Category: Mental Wellness and Healing
Why Must We Carry Everyone? The Heavy Expectation Placed on Black Women’s Healing
She wasn’t just expected to heal. She was expected to heal everyone [...]
You Can’t Unsee What You Survived
They thought if they said sorry enough times,you’d forget how many t [...]
You Weren’t Difficult. You Were Just Finally Done Pretending It Didn’t Hurt
They called you difficult.Unreasonable.Too sensitive.Hard to love.
[...]
Your Self-Righteousness Will Not End Domestic Violence
So you were “right.”You “saw the signs.”You “told her he wasn’t good.” [...]
Narrative Control: One More Way Survivors Get Silenced
There’s something you need to know about how survivors are treated aft [...]

🕯️ Sandy’s Law: The Price She Paid, The Road She Built
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
There are women today who believe that feminis [...]

❓FAQ: Can You Heal If You Never Got Closure?
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Q: Can you heal if you never got closure?A: Ye [...]

🚧 9 Signs You’re Dealing with a Stonewaller
And Why That’s Not Your Fault[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
Stonewalling is o [...]
We Are Not Meant to Disappear Inside Someone Else’s Reflection
[WeSurviveAbuse.com]
There is a quiet war being waged on selfhood.A [...]
How Abusers Across Time and Place Keep Saying ‘Yes’ to Harm
from WeSurviveAbuse.com
It’s almost uncanny.Different languages. Diff [...]
🎯 Pattern Denial: The Sinister Art of Pretending Not to Know
Some truths are not too complex to understand—they're just too inconve [...]
Lobotomies and Trust Issues: The Historic Reasons Black Folks Avoid Therapy (w/links)
Listen, followers of my work know that I have been open about getting [...]
RECANT: She Just Wanted Her Life Back
There is a lot going on in the world. But the pain of sexual violenc [...]
🔥 What Is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is when someone tries to make you doubt your own reality—y [...]

What Is Strength (For a Survivor)?
They told us strength meant being hard.Tough. Silent. Unshakable.They [...]

🛑 What Is a Boundary? (And Why It’s Not a Punishment)
A boundary is not a wall to keep people out.It is a door that you cont [...]

🤲🏽 What Is Self-Trust? (And Why Is It So Hard After Abuse?)
Self-trust is the sacred belief that your own voice is worth listening [...]
🌿 What Is Healing?
I'm a plant Mom again. I didn't realize I was sensitive about it unt [...]
Unloving the People We’re Told to Never Give Up On
“But That’s Your Family…”
There’s a sacred pain that often goes unn [...]

🛡️ Building Courage After Abuse: Breath by Breath, Brick by Brick
After abuse, courage doesn't roar back all at once.It flickers.It shak [...]