Category: RED FLAGS
Complacency Around Violence and Abuse: A longtime foe against women and children
At some point, complacency feels like betrayal.
It is exhausting an [...]
🌿Healing Without Being Pulled Into Someone Else’s Agenda
Survivors are not projects to be shaped.They are people who deserve sa [...]
Why ‘Being Loyal’ Shouldn’t Cost You Your Safety, Dignity, or Peace
One of my all-time favorite jazz tunes is "My Man."
“My Man” is, i [...]
Red Flag Alert: Unhinged Game Fans
Man Fatally Shoots Wife And Critically Injures Stepdaugh [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry.
People talk as if women’s safety is something government [...]
The Culture That Questions Women Before It Stops Men
Femicide.
We keep saying it.
“We can’t bring her back, but j [...]
Women Are Not Required to Be Available
No one could have predicted how this year would end.
It bent sh [...]
20 Affirmations and A Note for Those Who Feel Troubled by What They’re Seeing.
Until we choose to have honest, difficult conversations about sexual v [...]
When Power and Control Speaks, It Uses the Same Language
"I get to treat you horribly because I have decided that you are less [...]
When White Women Say “Misogyny Is Older,” What’s Really Happening
That move is often about re-centering.
When Black [...]
What Does It Cost to Constantly Prove You Know Your Own Life?
It costs energy—the kind your body needs to rest and repair.
It costs [...]
A Woman-Centered Truth About FGM We Cannot Abandon (w/list of resource organizations)
FGM victims’ fury as academics compare practice to cosmetic su [...]
“Why Do Her Posts Always Seem to Reassure Men, Not Women?”
First of all, before I say anything else, for your own survival, belie [...]
✨ When Male Gentleness Is Assumed: Expanding Our Ears, Expanding Our Understanding
There is a myth we’ve built—quietly, collectively—that some men are si [...]
When Belonging Breaks: Surviving in Truth When Cultures Defends Abusers
I get when some groups defend some aspects of abusers. I've slipped ( [...]
The Performance of Ignorance: How Men Pretend Sexual Violence Is News.
There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subjec [...]
Why Some People Fear the Truth About Domination
There’s a strange thing happening in our world today—esp [...]
Prevent it-Trauma is Traumatizing.
This poster could not be more correct. You do not do this work without [...]
The Myth of Neutrality: Why Identity Blindness Fails Survivors Every Time
There’s a phrase people love to say when conversations get uncomfortab [...]
When Older Women Are Told to Give Until It Hurts
The internet will have you believe something very simple and very crue [...]