We must say it plainly: Oppressive systems are designed to flatten, generalize, and erase. They pretend to be âfairâ by treating everyone the sameâbu
We must say it plainly: Oppressive systems are designed to flatten, generalize, and erase.
They pretend to be âfairâ by treating everyone the sameâbut they know full well that we are not treated the same. When people talk about justice for all, too often itâs really justice for the fewâwhile everyone else is expected to shrink, assimilate, and disappear into a one-size-fits-all category.
But our stories are not one-size-fits-all.
Our wounds are not one-size-fits-all.
Our healing cannot be, either.
â ïž Hereâs what erasure looks like:
Saying âpeople of colorâ and ignoring that Black girls are suspended, arrested, and assaulted at much higher rates.
Saying âwomenâ but designing programs that donât include disabled women, immigrant women, Indigenous women, or WOMEN.
Saying âvictimsâ but never naming the Black and Brown Survivors who were dismissed, disbelieved, or punished for fighting back.
Erasure isnât just about being left out. Itâs about being misunderstood on purpose.
đĄ Specificity isnât divisiveâitâs necessary for justice.
To be specific is to be clear. To name our stories, our cultures, our needs, our truthsâthis is how we stop history from repeating itself in silence.
We are not asking to be exceptional.
We are asking to be accurately seen.
đŻïž So we keep naming:
Not just âabuse,â but coercive control.
Not just âvictims,â but Black, poor, disabled, undocumented, rural, or chronically ill Survivors.
Not just âoppression,â but the deliberate strategy of making us feel too complicated to care about.
Because the moment we become specific, we become undeniable.
Written with deep reverence for the specificity of your story.
âWeSurviveAbuse.com
Upon Reflection:
Who benefits when categories are too broad to reveal real harm?
When have I seen âneutralâ language used to hide or soften the truth?
Whose pain or story have I overlooked because it felt âtoo specificâ?
Have I ever been told my truth was âtoo muchâ to name out loud? By whom? Why?
What systems in my life reward generalizationâand what might change if we demanded clarity?
Where in my advocacy or work do I need to get more specific to truly honor peopleâs experiences?