Category: Safe Boundaried Spaces
It’s Not the Phrase. It’s the Harm.
Some folks are upset nowabout the phrase:“I don’t owe you.”
Around he [...]
‘Go Along to Get Along’ Is How They Silence You—Here’s Why You Must Speak Anyway
Fellow women and please share this message with girls:
You are not “d [...]
When Children Ask for Safeguards: Reflections on the Supreme Court, Safety, and Respect
In the wake of the recent Supreme Court decision around parental right [...]
Children Deserve Truth—And They Deserve Protection Too
In the wake of the Supreme Court decision regarding parental rights an [...]
Creating Safe Spaces to Heal: How Black Women Make Room for Ourselves When the World Won’t
We weren’t handed safe spaces.We’ve had to build them from scratch—
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Weaponized Witnessing: When They Watch You Fall, But Never Help You Rise
There’s a kind of watching that doesn’t come from love.A kind of wat [...]

Our Tongues Survived the Fire: The Story of Xhosa, Survival, and Respect
There are languages that carry the rhythm of a people’s soul.Languages [...]
9 Reasons Survivors Build Their Own Healing Spaces (and Why That’s Sacred, Not Segregated)
People ask:“Why do you need your own healing space?”The an [...]
Why We All Build Our Own Healing Spaces
They say, “Healing is for everyone.”But not every healing space is bui [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speak [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with powe [...]
If Any of Your Relationships Run on Silence and Lies, It’s Time to Reclaim Your Voice
I need to speak to you plain today.
There comes a time in healing whe [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone w [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.Sometimes it’s not just the pe [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predato [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rare [...]
Some of Us Refuse To Walk Back into Bondage Dressed as Progress
Some folks treat danger like it’s a dare.They treat survival like it’s [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries—Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves.......In Jim Crow America, Bl [...]
Let’s Make It Plain: Jim Crow and Sex-Based Boundaries Are Not the Same Thing
Some people are confused.Some were misinformed.Some are using half-tru [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care an [...]