Category: Domestic Violence
When the Gate Swings Open: The Floodgate Effect and the Harm That Follows
Some harms don’t happen in isolation.
They happen because someone was [...]
Cultural Complicity: The Silence That Hurts More Than the First Harm
He Did the Harm. They Held the Door.
Sometimes it’s not just the pers [...]
Grooming by Environment: When the System Softens the Ground for Abuse
When most people hear the word grooming, they imagine a single predato [...]
When One Gets Through, Others Follow: The Open Door Metaphor in Abuse
There’s a pattern in abuse that doesn’t get talked about enough. Not [...]
Twice as Good Doesn’t Stop at the Boardroom
Black Women Must Be Twice as Vigilant About Safety—Because We Are Rare [...]
🕯️ For Those Who Never Reported: We See You
There are so many reasons Survivors don’t report.And not one of them m [...]
Not All Prosecutors Are the Same: Why Survivors Must Look Deeper
In Survivor Advocacy, Complexity MattersIn today’s climate, it’s e [...]
What to Say to the Inner Voice That Still Blames You
(And Why That Voice Isn’t the Truth)You’ve left the relationsh [...]
Self-Abandonment: How Survivors Can Come Home to Themselves
Self-abandonment is one of the most overlooked consequences of survivi [...]
You Deserve Safety—Even When You’re Just Trying to Keep Going
Some of us were never told that we deserved to feel safe.We were tol [...]
12 Quiet Ways Self-Abandonment Shows Up
(And How to Come Home to Yourself)
Self-abandonment isn’t always loud [...]
Why “I Don’t Care About Potential Harm-Doers” Sounds Empowering But Isn’t
We get it.You’re tired of tiptoeing.You’re tired of warning signs, red [...]
Silencing Is Always the First Strike
Survivors of violence—whether in war zones or in personal life—often f [...]
Say It With Your Chest: Black Victims Deserve Justice—No Exceptions
Stop weaponizing white men’s impunity to excuse Black men’s predation. [...]
Until This Country Reckons with How It Treats Black People, It Will Never Heal Its Violence
Until this country reckons with how it treats Black people—how its sys [...]
❓FAQ: What’s Going On With Untested Rape Kits?
💥 Q: What is a rape kit?
A rape kit (or sexual assault forensic evide [...]
Why We Must Stop Centering Discomfort Over Male-on-Male Sexual Violence
When a male accuses another male of sexual harassment or assault, what [...]
⚠️ Sometimes Male Agitation Is Not Just a “Bad Mood”
It Can Be a Ramp-Up to Violence. Especially Against the Vulnerable.
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Healing When Your Abuser Is Still Welcome at the Table
The betrayal no one wants to talk about—but every Survivor remembers. [...]
When Chaos Is a Weapon: How Some Partners Use Crisis to Control You
And why you’re not “mean” for wanting peaceIt starts with a ba [...]
