🌿 Boundaries Drawn in Truth
A Safe Space for Reclaiming Voice, Safety, and Sacred Self-Respect
Welcome.
You have found your way to a space built on one simple truth:
You are allowed to protect your peace.
You are allowed to say no. You are allowed to walk away.
And you are allowed to draw the line—even when others don’t understand, approve, or agree.
For many of us who have survived harm, abuse, or betrayal, the word “boundaries” can feel heavy.
Maybe you were taught that keeping the peace was more important than keeping yourself safe.
Maybe you were punished for having needs.
Maybe you’ve been told that standing up for yourself means you’re difficult, dramatic, or “too much.”
But here, we draw our boundaries in truth.
Not in guilt. Not in fear. Not in shame.
Truth.
Because your truth is sacred.
And boundaries are the lines we draw—not to shut love out, but to let real love in.
✨ What You’ll Find on This Page:
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Gentle guidance on what healthy boundaries look and feel like
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Survivor-affirming affirmations to strengthen your voice
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Tools and resources to support boundary setting in daily life
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Reflection questions to reconnect with your truth
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Downloadable guides and healing exercises
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Real-talk posts on boundaries in family, love, work, faith, and community
🛤️ You Are Not Behind
If you’re just beginning to learn about boundaries, you’re not late.
You’re right on time.
Healing is not linear. It loops. It rests. It roars.
And every time you choose truth over people-pleasing or silence, you are rewriting your legacy.
Forced Sterilization Wasn’t a Mistake. It Was Misogyny and Racism Working Together.
"All they know about is slavery"
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You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
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‘Playing Victim’: How Racism Silences Black Voices and Blocks True Healing in America
Wherever there is harm—whether domestic violence, sexual violence, stalking, or racism—there is often the same pattern: minimization, denial, and reve [...]
The Unseen Cage: How Systems Use Coercive Control
When the hands that claim to help you are the ones tightening the grip.
Not all abuse comes from partners.Sometimes, it comes from systems—the cour [...]
🎬 We’re Not Just Watching the Story—We’re Being Told Who We’re Allowed to Be
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🎤💰 Money, Respect & the Woman’s Mic: Black Women’s Songs About Money, Power, and Respect
About money. About love. About what it means to be valued.
This is not a new conversation.
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Book Shelf: Finding Purpose in the Pain: Devotions for Victims of Parental Alienation
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Lifting As We Climb: The Radical Blueprint of the Black Women’s Club Movement
When Black women were excluded, they built their own.
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Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
The War We Ignore: Violent Men, Mental Health Cuts, and the Cost to All of U.S.
Mental health systems have been gutted. Until we stop making excuses and start building solutions that protect the vulnerable, we will continue to cyc [...]
Our Rights Are Not Disposable
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Before Social Media, Women Told Stories—Did We Forget How to Listen?
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Before performance listening.Before everyone felt required to respond.
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When Black Women Are Targeted for Questioning What Others Pretend Not to See
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That time [...]
Why Do People Call Gender-Critical Women “Extremists” When We’re Just Talking About Safety?
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Male Predators Are Male: Why Language Matters for Survivor Justice
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You Call It Staying. She Calls It Surviving.
You look at her and ask, “Why did she stay?”
But you don’t know the whole story.
You saw a snapshot.She’s been living the full movie.
To you, it [...]
Jamyle Cannon: Safe Adults Demonstrate Safe Behavior
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Disturbing Someone’s Peace Is VIOLENCE — And We Must Stop Pretending Otherwise
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When Men Encourage Boundary Violations, Women Pay the Price
Why It’s Wrong—And Sometimes Criminal—for Men to Overrule a Woman’s “No”
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🛑 Women’s Safety Is Not Up for Debate: On Pressure, Autonomy, and Male Violence
We know that society still expects women to protect men’s reputations—
especially when those men are climbing the ladder of power.
Even if preservi [...]
Red Flags for Women: Silent Signals of Control in Relationships
Here is when I knew.
I was riding in the car with my date. Our first date.
He picked me up.
He brought me a single gorgeous rose.
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Sad But True Little Known Facts About Women in Prison
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#IAmJada: She Spoke Fire Back Into Her Name
They called it scandal.
But it was sacrifice.
A young girl’s truth laid bare
on the altar of a watching world.
They tried to make her shame [...]
What Literature Can Teach Us About Contemporary Self-identity
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The Crucial Role of Responsible Media Reporting on Violence Against Women
Violence against women is an endemic issue that plagues societies worldwide, perpetuating gender inequalities and undermining women's rights. Whi [...]
