Category: Coercion
There Is No Bad Day to Tell the Truth
To every Survivor who has ever hesitated, second-guessed, or swallowed [...]
Perpetrator Fragility: When He Fears Exposure More Than Reflection
Perpetrator fragility is a concept used to describe how individuals—mo [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fea [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a [...]
What FGM and “Gender-Critical” Child Medicalization Have in Common
In the work of protecting children, hard truths often sit at the inter [...]

Costumes of Control: How Some Male Murderers Used Disguise to Harm Women
Throughout history, some of the most dangerous predators have worn m [...]

Stop Recasting Boundaries as Ignorance
With all my heart and soul I hate when men do this,
Too often, wh [...]

🧱 “You Just Keep Complaining”: How Abusers Use This Phrase to Stonewall You
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
“You just keep complaining.”“You’re always bri [...]
Every Woman Has the Right to Say ‘No Thanks
Since the dawn of time, women have been pushed, scolded, and lectured [...]
Consent Is Not an Afterthought. It Is the First Requirement
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
Let’s make this plain:Consent is not a footno [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Diff [...]
Whispers of Harm: The Global Agreement Against Victims
from WESurviveAbuse.com
They’ve never met.Different languages.Differ [...]
Consent Never Came, But the Agreement Was Made
from WESurviveAbuse.com
No one asked her.No one asked the girl with t [...]
Collusion Without Conversation: The Code of Abuse
They’ve never met.
Different backgrounds.Different languages.Differen [...]
They Weren’t Just Controlling—They Were Consuming
Survivors often face: the coercion to disappear inside someone else’s [...]
Lobotomies and Trust Issues: The Historic Reasons Black Folks Avoid Therapy (w/links)
Listen, followers of my work know that I have been open about getting [...]

How Women’s Pain Is Minimized to Keep Men Comfortable
If there were no men in the room,no men in the equation,no men to prot [...]

🛑 What Is a Boundary? (And Why It’s Not a Punishment)
A boundary is not a wall to keep people out.It is a door that you cont [...]

🌿 Healing After Emotional Abuse: You Are Not Broken, You Are Becoming
Healing after emotional abuse isn't about "getting back to normal."It’ [...]
No One is Like Us. Women Fight Differently
Women fight differently.
When the Taliban ordered Afghan women not [...]