Category: Self care
Why Leaders Who Excuse Abuse Can’t Build Safety—They Recreate Harm
When someone dismisses violence, mocks Survivors, or excuses abuse, th [...]
💔 Understanding Marital Rape: Consent Still Matters
In too many parts of the world—and even in the minds of too many peopl [...]
Even Warriors Need a Well: Faith, Feminism, and the Right to Refuel (w/affirmations)
People may mean well.But to insist that women fighting for jus [...]
They Called It Victimhood. I Call It Rising.
After abuse, it’s common to be met with silence when you’re hurting — [...]
The Survival Doll Trap: A Caution
Stay away from people who can’t wait to see you step into danger, but [...]
The Unseen Burden: Black Eldest Daughters and the Weight of Expectations
In many Black families, eldest daughters are celebrated as leaders, [...]
10 Surprising Facts About Breast Cancer (for Women)
Most breast cancers are not inheritedOnly about 5–10 % of brea [...]
Survivor Affirmation: I Will NOT Shrink Truth to Comfort Those Who Fear Boundaries
Boundaries are love not hate.
They are love in action — love for your [...]
It Is Not Women Who Should Be Shamed for Protecting Themselves.
Society has done an awful, weak, and half-hearted job of protecting wo [...]
What Happens When Women Reach Their Breaking Point: The Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Cost of Carrying Too Much for Too Long
When a human being, especially a woman who has been carrying others fo [...]
Stop Shaming Women for Protecting Themselves
Too often, when a woman dares to speak up about her own safety needs, [...]
Courtesy or Compelled Speech? Why the Difference Matters
There’s a difference between choosing courtesy and being forced into c [...]
Reclaiming Anna Julia Cooper: Why Black Women’s Liberation Is Not a Call to Self-Sacrifice
1. The Distortion of Cooper’s Vision
Some have taken Cooper’s line t [...]
Playing Victim or Using Wisdom to Protect Yourself? Why Wise Women Recognize the Pattern of Abuse Before Others
She told a friend once:“The first time he raised his voice again [...]
Feminism Can No Longer Afford to Be Generalized
Feminism can no longer afford to live in generalizations.When it does, [...]
When Black Women Are Targeted for Questioning What Others Pretend Not to See
There was another time I learned just how selective feminism and women [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Protecting MY Empathy, Protecting Me
People tend to treat Black women like our empathy is a faucet that y [...]
10 Signs You Can’t Reason With Someone
Reasonable conversations require honesty, humility, and respect. But s [...]