Category: Safe Boundaried Spaces
🌱 If Stress Can Shrink Your Brain, Can Healing Grow It Back?
For years, people thought that once trauma reshaped the brain, the dam [...]
Why Are Women’s Demands for Boundaries and Safe Spaces Being Compared to Segregation?
Too many women—especially monitored, poor, rural, disabled, and older [...]
🌿 Healing Means Lowering Your Chaos Tolerance
Healing involves lowering chaos tolerance—not by becoming fragile, but [...]
🕯️ No Screening? No Safety.
“There is no screening process for the males who are allowed into wome [...]
🌿 Who Still Treats Women’s Safety as Sacred?
“When a woman says, ‘I don’t feel safe,’ she’s not creating a problem [...]
💭 When Women Don’t Prioritize Our Own Safety, the World Learns How to Ignore It
When women are conditioned to put everyone else’s comfort above our ow [...]
Gender Critical Thinkers: How Can We Speak of Freedom When So Many Women Still Can’t Speak at All?
A womanist does not enter this conversation as a spectator — we enter [...]
We’re Done Paying the Toll for “Acceptance”
We are not what ignorance calls us.
We are not who ignorance sa [...]
If the Mind Believes What It Hears Most — What Are We Teaching It About Safety?
There’s a reason children learn the alphabet through songs.
There’s [...]
When Women Must Explain Their Boundaries, Society Has Already Failed Them.
No male is explaining his right to boundaries, just women and girls. T [...]
What Happens When Women Fully Stop Performing Labor For the Male Gaze?
Words That Tried to Tame Women
For generations, women have been sha [...]
Black Women Have Always Spoken Truth to Power — and We Still Will
In the end anti-black, anti-female, and all forms of discrimination ar [...]
🌿 Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivors—from all walks of life—should know th [...]
Twelve Steps to Danger: How Alcoholics Anonymous Can Be a Playground for Violence-Prone Members (from ProPublica)
Karla Brada Mendez thought that she was getting a second chance on lif [...]
✊🏾 Since When Did a Man Saying He’s Changed Become a Gospel Truth?
She called me because I was serving as her victim advocate:
His fam [...]
“Why Are Women Still Told to Have Faith in Men Who ‘Rebrand’ Themselves?”
“If his change requires your suffering to prove it, it isn’t change [...]
Why Are Women Still Expected to Risk Our Safety Just to Exercise?
Like so many Survivors of childhood sexual violence — and other form [...]
How Many Warnings Does It Take Before We Protect Women Like Sonya Massey?
You know what?
We can’t afford to look at these cases as “isolated in [...]
💛 They Warned Her to Stay Quiet. Tish Hyman Turned Up the Volume (UPDATE)
*We wrote this post when the woman cried out. It is an international s [...]
Why Are Women Told to Stay Calm About Things That Should Horrify Everyone?
When women, girls, and children talk about boundaries, it’s not hate s [...]