Explain Like I'm 5: What victims of domestic violence go through to get justice
I originally posted this on 9/3/15. On 5/16/2016 I aided a victim in DC and unfortunately this is still true. Why doesn't she leave? This [...]
Hidden Misogyny: The Kind That Smiles in Your Face
Not all misogyny shouts. Some of it whispers. Some of it comes dressed as politeness, concern, or tradition.
It’s when women are praised fo [...]
Why Women Should Fear Less About Being Called “Outsiders
The Power of Being Labeled an Outsider
History shows us that women who were labeled “outsiders” often became the very women who changed the world. [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
The Benefit of Anger for Survivors: A Fire That Heals
For too long, Survivors have been told to suppress their anger. “Be the bigger person.” “Let it go.” “Forgive and move on.” Society is comfortable w [...]
Let’s Be Honest: It’s Past Time for Men to Show Up for Each Other
For far too long, society has quietly and dangerously assigned the role of protector, counselor, and emotional caretaker to women and girls—even when [...]
Jamyle Cannon: Safe Adults Demonstrate Safe Behavior
It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.Frederick Douglass I am a fan of Jamyle Cannon's explanation of bound [...]
If He Will Strangle You, He May Kill You
There are few acts more dangerous, more intimate, and more predictive of future lethal violence than this one:Strangulation.
Let’s stop minimizing [...]
Red Flags: Why Am I Feeling Unseen Here? Clues Survivors Notice First.
To be clear: People are not going to always feel seen. This is a huge planet. We are specifically talking about spaces, and conversations around viole [...]
You Can Support Human Rights and Ask for Safety
You are allowed to care about people—and care about your own protection.
You are allowed to believe in justice—and believe that boundaries save liv [...]
What Racists and Child Rape Apologists Have in Common
Seems like all you have to do is make one simple statement:The problem of black men who prey upon black girls/boys must be discussed and addresse [...]
Megan Thee Stallion 101: You Don’t Break Me in Public and Expect Me to Heal in Silence
Why are people angry? I will tell you. This happens to nearly every victim who chooses themselves and the truth.After a season of ambivalence and [...]
The Mothers of Modern Gynecology: Anarcha, Lucy, and Betsey
The True Story Behind the Surgical Legacy Built on Black Women's Pain
Between 1845 and 1849, in Montgomery, Alabama, three young enslaved Black women [...]
The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty.It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies [...]
Myth: “Women Are Safe as Long as There Are Good Men Around”
Reality: Women Are Only as Safe as the Boundaries and Protections We Demand
One of the most misleading and harmful ideas about women’s safety is the [...]
Before You Judge, Listen: Black Men’s Medical Trauma Is Real
I'm not just speaking from a place of advocacy to victims. I'm speaking as a relative and friend who has had occasion to come alongside a male and aid [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why you’re not “mean” for wanting peaceIt starts with a bad decision.Maybe a DUI.Maybe losing another job.Maybe a fight with the [...]
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Erin Justice: The Worst That Could Happen
Women and girls do not always survive rape.
Erin Justice was a teen being jointly raised by both of her parents. Erin notified police [...]
Braids, Locs, and the Right to Be: The Truth About Black Hair Discrimination
We need less focus on aesthetics—less chatter about who’s worn braids, who’s styled locs, and who can trace it back to their culture. That conversatio [...]
Hip Hop’s Double Standard Around Gun Violence
#Hiphop this week: Earlier this week the community was mourning the death of Takeoff & the gun violence that snatched him away. The videos & i [...]
Why Women’s Rights Vary by State—and Men’s Don’t: A Breakdown of Legal Inequality in America
Do you see all this debate over "women's spaces" and NONE over men's spaces?
There’s a line from a 1976 film that still echoes today:“I [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
Consent Never Came, But the Agreement Was Made
from WESurviveAbuse.com
No one asked her.No one asked the girl with trembling hands and a racing heart.No one asked the woman staring into nothing, c [...]
📢 Hidden Herstory: The Leesburg Stockade Girls
In the heat of July 1963, a group of Black girls in Americus, Georgia—aged just 12 to 15—were arrested for marching peacefully against segregation at [...]
🔥 When They Take It All Back: Why Some Survivors Recant
Updated for WeSurviveAbuse.com, 2025
Let’s return to this uncomfortable truth: when victims of sexual violence recant, it is often not because th [...]
Hate Makes the Mind Small: Freedom Lives in Openness
Hateful people say, "So you all are just these magical people walking around knowing everything hunh."
Sometimes...... we do not have the w [...]
Unveiling the Dark History of Gynecology | Ill Will
In this eye-opening first episode of "Ill Will," host A.B. Burns-Tucker is joined by Dr. Keisha Ray to dive into the troubling history of gynecology's [...]
Women Taint Nobody's Business Who You Choose to Love (audio)
Women Tain't Nobody's Business Who You Choose To Love [...]
6 Smart Tactics to Help Survivors Strengthen Confidence
People who have been abused often struggle with self-doubt. Yeah. You can put up a tough exterior for everyone else. Some days you can even [...]
Your Body Knows the Truth: Letting Survivors Define Abuse and Violation
You are seen. You are heard.
Survivors are speaking in this moment.And when they speak, something important shifts.
Not toward labels.
Not toward d [...]
✊🏾 Teaching Before the Harm: The Difference Between Comfort and Safety
“We learn too late because no one taught us soon enough.
Let this be the generation that teaches before the harm.”
Comfort feels nice.
Safety keeps [...]
Only 2% “Owned” Slaves?” The Dangerous Game of Subtracting Context
We’ve all heard it: “Only 2% of white people "owned" slaves.”It’s a talking point tossed around to downplay history. But here’s the truth: it’s not th [...]
Ignored Crimes Become Generational Crises: A Tale As Old As Time
History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.-Maya AngelouFrom the very first pages [...]
Don’t Say You’re in Our Corner—Fight Like It
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in my corner—fight like it.Don’t post slogans and [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the story to sound softer than it was—it’s easy for outsiders to say:
“Why [...]
Coercive Sex Trafficking: What People Don’t Understand
That line is more fragile than people think.
Too many people in the U.S. still picture sex trafficking as some shadowy van pulling up to snatch a g [...]
Putting an End to Useless Debate: Listening to the Voices of Violence Survivors
Over the years, society has been engaged in countless debates surrounding issues such as violence, abuse, and discrimination. While these discuss [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or girl for a a man she admires/likes/lovesThere’s a saying that floats around on [...]