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Call Him What? When Abusers & Traffickers Demand to Be Named Something Special
✦ by WeSurviveAbuse.com
In courtroom after courtroom, from high-pro [...]
I Don’t Owe You an Explanation for Why I Saved My Own Life
They wanted a monologue.A meeting.A “mature conversation.”
They wan [...]
You Were Always Worth Loving—They Just Weren’t Capable of Giving It
There are people who will make you question everything good about yo [...]
You Don’t Need Their Explanation to Be Free
You waited for an apology that never came.You held your breath, hopi [...]
It Wasn’t Rejection. It Was Redirection to Your Own Power
There was a time when you stayed in places that dimmed you.In love t [...]
Your Voice Was Never the Problem—Their Comfort with Harm Was
They told you to lower your voice.To be more careful.To stop "bringing [...]
I’m Not Bitter—I Just Finally Know Better
They’ll say you’re angry now.That you’re bitter.That you’ve changed. [...]
You Were Expected to Bleed Quietly So They Could Stay Comfortable
They didn’t just hurt you—They expected you to stay silent about it.
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I’m Not Explaining Myself Anymore—You Were Just Never Listening
There comes a point in your healing when you get tired.Not just tire [...]
They Don’t Deserve to Witness the Healed You if They Mocked the Broken You
Let’s stop romanticizing reconciliation with people who ridiculed yo [...]
You Can’t Unsee What You Survived
They thought if they said sorry enough times,you’d forget how many t [...]
They Called You Too Much—But What You Were Was Too Aware
You were never too much.You were too awake.
You noticed what others [...]
Walking Away Isn’t Weak. It’s the Bravest Thing You Ever Did.
They told you walking away meant you gave up.That you weren’t strong [...]
You Weren’t Difficult. You Were Just Finally Done Pretending It Didn’t Hurt
They called you difficult.Unreasonable.Too sensitive.Hard to love.
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You Don’t Owe Anyone Access to the Version of You That Had to Survive Them
There are people who remember you in your survival state.And they ro [...]
They Don’t Miss You. They Miss the Version of You That Didn’t Know Better
Let’s tell the truth today.
Sometimes when people say they “miss you, [...]
Your Healing Threatens the People Who Benefited From Your Wounds
Not everyone wants to see you healed.Some people were only comfortab [...]
Heal—So They Can’t Use Your Wounds Against You
One of the hardest, most necessary truths:Unhealed wounds are vulner [...]
A Lot of Movements Need Black Women. But Do They Value Us?
....to gain some reciprocity
Lauryn Hill/X Factor
We see it ev [...]
Who Is Deserving of Black Women’s Solidarity?
There are furious debates about this behind closed doors. Personally [...]
