"You looked fine." "I saw you on television." But what if that wasn't me?What if I wasn't on television? Maybe it was Will Smith. Or Oprah. Or Bill
“You looked fine.”
“I saw you on television.”
But what if that wasn’t me?
What if I wasn’t on television?
Maybe it was Will Smith. Or Oprah. Or Bill Cosby.
Famous. Smiling. Dressed up. Entertaining.
āļø The Lie of Representation as Reality
Imagine you’re from a people who have survived hellā
Centuries of it.
But your fellow citizens donāt know about that hell.
Theyāre not curious.
They donāt want to learn.
They just saw a rerun.
A movie.
A talk show.
And what they saw was youā
happy, wealthy, humorous, well-dressed.
You must be doing just fine.
š Media as Misdirection
You werenāt at Selma.
You werenāt redlined.
You werenāt stopped and frisked.
You werenāt gunned down, overpoliced, underprotected, or misdiagnosed.
You wereāwhat?
Dancing in a Bel Air mansion?
Laughing at 4 p.m. on syndicated TV?
Wearing designer shoes with a high-powered mom and doctor dad?
Or waitā
Didnāt you move in with your Aunt and Uncle in Bel Air?
They canāt keep up.
But thatās okay.
Youāre funny. Youāre cool.
You make them feel good.
š§ The Real Cost of the āFeel-Good Black Friendā Narrative
When people confuse entertainment visibility with equality,
when laughter becomes a substitute for justice,
when sitcoms become history lessons for people who refuse to open a bookā
we are in danger.
This is how people convince themselves racism is over.
Because their favorite Black character didnāt seem angry.
Didnāt cry on-screen.
Didnāt bleed.
š§Ø Myth: āIf I See You on Screen, You Must Be Free.ā
š Truth: Visibility is not safety.
š Truth: Representation is not reparation.
š Truth: Watching us isn’t the same as knowing us.
š Truth: A few faces on screen donāt free the millions still locked in struggle.
āš¾ Donāt Confuse the Highlight Reel with the Whole Story
We are not just who you see when you turn on the TV.
We are who you ignored when you turned it off.
We are still here. Still fighting. Still healing. Still telling the truth.
So noā
That wasnāt me you saw on television.
But this voice? These words? This truth?
This is me.
š§ bell hooks
āThe commodification of Blackness by white folks in power has been about making it safe and acceptableāentertaining evenāas they donāt have to deal with the rage, the terror of Black life.ā
Black Looks: Race and Representation (1992)