Category: Boundaries
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predato [...]
When One Gets Through, Others Follow: The Open Door Metaphor in Abuse
There’s a pattern in abuse that doesn’t get talked about enough. Not [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rare [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries—Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves.......In Jim Crow America, Bl [...]
Don’t Use Our History to Justify Our Endangerment
Jim Crow taught the world that Black girls and women existed to be use [...]
Not All Prosecutors Are the Same: Why Survivors Must Look Deeper
In Survivor Advocacy, Complexity MattersIn today’s climate, it’s e [...]
Black Male Survivors of Rape Deserve to Be Seen, Heard, and Healed
Black male rape victims of other males are real.They exist. They’ve [...]
Ways Survivors Are Taught to Ignore Danger (And How to Relearn Safety)
The Truth: Many of Us Were Taught to Ignore What We Knew Deep Down
If [...]
How to Know You’re Not Safe—Even If No One’s Hitting You
(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs)
If you’ve ever wondered, “ [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were tol [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud [...]
Why “I Don’t Care About Potential Harm-Doers” Sounds Empowering But Isn’t
We get it.You’re tired of tiptoeing.You’re tired of warning signs, red [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often f [...]
Why Manipulators Pretend to Share Your Values (Even When They Don’t)
Some people don’t believe in your mission, your healing, or your value [...]
Don’t Be Tricked Into Serving What Would Never Save You
Avoid letting any man—no matter how soft his tone, poetic his struggle [...]
It’s Not New to Center Men—It’s Just Repackaged
Males demanding that the world stop, shift, and reshape itself—laws, [...]
Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve Justice—No Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. [...]
You Don’t Owe Closure to Danger
(And You Don’t Need the Internet to Validate Your Boundaries)
Do no [...]
