10 Future Faking Abuse Statements Survivors Should Recognize and Trust Their Gut About
10 Future Faking Abuse Statements
“I’m going to get help—just give me a little more time.”Used to delay accountability and stop the Survivor [...]
You Can Be Inclusive Without Abandoning Girls, Women, or Survivors
Inclusion should never come at the cost of someone else’s safety.
But lately, women and Survivors are being told to prove our goodness by staying sil [...]
Why You May Want to Unfollow People Who Willfully Turn a Blind Eye to Power Imbalance
As Big Brother Legend on X.com says, "I unfollow (Black) people who don't understand this." At this point in my life, I choose to disaffiliate with [...]
Not All Prosecutors Are the Same: Why Survivors Must Look Deeper
In Survivor Advocacy, Complexity Matters In today’s climate, it’s easy to fall into “for or against” narratives—especially when it comes to the jus [...]
“Not This Person” Is Old Reputation Management — And We’ve Fought This Before
Domestic violence advocates have been here before.
For decades, advocates fought a very specific lie.Not loudly at first.But relentless [...]
Why Manipulators Pretend to Share Your Values (Even When They Don’t)
Some people don’t believe in your mission, your healing, or your values.They just learn to sound like they do—because it gets them something.
Here’ [...]
When It’s No Longer Safe to Stay Attached
Move With a Flow That Honors You
(inspired by your closing words—soft, powerful, rooted in survival and self-worth) We don’t always know what [...]
Boundaries Are Living Proof That You Believe Your Life Is Worth Protecting
Systems will tell you that you are safe.Systems will tell you they exist to protect you.But when danger comes, when violence shatters lives, when harm [...]
Once You Know, You’re Responsible for the Truth
Coercive Sex Trafficking Isn’t Hidden. We’ve Just Been Taught Not to See It.
Coercive sex trafficking thrives in the cracks of our silence.
It sur [...]
Master Manipulators: 10 Disturbing Tactics They Use to Control and Confuse You
They rarely come in screaming.They don’t wear signs.They don’t always raise their voice or raise their hand.But what they raise is doubt—in you, in yo [...]
How Women’s Pain Is Minimized to Keep Men Comfortable
If there were no men in the room,no men in the equation,no men to protect or appease—
would anyone ever look a girl in the eye and say: “It’s no [...]
Women WILL Make a Scene When We Do Not Feel Calm When a Male Enters a Female Space
From the time we are little girls, the world trains us to keep the peace.To stay quiet.To stay pleasant.To never upset anyone — especially men.
We ar [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often face silencing first.
Before the bruise,before the strike,before the world sees [...]
Detachment Is Not Coldness—It’s Protection
They told you to go back.To be patient.To “love him through it.”To pour water on a man who doesn’t grow, doesn’t change, doesn’t offer safety, doesn’t [...]
🧩 REARTICULATION: When the System Repackages Harm in New Clothes
WARNING TO THE LOVING, THE NURTURING, THE HEALERS:
The systems we fight do not always come with burning crosses or slurs. Sometimes, they show up a [...]
30 Red Flags of Unsafe People: How to Spot Them Early
Some people are simply unsafe. Whether in personal relationships, workplaces, social settings, movements, politics, or online spaces, unsafe individ [...]
Aesthetic Gatekeeping: You Are Not Here for Their Approval Ratings
Let’s talk about one of the oldest games in the patriarchy playbook—and baby, it’s still being played in 4K, HD, and every group chat:Aesthetic Gateke [...]
When Older Women Are Told to Give Until It Hurts
The internet will have you believe something very simple and very cruel, and in my view, is rooted in misogyny: If younger people cut you off, it m [...]
⚖️So If Robin Fought. Sierah Shouldn’t Have Had To.
Some stories never stop echoing — they just move from one woman’s life to another’s. In 1990, a woman named Robin Gardner was riding her bicycle do [...]
When Propaganda is Used Against Abuse Survivors
Propaganda isn’t just for politics or war; it’s a powerful tool that gets used to control narratives about abuse survivors, shape public perception, a [...]
Performative Allyship: When the Applause Is Louder Than the Protection
There’s a kind of allyship that shows up only when the lights are on.When there's an audience.When speaking up will gain applause, followers, or favor [...]
The Question Was Safety—The Answer Was Shame
She didn’t ask for special treatment.She didn’t ask for a platform, a parade, or a prize.
She asked for safety.That’s it. That’s all.
But the answ [...]
12 Burdens Growing Up In Dysfunctional Families Teaches You to Accept-and Why We Must Reject Them
In dysfunctional families and abusive relationships, women are often asked—no, expected—to tolerate things that should never be tolerated. These [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Different continents.Different centuries. Different tools.
But the outcome?The same [...]
🎯 General Categories Protect the Powerful, Not the Vulnerable
We are often told that broad categories are a sign of unity.That we should all just fall under one banner:
“Women.”
“People of color.” [...]
Angels Need Rest Too: Why Demanding a Sanctuary Is an Act of Survival, Not Selfishness
Women, we are always there for everyone else.
This season, this THANKSgiving season, among the many things that I am truly thankful for is women.
[...]
The Performance of Ignorance: How Men Pretend Sexual Violence Is News.
There is a peculiar kind of amnesia that grips men whenever the subject turns to sexual violence—an amnesia so convenient, so well-practiced, it deser [...]
We Didn’t Come This Far for Crumbs
A handful of men hold the feast, while women and darker-skinned people are told to survive on crumbs. Why are we accepting this as normal? For [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
Which Women Do You Really Stand For? The Question Feminists Keep Dodging (updated)
For those unfamiliar: Most Black women did not call for “unity.” We understood then, as we do now, that not all women are willing to give up [...]
Why Do Some Men Bash Good Men Rather Than Learning From Them?
Facts…why men rush to social media to bash Klay Thompson and Russell Wilson. pic.twitter.com/7O3U0642rm
— Fck_Yaya🎧✍️🏾 (@FckYaya) November 20, 20 [...]
This Moment Is Teaching Us
🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
A young Black woman—famous, talented, in the public eye—is harmed in plain view.She finds the courage to come forward. To say: I [...]