October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed
October reminds us to shine light on the realities of domestic violence. Too often, our discussions focus narrowly on what happens behind the closed doors of private homes. But abuse doesn’t only live there. It follows people wherever they share space—college dorms, shelters, group homes, and military housing.
Why Cohabitation Matters
When people live together, power dynamics become magnified. Privacy is reduced. Stress is constant. In the military, for example, spouses and partners may live far from family or support systems, financially dependent on one another, or under the weight of strict chain-of-command structures. That isolation and pressure can make it even harder to speak out—or to be heard.
Military Families Deserve Protection Too
Military spouses and partners face unique risks:
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Isolation from friends and family, especially during deployments.
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Economic dependence when one partner controls military benefits, housing, or income.
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Fear of retaliation if reporting could affect a partner’s career.
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Limited access to civilian services when living on base or abroad.
These realities mean that domestic violence in military communities may be hidden, minimized, or outright silenced. Survivors deserve systems that protect them without forcing them to choose between their safety and their livelihood.
A Call to Expand Our Lens
Domestic violence is not confined to suburban homes or dramatic headlines. It is a human rights issue that follows people into every cohabiting space—including the barracks, base housing, or off-base apartments shared by military families.
As we honor Domestic Violence Awareness
Month, we must remember: Every person—whether civilian or military—deserves the same right to safety, dignity, and freedom from abuse.