📢 Boundaries Are My Vitamins—And I Take Them Daily
You ever been around somebody who drains your energy just by texting “hey”?Yeah. That’s why I take my Boundaries Supplement every morning—no water n [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care and asking someone to give themselves away.
What we are seeing—too often, and too [...]
Remembering the Women Silenced by Political Violence in America (w/womanist film recommendations)
💡 Pattern to Notice: Most of these women were killed not just for themselves but because they stood between power and the vulnerable—protecting m [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
🎶 Playlist: Songs That Speak the Truth — Domestic Violence & Survival
Sometimes music is the only thing brave enough to say what we’ve been through.
This playlist brings together 11 songs across R&B, soul, pop, and [...]
Healing Hurts—and It Hurts for a Long Time
Everyone wants to talk about healing like it’s a tidy process.A quick fix.A checklist.A makeover.
But here’s the truth Survivors know too well: [...]
💔 When Sisterhood Is a Silencer: Spotting the Wounds Behind the Smile
Some women walk with us in sisterhood—but not in solidarity.
They speak our language. Quote the affirmations. Light the candles. Clap at the empowerm [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
✨ Survivor Affirmations for the Women Who’ve Held Their Tongue Far Too Long
Let’s be honest.
The people who critique dark-skinned Black women’s beauty?Often have deep gaps in their own appearance, character, and spirit that [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who we’ [...]
Why Do So Many Lies Feel True? The Hidden Psychology No One Talks About
There is a moment in every soul’s journey when the world begins to whisper:
“This must be the truth—everyone is saying it.”
But repetition is not re [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle, or urgent his cause—trick you into laboring for him, defending him, uplifting [...]
❓FAQ: Can You Heal If You Never Got Closure?
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Q: Can you heal if you never got closure?A: Yes. You absolutely can. And many Survivors do.
But let's be real: it's not easy. [...]
For Some People, Staying Grounded in Reality Is a Daily Act of Strength
For Some People, Staying Grounded in Reality Is a Daily Act of Strength For many people, “reality” is something the mind holds effortlessly. Bu [...]
You Can’t Reason With People Who See Facts as a Personal Attack
One of life’s hardest lessons is this: you cannot reason with people who treat facts and reality as a personal attack. No matter how carefully you exp [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
Safety Is Power. Access Is a Privilege.
People are always telling us about the habits of powerful people. Well, one thing that powerful people do is maintain strict boundaries. The average [...]
No One is Like Us. Women Fight Differently
Women fight differently.
When the Taliban ordered Afghan women not to sing,they sang anyway.Soft, loud, hidden, public — they sang their existence [...]
Disrespect Is Not a Small Thing—It’s a Pattern, a Wound, and a Warning (Quotes)
Disrespect is more than just “rudeness.”It is a dehumanizing act—a subtle (or loud) reminder that someone sees you as less than.Less worthy.Less human [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
Violence Against Women Always Looks for an Inside Woman
Like most acts of violence against women,invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.It counts on betrayal.It counts on a hand extend [...]
The Truth About Suicide that No One is Telling You
From 5/11/ 16The secret: Some people take pleasure in pouring salt into wounds that they know are there. Wounds that they have been trained to re [...]
Don’t Be Fooled: Giving Away Your Rights Isn’t Liberation
They told you it was clever.Told you it was edgy.Told you it was revolutionary.
But let’s talk about what it really is when you hand over your righ [...]
Other People’s Emotional Unavailability Is Not Your Fault
Survivor, you’ve carried so much.
You’ve fought for healing, for hope, for wholeness—not just for yourself, but for others too. You’ve tried to pour [...]
When Disability and Blackness Meet: Over 25 Times When Grace Was Denied To Disabled Black People
There is a quiet cruelty that rarely gets named plainly. It lives in the space where Blackness and disability intersect. It shows up not only in drama [...]
5 traits women who don’t have friends share (featuring video by Tiffany Monday)
You'd be amazed how many people get themselves through recovery and/or parts of healing and abuse...... Why do some women have no friends, and what [...]
🔥 Black Women Didn’t Just Get Here—We Dragged Ourselves Through Fire to Arrive
You may have heard it said:“Black women are the most educated group in America.”
And while that phrase is often used to uplift and celebrate, it dese [...]
The Eye of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor: A Black Man Takes the Mic
It is my honor to highlight the words of author Tremayne Moore as he courageously shares his story and offers advice for healing: Hi. My n [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
Pregnancy, Panic, and the Past: Supporting Survivors Through the Miracle of Birth
*Updated for 2025
When a close relative—let’s call her Morgan—announced her pregnancy, our entire family was ecstatic.
I wanted to hear ever [...]
Healing Beyond the Pain: Exploring the Latest Technologies in Treating PTSD
For Survivors of abuse and violence, the road to healing from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is deeply personal and often fraught with ch [...]