Category: Relationships
25 Ways Society Sends Harmful Messages to Black Women About Our Safety and Worth
We carry so much. Too much.And still, society dares to question our [...]
The Unseen Cage: What Coercive Control Really Looks Like
Because not all abuse leaves bruises—but it can still steal your fre [...]
You Don’t Have to Stay Where You’re Not Safe
Some of us are trying to bloom in gardens that were never planted for [...]
You Were Never Meant to Carry What He Refused to Unpack
For the woman who’s been told her standards are too high—stand taller. [...]
🛑 Women’s Safety Is Not Up for Debate: On Pressure, Autonomy, and Male Violence
We know that society still expects women to protect men’s reputations— [...]
Spotlight on IDVAAC: A Legacy of Protecting Black Survivors
Because we deserve more than band-aids. We deserve truth, safety, and [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. It’s Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:" [...]
It’s Not the Phrase. It’s the Harm.
Some folks are upset nowabout the phrase:“I don’t owe you.”
Around he [...]
Saying Yes When You Mean No Is a Silent Form of Self-Betrayal
They will keep coming backto your spirit, your softness, your giving h [...]
Harm-Jacking: When Your Pain Becomes Someone Else’s Weapon
There have always been obstacles—but there have also always been rea [...]
Our Tongues Survived the Fire: The Story of Xhosa, Survival, and Respect
There are languages that carry the rhythm of a people’s soul.Languages [...]
9 Reasons Survivors Build Their Own Healing Spaces (and Why That’s Sacred, Not Segregated)
People ask:“Why do you need your own healing space?”The an [...]
Why We All Build Our Own Healing Spaces
It may be noticed when specific groups build their own
healing spac [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with powe [...]
If Any of Your Relationships Run on Silence and Lies, It’s Time to Reclaim Your Voice
I need to speak to you plain today.
There comes a time in healing whe [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the pers [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rare [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the [...]