10 Future Faking Abuse Statements Survivors Should Recognize and Trust Their Gut About
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements
“I’m going to get help—just give me a little more time.”Used to delay accountability and stop the Survivor [...]
When Women’s Values Are Tested: The Fight to Protect What’s Sacred
People who get confused about what is best for their own lives seem to spend an excessive amount of time telling women what is best for their lives. [...]
Grief That Echoes: Honoring the Women Amiri Baraka Lost to Violence
There are wounds that don’t stop bleeding just because the headlines fade.There are names that deserve to be spoken with reverence—not only in trage [...]
10 Hard Truths About Men Who Have Been Violent in Relationships
Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of future abuse is past abuse. Men who have harmed partners before are likely to re [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of “inclusion” to force girls to surrender their safe spaces, they are no [...]
How Changing Language Around Sex is Used to Undermine Women in Courtrooms
We live in an age of shifting language.A time when even the most basic truths—like what it means to be a woman—are being rewritten, not by science or [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If you've ever said:“I should’ve known.”“I felt something was off.”“I saw the red [...]
When Your Needs Go Unmet
There is a particular kind of heaviness that comes from pouring into everyone else’s needs while your own remain empty. It doesn’t happen all at once. [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
Disrespect Is Not a Small Thing—It’s a Pattern, a Wound, and a Warning (Quotes)
Disrespect is more than just “rudeness.”It is a dehumanizing act—a subtle (or loud) reminder that someone sees you as less than.Less worthy.Less human [...]
The Gish Gallop: When Overload Becomes a Weapon Against Survivors
There’s a tactic that shows up in debates, politics, in online videos, and—far too often—in the lives of Survivors. It’s called the Gish Gallop.
The [...]
❌ If You Can’t Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love, You’re Not in a Relationship—You’re Under Rule
There are relationships that look like love on the outside.They may even feel like love—sometimes.
But if your ability to tell the truth threatens [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
When Black Women Say No: The Punishment Is Public
"If I can’t have her love, I’ll go to war against her peace"
Some men don’t just move on when Black women say no.They retaliate.
They don’t just g [...]
If the Silencing Isn’t for Women or Children… Then Who Is It For?
Silence is powerful.
It can be sacred. Healing. Necessary for rest, prayer, and wisdom.
But when silence is demanded—not chosen—when it’s forced upo [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate speaking. It’s concern. It’s exhaustion. It’s survival language.Too often, th [...]
Sisterhood Isn’t a Cage: Reject the Love Bombs That Protect Male Violence
Some women will drench you in compliments, promises, and affection —not to celebrate you,not to empower you,but to disarm you.
They come smiling, arm [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the story to sound softer than it was—it’s easy for outsiders to say:
“Why [...]
Women Deserve Privacy, Safety, and Respect—Especially in Campus Athletics
Across campuses, colleges have a duty: to protect all students.
That includes the right to privacy, safety, and dignity—especially for young women [...]
🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into women’s spaces. That silence is the policy.”
🌾 1. The Hidden RealityAcross gyms [...]
🖤 It Isn’t Discipline. It’s Domination Disguised as a Lesson.
(Inspired by “How Abusers Place Themselves Above Accountability” — WeSurviveAbuse.com)
Racism often hides inside the language of lessons.It calls con [...]
The Divorce Was Inevitable: We Never Chose This Marriage
No one asked women anything.
People just kept telling women how they "ought to" and "must" feel.-TGJP
This is a very scary time for some women.Bec [...]
Instinct Is Not Ignorance. It’s Survival.
There’s something sacred about a warning call in the wild.
A rustle.A cry.A shift in the wind.The herd doesn’t debate.The birds don’t fact-check.The [...]
When White Women Say “Misogyny Is Older,” What’s Really Happening
That move is often about re-centering.When Black women name race and gender together, the response isn’t just disagreement—it’s [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who we’ [...]
✨ Survivor Affirmations for the Women Who’ve Held Their Tongue Far Too Long
Let’s be honest.
The people who critique dark-skinned Black women’s beauty?Often have deep gaps in their own appearance, character, and spirit that [...]
Why Are Women Still Expected to Risk Our Safety Just to Exercise?
Like so many Survivors of childhood sexual violence — and other forms of abuse — I live with chronic pain. Some days, it’s excruciating. But nearly [...]
⭐ Why I Resist Diluted Language Like “Birthing People”
There is a kind of language floating around today that sounds gentle on the surface — soft, neutral, inclusive. Words like:
“birthing people” [...]
Why Some Voices Are Punished for Asking the Right Questions-Even By Fellow Women
Updated from June 3, 2025
Speaking of a harmed woman's word is never good enough........ We WILL NOT be forgetting this.
We human beings are a fl [...]
“Why Do Her Posts Always Seem to Reassure Men, Not Women?”
First of all, before I say anything else, for your own survival, believe her. You are growing awareness of who benefits from these declarations.
When [...]
American Greed: Inside The Episode with Jenifer Lewis | CNBC Prime
You can do everything right and still meet people whose only plan for you is deception, manipulation, and harm. I loved watching how Jenifer Lewis han [...]