Pornography Didn’t Start the Fire: A Clear Look at History, Power, and Violence
With war, comes murder and rape
Pornography is often blamed as the reason violence—especially violence against women—has escalated.
That sounds clea [...]
What Does Violence Against Women Really Look Like Today? Truths You Can’t Ignore
Women with Disabilities Face Higher Risk
Women and girls with disabilities are more than twice as likely to experience sexual violence. Yet many shel [...]
Leadership Failure: How Leaders Are Failing Women Who Ask for Safety
When Women Say, “I Don’t Feel Safe”
That’s not a threat.It’s an invitation to build something better.
But when leaders double down on silencing in [...]
“The Forgive and Overlook Habit”: Why the Crisis of Child Predators Isn’t Going Anywhere
The crisis of child predators isn’t going anywhere. Unless the adults change our harmful ways and change them right away.
Because the pressure has al [...]
What's In a Name: A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse names Her Rapist
Did I tell y’all about that time that they printed a speech I delivered in public in the paper? Well, that isn’t even the most interestin [...]
Remembering the Women Silenced by Political Violence in America (w/womanist film recommendations)
💡 Pattern to Notice: Most of these women were killed not just for themselves but because they stood between power and the vulnerable—protecting m [...]
What Really Protects Women: Moving Beyond Racial Myths and Toward Real Safety
For generations, women have been taught to fear the wrong things.We were warned about dark alleys, strangers, and the “unknown man” who might leap out [...]
Pregnancy, Panic, and the Past: Supporting Survivors Through the Miracle of Birth
*Updated for 2025
When a close relative—let’s call her Morgan—announced her pregnancy, our entire family was ecstatic.
I wanted to hear ever [...]
If Women Are ‘Imagining It,’ Why Is Someone Making Money From It?
It’s wild how quickly the world silences women.The minute a woman says she’s uncomfortable, cautious, or afraid, people look at her like she’s exagger [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of surviving abuse, harassment, or assault.It’s what happens when you learn—often in order [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconvenient to admit.
Even toddlers can identify patterns. I once babysat a precious [...]
🧨 Selective Empathy: Who Gets Compassion—and Who Gets Condemned
⚖️ "But His Parents Divorced..."
As an advocate for victims of violence, abuse, and rape; I’ve sat in enough courtrooms to know this:When a white def [...]
Why Leaders Who Excuse Abuse Can’t Build Safety—They Recreate Harm
When someone dismisses violence, mocks Survivors, or excuses abuse, they’re not neutral.
They’re signaling the kind of safety they intend to build—on [...]
If You Don’t Name It, You Can’t Protect It
*Note: This horrifying and tragic Dominican Republic story came to my attention because of white adult human females who identify as feminists. From t [...]
🚫 STOP ASKING US TO GET USED TO BEING HARMED
People don’t listen to women and children.
Not when we whisper.Not when we scream.Not even when we show up with a mountain of evidence, hospital re [...]
“I Told Her” Is About You—Not the Victim
Let’s talk about it.
When a woman is harmed—physically, emotionally, spiritually—one of the most common things we hear is: “I told her.”“I war [...]
I’m Terrified to Tell You that I’m a Rape Survivor Because
I’m Terrified to Tell You that I’m a Rape Survivor Because I’m Afraid You’re Going to Judge Me Negatively, Deny My Experience, and Care More About Not [...]
Celebrity Trials, Silencing, and the Spectacle of Misogyny
Let’s talk about what we should be learning from these celebrity court cases—about abuse, about loyalty, and about truth.
Time and again, we see wo [...]
When Propaganda is Used Against Abuse Survivors
Propaganda isn’t just for politics or war; it’s a powerful tool that gets used to control narratives about abuse survivors, shape public perception, a [...]
The Hidden Role of Women in Child Exploitation: Kenya’s “Madams”
SELF CARE ALERT This one minute clip is difficult to watch. Please take care of yourself. "They’re still children, so it’s easy to manipu [...]
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For Women and Children, Indefinitely Going Along to Get Along is One of the Most Dangerous Strategies in the World
Many of us have had to "go along to get along" for a little while,but pushing for it indefinitely and just "hoping for safety"is d [...]
The Resistance of Celia: The Enslaved Black Girl Who Fought Back
updated for 2025
Celia’s name should be spoken not just as a victim, but as a woman who resisted, who fought for her dignity when no one else would. [...]
Why Doesn’t She Leave? Because Leaving Costs Money
Why doesn’t she leave? Because leaving costs money. She needs first and last month’s rent just to secure a place, plus moving expenses—a truck, de [...]
A Brief Timeline: Marital Rape Laws in the West
A tremendous amount of work went into giving spouses legal recourse if they are assaulted by their spouse. Prior to this work, you couldn't even bring [...]
The Faux Fight Against Child Sex Abuse
Last May was one of the happiest days of my entire life.My son graduated from high school. I sat there among the other proud family members as the ban [...]
Creating Safe Spaces: Encouraging Open Discussions About Personal Security
How many times have you hesitated before speaking up about your safety concerns? How often have you been told, "Oh, you're overreacting," "It’s [...]
Familiarity Doesn’t Make Stranger Abuse Irrelevant
There’s a manipulation tactic that keeps slipping into our public conversations—one that says: “Most people are abused by someone they know… so [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
✋🏽 When Accountability Feels Like an Attack to Him
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Some men don’t fear the harm they cause.They fear the moment a woman finally says,“You will not harm me anymore.”
This is perpe [...]
Violence Against Women Always Looks for an Inside Woman
Like most acts of violence against women,invasion of boundaries doesn’t just show up with brute force.It counts on betrayal.It counts on a hand extend [...]
Putting an End to Useless Debate: Listening to the Voices of Violence Survivors
Over the years, society has been engaged in countless debates surrounding issues such as violence, abuse, and discrimination. While these discuss [...]
🔥 Druella Jones (Aunt Jonas), Alabama, 1915: The Woman Who Lit A Fire Freedom Remembers
She lit a fire that freedom remembers.
We don’t talk enough about her.
Druella Jones, born into slavery under Thomas Ferrell in Alabama, did not w [...]
No, Feminists Didn’t “Give Up a Happy Home.” We Fought to Escape a Cage
And the walls of that cage were built with silence, shame, and sanctioned suffering.
There’s a dangerous myth floating around like perfum [...]
“Why Didn’t She Fight Back?”
I like how Apple Tree Yard explains it. The character seems to be speaking a language that he understands. Clearly. [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries-Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves....... In Jim Crow America, Black people—especially Black women and girls—were forbidden from having boundarie [...]
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🌿 Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivors—from all walks of life—should know this:
many Survivors are people of faith. Not all. But many. Some draw stre [...]
What the Church and People of Faith Can Do to Help Victims of Sexual and Domestic Violence
Updated 8 21 2025
original March 2016 About sixteen years ago, I was sitting in service while Pastor Lance Watson preach [...]
Black Women Have Always Spoken Truth to Power — and We Still Will
In the end anti-black, anti-female, and all forms of discrimination are
equivalent to the same thing: anti-humanism.
Shirley Chisholm
F [...]