No matter how you identify, if you continuously show up only to argue that women shouldn’t fight for our own health, opportunity, and safety, then the
No matter how you identify, if you continuously show up only to argue that women shouldn’t fight for our own health, opportunity, and safety, then the pattern speaks for itself.
This checklist names what true support looks like.
If these boxes stay empty, it’s fair to conclude you are not advocating for women or children — you are advocating against us.
✅ Checklist: Do You Actually Support Sex-Based Safety Rights?
1. Do you ever speak up when women say they feel unsafe?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ Only when a man agrees first
2. Do you acknowledge women’s right to privacy in states of undress?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ Only sometimes
3. Do you defend women who set boundaries during fear or discomfort?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ I tell them to “calm down”
4. Are you willing to say publicly that some males can pose danger in female-only spaces?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ I avoid the topic completely
5. Do you understand why women react strongly when safety shifts?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ I call them dramatic or hysterical
6. Have you ever spoken up for women’s locker room, bathroom, shelter, or hospital privacy?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ I argue against those rights
7. Do you support girls’ right to sex-based protection in schools and youth programs?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ Only when it doesn’t upset adults
8. Do you believe women should feel calm and safe in spaces designated for us?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ Only if it doesn’t inconvenience men
9. When women share fear, do you listen — or argue?
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☐ I listen
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☐ I debate them
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☐ I mock or dismiss them
10. Does women’s safety ever come before your beliefs or ideology?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ Ideology first, women second
11. Do you recognize that fighting for women’s boundaries is not hatred — it is survival?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ I accuse women of bigotry for wanting safety
12. Do you regularly advocate for sex-based rights in any space — online, in real life, with leaders, or in your own community?
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☐ Yes
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☐ No
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☐ Only when it benefits me
There is no scoring system. This is just between you and you. An opportunity to take a moment and consider how often and how deeply you listen to women and girls when they speak about their feelings around safety.
Bottom Line
If you never speak up for women’s or children’s sex-based safety,
but you always show up to challenge those fighting for it,
your actions communicate exactly where you stand.
Women and children deserve safety.
Not debate.
Not tone-policing.
Not intimidation.
Safety.
I encourage you to keep listening to a wide and diverse swath of women and children.