Category: Campus violence
✊🏾 Teaching Before the Harm: The Difference Between Comfort and Safety
“We learn too late because no one taught us soon enough.
Let this be [...]
What Does It Really Mean To Be Socialized As a Woman?
To be socialized as a woman means to be trained — subtly and overtly — [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate s [...]
Respect Without Surrender: When Rights Don’t Mean Access
The Foundation of True Respect
Respect is not ownership.And justice d [...]
You’re Not Asking for Perfection—You’re Asking for Respect: Recognizing a Common Deflection Tactic
🎭 The Tactic
When you call out something harmful—like antisemitism, r [...]
We Warned You: The Deadly Price Black Women Pay for Social Justice Experiments by The Way She Came
One thing I have learned about life on this planet, people just act [...]
How to Know if an Abuser’s Remorse Is Real
When Survivors hear “I’m sorry,” it can stir hope. How c [...]
The Pressure to “Be Nice” While Male Violence Goes Excused
If ever you have any question about which people in the room are women [...]
When Male Violence is Excused, Progress Stalls
If females were the majority of mass shooters, the world would tre [...]
Why Sexual Orientation Has Nothing to Do with School Shootings
So after yesterday's tragic shooting in Minneapolis, Minnesota-which t [...]
The Old Code of Chains: A Timeline of Control Over Women’s Privacy and Safety
Women who demand male free spaces are not hateful but have you exp [...]
Rethinking ‘Capitalist’: Point It Toward Human Traffickers, Not Black Communities
For the love of money.......
Some of us grew up knowing what capita [...]
Safety Requires Strategy — Not Just “Being Nice”!
As an advocate, I’ve aided thousands of women in creating safety plans [...]
🧨 Selective Empathy: Who Gets Compassion—and Who Gets Condemned
⚖️ "But His Parents Divorced..."
As an advocate for victims of violen [...]
Lucy Diggs Slowe: She Protected Us in Silence So We Could One Day Speak
“Because boundaried spaces don’t build themselves—someone has to brave [...]
Women Deserve Privacy, Safety, and Respect—Especially in Campus Athletics
Across campuses, colleges have a duty: to protect all students.
Th [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the pers [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rare [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often f [...]