This "teacher braiding" conversation speaks to a much larger issue. The inability to hv conversations around 'boundaries' without gutter-low acc
This “teacher braiding” conversation speaks to a much larger issue.
The inability to hv conversations
around ‘boundaries’ without
gutter-low accusations of
‘trauma projection’ being slung around.
This “teacher braiding” conversation speaks to something much bigger —
the growing inability to have honest, respectful conversations about boundaries without being met with gutter-low accusations like “trauma projection” or “bitterness.”
🎥 The Viral Video
A video circulated online showing a Black male teacher with his hair in braids or twists. He was seated while several of his young female students unbraided his hair.
For those unfamiliar with Black hair culture, unbraiding can be a time-consuming, intimate process (not sexual, intimate).
Young girls often hold “take-down” sessions where they unbraid one another’s hair — a moment of trust, closeness, and shared care.
But context matters.
And this was not a home setting. It was a classroom.
When people online began raising legitimate questions about professional boundaries, appropriateness, and safeguarding, the backlash was immediate.
🚫 The Weaponization of Dismissal
Critics and people with concerns were met with a flood of accusations:
“You’re trauma projecting.”
“You’re trying to take down a Black man.”
“This is anti-Black male hate.”
- “Fatherless women.”/ “Fatherless behavior” (Present day idiots among us still think this scenario is a woman’s failing.)
They had a good time rolling in it. I guess it was on their hearts.
Once again, basic safety conversations — the kind meant to protect girls — were twisted into personal attacks or moral betrayals.
It is always a lifelong battle to protect girls because even the mention of “boundaries” is interpreted as:
“unhealed trauma”
“overprotection”
“bitterness”
And that shaming doesn’t always come from men.
🧩 When Women Undermine the Work
Too often, it’s other women — women who do not know the man in question — who attack other women online for daring to say, “Girls deserve boundaries.”
They accuse women of being “bitter,” “damaged,” or “in need of therapy” —
not realizing they are doing the labor of dismantling safeguards built to protect their own daughters, sisters, and selves.
Every time a woman is mocked for raising a safety concern,
the message to girls becomes clearer: Don’t speak up. Don’t trust your instincts. Don’t be the one who “makes trouble.”
🧱 Boundaries Are Not Attacks
Accusations like “trauma projection” don’t just shame people — they shut down protection.
They teach bystanders to stay quiet, even when something feels off.
They tell the vulnerable, “You’re overreacting.”
And that silence is how harm keeps happening.
Let’s be clear:
Anyone who mocks or minimizes people for upholding boundaries — especially around children — is a potential risk to dignity and safety.
We have been too polite about this.
This must cease.
The politeness should go in the direction of the children, the innocent, and potential victims.
Others have to fend for themselves and catch up when and if they can.
Misdirected kindness costs children their safety.
There is no shortage of information and awareness. You are choosing not to know at this point. If you know enough to misuse psychological terms then you have read plenty. So get there at your own pace. Or don’t.
✊🏾 Never Apologize for What You Know
Never let anyone silence your voice or your experience.
Never apologize for the lessons you learned —
especially those you learned through pain.
Healing doesn’t make you fragile.
It makes you precise.
It makes you protective.
And yes, after intentional healing, it can make you strong, resilient, and wise.
Every hard-earned lesson can live in you as wisdom, not baggage.
So yes — be full strength.
Live full strength.
Be powerful.
Live powerfully.
Unapologetically.
No matter who feels intimidated.
🌿 Awareness Is the Beginning of Freedom
Recognizing these silencing tactics is half the battle.
Refusing to let them work — that’s the victory.
Because if every generation of women teaches the next one to trust what they see,
then no one can ever again shame us into being quiet about safety.
And…we told you that older women are not the only defenders of males when they are careless with boundaries and respect….looking at the younger women who took this debate to unnecessary levels over a man they don’t know.
But, it happens to the best of us not the oldest of us. Once you see it within yourself, you can unlearn it.
“Accusations like ‘trauma projection’ don’t protect children. They protect silence.”
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