their safe spaces, they are no [...]
The Conversation That Keeps Missing the Point on Violence Against Women
People direct public anger toward groups that may have hurt or failed them. That reaction is human. But it can stop the conversation at the surface.
[...]
Misogynist Gaslighting: The Reversal That Keeps Women Unsafe
Misogynist gaslighting is not just individual.It's systemic, strategic, and silencing.
Here’s how it works—over and over again:1. Women Set Bound [...]
When Is a Woman’s “No” Not Considered a Form of Hate?
Her name was Marzieh Nieri. She was 23 years old.Marzieh said she fought back when a man attempted to sexually assault her. The man died from his [...]
Money, Morality, and Misunderstanding: Why Women Must See Clearly
Sometimes we align with people because we believe we share values.But values that haven’t been tested by deprivation often lack depth.
Women [...]
Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money.She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the person who hurts you.
It’s the people who stay quiet.
It’s the family who says,“Do [...]
When Words Are Used to Control You: Everyday Red Flags People Miss
✦ by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Not all control looks like yelling, threats, or bruises.Sometimes, it shows up in the words you're allowed to use—or forbidde [...]
⭐ Signs Black Women Describe When They’re Being Treated Poorly During Pregnancy
These stories in the news around Black maternal health always hit home for me. I have publicly shared my pregnancy ordeal and how horrible racism is [...]
If Women Are ‘Imagining It,’ Why Is Someone Making Money From It?
It’s wild how quickly the world silences women.The minute a woman says she’s uncomfortable, cautious, or afraid, people look at her like she’s exagger [...]
10 Reasons Men Invading Women’s Spaces—No Matter How They Identify—Is Abusive, Misogynistic, Gynophobic, and Sexist
Women’s spaces exist for safety, healing, solidarity, and empowerment—yet, men demanding access to these spaces is a continuation of male entitlement, [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themselves away.
What we are seeing—too often, and too [...]
The Modern Levittown May Have an Office Door
A door can be legally open while everyone inside is still trying to make you leave.Something about the story of Levittown refuses to stay in 1957. [...]
Why Are Women’s Demands for Boundaries and Safe Spaces Being Compared to Segregation?
Too many women—especially monitored, poor, rural, disabled, and older women—do not have easy access to digital spaces. And many who do are walking awa [...]
“Why Are Women Still Told to Have Faith in Men Who ‘Rebrand’ Themselves?”
“If his change requires your suffering to prove it, it isn’t change — it’s another performance.”
— WeSurviveAbuse.com
Somehow, we allowed ourselve [...]
The Cost of Lying for Men: What Happens When Women Are Expected to “Protect Feelings” Instead of Tell the Truth
We’ve all seen it. Felt it. Been told to do it.
"Don't embarrass him."
"He's under a lot of stress.""Don’t ruin his life."
"It costs nothing to b [...]
Abuse Isn’t About Rage. It’s About Control.
👁️ See It ClearlyWatch who people protect — and who they hurt.
Watch who they challenge — and who they stay silent around.Women.
Children.
[...]
Red Flags: Why Do Some People Refuse to Challenge Systems of Harm — and What Does that Reveal About Them?
Women’s safety movements grew from necessity — from the silences of law, the blind spots of culture, and the cruelty of normalized harm. Every woman l [...]
A Woman-Centered Truth About FGM We Cannot Abandon (w/list of resource organizations)
updated from December 13, 2025
FGM victims’ fury as academics compare practice to cosmetic surgeryAny honest critique of global efforts t [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
When Men Define Womanhood: The Power, The Harm, and The Resistance
For centuries, men have claimed the authority to define what a woman is. From religious texts to medical books, from courtrooms to boardrooms, men hav [...]
🚫 Some of the Most Empowering Movements Still Require Women’s Submission
updated from June 9, 2025
Control doesn’t always disappear. Sometimes it evolves its language and waits for you to mistake it for freedom.
Let’s t [...]
I Don’t Need Graphic Pain to Know We Survive
✍🏽 By Tonya GJ Prince | WeSurviveAbuse.com
There’s a quiet knowing among many Survivors:We don’t need to be gutted open again to prove that we made i [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
“When a woman goes hungry, more than her body suffers — her dignity, her power, her future are all at risk. Food justice is more than feeding; it’s fr [...]
Weaponized Witnessing: When They Watch You Fall, But Never Help You Rise
There’s a kind of watching that doesn’t come from love.A kind of watching that waits for you to stumble—not to catch you,but to collect the footage. [...]
When a Woman Is Talking About Risk Are We Busy Handing Out Character References?: 11 Signs
updated from April 21, 2026
Her Fear Is Not Yours to Edit
The women and children whom society listens to the least suffer the most intense, [...]
When Men Encourage Boundary Violations, Women Pay the Price
updated from June 7 2025
Why It’s Wrong—And Sometimes Criminal—for Men to Overrule a Woman’s “No”
In every corner of society—online and offline—ther [...]
When Words and Actions Don’t Match: Why Women Must Trust What People Do, Not Just What They Say
For years now, a message has echoed across schools, workplaces, and social media campaigns:
Be kind.Be nicer.Be more understanding.Be m [...]
You Are Not Overreacting: The Truth About Racism and Dismissal (w/Affirmations)
“Being asked to ignore degradation is not an invitation to be strong. It is an invitation to disappear. And you were never meant to disappear.”
For S [...]
Why Women Must Stop Handing Power to Our Oppressors
Some of us have been told since girlhood that our main purpose in this life was to support men.To smile when they win.To clap for their rise.To smooth [...]
Your Opinion Is Not Protection
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s get something straight:
Your opinion about how she should’ve escaped, how fast she should’ve healed, how she should’ve ta [...]
Hate Makes the Mind Small: Freedom Lives in Openness
Hateful people say, "So you all are just these magical people walking around knowing everything hunh."
Sometimes...... we do not have the w [...]
13 Alarming Global Signs Life is Getting More Dangerous for Women and Girls (Audio/Podcast)
For generations, women fought to move the line forward: toward safety, freedom, education, economic independence, bodily autonomy, and the right to mo [...]
Don’t Share My Scars and Then Ask for My Help.
Let’s talk about something that happens all too often—especially to women, especially to Survivors.
Someone insults us.Mocks us.Lies about us.Disre [...]
Where “Bidirectional Abuse” Comes From and Why It Can Mislead People About Black Women
I was astonished that in a season where we had a string of Black femicides and people were asserting "bidirectional violence" on dead women that they [...]