Category: Surviving Daily
Autonomy Is Not Teflon
Autonomy is powerful.But it is not a shield.Not in this world.
A woma [...]
Your Voice Was Never the Problem—Their Comfort with Harm Was
They told you to lower your voice.To be more careful.To stop "bringing [...]
I’m Not Explaining Myself Anymore—You Were Just Never Listening
There comes a point in your healing when you get tired.Not just tire [...]

They Don’t Deserve to Witness the Healed You if They Mocked the Broken You
Can we romanticizing reconciliation with people who ridiculed your p [...]
They Called You Too Much—But What You Were Was Too Aware
You were never too much.You were too awake.
You noticed what others [...]
Walking Away Isn’t Weak. It’s the Bravest Thing You Ever Did.
They told you walking away meant you gave up.That you weren’t strong [...]
You Weren’t Difficult. You Were Just Finally Done Pretending It Didn’t Hurt
They called you difficult.Unreasonable.Too sensitive.Hard to love.
[...]
You Don’t Owe Anyone Access to the Version of You That Had to Survive Them
There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they ro [...]
Who Is Deserving of Black Women’s Solidarity?
There are furious debates about this behind closed doors. Personally [...]
It Wasn’t Just His Girlfriends: A Pattern of Harm, a Society of Silence
Too often, when men like Sean “Diddy” Combs are accused of vio [...]
We Can Tell What Team You’re On
If you're not an advocate for giving violent, manipulative, deceptive, [...]
This Moment Is Teaching Us
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A young Black woman—famous, talented, in the pub [...]
Your Opinion Is Not Protection
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Let’s get something straight:
Your opinion abou [...]
You’re Not Her Judge. You’re Not Even Helpful.
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The internet is full of people who think that [...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.” [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated aft [...]
It’s Not About What You Told Her. It’s About What She Can Teach You.
So many rush to say:“I told her.”“She didn’t listen.”“She shou [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally [...]

What We’ve Carried Was Never Meant for Us
They taught us early how to carry it.
The silence.The secrets.The s [...]

We Must Unlearn the Misplaced Blame We Inherited
I am a Black woman.I was raised as a Black woman in the Un [...]