When Women Say No: Why Men Mocking Our Boundaries Is a New Low
We Are Protecting Our Bodies, Not Asking for Permission
There’s something deeply broken and dangerous happening in the public square.
Women and girl [...]
Women Don’t Need Permission to Choose—We Need Power to Thrive
Every woman has the right to make her own choices. Full stop.She doesn’t need approval, permission, or public debate.
💜 Her personal choices are hers [...]
What Happens When Women Fully Stop Performing Labor For the Male Gaze?
Words That Tried to Tame WomenFor generations, women have been shamed into labor — emotional, physical, spiritual — through language that sounds o [...]
When “I Am” Becomes a Demand
“I am…”Two of the most powerful words a person can speak.
In the right hands, they build identity.They anchor us in truth.They tell the world who we’ [...]
Forced Sterilization Wasn’t a Mistake. It Was Misogyny and Racism Working Together.
"All they know about is slavery"
Do we? Or is that all you heard before you stopped listening so people stopped sharing with you? Because there is t [...]
Violence Against Women: Black Women Interventions & Courage
Sometimes discussions with others outside of the Black community, especially around racism, quickly travel to a classic defense tactic: "W [...]
🧬 Hope’s Name Was No Coincidence: How One Woman’s Tragic Murder Changed Forensic History
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Her name was Hope Denise Hall.And in life, she embodied it.In death, she redefined it.🎙️ Who Was Hope?
Hope was a 22-year [...]
Fair is Fair: What The Legend of Billie Jean Teaches Us About the Inversion of Reality”
Imagine you’re watching a movie where a sneaky character does something mean to a classmate, like stealing their lunch. But as soon as a teacher walks [...]
10 Ways Faux Concern About Cheek Swabs in Sports Does Not Protect Black Women—It Exploits Us
There’s been a growing outcry that cheek swabs to confirm male and female categories in sports will harm Black women. On the surface, it sounds like [...]
“She Went Off”: Why Women Are Expected to Stay Calm While Being Violated
Every time a woman raises her voice about a violation, someone appears — online, in the comments, in the community — to say:
“She went off.”“She over [...]
You Can Be Inclusive Without Abandoning Girls, Women, or Survivors
Inclusion should never come at the cost of someone else’s safety.
But lately, women and Survivors are being told to prove our goodness by staying sil [...]
🚩 Red Flag: When Someone Is Offended by Your Boundaries
Pay attention.
If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” a partner—gets angry, offended, or manipulative because you’ve set a boundary…
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Emmett Till: The Sacred & Innocent Can’t Coexist with Predators
We are in justified rage mode, and we are not backing down. You are playing with the sacred memory of children now.
These quiet shadows are not yo [...]
🔁 Starting Over: A Sacred Act of Power, Not Failure
They don’t talk about how painful starting over can be.They don't talk about how holy it is either.
Sometimes it doesn’t look like courage.It looks [...]
Access to Women Is Not a Male Human Right
There is something deeply revealing about the world we live in.
You cannot rent a car without agreeing to terms....and a credit card.
You cannot lea [...]
When Pretending You’re Okay Is Wearing You Down
What to Do Instead of Faking It All the Time
Some days, pretending to be okay feels safer than telling the truth.
You already know what happens when [...]
Every Woman Deserves to Be Heard in the Delivery Room
Please pay close attention to this woman's story and her words. ‘The day I was reduced to a Black birthing body.’ A doctor reflects on pr [...]
Women Have Every Right to Feel Safe Even If That Annoys You
Immediately following the height of #MeToo women and girls have been inundated with messages like "be kind".
If #MeToo got us talking and [...]
FAQ: Common Perpetrators, Race, and Bias — What U.S. Parents Must Know About CSAM
You can't find what you are not looking for.
Knowledge is power. And when adults refuse to see the truth, perpetrators are protected, children are [...]
Enablers Aren’t Just Passive Bystanders—They Are Active Participants in Abuse
Survivor: “You saw what he did to me. Why didn’t you say anything?”Enabler: “I didn’t want to get involved. Besides, it’s not like he meant to [...]
When the Mourning Is Selective: A Reflection on Silence, Justice, and Sacred Courage(audio version included)
updated from 2022LISTEN HEREBlack women also experience significantly higher rates of psychological abuse — including humiliation, insults, [...]
When Silence is Taught, Suffering is Inherited: How Childhood Conditioning Sets the Stage for Abuse
Some lessons aren’t written in books.Some are taught in the hush of a disappointed glance, a side eye when you spoke up, punishment for being a natura [...]
Women Should Try Being Kind to Other Women Too
“There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women."
― Madeleine Albright
Since we are doing throw back comparisons these days, [...]
Why Leaving an Abusive Relationship Is a Process—Not Just a Decision
Because: leaving an abusive relationship is not a single event—it’s a complex, emotional, and often life-threatening process.
Here are the real reaso [...]
Where Coercion Is the Law, Truth Cannot Live
Where coercion is the law, truth cannot live.
When the rules are written to force silence,to demand submission,to prioritize appearances over reali [...]
Before Social Media, Women Told Stories—Did We Forget How to Listen?
Before critique culture.Before hot takes.Before performance listening.Before everyone felt required to respond.
Women told stories.And other [...]
Why Women Must Use Our Labor Wisely: From Survival to True Progress
In my early 30's I realized that I had three female conditions brewing inside me. And they had been there for a long time. In spite of me getting [...]
💔 Period Poverty: 12 Surprising Facts You Were Never Told
Every day, around the world—including in wealthy nations like the U.S.—girls and women are suffering in silence simply because of their periods.
They [...]
Betrayal Blindness: The Cost of Ignoring Harm
Betrayal is not always loud. It does not always come with a clear sign or a dramatic confrontation. Sometimes, it comes wrapped in silence, in denial, [...]
US Congress Testimony: Girls To the Back
I was not surprised that Black women seemed to suggest that the needs of girls were less important. Black girls growing up in the United S [...]
🌿 Faith, Healing, and the Work of Safe People
People who support Survivors—from all walks of life—should know this:
many Survivors are people of faith.Not all. But many.Some draw stre [...]
You’re Not Broken. You Were Trained to Survive Chaos.
Some of us were raised in rooms where silence was survival.
Where love came with conditions, and peace was always paid for in self-abandonment.
We l [...]