Category: RED FLAGS
🚩 5 Signs You’re Facing Control Disguised as Concern
1. They Center Their Comfort Over Your Safety
If your boundary causes [...]
💔 They’ve Been Ignoring Our Pain for Generations. But We Still Feel It.
On yesterday there was a non-subtle outcry on at least one social me [...]
🚩 Red Flag: When Someone Is Offended by Your Boundaries
Pay attention.
If someone—a person, a group, a movement, a “friend,” [...]
🚫 You Can Be in a Movement—and Still Be Submissive
Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get said enough:
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🛑 Start Noticing: Saying No Is Not Hate
You may want to start observing the number of times men declar [...]
When Black Women Say No: The Punishment Is Public
"If I can’t have her love, I’ll go to war against her peace"
Some m [...]
🚨 Silence Isn’t Neutral. It’s Permission.
Let’s talk about the men who say:
“I don’t get involved in drama.”“ [...]
🚨 Fear-Based Manipulation Isn’t Love—It’s Control Dressed as Concern
Fear-Based ManipulationDefinition: Using hypothetical threats or wor [...]
Selective Advocacy Syndrome: When They Show Up for Ego, Not Justice
They say they care about equality.They say they believe in fairness.T [...]
Misogynist Gaslighting: The Reversal That Keeps Women Unsafe
Misogynist gaslighting is not just individual.It's systemic, strategic [...]
Weaponized Moralism: The Silence That Screams
They call it compassion.But only when it protects male access.
They c [...]
The Lie She Tells Herself: When Women Protect the Men Who Harm
"I'd lie for you. I'd die for you. Ride or die for you"- a woman or gi [...]
🛑 We don’t negotiate safety
⚖️ Some Things Are Black and White
Yes means safety.No means protecti [...]
“She Wasn’t Told He Killed Before: The Tragic Workplace Murder of Kerri Harris and the Warning Signs We Can’t Ignore”
Women are significantly more likely to be victims of stalk [...]
Being Protective Is Good: Why You Don’t Have to Choose Between Kindness and Boundaries
In today’s world—especially in progressive spaces—many women are made [...]
You Can Be Inclusive Without Abandoning Girls, Women, or Survivors
Inclusion should never come at the cost of someone else’s safety.
But [...]
✅ Moral Gaslighting: When Women Asking for Safety Are Treated Like the Problem
What is moral gaslighting?
Moral gaslighting happens when women speak [...]
Calling Women “Hateful” for Wanting Safety Is Abuse Dressed in Decorum
Let’s name this for what it is:
When politicians, media figures, or [...]
Visibility Isn’t Safety. And Representation Isn’t Protection.
We were told more women in power would mean more safety for all wome [...]
Why Some Voices Are Punished for Asking the Right Questions-Even By Fellow Women
Like Toni Morrison said, we get angry sometimes. So here it is.
We wa [...]