🔥 We See the Lie. And We Will Not Be Silent.

It is not hateful to say this out loud:

The same laws that allow males to identify into women’s spaces—without any proof, process, or protection—are the same laws that make it legal for predatory men to follow women into restrooms, locker rooms, domestic violence shelters, hospital wards, prisons, changing areas, and anywhere else we once believed we had the right to safety, privacy, and dignity.

That is not progress.

That is patriarchy—dressed up in the wigs, makeup, clothes, and accessories that women have historically been expected to perfect, adorn, and embody.

Women made those symbols powerful. Iconic.

I’m the granddaughter of a master seamstress so I tell you what I know from spending so much time in her home and care. There’s no magic in those threads. The magic is in what women around the world have been doing with those threads since the beginning of time. Poor young people like my Granny who dropped out of school and raised her siblings, turned tossed away potato sacks into admired outfits. When corporations caught on, of course they marketed it and sold it to the masses.

WE are the ones that gave, and still give, those threads magic. Women are the muse to nearly every great fashion designer that ever existed. 

Now those same symbols are being worn as costumes, while our boundaries are erased and our voices are called hateful for noticing.

This isn’t liberation.
It’s male entitlement in a new disguise—wrapped in our image, using our language, and demanding our silence.

And let’s be clear—women did not create this problem.
The reason we even need separate spaces is because of male violence.
Not because women are hateful. Not because women are hysterical. But because we have been hunted, harmed, raped, stalked, silenced, and ……blamed for it.

And now, we’re being told to shut up, move over, smile, and say nothing as our hard-won boundaries are erased—under the false promise of inclusion. Not even safety. “Inclusion”

Let’s be even clearer:

• Women are not the reason this society is unsafe.

• Women are not the reason people need refuge.

• Women are not the obstacle to liberation.

Men are. 

And if you can’t say that out loud without choking on it,
then you are not ready to talk about safety.
You are not ready to talk about justice.
You are not ready to talk about freedom.

Because when you ignore our voices,
when you mock our boundaries,
when you brand our justified resistance as hate…

What you are doing is reinforcing a system where male entitlement trumps female survival.

We don’t exist to make everyone comfortable.
We exist to live. Breathe. Heal. Protect ourselves and our daughters.
And if your so-called liberation demands that women be silent, exposed, and erased,
then what you’re selling isn’t freedom—it’s another form of control. No. 

We’ve seen it before. We name it now.
And we will not be moved.

We can all live in harmony, but first some people must learn that my part in the song is not to “shut the hell up” while you get to run all over me. -Tonya GJ Prince