10 Hard Truths About Men Who Have Been Violent in Relationships
Safety never comes from cruelty. One of the strongest predictors of future abuse is past abuse. Men who have harmed partners before are likely to re [...]
The Cost of Agreeability: How We Uphold the Barriers We Think We Are Fighting
I've served the women who responded to violence and were facing harsher punishment than any man would have for the same crime. No one was willing to h [...]
The Door Closes When You Choose Their Violence Over My Truth
(Including the violence you want me to stop talking about.)
There’s a particular kind of betrayal that Black, Indigenous, and other racially marginal [...]
Safety Is Power. Access Is a Privilege.
People are always telling us about the habits of powerful people. Well, one thing that powerful people do is maintain strict boundaries. The average [...]
Does Naming Ourselves Hurt Anyone? No. Erasing Us Does.
If the harm is sex-specific, the language has to be sex-specific.Especially for Black women.Especially in maternal health.
Black women have [...]
🛑 Tokenism Is Not Liberation: Why Hate Groups Tokenize Black Women
Some groups want our rhythm, our language, our beauty—but not our justice.
They say they care about Black women.
They post our photos.Quote our hero [...]
✊🏾 Since When Did a Man Saying He’s Changed Become a Gospel Truth?
She called me because I was serving as her victim advocate:His family is mad at me and now I'm so confused."He is trying to change but sometim [...]
“Why All Women Deserve to Be Heard When Speaking About Violence and Abuse—Not Just the Powerful”
For many men, all of life is a measuring contest.Who has more. Who is stronger. Who commands the most followers, the highest salary, the biggest pla [...]
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm w/video featuring Michelle Browder, Mothers of Gynecology
🩸 They’ve Always Watched the Womb: A History of Obsession, Control & Harm
From the plantation to the present day, men—particularly those in power [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what do we often hear first?“The worst part is people are going to call him ga [...]
When Stalking Isn’t Just “Annoying” — It’s a Real Threat to Girls and Women
INVESTIGATIVE: One stalking victim's mother speaks after man kills woman, sets himself on fire
Stalking is often dismissed as “harassment” or brushed [...]
When Women Forget We Are Women
When women stop listening to other women about safety—when you say, “That never happens,” or “Who cares?”—you hand over our collective protection.
Yo [...]
They Know Exactly Who They Are
We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone…
…that they’re abusive.…that they’re a predator.…that they hurt wome [...]
How to Know You’re Not Safe—Even If No One’s Hitting You
(And Why So Many Survivors Miss the Signs)
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this really abuse?” or told yourself, “At least they’re not hitting me,”—you’ [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the first question is: “Why did she choose that?”But I’ve been walking beside Surviv [...]
We Called It Rape Culture for a Reason. And That Reason Still Exists
There was a time when we named things clearly.
We called it rape culture.
Not to be provocative. Not to shock. Not to divide.
But to survive.
We u [...]
Using Michelle Obama’s Image to Justify White Supremacy Is a Self-Own—And a Betrayal
(Why Black women must speak for ourselves, gatekeep our image, and protect our humanity)
Every so often-too often- I see it again:A meme, a tweet, or [...]
Gynophobia: The Fear That Shapes Our Stories and Our Lives
In a world full of contradictions, there is one fear that rarely gets named, but is woven into the seams of our cultures, systems, and stories: gyno [...]
Is Face ID a Danger for Women in Abusive Relationships?
“Convenience shouldn’t cost you your safety.”We don’t always talk about this, but we should:
Face ID (and other biometric features like fingerpri [...]
12 Things About the Female Body Many Men Do Not Understand
Pain is routinely normalized for womenMen are often treated quickly for pain. Women are more likely to be told it’s “stress,” “hormones,” or s [...]
When Children Ask for Safeguards: Reflections on the Supreme Court, Safety, and Respect
In the wake of the recent Supreme Court decision around parental rights and school curriculum, the conversation has grown louder. But beneath the nois [...]
Ride Hail Assault Isn’t Rare—It’s Underreported
updated August 2025
Every day, people step into rideshare vehicles hoping to get from point A to point B. But some never make it there safely.
Ride [...]
❓ FAQ: What Do Terms Like Gaslighting, Emotional Abuse, Grooming, and Coercion Really Mean?
Language is power. Survivors often feel the harm long before they can name it. Having the right words is not just about vocabulary—it’s about dignity, [...]
Breaking the Myth: “Men Don’t Need to Be Trans to Rape Women”
One of the most dangerous and dismissive talking points circulating today is the claim that “men don’t need to be trans to rape women because men will [...]
Della Reese Opens Up About Surviving Abuse: A Powerful Testimony of Strength
We all know Della Reese for her unmistakable strength, radiant beauty, and powerhouse talent. A legendary singer, actress, and spiritual leader, she g [...]
To the Misguided, Misdirected, Mislead, and Misinformed, about Child Sexual Abuse
Back in 2016 this post was inspired when a very famous celebrity publicly blamed how young girls dress for males in schools being sexually tempt [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violence, and the complicated aftermath that follows, never hits “pause.” It doesn’t wa [...]
What Is a Rape Apologist?
People catch on to the fact that victims get blamed and no one tells men to stop harming women and girls. Ever. -Tonya GJ Prince
A rape apologist i [...]
From Michael Harriot: How a City Ignored the (Systemic) Rape, Murder and Terrorism of Black Women for Four Decades
updated from December 4, 2024"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced."
-James BaldwinSi [...]
Centering Safety: Honoring the Right to Request Female Carers
Some things should never be controversial.A disabled woman or girl requesting a female caregiver should not be met with outrage, mockery, or moral j [...]
✨ Boundaries Don’t Meaningfully Harm Relationships — Disrespect Does
🚫 The Myth
“If you set boundaries, you’re being cold.”
“If you draw lines, you’re pushing people away.”
“If you say no, you’ll lo [...]
She Didn’t Stay Because She Didn’t Know. She Stayed Because She Did.
People assume she stayed because she didn’t know.
Didn’t know her worth.Didn’t know what he was doing to her.Didn’t know what love is supposed to l [...]