Changing Restrooms, Changing Questions: What You Should Know
How come they can build these things that bring men in closer proximity to women and children but not more homes for the unhoused, affordable homes [...]
The Double Standard Isn’t Cosmetic—It’s Controlling Us.
Plastic surgery was never just about beauty.It was always about control.
Women have long been judged for what we do—or don’t do—to our bodies.She get [...]
10 Sacred Truths for Black Women Who Are Tired of Carrying the World
1. You are not a beast of burden.The world will try to make you one. It will pile its sins, mistakes, and unhealed wounds onto your back. Refuse. Yo [...]
My Mother Sold Me To a Pimp-Keysha Tells Her Story
I want you to understand.....women and children who try to stand their ground are punished with jail. Meanwhile, men who prey on women and thrive. Tha [...]
The Gift of Access to YOU (audio/podcast)
This episode unpacks how those lessons of survival can linger into adulthood, making us feel like we owe access to anyone who asks.....How often [...]
So, Who Centers Female Issues?
So if there are women who don't believe that: female health, female reproductive systems, female genital mutilation, menstruation, menstruation [...]
You’re Not Her Judge. You’re Not Even Helpful.
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
The internet is full of people who think that offering opinions on a Survivor’s choices is the same as offering help.It’s not. [...]
🌿 Who Still Treats Women’s Safety as Sacred?
“When a woman says, ‘I don’t feel safe,’ she’s not creating a problem — she’s revealing one.”
There was a time when the safety of women was understoo [...]
Call Him What? When Abusers & Traffickers Demand to Be Named Something Special
✦ by WeSurviveAbuse.com
In courtroom after courtroom, from high-profile celebrity trials to quietly buried local cases, a deeply disturbing pattern [...]
They Know Exactly Who They Are
We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone…
…that they’re abusive.…that they’re a predator.…that they hurt wome [...]
A Checklist for Anyone Claiming to Care About Women and Children’s Safety
No matter how you identify, if you continuously show up only to argue that women shouldn’t fight for our own health, opportunity, and safety, then the [...]
Stop Adding Barriers. Start Listening.
People don’t listen to women and children.Not even when we bring a mountain of proof.
So no—Don’t add more hoops, more exceptions, more “what about [...]
It’s Not That They Can’t Hear You. They’ve Chosen Not To
“Oppression evolves. It trades the whip for the weary.” — WeSurviveAbuse.com
When people stonewall you, they aren’t just ignoring you; they’re blocki [...]
12 Things Men Say “I’m Not Worried About” — While Treating Women’s Concerns as Silly
Men love to say it with a shrug, a smirk, sometimes even a laugh: “I’m not worried about that.”
The arrogance in that statement is thick enough to [...]
Mahogany: Beyond Fashion, a Lesson in Power and Abuse 💔
Mahogany is often celebrated for its style—but the film also quietly shows obsession, control, and emotional abuse.
But beneath that glossy surface [...]
Teaching Tales: Three Women Who Faced Injustice and Fought Back with Truth
Some betrayals are personal.Some are legal.Some are spiritual.But when a woman survives injustice and refuses to be erased, her story becomes a lesson [...]
Black and Missing Foundation and Washington Association of Black Journalists Release Groundbreaking Media Guide for Reporting on Missing Persons
LINK TO FULL PRESS RELEASE
(Hyattsville, MD) – The Black and Missing Foundation, Inc. (BAMFI), in partnership with the Washington [...]
Have WE Discussed Child Predators Today? (video clip)
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When HR Doesn’t Protect You: What Survivors Deserve to Know
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🔥 Self-Sourced Power: When the World Won’t Crown You, You Crown Yourself
There comes a time in the life of every Survivor, every truth-teller, every woman who’s been underestimated, overlooked, or left to fend for herself—w [...]
They Can’t Always Find the Right Words. But They Still Deserve to Be Heard.
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But let me tell you so [...]
Why Leaders Who Excuse Abuse Can’t Build Safety—They Recreate Harm
When someone dismisses violence, mocks Survivors, or excuses abuse, they’re not neutral.
They’re signaling the kind of safety they intend to build—on [...]
✊🏾 When Policing Women Is Mistaken for Protecting Women
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Our Mental Health Crisis is a Values Crisis
We have made a choice.
Not quietly.Not accidentally.Not without consequence.
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💬 A Note from Tonya GJ Prince
“I’ve walked beside Survivors for over 30 years. I’ve seen what happens when women are told that their safety is optional. I’ve also seen the freedom that blooms when we learn to say, ‘This is where I end and you begin. This is what love must look like if it wants to stay.’ Boundaries are not rejection. They are resurrection.”