Category: Abuse
This Is Why Victims Sue: It’s Not About Greed. It’s About Survival.
They say it’s a “cash grab.”They roll their eyes.They whisper behind h [...]
Curves, Control & Convenient Amnesia: The 90s and Early 2000s Edition
The 90s were velvet and vinyl,grunge and glitter,a time when girl [...]
Privacy Is Not Prejudice. It’s Protection.
Somewhere along the way, somebody got bold enough to say it out loud:" [...]
Women Deserve Privacy, Safety, and Respect—Especially in Campus Athletics
Across campuses, colleges have a duty: to protect all students.
Th [...]
It’s Not the Phrase. It’s the Harm.
Some folks are upset nowabout the phrase:“I don’t owe you.”
Around he [...]
When Healing Language Gets Mocked: Gaslighting by Cultural Delegitimization
They asked you to speak. Or, it is time and space designed for speak [...]
Who Benefits From My Silence?
Every time I swallowed the truth, someone else got fed.Fed with powe [...]
If Any of Your Relationships Run on Silence and Lies, It’s Time to Reclaim Your Voice
I need to speak to you plain today.
There comes a time in healing whe [...]
People Don’t Just “Ignore Red Flags” — They’re Protecting Something
When someone stays silent about abuse, overlooks harm, or rewrites the [...]
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the pers [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predato [...]
When One Gets Through, Others Follow: The Open Door Metaphor in Abuse
There’s a pattern in abuse that doesn’t get talked about enough. Not [...]
Jim Crow Was About Stripping Boundaries-Not Setting Them
Someone is telling on themselves.......In Jim Crow America, Bl [...]
Let’s Make It Plain: Jim Crow and Sex-Based Boundaries Are Not the Same Thing
Some people are confused.Some were misinformed.Some are using half-tru [...]
Weaponized Empathy Is Not Solidarity. It’s Coercion.
Let’s be real. There is a difference between asking someone to care an [...]
Don’t Use Our History to Justify Our Endangerment
Jim Crow taught the world that Black girls and women existed to be use [...]
When the World Misunderstands the Roots of “Choice”: A Survivor-Centered Look at Abuse, Neglect, and Prostitution
Too often, when the topic of prostitution or “sex work” comes up, the [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them m [...]
Not All Prosecutors Are the Same: Why Survivors Must Look Deeper
In Survivor Advocacy, Complexity MattersIn today’s climate, it’s e [...]