Some days I sit with this question—not because I want to, but because the evidence keeps stacking itself in front of me.A man shot a Black woman.
Some days I sit with this question—not because I want to, but because the evidence keeps stacking itself in front of me.
A man shot a Black woman.
A man shot Megan Thee Stallion.
A man with everything to lose took out a gun and shot her.
Where I come from, when someone gets shot, the entire community rises up in empathy.
We pull close.
We bring comfort.
We choose compassion—even if we don’t know the person.
But somehow that rule doesn’t seem to apply when the victim is a Black woman.
Not in hip hop.
Not in the online spaces run by men with microphones.
Not in these little digital pulpits where cruelty gets passed off as entertainment.
When Megan Thee Stallion survived, she was blamed for surviving.
When she sought justice, she was blamed for that too.
And now?
Now we’re watching grown men—Black men with platforms—laugh about her pain.
They talk about “simulating shooting her” in a video game.
As if her body… her fear… her life… were all just part of some punchline.
And these are the same voices who turn around and ask why women “never acknowledge” the “good men.”
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen this pattern:
Women speak up about harm.
Men respond with jokes about the harm.
Then those same men ask why women don’t feel safe.
Someone (user Maryam) once said something like:
“Women despise men as a system. Men despise women as people.”
I felt that in my bones.
Because what we’re witnessing right now isn’t a small misunderstanding.
It’s a larger truth:
Black women’s pain is still treated like entertainment.
Black women’s trauma still doesn’t earn compassion.
And the laughter—the casual, almost bored laughter—tells the real story.
I’m not saying all men use their platforms this way.
But I am saying this:
If the men who don’t believe in harming women want to be known…
If they want to be recognized…
If they want women to trust that they exist…
They’re going to have to start speaking louder than the ones who turn our pain into content.
Because women are not asking for perfection.
We are asking for humanity.
We are asking for compassion where it has repeatedly been denied.
We are asking—simply—for men to stop laughing when a Black woman bleeds.
*This platform does not speak from perfection, we speak from the practice of unlearning harm.
12 Things Black Men Could Be Using Their Mics to Talk About
1. Male Sexual Abuse
So many boys and men carry this pain in silence.
They need brothers who can speak truthfully, remove shame, and fight the stigma.
2. Healing After Childhood Trauma
Men deserve help learning how childhood wounds shape adult behavior—and how to heal instead of harm.
3. Emotional Literacy and Expression
Black men need space to talk about feelings, conflict, fear, grief, and vulnerability without being mocked.
4. Fatherhood and Healthy Parenting
Not just “providing,” but being emotionally available, patient, gentle, and protective.
5. Male Friendships and Support Systems
Men need to hear men encourage deeper bonds, accountability, and community—not isolation.
6. Mental Health and Depression
Real talk about anxiety, burnout, silent suffering, and how untreated pain spreads to families.
7. Male Health Care Needs
Heart disease. Diabetes. Prostate health. Colon Screenings.
Early screenings.
Taking their bodies seriously.
8. Incarceration, Re-entry, and True Rehabilitation
What men face after prison—housing, jobs, shame, rebuilding identity—and how community can help.
9. Healthy Love and Non-Violent Relationships
How to love without possession.
How to honor boundaries.
How to recognize controlling behavior and stop cycles before they start.
10. Financial Literacy and Stability
Budgeting. Saving. Credit. Building generational wealth the safe way, not the flashy way.
11. Community Protection
How men can show up for kids, women, elders, and vulnerable people without ego or performance.
12. Being a Better Man to Other Men
Calling out harm.
Lifting each other up.
Cultivating spaces where accountability is strength, not betrayal.
And, we miss you Tom Joyner.
The legendary Tom Joyner raised millions for HBCU’s, featured “Take a Love One to the Doctor Day”, “Real Fathers, Real Men”, “Single Moms” raised awareness about injustice and so much more. When it came to speaking on women were they perfect?
No, but Id say, in my opinion, that got beyond a passing grade because something was different about their female guests and the women they chose to co-host. It was 100% and I can recall getting offended but I can also recall them opening the phone lines to take challenge at times. This is a more challenging time to push back against sexism and misogyny.