Your Opinion Is Not Protection

🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com

Let’s get something straight:

Your opinion about how she should’ve escaped, how fast she should’ve healed, how she should’ve talked, walked, stayed quiet, or spoken up—

That is not protection.
It is performance.

Protection is showing up.
Protection is listening without turning her pain into your platform.
Protection is asking, “What do you need?” instead of declaring, “Here’s what I would’ve done.”

Your thread, your comment, your hot take?
Not protection.

Because here’s what you weren’t there for:

• The moment she learned how to keep her face blank so the children wouldn’t see the fear.

• The night she laid awake wondering if tomorrow would be the day he finally took it too far.

• The shame she carried when people did find out and still turned the other way.

• The way she flinched when someone raised their voice—years after the abuse ended.

You don’t get to be a Monday morning quarterback for someone else’s survival.

You don’t get to say,
“Well, I would’ve left…”
Because you didn’t have to stay.

You don’t get to say,
“She’s too angry now…”
Because you never had to bite your tongue for your safety.

You don’t get to say,
“She should just move on.”
Because you never had to carry the weight she still does.

If your words aren’t a shelter,
If your tone isn’t a balm,
If your message doesn’t center her safety, not your ego—

Then your opinion is just that.
An echo.
A distraction.
A detour away from the real work.

Protection requires action.
It requires belief.
It requires humility.

If you’re not offering safety, support, or resources—
Then you’re not offering anything at all.

🖤 WeSurviveAbuse.com
Because too many Survivors have been hurt by “opinions” dressed up as concern.
We choose protection. We choose truth. We choose her.