Category: Violence Against Women
They Teach Us to Watch Our Cups, Not to Question the Pour
🍷headed into the fourth of July, right?.......Freedom?
Because they’d [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the pe [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predato [...]
When One Gets Through, Others Follow: The Open Door Metaphor in Abuse
There’s a pattern in abuse that doesn’t get talked about enough. Not [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rare [...]
Some of Us Refuse To Walk Back into Bondage Dressed as Progress
Some folks treat danger like it’s a dare.They treat survival like it’s [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries—Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves.......
In Jim Crow America, Bl [...]
Let’s Make It Plain: Jim Crow and Sex-Based Boundaries Are Not the Same Thing
Some people are confused.Some were misinformed.Some are using half-tru [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care an [...]
Don’t Use Our History to Justify Our Endangerment
Jim Crow taught the world that Black girls and women existed to be use [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them m [...]
Not All Prosecutors Are the Same: Why Survivors Must Look Deeper
In Survivor Advocacy, Complexity Matters
In today’s climate, it’s e [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If [...]
You Shrink So Others Don’t Feel Threatened
But What Happens When You Stop?
The Sign:You minimize your gifts, you [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of survivi [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were tol [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud [...]
Why “I Don’t Care About Potential Harm-Doers” Sounds Empowering But Isn’t
We get it.You’re tired of tiptoeing.You’re tired of warning signs, red [...]
