RED FLAGS

Let’s be honest. The people who critique dark-skinned Black women’s beauty?Often have deep gaps in their own appearance, character, and spirit that [...]

Let’s talk about something a lot of Survivors don’t even know has a name—but once you see it, you can’t unsee it. It’s called future faking.And it’ [...]

When we talk about Adriana Smith, especially online, we must remember: people around the world are entering this conversation from vastly different [...]

There is a silence that wraps itself around certain women like a shroud—thick, suffocating, strategic. It’s the silence reserved for women who are p [...]

I wasn't deeply familiar with this young woman prior to watching the Lifetime movie. I'm a bit out of her target age range. But being a teenager and t [...]

May you never again fall into the trap of using your labor for an individual or group who calls your worth into question by... Mocking your b [...]

In too many parts of the world—and even in the minds of too many people—rape inside of marriage is still not fully recognized as a crime. But here’ [...]

There have always been obstacles—but there have also always been real ones by our side, standing strong with us to rise above with them. It’s been [...]

When a domestic violence Survivor speaks out, everyone suddenly has something to say. “She should’ve left.”“Why didn’t she tell anyone?”“What did [...]

Fear-Based ManipulationDefinition: Using hypothetical threats or worst-case scenarios to control or limit a woman’s autonomy. It rarely sounds like [...]

Reasonable conversations require honesty, humility, and respect. But sometimes, you run into people who treat reality like an enemy. They don’t want t [...]

It is harder to ignore now. Some people noticed it earlier but now it is getting harder to ignore isn't it? Across cultures, languages, and generati [...]

Let’s talk about what we should be learning from these celebrity court cases—about abuse, about loyalty, and about truth. Time and again, we see wo [...]

This is how the rest of us end up in therapy for yearssss. Dealing with people who run to console, protect, and shield grown sturdy men and not hurtin [...]

The women and children who society listens to the least, suffer the most intense, torturous, and excruciating harm. There is a pattern that keeps sho [...]

“If his change requires your suffering to prove it, it isn’t change — it’s another performance.” — WeSurviveAbuse.com Somehow, we allowed ourselve [...]

We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone… …that they’re abusive.…that they’re a predator.…that they hurt wome [...]

On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social media application calling for Black people to go to Los Angeles, California and ge [...]

There are few heartbreaks more jarring than this:Realizing someone you admire is cheering for those who endanger children. And it cuts deeper when [...]

  This is a crucial question—because recognizing when you are being dehumanized is often the first step in reclaiming dignity, power, and bounda [...]

There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated after they speak out. It doesn’t always look like disbelief.It doesn’t always look [...]

"I get to treat you horribly because I have decided that you are less than me." Power and control don’t always look the same.But they always speak th [...]

When I was in college earning my degree in Organizational Management and Development, we were asked to give a presentation about early milestones in o [...]

Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its systems treat Black people—how it still treats Black women carrying chronic illness [...]

There’s been a growing outcry that cheek swabs to confirm male and female categories in sports will harm Black women. On the surface, it sounds like [...]