Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
Don’t Say You’re in Our Corner—Fight Like It
“What we’re fighting for is not a privilege. It is a right.” – Fannie Lou Hamer
Don’t say you’re in my corner—fight like it.Don’t post slogans and [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Honor My Journey and Reclaim My Energy
Anytime you put your time, energy, and heart into something you take a risk. It may not turn out as you had hoped. That part always hurts. Still [...]
Period Huts: 10 Disturbing Facts You Didn’t Know About This Harmful Practice
Why Women and Girls Deserve Safety, Not Isolation, During Their Periods
In many parts of the world, menstruation is still treated as something sham [...]
You Never Know Who’s Listening
You don’t know which of the people around you are living in abusive situations.But they see you.They watch you.They hear you.
They are listening—no [...]
If Any of Your Relationships Run on Silence and Lies, It’s Time to Reclaim Your Voice
I need to speak to you plain today.
There comes a time in healing when you must take a long, hard look around you and ask:Who benefits from my sile [...]
People Don’t Fear Your Inner World. They Fear Being Controlled by It.
When I was in college earning my degree in Organizational Management and Development, we were asked to give a presentation about early milestones in o [...]
Her VOICE is Terrifying But Not His Violence?
Some men (and women) don’t define harm as what they’ve done.They define harm as a woman’s refusal to keep quiet about it.
In this upside-down worldvi [...]
🏛️ What Rural Women Need from Policymakers
My professional advocacy work in domestic and sexual violence began in racially and economically diverse rural areas.
Rural women experiencing dom [...]
Where Coercion Is the Law, Truth Cannot Live
Where coercion is the law, truth cannot live.
When the rules are written to force silence,to demand submission,to prioritize appearances over reali [...]
From Koketia King to Lisa Marie Riley: The Danger Didn’t End. It Just Changed Addresses.
In 2010, Florida boxer Yathomas Riley was arrested after his then-girlfriend, Koketia King, was shot in the head inside his Miami apartment.Riley clai [...]
10 Common Myths About Grooming (and the Truth Survivors Need to Know)
Grooming is one of the most misunderstood forms of abuse. Many people still believe dangerous myths that downplay the harm or shift blam [...]
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Why “Not a [Insert Person]” Is Dangerous for Survivors
Let’s tell the truth:Adults have power. Children don’t.
Even the most vulnerable adult usually has more access to voice, resources, legal systems, an [...]
🕊️ The Sisterhood Gag Order
When protecting him means punishing her.
Some women aren’t silenced by men.They’re silenced by other women.
Not with fists.But with sideways glances [...]
The Door Closes When You Choose Their Violence Over My Truth
(Including the violence you want me to stop talking about.)
There’s a particular kind of betrayal that Black, Indigenous, and other racially marginal [...]
Celebrity Trials, Silencing, and the Spectacle of Misogyny
Let’s talk about what we should be learning from these celebrity court cases—about abuse, about loyalty, and about truth.
Time and again, we see wo [...]
Some of Us Refuse To Walk Back into Bondage Dressed as Progress
Some folks treat danger like it’s a dare.They treat survival like it’s a thrill.They treat oppression like it’s a rollercoaster ride—they want to hop [...]
🌬️ Benediction for the Journey: On Letting Go
Letting go is not weakness.Letting go is not failure.Letting go is not giving up.
Letting go is sacred.Letting go is survival.Letting go is Womanist [...]
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Drowning Out the Truth Creates Female Isolation
It is easy to the thing we fight against because we live in it and we were raised within it. We have to make sure that as a society, as a workplace, [...]
🤲🏽 What Is Self-Trust? (And Why Is It So Hard After Abuse?)
Self-trust is the sacred belief that your own voice is worth listening to.It’s the quiet knowing inside that says: “I believe myself. I can rely [...]
The Bird That Runs Scams Better Than Humans (And What It Teaches Us About Manipulation)
To some degree, we all have the capacity to manipulate, but some people make it a lifestyle and take advantage of the vulnerable.
There’s a beautifu [...]
“She Went Off”: Why Women Are Expected to Stay Calm While Being Violated
Every time a woman raises her voice about a violation, someone appears — online, in the comments, in the community — to say:
“She went off.”“She over [...]
🚨 25 Items & Systems That Risk Women’s Lives Because They Don’t Accommodate Women
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Women and girls are frequently sent the message that demanding accommodations for our health and safety are "selfish." And, DEI is a si [...]
The Door Is Still Open: Building Ethical Innovation for Survivors Together
Innovation Does Not Have to Mean Erasure
We are living in a moment where new technologies are touching medicine, justice, education, safety, art, and [...]
Why Is Black Women’s Truth Treated as Disloyalty?
There is a name for what happens when Black women are pressured to abandon our Blackness in order to be accepted as “real” women.
Racial Gatekeeping [...]
Bullies and Cowards: A Natural Alliance in the Abuse of Women and Vulnerable Adults
If there is one thing history, society, and personal experience have proven time and again, it’s that bullies and cowards are natural allies. They m [...]
You Don’t Owe Anyone Access to the Version of You That Had to Survive Them
There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they romanticize it.
They call it “loyalty.”They call it “love.”They call it “the good [...]
Sex-Based Social Control Is Not About Beauty. It’s About Access to Humanity.
Let’s talk about one of the most sinister tactics in the game:Sex-Based Social Control.
On the surface, it may look like beauty standards, pr [...]
When Black Women Say No: The Punishment Is Public
"If I can’t have her love, I’ll go to war against her peace"
Some men don’t just move on when Black women say no.They retaliate.
They don’t just g [...]
When Survivors Speak, They Name the Wound—Not the Excuse (w/affirmations)
For abusive persons, there are few human beings perfect enough to be worthy of justice. Tonya GJ Prince When Survivors speak, they talk about [...]
Unloving the People We’re Told to Never Give Up On
“But That’s Your Family…”
There’s a sacred pain that often goes unnamed.The kind of pain that comes from realizing that someone you are related to [...]