No More Empty Promises: What It Really Means to Support Prostituted Persons
Supporting Prostituted Persons Means More Than Just Words
"Shaming women doesn't work because that is not the root of the problem." -Tonya GJ Princ [...]
They Know Exactly Who They Are
We like to believe—many of us—that if people only knew the truth about someone…
…that they’re abusive.…that they’re a predator.…that they hurt wome [...]
12 Ways Communities & Families Normalize Predators — and Destroy Survivors in the Process
The truth is not quiet. The truth is not polite. The truth is not neutral. And neither are predators.
Too many of us watched it happen in real time.P [...]
Personal Sovereignty: The Right to Rule Your Own Life
Personal sovereignty isn’t just for nations. It’s for us too.It’s the power to say: I belong to me. My body, my mind, my time, my spirit.
Here’s what [...]
Black Women Are Not the Mules of the World—Not Then, Not Now, Not Ever
Black women said "no" and the burning crosses came out in force. Social media was lit up! Holding the torches were males of all 'identities'. Who ev [...]
No Predator Has the Authority to Rename Violence As a “Right.”
Abusers call what they do to women and children by many names. They dress it up with lies, excuses, and false respectability.They label it “l [...]
Every Woman Has the Right to Say ‘No Thanks
Since the dawn of time, women have been pushed, scolded, and lectured into bending their boundaries, reshaping their desires, and swallowing discomfor [...]
No One Hands Women Safety. We Claim It, Protect It, and Pass It Forward.
I'm sorry.People talk as if women’s safety is something governments eventually “figure out,” like a policy glitch that just needs an update.Hi [...]
FALSE! FAKE! FRAUD!: Some of Us Have Seen This Before
I'm learning that many of us who lived through the 1970's, 1980's, & 1990s psychiatric and abuse scandals see many of today's social issues [...]
Some Truths We’re Not Supposed to Say Out Loud- But We Will
We see you.Not with malice.Not with envy.But with ancient knowing.
We know when something in the milk ain't cleanWe know when a movement carries rot [...]
When Children Ask for Safeguards: Reflections on the Supreme Court, Safety, and Respect
In the wake of the recent Supreme Court decision around parental rights and school curriculum, the conversation has grown louder. But beneath the nois [...]
Don’t Erase Us to Include Others: The Cost of Confusing Oppressions
“Beware the man who calls you beast — he is preparing to be your cage or your butcher.”
At We Survive Abuse, we speak truth — even when it’s uncomfo [...]
They Know What They’re Doing: Why Abusers Target Neurodivergent People—Especially in Love
Let’s talk about something that far too often stays in the shadows:
Abusers know what they’re doing.And many of them actively seek out people they [...]
How Women Can Support Gay Men In Their Lives in Abusive Relationships
Abuse doesn’t care about gender or sexuality. It happens in all kinds of relationships—straight, gay, lesbian, and everything in between. But when it [...]
She Knows What He’s Capable Of—Do You?
Why doesn't she leave?
Because domestic abuse is not a disagreement. It’s a terror campaign.
Because domestic abuse isn’t a disagreement.It’s a ca [...]
It’s Not New to Center Men—It’s Just Repackaged
Males demanding that the world stop, shift, and reshape itself—laws, policies, language, protections—all so more men can be “listened to,”even if th [...]
Women Deserve Privacy, Safety, and Respect—Especially in Campus Athletics
Across campuses, colleges have a duty: to protect all students.
That includes the right to privacy, safety, and dignity—especially for young women [...]
25 Ways Society Sends Harmful Messages to Black Women About Our Safety and Worth
We carry so much. Too much.And still, society dares to question our right to safety.
Black women are consistently sent harmful messages—spoken and [...]
Using Michelle Obama’s Image to Justify White Supremacy Is a Self-Own—And a Betrayal
(Why Black women must speak for ourselves, gatekeep our image, and protect our humanity)
Every so often-too often- I see it again:A meme, a tweet, or [...]
When the Truth Ain’t Enough, They Spread Lies: How Rumors Were Used to Silence Civil Rights Women
They built movements.They led revolutions against wrongs, violence, and abuse they never should have to deal with.And when that wasn’t enough [...]
“They’ll Be Raped Anyway” Is Not a Strategy—It’s Cowardly a Surrender
Some people are not "foxhole" people. They surrender mid-battle.
You say,“Well, women will be raped anyway…”as if that justifies handing predators [...]
Power Doesn’t Always Mean Protection—And That’s the Problem
I’ve worked with women in power.Judges. Prosecutors. City council members. Mayor.Some of them carried that power with integrity. Some used it to pro [...]
We Do Not Have the Privilege of Forgetting. But the World Wants Us To.
Every single day, women are surviving things that many refuse to name.Small things. Quiet things. Daily things. Deadly things.And somehow, we’re still [...]
Disturbing Someone’s Peace Like This Is VIOLENCE — And We Must Stop Pretending Otherwise
For too long, people have treated women’s safety, children’s innocence, and the peace of vulnerable people as something small — something optional, so [...]
The Four Pillars of Oppression: Misogyny, Gynophobia, Sexism, and Patriarchy
Women do not suffer oppression by accident. The systems that harm us—misogyny, gynophobia, sexism, and patriarchy—are built into society, shaping the [...]
🌬️ Benediction for the Journey: On Letting Go
Letting go is not weakness.Letting go is not failure.Letting go is not giving up.
Letting go is sacred.Letting go is survival.Letting go is Womanist [...]
✂️ Unlearning the Lie: When “Being a Good Person” Means Upholding Harm
Some of us were taught that being a “good person” meant keeping quiet.Smoothing things over.Soften the blow.Protect their reputation.Look the other wa [...]
Pimps Are Always Bad: The Unseen Ways Men Traffic and Exploit Women
Pimps are not icons. They are not comedic relief. They are not "cool." They are not "bosses." They are exploiters, traffickers, and predator [...]
Political Action Alert: Where Can Any of Us Afford to Go If Home is a Violent Space?
For years, people asked, “Why doesn’t she just leave?”That question is evaporating—not because we finally understand domestic violence, but be [...]
Before Social Media, Women Told Stories—Did We Forget How to Listen?
Before critique culture.Before hot takes.Before performance listening.Before everyone felt required to respond.
Women told stories.And other [...]
Boundaries Are Living Proof That You Believe Your Life Is Worth Protecting
Systems will tell you that you are safe.Systems will tell you they exist to protect you.But when danger comes, when violence shatters lives, when harm [...]
Lucy Diggs Slowe: She Protected Us in Silence So We Could One Day Speak
“Because boundaried spaces don’t build themselves—someone has to brave the silence first.”[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Most people will tell you Lucy Diggs S [...]