The Magic Trick: How Grooming Feels in the Beginning
They welcome you in with warmth, with open arms. They set the table with love, dignity, and safety—just long enough for you to believe it's real [...]
How to Stop Pouring Into What Doesn’t Grow
Water does nothing for fake flowers. So why are women still told to pour?
Women are always told to give.To support, love, uplift, and protect—especia [...]
Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve Justice—No Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation.Accountability for Black predators is not— and will never be—measured ag [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
Courtney Stodden’s Lifetime Movie Exposes the Public Grooming of a Child Bride—and the Cruelty of Celebrity Culture
I wasn't deeply familiar with this young woman prior to watching the Lifetime movie. I'm a bit out of her target age range. But being a teenager and t [...]
🔥 The Price of Loyalty to the Lie
Some silence isn’t ignorance. It’s allegiance.
There are women who didn’t know.There are women who didn’t see.There are women who were misled, manipu [...]
You Didn’t Just Stay Silent—You Helped Silence Others
When people are finally exposed for being abusive, manipulative, or harmful, we often hear the same tired phrase:“Well… they had us all fooled [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predator targeting a person—saying the right things, isolating them, offering gifts, br [...]
🛑 Summer Safety Alert: Predators Count on Your Distractions—Don’t Let Them
Yes, it’s summer again.
And while many of us are focused on camps, cookouts, rest, and routine changes—some people are focused on y [...]
⚠️ Sometimes Male Agitation Is Not Just a “Bad Mood”
It Can Be a Ramp-Up to Violence. Especially Against the Vulnerable.Too often, male agitation is brushed off.He’s “just stressed.”He’s “had a rough [...]
Unlearning Loyalty to Those Who Ask You to Lie
“Power borrowed from fear never lasts"
There comes a time when your soul grows too heavy to carry the weight of someone else's lies.
At first, i [...]
Catholic Abuse Crisis Isn’t Over: The Urgent Need to Keep Listening to Victims
For decades, Survivors of child sexual abuse within the Catholic Church have bravely stepped forward—risking everything to tell the truth. Their testi [...]
You Were Seeking Safety, Not Sex: A Truth for Survivors of Childhood Abuse
When a child is sexually abused, too much of the truth gets twisted by more vocal and crafty adults. And children and those who are now adults strugg [...]
Words Matter: Why Calling ALL Older Woman-Younger Man Relationships “Grooming” is Harmful
Language matters.It shapes how we think, how we write laws, how we protect—or fail to protect—the vulnerable. That’s why we must [...]
Inclusion Should Never Cost Girls Their Safety
April is child abuse awareness month.
When politicians twist the language of “inclusion” to force girls to surrender their safe spaces, they are no [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the story to sound softer than it was—it’s easy for outsiders to say:
“Why [...]
🌿 The Truth About Hate Groups & Their Harm to Women and Children
I speak the truth, even when it shakes the room.
My refusal to accept harm is not hatred. It is sacred love.
We often think of hate groups as someth [...]
The Blurry Woman: How Society “Forgets” the Definition the Moment We Ask for Rights
When she is a target for control or harm.
Forced Sterilization (The Global Eugenics Playbook): From the targeted sterilization of Indigenous women in [...]
When Love Is a Lie: Understanding Grooming Beyond Childhood
Because grooming doesn’t stop at 18. It just gets harder to prove.
We are taught to see grooming as something that happens to children.But many Survi [...]
Abuse Isn’t About Rage. It’s About Control.
👁️ See It ClearlyWatch who people protect — and who they hurt.
Watch who they challenge — and who they stay silent around.Women.
Children.
[...]
🚩 When His Praise Requires Another Woman’s Demeaning: That’s Not a Compliment—That’s a Red Flag
At first, you felt flattered.He spoke highly of you. Said you were different. Said you were “better” than the women of his own race. Smarter. Softer. [...]
No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
Stop Calling Children “Underage Women”: How Language Is Used to Soften Harm Against Girls
No.
We are not doing that word-washing anymore. Not after what we had to read. Not after people had to live through.....or not live thr [...]
When Technology Becomes a Weapon: What You Need to Know About Cyberstalking and Deepfake Abuse
People like to be casual about it, but cyberstalking is a crime.Cyberstalking looks like:Following you from platform to platform, even after [...]
Austin Wolfe Sentencing: What It Means for Survivors, Justice, and the Black Gay Community (w/audio)
The news of Austin Wolfe’s sentencing has landed heavily. Once a visible figure in the adult entertainment industry, he now faces the consequences o [...]
Real Activism Protects Children, Not Egos
If the full extent of your “activism” against grooming is railing against age-gap relationships between older women and younger men,
you might want t [...]
They Know Exactly Who They Are
We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone…
…that they’re abusive.…that they’re a predator.…that they hurt wome [...]
When the Mask Matters More Than the Truth, Survivors Are Asked to Disappear
There is a reason people cling so tightly to labels when harm is exposed.
Often, it is not confusion.
It is fear.Fear of admitting they were mis [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who we’ [...]
Missing Black Girls: Still Invisible
How dare you make laws and policies that make our girls less safe!-Tonya GJ PrinceEvery single year, thousands of Black girls vanish from our comm [...]
❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabulary—it’s about dignity, [...]
They Weren’t Just Controlling—They Were Consuming
Survivors often face: the coercion to disappear inside someone else’s reflection.
Some people weren’t looking for love.They were looking for someon [...]