For some women, these beliefs work just fine. And I believe in ladies choice. Women should have what they want. If you like it, I love it—so long a
For some women, these beliefs work just fine. And I believe in ladies choice. Women should have what they want.
If you like it, I love it—so long as it is safe-mentally, physically, and spiritually- for you and for your children. I’m good. I make choices myself, and have plenty of gratitude and appreciation for the people who fought for me to have the privilege.
What I don’t love is when women –especially women in leadership– try to force those same beliefs onto other women, and especially onto girls. No ma’am.
See, now what we have is a problem. I was not bothering you. I do not expect you to bother me with your man or your man friend’s (insert words I’m trying to stop saying) beliefs.
65 Beliefs Men Hold About Women (incomplete list)
1. Faith & Spiritual Control
Women should sit in the back during faith services.
Women should never hold leadership positions in faith.
Women should remain silent in religious gatherings.
Women should not enter sacred spaces during menstruation.
Women should not question faith leaders.
Women should not preach or teach men.
Women should not study theology deeply.
Women should be restricted from rituals reserved for men.
Women should be submissive as a “spiritual duty.”
Women should not reject arranged marriages “blessed” by faith leaders.
2. Family & Domestic Expectations
Women should cook, clean, and manage the home.
Women should prioritize children above all else.
Women should not work outside the home.
Women should not earn more than men.
Women should always take their husband’s last name.
Women should obey their fathers and husbands.
Women should marry young to secure family honor.
Women should not demand divorce.
Women should never live alone.
Women should remarry quickly after widowhood.
3. Public & Social Restrictions
Women should not laugh loudly in public.
Women should walk behind men in public.
Women should not dance publicly.
Women should not travel alone.
Women should not ride bicycles or drive cars.
Women should not speak to unrelated men.
Women should not go outdoors after dark.
Women should not lead protests or activism.
Women should not eat before men in the household.
Women should not raise their voice to men.
4. Work & Money
Women should not manage money independently.
Women should not own property.
Women should not inherit equally with men.
Women should not run businesses.
Women should not run for public office.
Women should not have authority over men at work.
Women should not work night shifts or travel for jobs.
Women should not demand equal pay.
Women should not outshine men socially or intellectually.
Women should not pursue higher education in male-dominated fields.
5. Bodily Autonomy & Safety
Women should not initiate sex.
Women should not enjoy sexual pleasure equally.
Women should not control their own reproductive decisions.
Women should not breastfeed in public.
Women should not cut their hair short.
Women should not wear trousers.
Women should not wear bright or attention-drawing colors.
Women should not demand female-only medical care.
Women should not file complaints against abuse.
6. Political & Legal Restrictions
Women should not vote.
Women should not testify in court against men.
Women should not control land or resources.
Women should not demand legal independence.
Women should not contradict a husband’s decisions in public.
7. Modern Pressures & Erasures
Women must share restrooms, locker rooms, and fitting rooms with men who identify as women.
Women must compete on sports teams with men who identify as women.
Women must accept men who identify as women into women-only healing or recovery spaces.
Women must accept men redefining the very word woman.
Women must not demand exclusive women-only groups without being labeled hateful.
8. Social Beliefs About “Femininity”
Women should not contradict men when speaking.
Women should not interrupt men in conversation.
Women should always appear agreeable, never “difficult.”
Women should not delay leaving unsafe situations.
Women should not prioritize friendships, creativity, or rest over family roles.
We must stop demanding that women who have no connection to random men bend and submit to rules that have nothing to do with us and only strip us of our -brand new fresh out of the package-rights.
If someone insists you follow their belief system, have them explain how it benefits you. And their answer had better be more than a tired insult, “be nice”, or “be kind.”